so how many stages of love sickness are there?

[Randetica]

after i got thrown away like a used condom i at first forced myself to sleep as much as possible at day time (too) so i could hide from those brutal feelings, for a little while atleast

after a few days i couldnt think of anything but suicide, i planned it all out
even wrote a good bye letter etc..

two rough weeks later i felt without a soul and emotions, just stared at the goddamn tv all day

and since a week or so i been crying like every few hours


so what comes next? do i have to become an alcoholic or junkie to get over this? or what?

how do you heal that shit? i want this to be over already cause it eats me up

(no emo)

[instigator7022]

I got my heart broken once. I felt completely horrible, As a result I partied a lot to push the pain out of my mind (so yes alcohol was the option for me). Next, I found a new boyfriend and got into a car crash with him. I landed in the hospital for 15 days and reinvented my whole life in response to my near-death experience. So, after that the broken heart didn't seem so bad...

It sounds completely ridiculous and after-school special but overall, I realized that life is valuable and you can never waste a moment of it. You've always got to be moving forward. If some dick made you feel like shit, its him wasting your life time. Don't let him! Busy yourself with things to make you happy.

This is all I can suggest. I will now go back into my subterannean lair.

[kaiser soze]

I understand where you are, I went through this viciously and there are still tiny shards in my heart working their way out.

How long was the relationship?

Did you invest a ton into it : emotionally, financially, made sacrifices, how connected to family, etc.

Your grief should be in proportion to that.

If this was an obsession or heavy handed crush you should get over it quickly...not saying it'll be easy but don't waste your life on it

Don't self-medicate with hate (for the person and towards yourself)

[Rock]

just fuck the pain away and/or give it time. one or the other will work for sure. no bullshit.

[cubsfirstplace]

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[Dorothy Wood]

I don't know about stages, but time helps. it's been a year and a couple weeks since my heart was broken, but I don't think of it too much anymore. I did text my ex when I was drunk the other day, because I was talking to my roommates about my past and my father and realized that I had never told him any of what I was telling them. so I texted him saying something like, "sometimes I regret not telling you things that I so freely tell others".

he didn't respond. I really didn't expect him to, and forgot the next day. I remember it now and I don't even care that much. it only makes me feel like he never really got the whole me in the first place and in a way that's comforting. like we really weren't meant for each other after all.

[russhie]

Rock is correct.

I watch other people do the break up thing and I thought I'd lose my shit in a big way, eventually, but I didn't. I cried alot, yes, and questioned my self worth a bit but I started to enjoy my new found singleness pretty quickly. Partying and being carefree and one night stands and disco pashing and all that shit made it that much easier to deal with, and I don't regret a thing.

I'm glad I wasn't railroaded into getting another boyfriend...I thought I'd want one ASAP but I actively avoid getting tangled up with anyone now. I like being on my own too much.

[Planetary]

i can't see why someone would want to commit suicide over a break up? or any thing else.

it's weak and selfish

[-T-]

I have to ask. Did you actually go out with this person, like in real life?

[b i o n i c]

ah get over it ya pussies(y)

[fucktopgirl]

I dont want to be rude here, but I think it is all in the mind , you have take responsability of how you feel and decide it is enough or you self indulge in pain.

why cry over someone who dumped you? Fuck him...

[Echewta]

Life is an adventure with many lovers. Once you realize that, things are easier. :)

[beastieangel01]

Partying and being carefree and one night stands and disco pashing and all that shit made it that much easier to deal with, and I don't regret a thing.

This is actually how I got through a long-term relationship break up.

I think sometimes we all need to go a little crazy like that.

You could always find a passion to focus on too, take some classes, all kinds of things.

[Nuzzolese]

Go to Disney World's Magic Kingdom. It truly is the happiest place on earth.

[Randetica]

i only met him for three days but had/have some serious feelings for him since two and a half years and had also to wait that long to finally meet him

glad he didnt waste my time..

i cant really talk about it since that person posts on here as well

but the pain gets untakeable sometimes, i took a meds overdose in those critical two weeks but it only gave gastritis, heart racing, shacking and a mad headache and i made my family cry



well after almost 26 years im so tired of being a singe and im not having much hope anymore to find someone, im not even that picky or something but whatever

[Helvete]

The guy sounds like a total douche anyway, totally not worth getting worked up over.

[Randetica]

The guy sounds like a total douche anyway, totally not worth getting worked up over.

haha
yeah fuck him, wish he wasnt so fucking sexy though

[Knuckles]

The guy sounds like a total douche anyway, totally not worth getting worked up over.

I agree with this.

Unless we are talking about Paul Jones here. Then your only option is suicide.

