who here has problematic roommates?

[Yetra Flam]

what do they do that pisses you off? and what do you do about it?

[jabumbo]

one of the reasons i'm glad i live alone now....


in my last set of roommates, i had a guy who would go on cleaning tirades every 3-4 months or so and complain about it. i mean, i understand the tirade, because usually the place needed it, but most of the mess was because of things he neglected in cleaning over the past several months since his last one. the kitchen is what really got me, because for a while, i was the only one who actually used the stove with some regularity, and so he blamed me for the whole kitchen mess when really is was everyone else who would use the thing to heat their tv dinners and such and not bother cleaning their splatter ever.

[Drederick Tatum]

the person I live with is constantly nagging me to put dishes away, to do my washing, to clean the bathroom, and to stop touching her boobs.

[rirv]

the person I live with is constantly nagging me to put dishes away, to do my washing, to clean the bathroom, and to stop touching her boobs.

Your mother has a point about you touching her boobs.

[nodanaonlyzuul]

oh my god I have had serious nightmares with regards to roommates.

I've had roommates that stay up and party until 3AM. Roommates that barge in to my room drunk off their ass to say hello and hug me, at 3am, on a week night, when I get up for work at 6am. I've had roommates that have people over all the time, which meant all of my food would be eaten. That also caused brand new items like a brita filter and blender to end up with missing parts and/or broken. I've had roommates that didn't have their own computer and would constantly beg to use mine. Once one of them had to use my bathroom (the only one with a tub) and in the process somehow ruined my bathroom rug and shower curtain with weird stains. They'd also borrow my DVDs, without asking, and return them so scratched they were useless or did not return them at all.

I've had a roommate that had a toddler and the toddler would drop food all around the house and she'd never clean it up, and I'd end up stepping on it. She would also leave old glasses of milk around the house. She would wait almost a week to do any dishes. Her shit was so piled up in the hallway I would have to climb over and/or step on her things in order to get to my room. Thank god I had my own bathroom then, because her cat box in her bathroom stank so bad I would gag and dry heave every time I walked by (which was every time I had to get to my room). This roommate also had issues with DVD usage, always returning them scratched up beyond repair.

What did I do in these cases?

I'd try to mediate, and failed every time. People who suck will always be people who suck. So in case 1, I would start keeping food in my room (aside from stuff that had to be stuck in the fridge, I was just SOL then), installed a lockable door knob to my room, and tried to move out as fast as possible. The other? Talking to her didn't help, and thank god I moved out.

My only advice is leave ASAP, try to find roommates with similar outlooks on shared living space and respecting each others stuff/time/sleeping hours. If, for example, you have issues with roommates stealing food, feel free to ask a prospective place "How do you all handle the seperation of food?" Be specific. A lot of the times, if these people hate those same things, they will be relived to find someone else that hates those things too, thus hopefully avoiding the same problems.

That or if you can afford it, live alone.

Good luck.

[Yetra Flam]

well i have two roomates. one of them is an excellent roommate, in terms of we both share cooking, cleaning and buying household stuff. she's also really quiet, will hang out when we want to, will leave each other alone when we want to. in that case, its a good arrangement.
our other roommate, while not as bad as some of the extremes described here, is kind of getting a free ride.
she leaves mess in the house. she says she cant do any cleaning because she has "asthma," never buys anything for the house. stays in her room all day with her loudass teenage boyfriend (who prety much lives here too) playing my xbox (which i lent to her to be nice) all day - loudly.
i dont know, she's not a bad person, she's just lazy as shit and i think has gotten too used to having things done for her. oh also, in the whole duration she has lived here, like a month and a half, i have only seen her take a shower twice.
i dont know, what would she do if we didnt live her with her? would she live in her own filth? never have food? never have household supplies? i dont get it.

[nodanaonlyzuul]

she probably would^

Do you or your other decent roommate have control of the lease? is she signed to the lease for the next year or extended period of time?

If she's not officially tied to anything, you could always approach her about the issues you have and ask her to change and be more respectful.

If she doesn't, kick her ass out and get another roommate. If she is officially signed on to the lease? Shit. I don't know. Perhaps talking to the owners/renting company about a problematic roommate is the way to go. I've never been able to do that myself, so I'm not sure what they can do, if anything.

For the love of god though, do not be nice and just deal with it. Seriously.

[nodanaonlyzuul]

p.s. between roommate situations in the past and the type of work position I hold, I sometimes wonder how I'm not a sociopath.

