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[SobaViolence]

I'm putting all of my eggs in one basket.
going all-in.
betting it all on red.

anyone else invest everything in one person? risk your physical, mental and emotional well-being, reputation in the eyes of friends and family, transfer jobs, invest money and time...and still be unsure, and scared shitless, with the nagging doubt in the back of your mind that if it doesn't work, you'll have a complete and total break-down?

well, yeah. it's gonna be a year that defines the rest of my life. some days it's numbing. some days exhilarating. most days nerve wracking.

and i gave up drinking until st. patrick's day. and i am not allowed to take up smoking in its place. and i can't have sex... i might take up mixed martial arts just to get the shit kicked out of me and hurt someone in the process.

anyhoo, love is great.
:S

how about that local sports' team?

[Dorothy Wood]

nope. I'm all for self-improvement, but changing your entire life to suit another person sounds dangerous to me.

[Audio.]

I'm with what Dorothy said.

[Adam]

...changing your entire life to suit another person sounds dangerous to me.

What if that person is Jesus Christ?

[Waus]

Whew, good luck man!

[mikizee]

Why can't you have sex?

[jabumbo]

i don't like eggs, nor do i carry a basket

[Adam]

Why can't you have sex?

I read it as 'i'm becoming a monk'

could be a priest but then can have sex with children

[Waus]

Why can't you have sex?

If I had to guess - he got engaged, and his fiance decided that it'd be a good thing to not have sex until they're married now - make the wedding night special or something.

Just a guess though. I'm sure that puts a lot of stress on the relationship.

[mikizee]

fuck that

[trailerprincess]

He's not allowed to fuck this or that.

It's a sad day.

[Gareth]

flag.

[Lex Diamonds]

I was nodding along as I read this because I know that love makes you do a load of stupid shit and sometimes you really feel that it is worth it (I've been there myself), but as soon as I got to the no sex part... ha, fuck that shit!

[ET]

and i can't have sex

Nooooooooo! What reason on Buddha's green Earth is there for this???

You don't know what tomorrow will bring. Every chance you get you should be doing it like genetically enhanced rabbits. 2012 is coming sooner than you think. Each night should be as good as if not better than the last with about 3 sexual peaks each. Okay, maybe I'm just speaking for myself on that one but... seriously, WRYYYYY????

I can understand the cutting back on drinking and job and etc. etc. as long as it makes you a better person but ^^^ c'mon. Enlighten us.

[SobaViolence]

the no sex thing is because she's 450kms away.
until i relocate, she won't have me on the visits, and of course, i'm not gonna screw around just for momentary satisfaction.

I'm retarded, i know...but i think she's worth it.
and if not, hey, i can lose my mind, along with all my inhibitions, drink and whore until i'm dead.

that's why i'm all in.

if it wasn't me, i'd agree with dorothy. i haven't lost perspective. i just choose to ignore it.

to be continued...

[Whatitis]

That takes guts, Soba. Good luck.

[Dorothy Wood]

until i relocate, she won't have me on the visits,


why? just so she can have you by the balls? ugh. sounds like a weird situation with too many power plays and mind games. that's just me though, if she's worth it, good luck.

[HEIRESS]

my significant other lives 4,000 km away.

we have been continuing our relationship from our respective locations for over a year and a half now.

before that we dated long distance from cities about 400 km from each other on and off for about 2 years.

yes, not seeing someone for anywhere from a month or up to 3.5 months at a time is horrible and it rips your heart out sometimes, but I have found that it has been worth it for me thus far. And i do not regret any of the sacrifices ive made because in the big picture ive put myself through all of this hardship because I was not willing to give up the life Im creating for myself. That's just how things happen sometimes. What we do have is a grand hope for our future together when we finally get to be together. so I think it is all worth it.

good luck brah.

[RobMoney$]

anyone else invest everything in one person? risk your physical, mental and emotional well-being, reputation in the eyes of friends and family,


The "no sex" comment didn't concern me as much as this comment did.

I mean are you physically putting yourself in harms way? Like does she have a violent and possessive baby daddy in the picture, or were you just being dramatic with that comment?

And why is your reputation with your family in jeopardy? Are they against this relationship in some way?


My advice,...RUN.
She sounds like trouble to me.

[paul jones]

keep all your money to yourself and spend it on eggs,trust me(y)

[ET]

the no sex thing is because she's 450kms away.
until i relocate, she won't have me on the visits, and of course, i'm not gonna screw around just for momentary satisfaction.

I'm retarded, i know...but i think she's worth it.
and if not, hey, i can lose my mind, along with all my inhibitions, drink and whore until i'm dead.

that's why i'm all in.

if it wasn't me, i'd agree with dorothy. i haven't lost perspective. i just choose to ignore it.

to be continued...

Well, that makes more sense. You're not retarded. Just make sure when it comes time to play your hand you're willing to see it through. I wish you luck on the difficult road ahead. Hope you have the mental fortitude to take it.

Besides, there's always time for whoring.

[beastieangel01]

why? just so she can have you by the balls? ugh. sounds like a weird situation with too many power plays and mind games. that's just me though, if she's worth it, good luck.

I agree. And I agree with Rob too.

However, when it comes down to it, Soba is going to do what he is going to do. Maybe it will work out great, and I hope that it does for the sake of feelings and matters of the heart.

But let's say it doesn't... it's an experience to grow and learn from.

I can't say that I haven't done the same or had the same thoughts about someone I thought was for me in the past. Turns out that person wasn't. That experience gave me a bit more wisdom and I am marrying the man I am with now (fyi no, not tomorrow but eventually), without fear of the risks and without questioning anything. I just know.

[ToucanSpam]

Lots of good points coming up in this thread, some of which clash with other good points.


To be brief and to the point, you should do exactly what you want to do the way you want to do it. Nobody but you fully understands what you want, so follow your feelings or rational thoughts. Distance can be a bitch but it can be totally worth it if you invest enough time into it. I used to think it was a horrible way to live but I was proven wrong. Go for it, do what you wanna do, and I hope this works out for you.

[na§tee]

you're young, and even if this all goes tits up, who cares? apart from the, uh, obvious emotional scars the financial or career issues can be resolved in time. you can make these 'mistakes'.

it's fucking torture being apart. i know. but think hard. and think with your head, not your heart. say your goodbyes and think independently for a good few months before you make a big decision like this. all this bleeding heart pain in the first initial months after a goodbye is NOT the frame of mind you need to be in think straight.

if you move there, understand she will feel an enormous amount of pressure for things to be perfect, to go smoothly, since you are the one who is ostensibly making the sacrifices to be with her. and this pressure can make people act extremely unreasonably. she will almost feel like she is practically legally obligated to be with you forever because you did this for her. don't ever, ever use it as an example of you being the 'selfless one'.

it will be hard work. but if it's what you want to do - good luck. you don't feel blessed at the moment, but you are lucky to have the means and the resources to even have that option.