Being Alone

[Waus]

How do you balance time alone versus time around people?

I find that I'm generally much more of a loner than most people. I enjoy time I spend with people, I just don't seek it out as often. One of the guys at work was joking that I was "a loner" and never came out to talk to everyone in the main room of our office building - I just sort of hide in the editing suite and do my own thing.

[b i o n i c]

im hot and cold. sometimes i just really want to be alone, other times i have to be around people. if its ever an new people anxiety thing one good thing to remember is most of the people in the room are just as or more anxious than you to be around strangers. it actually helps to be the one introducing yourself first..

[Audio.]

I like thinking alone and never too good talking to anyone one while I'm in that state where I need to focus on one thing. Having my free time is either me wanting to be alone or going out with anyone close to that i know. The way I feel is being alone is a lot better - I think. Ummm heh mostly the things I do for fun it only deals with a person (me) and not many. So, thats why I like being alone and not doing the group thing. To answer your question ummm I say it isnt so much about time but much much more of how do you want to spend your day or what is it that you want to do. not sure if that was great answer .... hmm?

[jennyb]

I hate being alone as much as I am... but then again there is only a small group of people whom I want to be with all the time and they're scattered all over the place so my life is pretty lonely these days. I hate the thought of going out and befriending a bunch of strangers... I just want my tried and true peeps at this stage of my life it seems. That said, I'm beginning to relish my quiet Saturday nights alone... sigh, thank god the only thing constant in life is change; cuz this too - shall pass.

[Dorothy Wood]

I go back and forth, but I definitely value my alone time. like today, I was around a lot of people and had to talk a lot in the morning, then I decided to shop downtown by myself in the rain because I needed to spend a store credit at macy's. I guess I was technically not alone, because there were hundreds of people around, but I could just look at people and go anywhere I wanted at my own pace without worrying whether or not I'm taking too long or going places another person doesn't want to go.

I stayed in tonight while my roommates went out. I tried on some high heel shoes and walked around like a fancy lady. then I made some popcorn and played guitar hero. then worked on an art project. it's kinda nice to just be able to do whatever you want. when other people are around you have to consider their needs and whatnot. or at least I do, because I am considerate. I guess assholes and needy folks don't really think about other people's feelings too hard, and they probably like to have people around all the time to validate them.


at work, there's only one other person there with me and we're in the same room all day long, so there is plenty of talking that goes on. I luckily like everybody I work with, it wasn't always like that though. it took me awhile to feel comfortable enough to be my real goofy self. one girl used to ask me to sing along to the radio and I would get so scared and not do it. but now I sing all the time and shout and stuff, we're buds even though our friendship did not come easy.


I think being a loner is just fine, as long as you're choosing it because you like it, not because you're afraid.

[TurdBerglar]

i often piss friends off quite a bit because i don't care at all if i have company or not. it makes no difference to me.

sometimes i'll try to go on break by myself at work and no one seems to understand i don't want to talk today! i just wanna put my headphones on and read the paper! then they start huffing and puffing because i didn't come and get them today to go on break together. i have my headphones on and im burried in the paper! can't you see that???? fuck off! some people just seem to never want to be alone ever and i find that really creepy.

[Adam]

I love being alone. Some say its a sign of intelligence ;)

I like people to but I am always aiming to please people I am with. I'll let them take the lead if they want to and not suggest anything others don't want to do. But I am also kinda shy if in a room full of people. I just like people to be happy. People that know me know that and don't really push any agenda on me. And they also know that as long as the company stays good that I'll happily get on with everyone - if just quietly.

You can be alone in a crowd also, just cus ya shopping doesn't mean you're with company.

But we all need human contact sometimes. Some more than others, those that say they don't ever need it I feel bad for, for whatever reason I think some like to shut themselves away and don't really give themselves or others much chance to shine when I think they could be happy and making others happy.

[Planetary]

its rare that i want to/do spend a night in on my own.

[Lyman Zerga]

im used to be alone, i dont like it but im used to it

[Nuzzolese]

I'm happy alone until I see other people together. Then I get jealous so I force my way into their lives. Then they start to annoy me so I run away abruptly to think horrible thoughts about them until I get lonely again and start to cry, then start a project I won't finish, rock myself to sleep...begin the cycle again in an hour.

[TAL]

I'm awesome at being alone.

[Waus]

I think a huge part of it (for me) is ability to entertain oneself. If you're the kind of person who can read, surf the net, do art, watch things etc. without feeling the need for another person to share that with you can really go for a long long time without any sociability.

[Waus]

I guess it's a certain element of self-consciousness coupled with the desire to explore.

I like to listen to my own music and not worry about someone being annoyed I play the same CD all day, same track 4 times in a row - or if I listen to a song that would make someone else go "what is that!?"

That and I like to read different things, look at designy-images, decide to research something without someone else asking me what I'm doing.

I like to take the time to pursue interests I have without having to wonder if someone else cares.

[TimDoolan]

I guess I'm pretty much of a lone wolf. I don't say I don't like people at all but, to tell you the truth I only like it then if I have a chance to look deep into their hearts and their minds.