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Dorothy Wood
11-29-2008, 01:37 AM
so, I went up to wisconsin to visit with my aunt, uncle and cousin/goddaughter because they just moved there from vancouver and didn't have any other family around. they are downtrodden intellectuals, buried under a mountain of debt incurred by moving around and $100,000 worth of student loans.

anyway, they are always fighting. they live in this little apartment and they are always yelling. and complaining about stuff. the way they address each other is so hostile. it all came to a head after thanksgiving dinner when my aunt (who had done the cooking and cleaning and setting up with a little help from me and my cousin) announced that she was exhausted and needed to take a nap and that she wanted my uncle to clean up. he agreed. but then attempted to engage me in intellectual discourse (and I use the word "engage" lightly, as he mostly just prattles on about society and the economy and blah blah blah, without even stopping for anyone else's input) while I drew a turkey on the inside of a matchbook with the charcoaled end of an extinguished match and nodded.

anyway, I excused myself, but he just kept on talking, and my aunt burst out of the bedroom and was like, "WHY ISN'T THIS CLEAN YET?!" "WHY ARE YOU TALKING SO LOUD!?" "I ASKED YOU TO CLEAN UP!"

and my uncle was like, "I WILL, I'M TIRED". and then she just started cleaning up. and he retreated to the living room where I was and they just kept yelling back and forth until the kitchen was cleaned and I just sat there with a magazine not saying anything. and my aunt came out and they started screaming at each other. very rude things. they called eachother terrible people, there were cries of "don't be a martyr!" and "you're not my boss!" and my uncle said to my cousin, "your mother is a piece of work". :(


I just sat there until it subsided because there was no place for me to go. but I wonder if I should've said something? I don't know. I think they need to get therapy. or at least be videotaped to see how they are. my cousin also talks to them very rudely, calling them stupid and boring, etc. and her parents don't say a word! my mom would slap me if I spoke to her like that.

anyway. happy thanksgiving!

taquitos
11-29-2008, 02:58 AM
sounds like my family, except my folks broke up a long time ago.

it's very very hard for people to step back and see themselves from an outside
point of view when they are so used to interacting with each other like that.

on the other hand they might know they are acting like dicks but have a hard
time controlling their tempers. you know it's bad when they do it around guests.

ericlee
11-29-2008, 04:10 AM
my dick. In the mashed potatoes.

HEIRESS
11-29-2008, 04:13 AM
I left my house crying and then went running down the street on thanksgiving last year.

sweet times.

Bob
11-29-2008, 04:18 AM
anyway, they are always fighting.

are they italian? i don't even mean that in a racist way, i'm just remembering when i was a kid, one of my friend's parents were off-the-boat italian immigrants and whenever i went over, they were always yelling, at each other, at my friend, always yelling, always gesturing angrily. mostly it was in italian so i don't know what they were saying but they looked and sounded pretty angry but the family actually got along pretty well, they just yelled at each other instead of talking

Audio.
11-29-2008, 05:28 AM
This also happened at the Thanksgiving dinner we went. Just now I'm starting to get the idea everyone must have a couple in their family that communicate like that to one another. The angry couple.

RobMoney$
11-29-2008, 09:52 AM
Obviously their financial situation is impacting their relationship.
They sound like such a stereotype really.

Lex Diamonds
11-29-2008, 10:15 AM
are they italian? i don't even mean that in a racist way, i'm just remembering when i was a kid, one of my friend's parents were off-the-boat italian immigrants and whenever i went over, they were always yelling, at each other, at my friend, always yelling, always gesturing angrily. mostly it was in italian so i don't know what they were saying but they looked and sounded pretty angry but the family actually got along pretty well, they just yelled at each other instead of talking
So you don't mean to be racist, yet you are judging all Italian families as being loud and confrontational due to one single "off the boat" family you met?

Yeah, not racist at all Adolf.

Kid Presentable
11-29-2008, 10:20 AM
I quite like the name Adolf for a girl.

mikizee
11-29-2008, 10:24 AM
I know a lot of loud and confrontational Italian families, and a couple of quiet nice ones too.

The quiet nice ones all seem to be from the north.

Is that inter-country racism?

Kid Presentable
11-29-2008, 10:30 AM
From within this country in regarding the regional differences in another country is like pan-continental air-freighted racism.

Lyman Zerga
11-29-2008, 10:30 AM
leave racism alone!

Echewta
11-29-2008, 11:35 AM
?????
(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w-7-F0rpZkc)

Lex Diamonds
11-29-2008, 11:57 AM
?????
(http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w-7-F0rpZkc)
Learn to use links newbie!

Bob
11-29-2008, 02:13 PM
So you don't mean to be racist, yet you are judging all Italian families as being loud and confrontational due to one single "off the boat" family you met?

Yeah, not racist at all Adolf.

well i've also seen several movies featuring italian people and they're always yelling too

YoungRemy
11-29-2008, 04:16 PM
gotta love the holidays...

i usually explode on my parents once a holiday season, after they are down each other's and my little sister's throats for six straight days.

Lyman Zerga
11-29-2008, 10:47 PM
all the thanksgiving memories i got are from tv shows like bill cosby or roseanne

Dorothy Wood
11-30-2008, 03:40 AM
are they italian? i don't even mean that in a racist way, i'm just remembering when i was a kid, one of my friend's parents were off-the-boat italian immigrants and whenever i went over, they were always yelling, at each other, at my friend, always yelling, always gesturing angrily. mostly it was in italian so i don't know what they were saying but they looked and sounded pretty angry but the family actually got along pretty well, they just yelled at each other instead of talking

my uncle is half italian, half french canadian. my aunt is finnish. ethnically that is. my uncle was born in canada, my aunt in the states.

they are stressed out on account of their finances and situation in life, but it is mainly their own mistakes and choices that put them there.

all in all, it made me realize that when and if I have my own family, I will be sure to make it nothing like theirs. I wish I could've videotaped them and shown them what they're like. I have half a mind to call dr. phil.

adam_f
11-30-2008, 06:59 AM
I called my mom a "whore" once. Let's imagine how that went.

Lyman Zerga
11-30-2008, 08:10 AM
i once said to my mum 'no wonder dad is gay now'
it was on a random day though

b i o n i c
12-01-2008, 05:42 PM
leave racism alone!

whats up with that siggy, randy?

hpdrifter
12-01-2008, 07:09 PM
My uncle and my cousins inevitably ruin all holidays. I thought I was going to get a break from them this year but they showed up anyway. Assholes.

Anyway, I have to endure my uncle calling his wife fat, ugly, and stupid every year on Thanksgiving, Christmas, and Easter and any other time I happen to see them. She doesn't argue with him and nobody else says anything.