How stupid is this guy?

[cookiepuss]

So I met a guy at a bar at the beginning of January. He came back to my house after hours, but we did not have sex. He took my number. and never called...until this Monday. I did not return his call. Then he called me again today.:rolleyes:

do I actually have to call him back and explain to him that when you wait three months to call a girl after meeting her you are going to strike out?

jeebus. (n)

[mickill]

He probably just didn't want to seem too anxious.

[paul jones]

This is not a reliable guy at all.

you wouldn't want to send someone like that out for groceries..........you'd starve to death

[cookiepuss]

total and utter FAIL.

[beastiegirrl101]

OK wait, did I miss something? I thought you had a live in BF that you were super happy with?

...and you're right, don't even waste your time with the bar fly he can't just call you out of no where and expect you to be available.

[mickill]

Yeah, I was going to ask, what happened to your dude?

[cookiepuss]

I broke up with the boyfriend 6 months ago...I was never super happy but I tried to convince myself I was, cause we'd been together forever and I wasn't ready to face the truth about our problems. So now I enjoy the single life.

I mean I have to laugh at this guy. it's just the fact that even thinks he has a chance.

of course it's not as bad as the time a friend of mine went out on the perfect first date with this one guy. Then on the second date he reveals that he likes to drink his own urine. like regularly. hee hee.

[paul jones]

Then on the second date he reveals that he likes to drink his own urine. like regularly. hee hee.

fucking cheapskates! (n)

[Bob]

three months is the new three days

[cookiepuss]

did he write your number on a piece of paper? he could have lost it and only found it again recently.

yeah..that's exactly what happened...he had my business card. and he mentioned in his message that he came a crossed it again recently.

however...regardless of the reasons, he has exceeded the statute of limitations for date worthiness. heh.

[cookiepuss]

was there any other way he could have contacted you without having your card?

well he did know where I lived cause he walked home from my house...certainly could have come by and left a note if he truly wanted to get in touch.

Sorry, there's just no excuse. I mean maybe he had a girlfriend at the time and now they broke up so he's going through his little black book, but why would I want anyone like that?

[b i o n i c]

you know he didnt cheat on his girlfriend.

maybe it was something else. i dunno, i might be kinda flattered at someone i met once months ago calling me out of nowhere. doesnt mean id go out with them

[cookiepuss]

well the thing is...I would have already told the guys I was in a relationship upfront...so when I did become single they wouldn't wonder why I waited three months to call them. And if he had a girl, he's still kinda slimy because I didn't indicate that he didn't TRY to have sex with me..cause he did.

you guys don't think theres a point when regardless of the situation, it's just too late to pursue someone? just curious.

at this point I feel fairly confident that if a person has a real connection with you and has an interest in getting to know you, they will make a concerted effort to keep track of your info and stay in touch. if they don't...oh yeah..you know the phrase: "they just aren't that into you."

[ericlee]

Too many bad signals go off about this.

In three months, he could have found many other girls, they dumped him and he's using you as the one on the backburner.

Then again, I'll have to think about if I had met a hot chick and she calls me 3 months later.. I'd probably not care and would want to meet up.

Did you like your little time you spent with him? Was he cool? Who knows, maybe give him a chance?

[checkyourprez]

I broke up with the boyfriend 6 months ago...I was never super happy but I tried to convince myself I was, cause we'd been together forever and I wasn't ready to face the truth about our problems. So now I enjoy the single life.

I mean I have to laugh at this guy. it's just the fact that even thinks he has a chance.

of course it's not as bad as the time a friend of mine went out on the perfect first date with this one guy. Then on the second date he reveals that he likes to drink his own urine. like regularly. hee hee.

i wonder if maybe HE didnt have the perfect date, and made up that excuse and later went and laughed his ass off with his buddies. but only a thought.


but on your situation...idk it doesnt seem like that big of a deal to me.


met him out once, who knows you could be missing out on the love of your life because your too stubborn to answer a call that you think should have been placed 3 months before.

[Adam]

I think three months is a unreasonable amount of time. I mean, its not like an Amazon book. You can still keep people close as a friend if you are interested and was still in a relationship that was ending. But no contact during that time - I think cookie has got it right.

[RobMoney$]

I think you're over-thinking things if you're calling this anything other than a booty call.

There's a reason he hasn't contacted you in all that time.
He's not that into you. He's not that into anyone but himself if he is a typical player.
Even if he had a girl, if he was that into you he would have left his GF, (and that's the level of attraction you should be looking for from a guy you'd consider for a relationship). and even if he did have a GF, he could have found a way to at least call you in that time if he was that interested.

For whatever reason though, you just entered into his mind again. Maybe he had a GF, more likely he's just a player. You're one who got away and he's going back in for another try. I admit I've done this myself with varying degrees of sucess.


Forget this dude. You're better than that.

[cookiepuss]

hee hee. let me make it perfectly clear. I am not/was not interested in the guy (at the time I was simply drunk and thank god I didn't sleep with him!), I just happen to think it's ridiculous for him to even try for a booty call at this point.

Now here's an even funnier part...I'm pretty sure he doesn't even remember what I look like! why? cause I saw him out last night. in fact I walk in and he's standing right there talking to a a table of four people (he didn't see me come in)...I think it was two girls and two guys, but I didn't pay that close of attention...and one of the women at the table is yelling at him..she's pissed off..."who the fuck do you think you are! get out of here. no seriously get the FUCK out of here." :rolleyes: I have no idea what he said to upset her but the guys a winner. (y) such bad news. Now I didn't say anything to him, but I know he saw me later on that evening...but if he knew it was me and he's called me twice now you'd think he'd come over and say something.

Lets all agree the guy is a douchebag and I dodged a bullet here.

people are just ridiculous.

[NoFenders]

We can all be ridiculous.

[beastieangel01]

at this point I feel fairly confident that if a person has a real connection with you and has an interest in getting to know you, they will make a concerted effort to keep track of your info and stay in touch. if they don't...oh yeah..you know the phrase: "they just aren't that into you."

definitely.

I hope the relationship I am in now works out for the long-haul because he is wonderful. After we met, he gave 19873454353% effort (without being creepy or too pushy of course ) to stay in touch and make plans.

This was after dealing with nothing but guys that would treat me half-ass or were creepy/pushy dudes.

I really don't want to go through dating around again. Ugh.

[b i o n i c]

you were onto something then,
GO ON, GIRL (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vogAflT4h18)!

[checkyourprez]

hee hee. let me make it perfectly clear. I am not/was not interested in the guy (at the time I was simply drunk and thank god I didn't sleep with him!), I just happen to think it's ridiculous for him to even try for a booty call at this point.

Now here's an even funnier part...I'm pretty sure he doesn't even remember what I look like! why? cause I saw him out last night. in fact I walk in and he's standing right there talking to a a table of four people (he didn't see me come in)...I think it was two girls and two guys, but I didn't pay that close of attention...and one of the women at the table is yelling at him..she's pissed off..."who the fuck do you think you are! get out of here. no seriously get the FUCK out of here." :rolleyes: I have no idea what he said to upset her but the guys a winner. (y) such bad news. Now I didn't say anything to him, but I know he saw me later on that evening...but if he knew it was me and he's called me twice now you'd think he'd come over and say something.

Lets all agree the guy is a douchebag and I dodged a bullet here.

people are just ridiculous.

in thaaaat case...ya he does not sound like a winner. more like a loser.

[marsdaddy]

Maybe, after the event you witnessed, he realized he needed to change his life, and thought of you?