talking on the phone thread

[Dorothy Wood]

*hello*


oh, yeah, I know we've discussed this before, I just wanted to point out that I still hate talking on the phone. in recent months, I have procured a new plutonic (he has a girlfriend) male friend and/or adopted brother who *gasp* calls me when he wants to say something instead of texting and I am still always shocked when the phone rings (my other good friends know I hate the talking, even my mom gets it now and will text me saying, "is okay to call you now?" before ringing me up).

anyway, I am trying to figure out how to stop being a weirdo on the phone who tries to cut things short no matter how interesting the conversation may be. earlier, when I was talking to my new bro, in my head I was all, "can't we just talk about this in person tomorrow?", even though our conversation was fine and normal and even enjoyable. my responses were mostly short and kind of like, "okay, yeah, tomorrow, bye" and he'd be like, "wait, but..." and I'd be like, "yeah, what, tomorrow, bye" and he seemed a little taken aback.

so...what do regular people say when they're on the phone? I mean...are there exercises I can do? to practice? I'm not afraid of losing the friendship (we've been like family from day one), but I don't want to come off like a bitch because I don't dislike this person or anyone else who calls me really.

oh social graces, where for out thou?

[mikizee]

I dunno man, just talk to them normally, sheesh

[Audio.]

pretending to talk to a shoe? Maybe a walkie-talky...err I dunno how to spell it. I hate answering the phone more than Talking over it. Its like this alert interruption sound fucking up my routine.

[thegoodmrbrodie!]

i have exactly same problem. well not exactly same, i dont have the exciting friend who phones me all the time, but i have the phone problem. one thing that i have tried was arranging a time for the person to phone, so that i am expecting the phone call. things seem to go much better cos i have prepared myself for it, and i manage to tell myself not to be a dick. it happened yesterday, and i talked for half an hour with no problems. :)

[Adam]

Fuck talking on the phone - that is so 90s.

I hate talking on the phone to and when it rings I think its just an intrusion into my life that I didn't invite. So I'm always on the attack and pissed at the person who calls.

Text is the way to go. If the conversation is gonna break into a long text rally then talking is fine but if they don't reply then don't call them, they are probably busy. Grrrrrrr.

Also, wtf is with companies who don't have email addresses to deal with your stuff? Or you email them detailing everything and then they say call this number and then you have to explain again when it was put perfectly first time in a well structed email.

I wouldn't worry about it, wouldn't try to adhere to it, just let them know they shouldn't call you unless its sensible to - not to 'just talk'...

[rirv]

I don't mind talking on the phone if I know who it is - a friend or family. What I hate doing is ringing strangers up to procure goods or services or arrange something. As Adam said why can't everyone just use email now? It's far less personal.

[na§tee]

i want to call sarks!

[Adam]

i want to call sarks!

I remember a mobile phone number thread back in the day where every1 hooked up and there was a massive orgy!

Probably should be a bit more cautious now in the days of scary web stalker people. Ahh, the days when the web was safe!

[na§tee]

yeah i was one of those people. i called a few. i also left a message for sarky about 9 years ago, aaahahaha. i too suck at conversations on the phone, hence why i insisting on just leaving bullshit messages. i get nervous. not after some wine though, waheeey! oh, it's 10am.

[roosta]

i hate talking on the phone.

i worked in call centres for over 2 years, but it didn't cure me of it. It possibly made it worse.

I dont mind functional phone calls, but i hate calls "for the craic". I was going out with this girl a few years ago and she'd ring for chats and it would be the longest hour of my life. Not that the conversation wasn't good, it was, but i just hate being on the phone. My current girlfriend never bothered with calls when we were courting, as it was probably clear I didnt want to make them.

A friend of mine sometimes rings and doesn't tell you what he wants and trys to have a conversation and I have to stop him and say "why did you call me". Its probably rude, but heh, i dont like phone calls.

[Adam]

See, most people here hate phone so your new friend is just an idiot.

[ms.peachy]

See, most people here hate phone so your new friend is just an idiot.

Well, he is from Pluto. Who in their right mind would live there?