Sorry you're feeling shitty. :(

[Randetica]

I agree with this.

Unless we are talking about Paul Jones here. Then your only option is suicide.

Sorry you're feeling shitty. :(

i dont want to blame it all on paul jones, ive been suffering from clinical depressions nearly half of my life but this 'stole my last bit of self esteem and hope' situation really made me want to end everything

im not very suicidal anymore but i dont really want to live either

[camo]

are you ok? :)

[Rock]

im not very suicidal anymore but i dont really want to live either
Lots of people get like that when they have their hearts broken....at least the I don't really want to live bit. Just give it time and stop dwelling on it and keep on trucking. Sure its gonna be on your mind a lot but just say "fuck it, it didn't work out". It happens to people everyday and they get through it, and it gets easier everyday. For real.

[Videodrome]

It happens to people everyday and they get through it, and it gets easier everyday. well put!

[funk63]

I'm sending you some happiness via telekinesis.

[cosmo105]

life's too short beautiful to spend pining away for someone that isn't right for you. single life can be fun (the partying etc.) and it's worth it to make you appreciate when you've found someone worth settling down with that much more. until then love yourself first.

[paul jones]

If a person does not want to continue to fumble around with you then there'll always be another to fumble around with but not straight after in some cases so you have to fumble yourself or pay someone to fumble with you or just get a tank and drive it into a bank that has robbed people of their pensions(y)

[Randetica]

I will be your rebound guy, Randetica

rebound my anus


if a guy who would pretty much take every girl doesnt want me then i dont want to know what picky guys think of me..

and no, single life sucks
i had it all my life and im tired of being always alone

i just need a guy who gives me some love and protection but guys at my age dont even notice me cause they all think im a child, i got no sex appeal at all

yet i look too old for pedos


so far i had no single proof that im love worthy so how can i love myself then

fuck men and everyone else too

[Randetica]

also it's not just that i dont "have" him anymore

i also got very hurt feelings

while we met he was like the perfect man but afterwards was/is treating me like worthless shit

first he wants to convince me that his love for me is SO real and that he got a special place in his heart for me, he wants to take me to paris etc. and then we meet and afterwards he acts like i never existed

i would have understood it if he said something like it was nice but im not his type or something like that cause thats what i knew/feared since years anyway but hiding from me and blocking me is of course what real gentlemen do

that he was so nice to me in real makes all much harder for me, also hard to believe that this is the same person

my mind says he is an ass and i probably could do much better anyway but tell that to the gazillion butterflies in my belly

if i could turn off my feelings i would do it right away cause the only person that gets hurt by them is me

this all is worse than poison for my phobia and im hiding at home again

[Dorothy Wood]

so, was it really damaja/helvete?

what happened, you guys hung out in real life for what, a day or two, couple hours? and then he said, "thanks, but no thanks"?

that sucks, but he's kind of well known jerk, right? or at least seems like a rather arrogant person.


I'm sorry, but it's really dangerous to invest yourself in a person you haven't met. I know it's hard for you because of your situation and I've made fun of you for it in the past, and I'm sorry...but I feel like you are detached from reality in a way that you don't even realize.

I don't know, mourn the loss of mr. jerkface for a little bit, then move on quick if you can. The last thing you should do is go into hiding. Get involved with stuff by where you live and try to find someone that way. And if you end up finding someone you like online again, at least by that point, you'll have experienced some real people (even if only friends) and will be better able to connect romantically (without all the fantasy...like paris trips and whatnot) with someone in a real way.



:/

[TurdBerglar]

whoa what the fuck

[Helvete]

Heyyyy, what the fuck!

[Dorothy Wood]

uh, oops.

[Randetica]

helvete is an asshole but i hoped he could be my asshole!

i cant deal with super sweet guys and now i have to pay for it


im also on my period and have extreme feelings in all kind of directions


i hope i can be friends with him again once im over this, might take a while though


and i didnt make this thread to make helvete look bad or that you attack him, just needed to talk about my feelings
he was very nice and friendly to me in real life, much better than any guy before, not arrogant at all
and i didnt feel like i was in danger for any second, i in fact felt much safer with him around

now i dont really want to talk about this anymore

[Dorothy Wood]

I wasn't attacking. just stating facts.

also, I didn't mean physical danger, I meant emotional danger.

doesn't matter, I'll keep my nose out. I was just trying to help.

[Randetica]

I wasn't attacking. just stating facts.




whatever, jerkface

and dont try to teach me things, im not really that naive

[AceFace]

^ you air your dirty laundry out in front of everyone and then make a response like that to someone that made a post that made total sense!?

honey you need some help. i hope you're seeing a therapist.

