fat hips

[monkey]

so according to my "best friend"/exbf, if i lost a few lbs, and my hips weren't so fat, guys would like me more.

this was followed with "you know you're not the most beautiful girl in the world. guys that have told you that you were beautiful were lying."

to which i replied "they werent lying, they really thought that"

and he said "you really think he wasnt lying, even though he treated you like shit. ha."

all of this because i wanted to get ice cream for dessert, and he said we should do situps instead of having dessert and i got upset over it.

he says he should be able to be honest with me. is there a limit to honesty?

[Randetica]

i know i couldnt deal with brutal honesty.. and your ex is a total pussyfart, to be brutally honest

[monkey]

well, im having chocolate. he can go fuck himself. everyone can go fuck themselves. why would i ever even want a guy who doesnt like that i have fat hips or doesn't find me beautiful? i know that just like im gonna find some poor ugly bastard the most wonderful gorgeous person ever, some poor ugly bastard is gonna think im the greatest person ever. and thats it.

bahhhh.

[b i o n i c]

you should point out every hair you find on your boy's floor/clothes/place and make him paranoid he's losing his hair :D(y) im telling you. the'll become obsessed with it and forget all about your hips

no te preocupes, mona - todo bien

[ms.peachy]

Jesus christmas, what an asshat.

You might want to tell him his dick is on the small side, and that if any girl in the past has told him it isn't, they're lying.

[BBboy20]

Jesus christmas, what an asshat.

You might want to tell him his dick is on the small side, and that if any girl in the past has told him it isn't, they're lying.Ownage of the Week?

[Dorothy Wood]

wait, is this the guy who broke your heart big time? or the last boyfriend who wore a stupid leather jacket? it's the heartbreak guy, wtf? lose that kid. if it's the leather jacket guy, tell him some chick on the internet thinks his jacket is stupid, and that he's some 7th heaven's youngest son lookin motherfucker. and that he needs to stop reading fucking maxim and get a life. then punch him in the balls.

[b-grrrlie]

Jesus christmas, what an asshat.

You might want to tell him his dick is on the small side, and that if any girl in the past has told him it isn't, they're lying.

Ownage of the Week?

Of the year!!!!

[Adam]

I have to say; speaking as a guy, telling him that his hair is thinning on top would freak him out the most. Probably more than the penis thing as that sounds more like retaliation.

But don't randomly text/call/email him or whatever, just next time you see him, suggest a hair thickening product cus you "knew this guy who started to go thin like you at about 19 and he used [this product] and it stopped it for a couple of years " and say you're saying this as "a friend cus I don't really like bald or thinning men".

and then tell him he has a small penis and to take a mint to deal with his bad breath.

[HotAndWet]

Don't bother listening to him, he's a dick.
I have child bearing hips and really skinny shoulders, I'm totally a pear.

[ToucanSpam]

Jesus christmas, what an asshat.

You might want to tell him his dick is on the small side, and that if any girl in the past has told him it isn't, they're lying.

Hahahahahaha best burn ever.

[Bob]

I have to say; speaking as a guy, telling him that his hair is thinning on top would freak him out the most. Probably more than the penis thing as that sounds more like retaliation.

But don't randomly text/call/email him or whatever, just next time you see him, suggest a hair thickening product cus you "knew this guy who started to go thin like you at about 19 and he used [this product] and it stopped it for a couple of years " and say you're saying this as "a friend cus I don't really like bald or thinning men".


i like it(y)

[jennyb]

Jesus christmas, what an asshat.

You might want to tell him his dick is on the small side, and that if any girl in the past has told him it isn't, they're lying.

I think I'm in love with ms.peachy...

[abcdefz]

If something like "fat hips" is a deal breaker for a guy, he's not worth the attention, anyway.

[na§tee]

god, p, you're better than this. think about it. if one of your friends was telling you she was experiencing that, you'd tell her to run away - fast.

if i hear you talking about how this total douche has said more of the same fuckin' SHITE to you i will fly my big ole hips over to new york and punch him in the throat.

[b i o n i c]

like i said, male pattern baldness.

[Adam]

like i said, male pattern baldness.

Yeah, I'd be more concerned over going bald before the size of my penis.

