ever been in love?

[b i o n i c]

im curious.. a lot of lovey dover threads up in this place, but how many of you actually think you know what love is?

this may be too personal for a lot you, so maybe no one will answer.

once?
twice?
three times you madeee?
four plus times?

never?

thought you were but realized you dont know what love is?

this was gonna be a poll, but i forgot click that shit

[Lyman Zerga]

i wish i wasnt (n)

[checkyourprez]

not yet.

[b i o n i c]

how many times though?

what does love mean to you?

[Lyman Zerga]

how many times though?

what does love mean to you?

second time

and love can suck me off

[hpdrifter]

Four times. The only one I question whether it was really love was the second. The rest I have no doubt were real and I consider them all successes, even though they ended. Except the fourth, which I hope never ends.

[b i o n i c]

what is love to you?

baby dont hurt me, don;t hurt me ... no mo'

[hpdrifter]

Well I can say that it has taught me the most important lessons I've learned in life and made me a better person each time. I've come out of each relationship with valuable new insights about myself. So in that sense, its been everything.

[b i o n i c]

fair enough. to everyone: what does love mean to you? do you just love someone just because you love them?

[Adam]

Hmmms, I've said 'I love you' to two people.

Its hard to explain what it is. I think less of it now than I did 5 or so years ago.

I dunno, I say its hard to quantify. It can be a feeling being helpless without someone. Or it could be that you are just happier with someone than without.

I ain't got a fucking clue in other words.

[b i o n i c]

not yet.

you havent found the perfect soccer playing fat girl to toss your lettuce yet, am i right?

[jennyb]

I am OBSESSED with my boyfriend. I think about him too much for words. I love him beyond measure. He makes me extremely happy. More happy than anyone in the world. You can all puke now :o(y)

[b i o n i c]

adam, how can someone want to be in love if they dont know what it is?

[checkyourprez]

because thats what chicks think is the first part to their fairytale lives.


if it happens it happens. im content doing my thing for the time being.

[b i o n i c]

I am OBSESSED with my boyfriend. I think about him too much for words. I love him beyond measure. He makes me extremely happy. More happy than anyone in the world. You can all puke now :o(y)

i know that you two are perfect for eachother. what defines this for you though?

[Adam]

how can someone want to be in love if they dont know what it is?

Its like saying, how can some1 want to be thin if they've always been fat. Generally because society says its better.

Ok, that is a bad analogy. I'm drunk tho.

[saz]

you think you've got a crush on a girl but then you realize that it will always end in total disaster.

no matter how much you want to fight and resist it, i think most if not all guys (except for the lucky ones) are destined to casually date females they're not really interested in, other than for dumbass reasons ie casual sex, and any possibility or opportunity for a deep, worthwhile, fulfilling and rewarding relationship is mere fantasy.

[jennyb]

i know that you two are perfect for eachother. what defines this for you though?

I don't know about 'perfect' ... does that exist outside of a Hollywood sound stage? We are kind of an odd couple and have our moments, but for the first time in my life I look seriously forward to kiss and make up after said 'moments'. "Love" is such a vague, philosophical thing. All I know is I've finally found someone who amps the dopamine levels in my brain to unconscionable levels. At the end of the day it comes down to being happy... I think too many people have a checklist of their ideal mate in their heads and fall prey to it. I've just been rollin with what makes me happy and this has worked quite well for me this time thus far!

The thing that sux is nothing, and I mean... nothing is for sure, esp with love. I don't care who you are. You have to take the risk and put yourself out there in hopes of finding such happiness. Nothing worth while comes easy.

[yeahwho]

In my life theres been heartache and pain
I dont know if I can face it again
I cant stop now, Ive traveled so far
To change this lonely life

I wanna know what love is
I want you to show me
I wanna feel what love is
I know you can show me

[ms.peachy]

Two times. Three if you count my little girl.

[Videodrome]

i've been in love twice that i know of for sure. i sometimes question that love though because i have two sons. i know that my love towards my sons is unconditional. it is a totally different type of love than what i feel for anything else. i would do anything for them. i cannot say the same for any relationship, friendship, or other blood-related family member (parents included).

so when you ask about being or been in love are you strictly saying relationship wise? if so then yes, twice.

