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Dorothy Wood
03-03-2009, 03:16 AM
do you think that as an adult, it is possible to be best friends with someone of the opposite sex without attraction getting in the way? and/or is it appropriate when one person has a significant other and the other person is single?
yes and yes.
I'm pretty sure its near impossible to get into a relationship with someone you are friends for a decent length of time. Most of my friends are female and even though I think they are attractive and before I knew them I wouldn't turn down a relationship, I would now. It would be a bit weird for me to start dating someone you have known for years and knows you pretty well - just because you are past all the lust stage.
I used to think differently though. When I was younger, I used to get attracted to my friends more so than before knowing them properly. But now I'm more experienced, I think the initial lust stage of a relationship is a good foundation for a long term relationship even after the lust generally fades.
I've never watched/read When Harry Met Sally btw, but I'm pretty sure I know the story without it.
Audio.
03-03-2009, 04:08 AM
^fits the bill in my money. Or how the saying goes. err.
taquitos
03-03-2009, 09:24 AM
this is a depressing thread
Nuzzolese
03-03-2009, 11:39 AM
I think it would be hard to be BEST friends without some attraction. When you're a grown up, I thought that your best friend was supposed to be your significant other. But I think it's totally easy to be friends with others without attraction, and it's appropriate if one friend is single and one isn't.
I'm a terrible source for this though, I don't have any friends.
Dorothy Wood
03-03-2009, 11:47 AM
you're a depressing thread!
wait, why?
I was just wondering. I think it'll be okay, I just have this friend who has a girlfriend and sometimes I feel like we are getting too close (friendwise). It just seems like if I had a boyfriend that was hanging out with some chick all the time, I wouldn't like it. meh.
this is a depressing thread
why? :confused:
Was the film really that bad?
Nuzzolese
03-03-2009, 12:18 PM
you're a depressing thread!
wait, why?
I was just wondering. I think it'll be okay, I just have this friend who has a girlfriend and sometimes I feel like we are getting too close (friendwise). It just seems like if I had a boyfriend that was hanging out with some chick all the time, I wouldn't like it. meh.
I used to have this male friend who had a girlfriend and I was always confused about what was going on. First he started talking to me like he was interested in me, and he told me I reminded him of his girlfriend, which I thought was an odd thing to say. I hung out with him a lot and we were friends but he was so tender and polite, I started to like him - all the while knowing he has this sweet girlfriend I'd never met. Finally I did meet her and she was so nice and he introduced me as someone he'd told her a lot about. I knew I couldn't be friends with both of them because she was way hotter than me and I still liked him-liked him. So I had to kind of cool off the friendship, which I felt bad about because he never did anything wrong. I just had to stop being such good friends with him because I started to like him too much.
paul jones
03-03-2009, 01:18 PM
I'm on season 6 of my Seinfeld marathon so by the way Elaine and Jerry handle the situation....yes.....although they did have a fuck during err season 4 I think, but they got back to normal again straight after
Dorothy Wood
03-03-2009, 01:18 PM
I used to have this male friend who had a girlfriend and I was always confused about what was going on. First he started talking to me like he was interested in me, and he told me I reminded him of his girlfriend, which I thought was an odd thing to say. I hung out with him a lot and we were friends but he was so tender and polite, I started to like him - all the while knowing he has this sweet girlfriend I'd never met. Finally I did meet her and she was so nice and he introduced me as someone he'd told her a lot about. I knew I couldn't be friends with both of them because she was way hotter than me and I still liked him-liked him. So I had to kind of cool off the friendship, which I felt bad about because he never did anything wrong. I just had to stop being such good friends with him because I started to like him too much.
ugh, that's the worst. do you still talk to him?
I forgot I also thought of this thread because one of my best girlfriends is in love with a married man she works with. and I guess his wife is just great, but she's never met her. she's tried recently to avoid him at work and kind of back off from their bantery good times, but he's always like, "hey! let's be best friends!" and she gives in. it's really making her crazy.
as for my male bff, he's started to complain about his girlfriend sometimes and it makes me feel uncomfortable. I usually change the subject, or give neutral feedback. At this point, I'm not super attracted to him physically, but last night he pressed a packet of sugar in my palm and I was like, "what's this for?" and he said, "it's for you, cuz you're sweet". and I just thought, "you charming son of a bitch". :/
Nuzzolese
03-03-2009, 01:29 PM
I never talk to him anymore. We both moved away from each other and it's probably just as well. I got a different boyfriend whose dad used to work for Billy Ray Cyrus but then turned too Christian to support Billy Ray. Then I broke up with that guy. But just think, if it wasn't for christianity, and things had been different, I might have gotten to meet Hannah Montana.
why would you need more sugar if ya sweet enough?
maybe he thinks you should be sweeter. or a pancake - which may mean he thinks ya fat.
Question him!
My female BFF is pregnant - the whore - she was best drinking partner (of either sex) so now its over :o
Dorothy Wood
03-03-2009, 02:00 PM
why would you need more sugar if ya sweet enough?
maybe he thinks you should be sweeter. or a pancake - which may mean he thinks ya fat.
Question him!
My female BFF is pregnant - the whore - she was best drinking partner (of either sex) so now its over :o
eh, I don't think he was thinking about it that hard. I'm not going to question him, bringing it up on a message board is creepy enough.
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