[beastiegirrl101]

Loud sex
uses my things without asking
does not take care of her pet (read negelect) so I take care it.
She is not a "what about you" person, do you know what I mean when I say this? She will go on and on about herself, her family, friends and BF..and I listen and she never asks.."so hey, what about you."


I don't have a lease and I am going month to month...really don't plan on being here much longer but I don't want to move just to move. I want to make sure it's the right place and EVERYTHING I have been looking at is just crap.

[Yetra Flam]

she also listens to the worst fucking music - a mixture of evanesence, nickelback and various reggaeton

[nodanaonlyzuul]

does not take care of her pet (read negelect) so I take care it.


I've had that too, forgot about it. She never, ever walked that dog. NEVER POTTY TRAINED IT. Her dog would shit everywhere in the apartment and tear about my clothing, too.

:mad:

I tried to train it but by the time I stepped in it was too late, it kept shitting everywhere. The dog started sleeping with me though instead of her, that's how much I took care of it. Also, she'd lock it out of her room most of the time. And she was RARELY home, so getting a puppy made no sense. WTF?

I hate people.

[DipDipDive]

People who neglect their pets are legitimately evil in my eyes.

I've never had any major roommate problems. I lived with two dudes for a while and at its worst, I felt like I was the only one who ever cleaned, which was pretty much true. My remedy was to not re-sign the lease and move out. Worked like a charm. (y)

If that's not an option for you, I highly suggest calmly and maturely confronting your roommate and expressing your concerns. Don't let the situation escalate to a point that the approach is hostile and may put her on the defense. The last thing you want to do is create any more unnecessary tension. Maybe the three of you could set up some sort of cleaning schedule so you can all rotate the tasks and contribute equally. If you make an effort, you and your roommates agree on an arrangement that seems acceptable to all of you, and there is still no improvement, kick her out if you can. If/when you start looking for a replacement, make a list of all the things ex-roomie did that pissed you off and address ALL OF THEM explicitly with the people you interview so you don't set yourself up for the same shit all over again.

I live alone and can't imagine living with roommates again. I value my space and order of living far too much. You just never know what it's going to be like to live with another person until you actually do it and may not be able to turn back, which sucks. (n)

[DipDipDive]

Oh, and for the love of god, repossess your xbox. Roomie and bf can't play your xbox loudly if there's no xbox for them to play, yeah? You'll also have your own shit back. Win win for you.

[Yetra Flam]

yeah i think i'm just gonna take it back. her teenage boyfriend and his friends are mashing the controllers and i feel like they're gonna break my shit.
and we do have a rotating cleaning schedule. but she has expressed she can't do any cleaning because she has asthma. what the fuck!

she too also had a pet she didnt take care of properly. it was a tiny little kitten that she locked in her bedroom and was never there to take care of it. ultimately, it died because she didnt take it to the vet soon enough, out of laziness.

[DipDipDive]

she too also had a pet she didnt take care of properly. it was a tiny little kitten that she locked in her bedroom and was never there to take care of it. ultimately, it died because she didnt take it to the vet soon enough, out of laziness.

Did you report her to the ASPCA? Because you should've. That is fucked up and enraging.

As for the asthma, stick her with the shit that shouldn't effect it. Dishes, for example. Taking out the trash, that kind of stuff. This chick sounds like she sucks. Any idiot with asthma should know that living in filth definitely isn't a benefit to his or her condition. I bet she's fat, too. I think I hate her.

[Yetra Flam]

its almost impossible to hate her because she really is a genuinely sweet person. she's not bad.
she's just lazy as hell and oblivious to the fact that we do everything for her. she is also a compulsive liar. she faked a pregnancy.

[DipDipDive]

I'm baffled by the fact that you can call someone a genuinely sweet person and a compulsive liar in nearly the same breath.

[cubsfirstplace]

lols, why would you fake a pregnancy?

[Yetra Flam]

I'm baffled by the fact that you can call someone a genuinely sweet person and a compulsive liar in nearly the same breath.

i guess its because her lies dont affect anyone but herself, you know? she mostly lies about things that she's done, and things about her own life. none of her lies have affected us. you know what i mean?

[Yetra Flam]

lols, why would you fake a pregnancy?

she got a lot of attention for a few months, i guess. a lot of women do that.

[TurdBerglar]

useless!

[DipDipDive]

i guess its because her lies dont affect anyone but herself, you know? she mostly lies about things that she's done, and things about her own life. none of her lies have affected us. you know what i mean?

