russhie
12-21-2008, 07:38 AM
Dear best friends,
I know you care about me. I care about you too. However, I don't appreciate the pair of you butting into my personal life as much as you have been lately.
Please do not get annoyed that I pick up boys at bars regularly - there is usually alot of alcohol involved, so generally I think it's less to do with me being attractive and/or skilled in the art of seduction, and more to do with both parties wearing very thick beer goggles. I don't actually do it to rub the fact that you both think I'm attractive in your faces. Shit just happens. Deal.
On a similar note, no, I'm not always "on", I just happen to be a nice, friendly person who doesn't go apeshit each time I get bumped by someone on the dancefloor (you know which one you are - people think you're a fucking basket case) so stop being so drama drama drama and maybe people wouldn't give you dirty looks across the bar.
Don't tell me I'm "better than", "too good for" or "stupid" when I go on a date with someone who doesn't quite fit the profile of your own ideal man. Does he make me laugh? Do I find him attractive? Is he nice, respectful, interesting? Yes? Good enough for me. Shut up.
When I run into an ex, please do not glare at him, yell at him, and then leave the club in a fit because you "can't handle it". He's my ex, and whatever we need to deal with is between him and me. I don't understand how seeing a boy I used to sleep with affects the quality of your night if we're on good terms - it is in fact possible to get along with people who have hurt you at some point in the past. Build a bridge and quit being such drama queens.
For the love of puppies, please, please don't tell me "it's on my own head" if I choose to do something with a member of the opposite sex. I've got a few years on both of you and I get the whole responsibility-for-my-own-actions thing (I haven't quite got it perfected yet, but I'm fairly sure I've got a decent handle on the concept). If I wish to remain on friendly terms with an ex, don't assume I'm going to sleep with him, and even if I did, it's not your business and for the last time YES I get that you will not provide a shoulder for me to cry on should the whole thing go to shit.
I really do resent the whole "it's only because we care" thing, I know you do, but you both need to relax and let me do my own thing. I've been single for almost a year now and while I might not always pick boys you deem "suitable" to spend time with, I do respect myself, I regret nothing and I'm having the time of my life. Don't insult my intelligence and judgement by telling me what I can/can't handle. We all make mistakes, but mine are mine to make - as long as you're happy, healthy and avoid screwing the boys you meet in my bed both of you can do as you please. I afford you the courtesy of respecting your space and judgement, and would appreciate it being returned.
Cheers.
eh, I feel better now.
I know you care about me. I care about you too. However, I don't appreciate the pair of you butting into my personal life as much as you have been lately.
Please do not get annoyed that I pick up boys at bars regularly - there is usually alot of alcohol involved, so generally I think it's less to do with me being attractive and/or skilled in the art of seduction, and more to do with both parties wearing very thick beer goggles. I don't actually do it to rub the fact that you both think I'm attractive in your faces. Shit just happens. Deal.
On a similar note, no, I'm not always "on", I just happen to be a nice, friendly person who doesn't go apeshit each time I get bumped by someone on the dancefloor (you know which one you are - people think you're a fucking basket case) so stop being so drama drama drama and maybe people wouldn't give you dirty looks across the bar.
Don't tell me I'm "better than", "too good for" or "stupid" when I go on a date with someone who doesn't quite fit the profile of your own ideal man. Does he make me laugh? Do I find him attractive? Is he nice, respectful, interesting? Yes? Good enough for me. Shut up.
When I run into an ex, please do not glare at him, yell at him, and then leave the club in a fit because you "can't handle it". He's my ex, and whatever we need to deal with is between him and me. I don't understand how seeing a boy I used to sleep with affects the quality of your night if we're on good terms - it is in fact possible to get along with people who have hurt you at some point in the past. Build a bridge and quit being such drama queens.
For the love of puppies, please, please don't tell me "it's on my own head" if I choose to do something with a member of the opposite sex. I've got a few years on both of you and I get the whole responsibility-for-my-own-actions thing (I haven't quite got it perfected yet, but I'm fairly sure I've got a decent handle on the concept). If I wish to remain on friendly terms with an ex, don't assume I'm going to sleep with him, and even if I did, it's not your business and for the last time YES I get that you will not provide a shoulder for me to cry on should the whole thing go to shit.
I really do resent the whole "it's only because we care" thing, I know you do, but you both need to relax and let me do my own thing. I've been single for almost a year now and while I might not always pick boys you deem "suitable" to spend time with, I do respect myself, I regret nothing and I'm having the time of my life. Don't insult my intelligence and judgement by telling me what I can/can't handle. We all make mistakes, but mine are mine to make - as long as you're happy, healthy and avoid screwing the boys you meet in my bed both of you can do as you please. I afford you the courtesy of respecting your space and judgement, and would appreciate it being returned.
Cheers.
eh, I feel better now.