[Adam]

Well, he is from Pluto. Who in their right mind would live there?

those from uranus?

just so its a little less embarrasing.

[MC Moot]

Spacing,zoning,talkin' on the phone and my brain is roaming and I don't know where it's going…I have fondness for the daze gone long by when I used to sit on the phone with a girlfriend and watch a movie over the phone…teenage wanderlust….those day’s are gone….but they were fun…

[ms.peachy]

I used to sit on the phone with a girlfriend and watch a movie over the phone…teenage wanderlust…

Dude, I don't think that was wanderlust, as if it was you wouldn't, you know... sit there on the phone. You'd be, erm, wandering.

[MC Moot]

Dude, I don't think that was wanderlust, as if it was you wouldn't, you know... sit there on the phone. You'd be, erm, wandering.

yeah,yeah...I ment wonderlust...geez...:rolleyes:

[ET]

Hate it if I can actually talk to a person face to face. I don't prefer it even if I can't. I only do it for the ladies.

[jabumbo]

i never really have cared to chat over the phone. and i really don't care for texting much either. i generally send random texts about things when i'm bored, or have a couple extra minutes to kill.

but i really only use the phone to created and/or shore up plans for something else. but what really bugs me about cell phones these days is that so many people use them as an excuse for planning shit. if you want to do something with me, you have to give me a time and place, instead of this "i'll call you when i am here and we can find each other then" bullshit.

[TurdBerglar]

i hate phones

i hate all phones, cellphones included. i get kinda panicky when the phone rings.

everyone is so fucking sensitive to receiving attention nowadays. that's all phones are used for...HEY! MAYBE IF I CALL/TEXT THIS PERSON THEY'LL GIVE ME ATTENTION!!! didn't we hang out all day yesterday? leave me the fuck alone unless you have to say something important. i don't want to chit chat on the phone. i feel silly talking into hunk of plastic and not being able to do what i want because i need to focus on this god damn phone and it's so fucking inconvinient and uncomfortable having to hold one up to your ear.

i especially hate it when an aquantince just randomly wants to exchange numbers, and it's not because they want to make plans with you. it's because they just want to chit chat! NO! LEAVE ME ALONE! we don't need to chit chat! we spend all day together at work! we chit chat enough! fucking weirdo.

and like needing to use a phone to order food makes me pretty nervous. i don't really know why. if it's something even more important than just ordering food i have to like calm myself before i do it.

[Adam]

and like needing to use a phone to order food makes me pretty nervous. i don't really know why. if it's something even more important than just ordering food i have to like calm myself before i do it.

do you mean ordering a pizza or something? You can do that on the web now y'know. Even indians, chinese, sushi do it.

Only problem is you have to answer your door to them

[beastieangel01]

I'm also anti-phone. Don't even try to call me, I'll never pick up. Unless it's my Mother or my best friend. Even then, every so often I won't pick it up.

I'm a phone asshole.

TEXT ME!

[beastiegirrl101]

yeah i was one of those people. i called a few. i also left a message for sarky about 9 years ago, aaahahaha. i too suck at conversations on the phone, hence why i insisting on just leaving bullshit messages. i get nervous. not after some wine though, waheeey! oh, it's 10am.

I was one of the few. BEST MESSAGE EVER! Although I could not understand a word you said.

[funk63]

I like talking on the phone.

[Adam]

I like talking on the phone.

freak

[-T-]

I hate when people try to have an argument texting or a real lloooong conversation. That annoys the shit out of me! sometimes its easier, faster and less complicated to just call. Other then that a dont care to talk on the phone i prefer texting.

Of course you have the girls that save messages to bring them up at a later date.

[-T-]

Or yeah, when somebody calls you when your going to talk to them in person in the near future. That is annoying.