[na§tee]

eh. there's nout wrong with balding heads.

[abcdefz]

(y)


Balding is a sign of virility, supposedly, anyway.

[beastieangel01]

I want to stab that guy in the penis because obviously he doesn't deserve to fucking have one

he is a fucking idiot Paulina and you need to cut him out of your life. Seriously, if someone that is supposed to be a friend is that delusional and acidic that's an easy way to let stupid people skew your perception of your gorgeous self. Do. Not. Listen. To. HIM.

What's his address? I will fly to NY and choke him as I stab his penis. And maybe his eyes since they are useless. Maybe I'll tear his windpipe too so he can't talk because all that's coming out of it is bullshit anyway.

sorry, it just makes me extremely angry because that is fucking ridiculous

[Knuckles]

he is a fucking idiot Paulina and you need to cut him out of your life.

Yep.


Sounds to me like he's just trying to hurt you. Don't let him.

[abcdefz]

I want to stab that guy in the penis because obviously he doesn't deserve to fucking have one

he is a fucking idiot Paulina and you need to cut him out of your life. Seriously, if someone that is supposed to be a friend is that delusional and acidic that's an easy way to let stupid people skew your perception of your gorgeous self. Do. Not. Listen. To. HIM.

What's his address? I will fly to NY and choke him as I stab his penis. And maybe his eyes since they are useless. Maybe I'll tear his windpipe too so he can't talk because all that's coming out of it is bullshit anyway.

sorry, it just makes me extremely angry because that is fucking ridiculous



Remind me to never, ever, ever make you angry.

[BBboy20]

I want to stab that guy in the penis because obviously he doesn't deserve to fucking have one

he is a fucking idiot Paulina and you need to cut him out of your life. Seriously, if someone that is supposed to be a friend is that delusional and acidic that's an easy way to let stupid people skew your perception of your gorgeous self. Do. Not. Listen. To. HIM.

What's his address? I will fly to NY and choke him as I stab his penis. And maybe his eyes since they are useless. Maybe I'll tear his windpipe too so he can't talk because all that's coming out of it is bullshit anyway.

sorry, it just makes me extremely angry because that is fucking ridiculousJust breathe...and wait 'till Mad World comes out (if you have a Wii)

[RobMoney$]

He's right, he should be able to be honest with you.
But he should also care enough about you not to say something that's obviously going to hurt your feelings.

It always baffles me when I see pretty girls with such a lack of self-esteem. I know I've said this before to you Pauli, but you deserve someone who's going treat you with respect. This obviously isn't the person.

[BBboy20]

He's right, he should be able to be honest with you.There's a difference between honesty and bigotry.

Unless she did or said something wrong, he really shouldn't act like a total douche...seriously, why should he care? Is hooking up all these people think about?

[Randetica]

He's right, he should be able to be honest with you.
But he should also care enough about you not to say something that's obviously going to hurt your feelings.



honesty is a good thing but brutal honesty is nothing but being tactless and insensitive

everyone would hate each other if all were brutally honest cause the truth is satan!

[Caribou]

I think if you looked up the word cunt in a dictionary, you would find a pic of this guy.

This isn't the first time I've read a story like this from you, and it makes me feel so sad that a lady so pretty like yourself gets self-esteem issues because of some guy who is obviously a sad excuse for a human being/ a total waste of space and tries to feel better about himself by talking shit about others.

Please, please, PLEASE promise me that you will punch him in the face and break his nose the next time he dares to say this kinda stuff to you.

[jabumbo]

Don't bother listening to him, he's a dick.
I have child bearing hips and really skinny shoulders, I'm totally a pear.


the juiciest pears come from chile :cool:

[Echewta]

Chili is good with cheese and onions.

[beastieangel01]

Remind me to never, ever, ever make you angry.

trying to f with any of my friends, be it close friends or ones I've only hung out with once ... either way, that's a sure way to get me pissed off and violent. :mad:

[cookiepuss]

he's not your friend. friends don't say shit like that...even if they think it, they don't say it in such a hurtful way.

ugh. he's a douche. and what he's doing to you is emotional abuse.