[monkey]

i've loved lots of people. i've only been IN love once. being in love and feeling that you are loved back is just about the most wonderful feeling in the world. being in love and have it not be reciprocated hurts way too much.

loving people is easy.

[100% ILL]

Love is a small furry animal that is always sick and in need of constant attention.

[yeahwho]

Love is a small furry animal that is always sick and in need of constant attention.

lol, you reminded me of sams take on love (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m_VURr6jnWQ), go to the 1:20 mark for an explanation of love

[Lyman Zerga]

I don't know about 'perfect' ... does that exist outside of a Hollywood sound stage? We are kind of an odd couple and have our moments, but for the first time in my life I look seriously forward to kiss and make up after said 'moments'. "Love" is such a vague, philosophical thing. All I know is I've finally found someone who amps the dopamine levels in my brain to unconscionable levels. At the end of the day it comes down to being happy... I think too many people have a checklist of their ideal mate in their heads and fall prey to it. I've just been rollin with what makes me happy and this has worked quite well for me this time thus far!

The thing that sux is nothing, and I mean... nothing is for sure, esp with love. I don't care who you are. You have to take the risk and put yourself out there in hopes of finding such happiness. Nothing worth while comes easy.

yeah shut up already! you are perfect for each other
you must be blind if you dont see this! BLIND!

[Lyman Zerga]

Love is a small furry animal that is always sick and in need of constant attention.

leave my coochie out of this

[paulb]

yeah shut up already! you are perfect for each other
you must be blind if you dont see this! BLIND!

me and JENNY sitting in a tree, K-I-S-S-I-N-G...first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes Tadlocks Glasses in the baby carriage.

[beastieboysbaby]

i don't know what love is.

[cosmo105]

it's grand is what it is.

[beastieboysbaby]

love is sexy. WHAT WHAT :eek:

[Audio.]

never. I dunno whether to add this icon :( or this one here (y)

[Lex Diamonds]

Yeah I have. Thought I was a few times when I was like 12 and 14 and shit but then I got the real thing.

Amazing and shit at the same time, I can live without it.

[beastieboysbaby]

i'm bi-sexual.
just so you guys know.

[ericlee]

It actually sucks that a person can undoubtedly say they love something they do such as playing an instrument or drawing. Also someone can say they love an object such as their drumset or car.

It takes much longer to figure out when the right time is to say they love another person.

[Audio.]

i'm bi-sexual.
just so you guys know.

pfff liar. Which female celeb do you find yourself attractive?

[beastieboysbaby]

kirstin dunst.
and michelle williams.
:eek:

[Audio.]

michelle williams, really? eh, she does look like the attractive version of renee zellweger.

[beastieboysbaby]

yeah., really!
eh she's okay..i think.
not my type.

[LongDuckDong]

Ah, shut up! You aint even had your fuckin' period come down! Get outta here with that shit.

[Dorothy Wood]

I've always counted love as whether or not you'd be incredibly upset if the person died. and hate as wishing someone were dead.

I came up with that when I was a kid. I think it's pretty accurate.

however, being in love is a little different. it's more about chemistry, but you also kind of have to decide that you want to be in love. and sometimes its hard to do that because it's scary. and it's scary because it can't really ever be defined, but it defines your relationship.


I was in love with my last boyfriend, I loved the boyfriend before that (but wasn't really in love I don't think), and between those two I felt lovey type feelings brewing for a dude who had (and still has) a girlfriend...the kind that feels like magic. but you know, you're supposed to just shove that right back down when it bubbles up.

I've never experienced complete comfort and love in a relationship. I hope it's possible for me some day. I've seen it happen for other people.


*barfs*

[trailerprincess]

Nope. And not really that bothered.


*reaches for vodka*

[taquitos]

*reaches for vodka*


QFT

you guys have been bumming me out lately.

[Lyman Zerga]

me and JENNY sitting in a tree, K-I-S-S-I-N-G...first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes Tadlocks Glasses in the baby carriage.

gross!

[trailerprincess]

QFT

you guys have been bumming me out lately.

:( I'll spread the misery in another corner of the internet.