[Bob]

i'm like an old man when it comes to cell phones, i can't seem to figure out how loud i'm supposed to be speaking. i'm always worried there's static or i'm holding the thing too far from my head or there's background noise or the volume's too low or the reception is bad or whatever and i don't really know what to do with the volume of my voice

i see people walking around in loud places with cell phones, like next to busy roads, or in noisy bars, or on subway trains and i'm like "how the fuck are you doing this, also why, hang that shit up before i throw it in the tracks you annoying sack of crap" only i only say it in my head, not out loud because i'm far too passive aggressive

it doesn't come up much though, nobody ever really calls me

[Dorothy Wood]

down with phones!

also, I'd like to clarify that my friend calls me like 1-3 times a week or something, not all the time. ha. usually we text the other times, but over all he calls me probably 3 times more often than anyone else.

my roommates, on the other hand, are constantly talking on their cell phones. I don't even know what they could be talking about for so long and to so many people!


I really wish there was a cell phone plan that gave you like 200 minutes a month and unlimited texts for really cheap.

[Waus]

everyone is so fucking sensitive to receiving attention nowadays. that's all phones are used for...HEY! MAYBE IF I CALL/TEXT THIS PERSON THEY'LL GIVE ME ATTENTION!!! didn't we hang out all day yesterday? leave me the fuck alone unless you have to say something important. i don't want to chit chat on the phone. i feel silly talking into hunk of plastic and not being able to do what i want because i need to focus on this god damn phone and it's so fucking inconvinient and uncomfortable having to hold one up to your ear.
.

Yeah. I hate how cell phones have changed the nature of connection. People can ALWAYS call eachother, so any time you're not talking to someone there's this sort of implication that you don't want to talk to them. It really messes things up, because obviously it's good to not talk to people all the time.

One of the best things about getting married for me has been that we actually get to see eachother all the time, so I don't have to just sit around on the phone.

I like to call my friends who get off work at the same time I do and see what's going on with them while we both drive home. I feel like I'm not taking up their time or keeping them from doing anything since they're just driving/taking the bus like I am. Plus I'm not going to just call them and ignore other people while I'm home. It works out nicely.

[Adam]

I really wish there was a cell phone plan that gave you like 200 minutes a month and unlimited texts for really cheap.

you can. I get about 200 minutes a month and enough texts that I never go over the £10 per month contract amount. But I probably send less than 10 texts a day on average so maybe that is less than average?

Shop around.

[rirv]

Like roosta I used to work in a call centre, but only for about three months. I thought it would get me over my phone hate, but it didn't. It was charity calling so I was ringing people up and asking for money, bank details and general good will. Worst job ever. As soon as you'd finish one call, the computer would dial the next number it was relentless. About 80% of people you spoke to were pensioners.

[Adam]

I was in about out of call centres for about 8 years. I think its a bit different, its a job. No1 ever really enjoys their job and you don't the the ring ring which sounds to me like "EVERY1 STOP WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND PAY ATTENTION TO ME, EVERY1 STOP WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND PAY ATTENTION TO ME, EVERY1 STOP WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND PAY ATTENTION TO ME, EVERY1 STOP WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND PAY ATTENTION TO ME, EVERY1 STOP WHAT YOU ARE DOING AND PAY ATTENTION TO ME...".

Fuck phones, fuck them up their stupid asses.

[Myu-to]

I enjoy talking on the phone and in person, although when someone has an accent that is hard to understand whether it's on the phone or in person, I always feel bad about saying "uh, what?"

Nastee did leave the best message, her accent is stunning. I like leaving messages for people, and if the mood is right sometimes I even sing.

[-T-]

^^^

hahah sing..... I wish i still had that voicemail.

[Lex Diamonds]

It's telling that the people who open up the most in here seem more hesitant towards real life conversation.

[beastieangel01]

^ passive aggressive.

I can admit to that.

[fucktopgirl]

Phones are alright, depend who on the other side of this electric signal.

[hellojello]

Like roosta I used to work in a call centre, but only for about three months. I thought it would get me over my phone hate, but it didn't. It was charity calling so I was ringing people up and asking for money, bank details and general good will. Worst job ever. As soon as you'd finish one call, the computer would dial the next number it was relentless. About 80% of people you spoke to were pensioners.

I did that same job. except I only lasted 2days. And the first 1.5 were training so we weren't actually on the phone.

I hate phones too I rarely answer or even reply to texts. or emails for that matter. but if i call you expect to be on the phone for at least half an hour. more like 2. its just making up for those 10 calls i didn't answer in between time.