[Randetica]

^ you air your dirty laundry out in front of everyone and then make a response like that to someone that made a post that made total sense!?

honey you need some help. i hope you're seeing a therapist.

umm shut up :confused:

i dont wanted to make him look bad but you dont always have your feelings in control in some situations, it always switches from i want him back to wanting to beat the shit out of him, i held my problems back long enough but now they needed out

just needed to get rid of some steam and feelings and made it more clear why im feeling so crappy

i just wanted advice how long love sicknesses usually lasts cause i cant stand it for much longer

and your worthless comment doesnt really help but thanks anyway, honey

[AceFace]

i didn't mention you making him look bad whatsoever, honey. i mentioned you spilling your soul out here in public in front of "friends" and then being a jerk when someone gave you an honest answer that didn't seem in malice whatsoever.

love sickness lasts however long you let it. kick it's ass and move on.

also, i can tell you that even when you're in love you'll still deal with love sickness. my husband took a job as a corporate trainer and i haven't seen him in 3 weeks. i'm feeling love sick all the time, i miss him so much.

[b i o n i c]

randy!

bottom line, you'll be ok is what everyone means. sooner or later you'll figure it all out, you'll see.

if you have the courage, seeing THE RAPIST isnt a bad idea.

THE RAPIST!


oh: and the response.. they (the people in lab coats) say it takes half as long as your relationship lasted to get over it, depending on how involved that relationship was

[Helvete]

I am going to kill myself! I have feelings too.

[b i o n i c]

you do like coming off like kinda jerky, right(y) "i can kick anyone upside down over a house" bud light i said

[Randetica]

randy!

bottom line, you'll be ok is what everyone means. sooner or later you'll figure it all out, you'll see.

if you have the courage, seeing THE RAPIST isnt a bad idea.

THE RAPIST!


oh: and the response.. they (the people in lab coats) say it takes half as long as your relationship lasted to get over it, depending on how involved that relationship was

we wanted it to become a relationship but i was too much of a failure in real life so after all this is 'just' unrequited love

i could go for some rapist right now

[paul jones]

nevermind love.

according to roosta the world's ending in another thread.

time to stock up on fuel and build forts and stuff(y)

[Randetica]

i didn't mention you making him look bad whatsoever, honey. i mentioned you spilling your soul out here in public in front of "friends" and then being a jerk when someone gave you an honest answer that didn't seem in malice whatsoever.

love sickness lasts however long you let it. kick it's ass and move on.

also, i can tell you that even when you're in love you'll still deal with love sickness. my husband took a job as a corporate trainer and i haven't seen him in 3 weeks. i'm feeling love sick all the time, i miss him so much.

honest answer? you or others dont know shit about me so you cant even judge
it's no advice just you trying to make me look stupid and naive so stop trying to sound like my mother and stop calling me honey while we are at it

[Randetica]

I have feelings too.

meanwhile i doubt it

[AceFace]

honest answer? you or others dont know shit about me so you cant even judge
it's no advice just you trying to make me look stupid and naive so stop trying to sound like my mother and stop calling me honey while we are at it
i think i'm pretty transparent around here. i don't say negative things usually. i'm genuinely nice. i am not trying to make you look stupid or naive, i was being true in my response. i even answered the question you asked. i wasn't judging you either. judging you would have been something like "you're wrong for feeling this way blah blah blah" and i would never be that way.

i will drop this now b/c it's obvious you're too hurt to listen with an objective mind.

[Helvete]

you do like coming off like kinda jerky, right(y) "i can kick anyone upside down over a house" bud light i said

Totally. I'm too nice in real life so need to act like a dick somewhere. You think I give a fuck? I have a life outside of the internet which is pretty good so mutherfucker please.

[Randetica]

i think i'm pretty transparent around here. i don't say negative things usually. i'm genuinely nice. i am not trying to make you look stupid or naive, i was being true in my response. i even answered the question you asked. i wasn't judging you either. judging you would have been something like "you're wrong for feeling this way blah blah blah" and i would never be that way.

i will drop this now b/c it's obvious you're too hurt to listen with an objective mind.

yeah you only said i need a therapist

thanks for being so nice

[b i o n i c]

Totally. I'm too nice in real life so need to act like a dick somewhere. You think I give a fuck? I have a life outside of the internet which is pretty good so mutherfucker please.

dddddaapersonally, i like to wack down a six pack ana bottla jack daniels to calm my nervse

[Helvete]

It's pretty weird saying all this shit online in public, but when that's the only life you have, what else are you going to do?

I've been pretty quiet about all this as I know whatever is said would affect you a lot more than it would affect me. So I've been holding back. But you know I've been nothing but a nice guy at all times, and that's my persona in general. Maybe not so much online, but whatever.