Anyone know the address for the Hannah Montana board?.......

[taquitos]

http://music.yahoo.com/ar-31022898-messages--Hannah-Montana

no, i liked your post. i just mean in general, it's probably just me.

maybe it's almost spring and love is in the air.

[trailerprincess]

Ah good. I won't have to terrify teens today then.

Spring is coming soon. Who knows what it will bring. Apart from hayfever to the masses.

[Nuzzolese]

One summer I was watching TV late at night and I caught the 80s movie Endless Love, with Brooke Shields. It caused such an emotional stirring in my heart, and made me want to be in love, endless love! I suddenly felt like I was reay to give someone my whole heart, and if he didn't end up burning my house down that was okay but I was ready for passion. I think the truth is that I had too much affection and nowhere to direct it.

So that summer I met my first serious boyfriend. We'd grown up in the same town but never met before, and we had a long distance year long relationship of love letters and occasional visits while we were away at our respective schools. I thought I was in love. Sometimes it was a chore to think up something romantic to say in each letter, but I liked the challenge.

Then we moved in together and it lasted 3 months before I moved out with the promise that we'd work things out in the future. I cannot express the enormity of the relief that washed over me like a tidal wave the minute I was out of town with the car packed up.

It took some recovery time to get over it. I think I was more depressed that the relationship didn't work out than I was about missing him. He loved me as best he could, I believe, but it just wasn't enough. And he was kind of stupid.

Now I love someone else. It's very different from that past silliness. This is more realistic and it feels better, more secure, happier.


Bionic: all these questions for other people. What about YOU?

[Nuzzolese]

Love is: a compulsion to take care of the other person, make him happy, make him feel accepted no matter what, and make his life as good as possible; and then have a feeling of peace and security when you are with him - and even when you are not with him, so long as you know he's okay in life and he loves you. Also, when you like the smell of the air that comes out of his nostrils when he breathes (which he finds strange but he's okay with that) and you'd most often rather share your life with him than with anyone else. Love!

[AceFace]

it's funny how this came up. when i was in FL last week, i met up with the first real love of my life. i hadn't seen him in 12 years. i still had that sparkle for him. it was amazing. but what was even cooler is that it really made me feel the love for my husband even more. to know i can be in love after being with someone for 10 years is an awesome feeling.

yes, we've had our ups and downs, but we're def on an up right now. :)

[b i o n i c]

for me, three times i think. hmm, to be honest i asked without thinking about it.

i dont know, to define love, well, to me love is 70% a decision and 30% just a feeling. you want the best for that person. you'll do anything for that person. love is patience. love is forgiveness. love is sympathy and empathy. love is growing. love is not fickle. love requires some breakdown of your own ego in a way, and thats what a lot of people can't get over. love does not hide behind pride or vanity, you look at that other person as though it were yourself. love is respect. love is great.

i don't know, i think im still forming my opinions to an extent, but by now i know what love isnt. i feel like a puss now.

[b i o n i c]

jim carrey's eyebrow, lol (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UaYLdFE7s9Y)

[Nuzzolese]

Tell us more about the two worlds you two came from when you were 15. Was she from Red Hook, you from Brooklyn Heights?

[b i o n i c]

nah, she was public school (not a nice one) and kinda hip hop, i was prep school, rock band kid. exciting! she hung out with kids named jaji and wise. i hung out with james and walter. her parents were divorced and she was kinda a latch-key kid and mine arent and i was the opposite. her step mom was this gothy lady who got us pot if we were desperate, my mom would make us dinner on a sunday and wanted to bake her a cake for her bday

[Nuzzolese]

You don't think she ended up with Jaji, do you? You two dated from age 15 until college? That is crazy. The only fellas I dated as a teen were guys who asked me out without knowing anything about me, called me "dude" and tried to get me to tell them how girls masturbate. They didn't give me any notebooks but they did offer to shotgun a joint for me. *sexy!*



You sound like, in both of those situations you described, that you were the "savior" You said you've been in love 3 times but you only described two girls. Can we give them hypothetical names? Shawna and Raylene?

[mickill]

Just with Jennifer Connelly.

Oh, and with my wife "Raylene".