[monkey]

ok, to be fair, i'm not stupid enough to have a person who's seriously abusive as my best friend. there are a million good things about him that i haven't mentioned. he's really not the worst person in the world. he doesn't even deserve jokes about his hair or his dick. both are fine.

he is harsh sometimes. and so am i, i'm no saint. i think he needed to learn that there are some ways to say certain things, and this is why we had this particular fight.

i am of the opinion that there are certain ways to say certain things. especially when dealing with a seriously touchy subject, which to me is my looks (omg im so shallow lolololz). but he holds himself to slightly different standard he thinks everyone should hold themselves to, which is to be brutally honest to the people closest to you. at this point, we're trying to work it out so that we're both happy with the result, as in, he watches his tongue a little bit, but mostly in how he says things. he's still gonna have his opinion. and i will always keep mine.

anyway... i didn't really want this to be a "bash-on-the-clueless-dude" thread, but thanks for your support. if i ever wanna kill him (and i do often), i'll know where to turn.

[cookiepuss]

he may not be seriously abusive...and yes, I'm sure he has good qualities to make you want hang around him. however...what he said and the way he said it, is still a form of emotional abuse...both of you need to recognize that.

I'm just saying.
I hate to hear of anyone talking to you that way pauli.
you are such a beautiful girl.

[marsdaddy]

Seriously, though, you can always find someone who will like your shapely hips, but he's going to have a really hard time finding someone who will like his assholiness.

[funk63]

Dont like big hips? your friends a faggot.

[b i o n i c]

oh dear.

[Myu-to]

Pauli, you don't have fat hips, bionic does.

[b i o n i c]

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[AceFace]

i don't get this "brutally honest" thing. it's an excuse to say what you want and expect no repercussions. we're all different. you can't speak to every single person you know the same exact way.

it's like training an animal to do a trick. some dogs will pick the trick up immediately. others you have to give them treats and lots of praise.

my point is... we allll need to be spoken to in different ways.

i have a few people i know that are too honest or rude, thinking they're just being honest, and i really don't care to hang out with those people. why would you? learn some tact and stop hurting people's feelings just b/c YOU think it's ok to be "brutally honest".

[Echewta]

Brutally is not a good word.

[cookiepuss]

you know what?

Fuck honesty.

everybody lies. dude needs to get with the program.

I agree with ACE, honesty is not an excuse to say whatever you want without reprocussions. even the truth comes at a price.

[NoFenders]

you know what?

Fuck honesty.




I'm getting more and more in touch with that way of thought.

:(

[NoFenders]

Monkey you're fine just the way you are. If you want to change things about yourself, do it for yourself. Don't do it because some moron thinks you should.

:cool:

[hpdrifter]

He's trying to control and manipulate you by decreasing your self-esteem. I'm sure even he knows that has nothing to do with honest criticism.

[NoFenders]

^ Nice read!

(y)

[taquitos]

i wish i had a friend who was honest with me. you should be glad if you've found someone who tells you what you want to know, even if it upsets you sometimes.

that being said, most guys i know don't really see large hips as a bad thing.

[NoFenders]

Having a friend to tell you things you may not want to hear is ok, but it all depends on how and why they tell you.

:)

[taquitos]

true dat^ that is what i'm trying to say here.

monkey probably knows whats best for her.

[NoFenders]

that being said, most guys i know don't really see large hips as a bad thing.


Indeed. I happen to love a girl with some substance.


:cool:

[Caribou]

Having a friend to tell you things you may not want to hear is ok, but it all depends on how and why they tell you.

:)

Telling a girl guys don't like her because she's too fat, and that people who said she was beautiful must've been lying, is a thing really no one wants to hear. And specially not from a friend.
Telling a friend something kinda painful because you want the best for them is ok, but I don't see how that dudes comments can be helpful in any way.

examples
helpful: "well, maybe not so many guys are into moustaches. I have some wax you can use if you like..."
evil: "No one wants to date you, because you're ugly and hairy."

see the difference.

[hpdrifter]

I guess what I'm saying it has nothing to do with your hips or any other part of you. People like that prey on any insecurity you have, it makes them feel better about themselves. He could just as easily have said you were stupid or too loud or too quiet. As long as it hurts you and draws you into his manipulation.