Maybe you feel I led you on and you had grand visions of a life together, but that's a lot to gamble on someone you have not met before and you don't really know how things are going to be until you meet them. We met and I felt that there was absolutely no way we could ever have any sort of a relationship.

I'll talk all day about this if you want. But it won't be me crying myself to sleep tonight.

[Randetica]

it's not my fault youre posting on the same board

[Randetica]

It's pretty weird saying all this shit online in public, but when that's the only life you have, what else are you going to do?

I've been pretty quiet about all this as I know whatever is said would affect you a lot more than it would affect me. So I've been holding back. But you know I've been nothing but a nice guy at all times, and that's my persona in general. Maybe not so much online, but whatever.

Maybe you feel I led you on and you had grand visions of a life together, but that's a lot to gamble on someone you have not met before and you don't really know how things are going to be until you meet them. We met and I felt that there was absolutely no way we could ever have any sort of a relationship.

I'll talk all day about this if you want. But it won't be me crying myself to sleep tonight.

cause youre quite cold

it's more the way you treated me after we met, like im some worthless piece of shit that doesnt deserve any response (only just cause im not your type) while just a short time before you tried to convince me that your love for me is real (never believed it anyway)

you made it sound like everything will turn out right and you wont be that one who gets dissapointed and YOU made up some fantasies about our future life, i didnt believe those things would ever happen
but thinking of those things you said and the way you treat me now makes me of course feel hurt, dissapointed and tricked

all the time i kinda knew/feared that you wouldnt want me in real life but that doesnt mean i deserve such a treatment

all this just shows youre too low and immature for me anyway

grow some balls

[Helvete]

That's exactly right. Good for you! I spoke to you after we met no problem, you asked what I thought about you and I told you. I could have been harsher, but you are bad enough as it is so I tried to let you down gently. Then you started messaging me saying that you tried to kill yourself, and then I was like 'YO WTF GET A GRIP' BLOCKED! And what fantasy shit did I make up? I think you made a comment about hating France and I said I liked it and I said I should take you. Hardly promising marriage and children now is it.

But say what you need to say, it'll help you get over it. But you don't need me listing all the things that are wrong with you. You're fragile as it is, and I know I am this apparent asshole, but am I really?

Shh, can you hear that? I think I hear wedding bells? Oh no wait, not your bells!

[beastiegirrl101]

now you are just being purposefully hurtful, which is a dickwad move.

[Rock]

why don't you guys just talk about all of this in PMs instead of out here in public?

[Randetica]

That's exactly right. Good for you! I spoke to you after we met no problem, you asked what I thought about you and I told you. I could have been harsher, but you are bad enough as it is so I tried to let you down gently. Then you started messaging me saying that you tried to kill yourself, and then I was like 'YO WTF GET A GRIP' BLOCKED! And what fantasy shit did I make up? I think you made a comment about hating France and I said I liked it and I said I should take you. Hardly promising marriage and children now is it.

But say what you need to say, it'll help you get over it. But you don't need me listing all the things that are wrong with you. You're fragile as it is, and I know I am this apparent asshole, but am I really?

Shh, can you hear that? I think I hear wedding bells? Oh no wait, not your bells!

stop making a fool out of yourself

i said i didnt expect you to want me anyway, dumbshit

you said you couldnt wait to see me and that you hope things between us will work out and that you hope ill be that one special girl for you

you pushed it all more than i did and then dropped me like you never ever wanted anything from me

keep lying just to make yourself look better and that im just the silly girl that fell for you idiot..

i dont blame you that im not your type i just blame your for treating me like shit
youre like some kid trying to run away from your problems

im just sorry i wasted so much time for such a shithead


and i dont think you could have a working relationship, not with anyone
youre too full of problems and too much of a kid

but good luck for the future, you will need it

[Randetica]

why don't you guys just talk about all of this in PMs instead of out here in public?

he doesnt respond then, he is a kid

[Helvete]

now you are just being purposefully hurtful, which is a dickwad move.
I tried other approaches but they didn't sink in. But it's all good, I guess this is the final stage then! I think this has been a learning experience for all.

[Randetica]

well yeah

this bomb had to go off sooner or later
now talking it all out makes me feel much better and relieved

also making sure again helvete REALLY is an ass and that i deserve better helps

and no, your advices didnt help at all but thanks for the tries, bitches


and lex i hope we can be friends some day again, you know like in the good old days when we hated us or am i even too ugly to be your friend?

[cosmo105]

holy internets

[Echewta]

:cool:

[Randetica]

holy internets

we all are guilty, especially echewta is

[Echewta]

Actually, thats true. I mean, I've even met TPK.

[Helvete]

LOL!