[b i o n i c]

no not with the first one, i didnt try to save her from anything, we were just different. and she ended up marrying some guy named phil who is a comedian. and number one had one of thise battery powered pipes that you just had to press the button and smoke would come out. how could i resist? if anything, she saved me from my world, i went into hers more than she came into mine. number 2 yes. and i kind of dislike myself then for it.

[beastieangel01]

I think there may be various types of love.

There's the love for your friends and family of course.

Then I am a believer in puppy love. I've been in puppy love twice... when it was all new and I was naive.

I loved someone somewhere in between my puppy love stage and adult life. Sometimes I wonder what that one was exactly. I thought it'd be forever, but I was definitely too young and inexperienced. Secrets were kept, things were one sided, he never really wanted me to ever be ME. Just someone HE wanted me to be. Realizing that came with time though... that one last almost four years.

I've loved someone despite the fact that we were incompatible. I think it's safe to say that I still love him now, but it's more the love that involves me caring about him and his well being. Not so much that I want to be WITH him.

I'd say right now is the only time I've truly been in love in the sense of long-term, true love. I love him, the good and the very little bad he has (ha, it's true though, he's almost flawless).

I notice that I don't ever question it or seriously wonder if it will ever end. I suppose realistically there is always a chance that it were to end, that's the case for any couple. But I don't see that happening. Though I don't believe in soul mates this is as close as it gets. I just know. It's not a case where things are one sided, where he's just trying to make me happy or I'm just trying to make him happy. We both make the effort for each other, every day.

I know that if anything were to happen to him; a car accident and he became a vegetable, I'd be by his side to take care of him forever. I know that if that were to happen to me, he'd be there for me, too.

I have no secrets hidden from him and he doesn't hide any secrets from me. We know who each other is, in the raw. We aren't trying to change each other and take the other as is. We've seen each other in our darkest, unlikable times yet still love each other.

I don't know. At this point I'm just kind of rambling. But what we have is what I'd define as love.

[jennyb]

.......love requires some breakdown of your own ego in a way, .....

wow I think someone hit the nail right smack dab on the head


Maybe if it evokes this out of you... it's the real deal.
"I'm in love, I'm in LOVE and I don't care who knows it!!!" (http://www.jahozafat.com/php/sounds/?id=bst&media=MP3S&type=Movies&movie=Elf&quote=iminlove.txt&file=iminlove.mp3)

[LongDuckDong]

Eat shit. Don't post again 'till your motherfuckin' period come down! Ya' fuckin' dumb-ass!

And love is for jerks and numbnuts.

[b i o n i c]

Eat shit. Don't post again 'till your motherfuckin' period come down! Ya' fuckin' dumb-ass!

And love is for jerks and numbnuts.

thank you for that delicious kernel of knowledge. thank you for spending your 176th post here. you patronage is somewhat appreciated

[paul jones]

I was the bass player









































no not really.I would be about 60 something if I was,were.

[jennyb]

Eat shit. Don't post again 'till your motherfuckin' period come down! Ya' fuckin' dumb-ass!

And love is for jerks and numbnuts.

hahahaha... awesome.

[hpdrifter]

I think you know you're in love when you notice and value the smallest things.

Edit too personal.

[DandyFop]

I've been in love three times, with someone whom it was mutual.

I miss it a lot. Haven't been in a relationship for a year now and I am definitely feeling the loneliness now. It's getting to the point where I can't watch romantic movies because they make me depressed. I've half-assedly tried some internet sites but I'm sick of that, I just want to meet someone in the real world.

However, I am very happy for those I know who are in that state. Hpdrifter, your list is amazing, and reminds me why I am not just dating whatever idiot comes along.

[AceFace]

i write cards to my husband with lists like that all the time. some times when i get lazy and just put love and my name on the card, he gets huffy b/c i didn't write him a list of things i love about him.

[saz]

destined to be a playboy/bachelor

*grabs whisky, throws on muddy waters*

[RoryMC]

I fell in love too young.

[taquitos]

I was the bass player



no not really.I would be about 60 something if I was,were.


ken forssi died of a brain tumor in the late nineties. he would have been in his sixties now.