I suppose. But how do you know if her allegedly having asthma is a lie or not? There's an example of a lie that would affect you. I don't know. People like that are ALWAYS under investigation as far as I'm concerned. It's only a matter of time before what seems like an innocent lie can come around to bite you in the ass somehow...

[Documad]

That asthma thing is total bullshit. My sister has it, my good friend has it, etc. If you have asthma, then you will want to live in a clean house. And all the people I know with asthma are capable of doing the cleaning. In fact, they're clean freaks. And it's usually a good idea to avoid animals altogether if you have asthma.

I'd live in a tent before I'd have a roommate again.

[b i o n i c]

someone find an article or something on this so i can print it out and give it to someone with a broom and windex if they ever pull that shit

[TurdBerglar]

wait wait

she can't handle cleaning solvents but she can burn incense 24/7?

[Echewta]

My roommate is pretty cool. He smells like chili cheese burgers and doesn't own a beanbag chair.

[Yetra Flam]

and she can smoke a pack of newports a day, yes.

[Yetra Flam]

oh yeah and i think it was her that left the lube on the couch, and she lied about it.

[Documad]

I have a large orange beanbag chair.

[Dorothy Wood]

I have it pretty easy compared to some of you. I used to get annoyed by a lot, but have pretty much let most of it go. I have two roommates who don't know how to load a dishwasher properly. I always go in there and reorganize it. they also leave crumbs and spills for ages instead of taking care of it right away. I'm also the only one who cleans the litter box (two cats live here, one is mine) and I take out the trash 8/10 times. also, I bought nice hand towels for the bathroom and made my one roommate promise not to ruin it with her bleachy pro-activ shit. but she ruined them both. then felt bad and bought me another of the same kind, but then ruined that one too. :(

also, any other household duty that is gross, I take care of. like the time somebody left out a pint of ice cream on the counter all night, then threw away the container filled with goo into the garbage can haphazardly so it didn't make it into the bag...thereby filling the bottom of the garbage can with melted ice cream. when it got moldy, someone put the can out on the back porch instead of cleaning it. so then we just had a garbage bag on the floor that we threw trash into. finally, I was like, "fuck this shit", and dragged the fucker off the porch and into the bathtub and rinsed it out, straining the loose garbage particles, mold chunks, and bottle caps in a rubber gloved hand.

I'm no saint though, I boycotted bathroom cleaning for about 6 months (because I was pissed about always cleaning the kitchen and taking out the trash) and my cat is really loud.

[Yetra Flam]

also, another thing that really pisses me off about this chick is that she make a lot more money than me - more than double what i make. it just doesn't seem fair that she doesnt buy anything for the house, like toilet paper. and she eats other people's food.
i could go on all day, seriously.

[Bob]

she doesn't sound like a very sweet person

not from the way you're describing her at least

[Yetra Flam]

yeah, the more i think about it, the less sweet a person she seems.

[Bob]

she's taking you for a ride man

but whatever you do, don't flip out and suddenly murder her in her sleep. because i know that can be tempting but don't do it, because they'll obviously trace it back to you (unless you're clever about it and frame it on your other roommate but you said you like her so that's out) and then there will be a headline about you, all "SWEET INNOCENT GIRL KILLED IN HARLEM HOMICIDE" because those stories never get into how the "victim" stole everyone's food and refused to do any cleaning and therefore totally deserved it because that would be "disrespectful"

so don't do that

[Adam]

I've had problem room-mates. Kinda have one now. He moved in in February and seemed cool, he bought a cat with him and he never looks after it so we have to. He is loud and doesn't clean. Two out of three months of paying the rent he has missed (basically just did his first on time) and when we asked him to pay his part of the gas and electric he became mardy and has decided to move out :confused: weird.

Anyway, I've said I am moving out at the end of the contract (end of june) - he said he'll be out end of this month which is ok by me even though there is higher rent for two months. But I don't care.

Also, I have a allergy to dust, its not asthma but I tend to keep things clean because of it. I'm kinda a clean person anyway so I don't mind doing 80% of the cleaning although I sometimes get a little pissed at it. So I do think the person who uses asthma as an excuse not to clean is just being a turd.

Oh yeah, I am taking the other two house mates with me to the new place. I've made a point these last few years to only live with vegetarians because you can trust them more not to treat the place like total crap (yeah, I know they'll be horrible veggies to but I've been lucky so far). The house mate that moved in in Feb is a meat eater - point proved. :D

[Drederick Tatum]

rirv, if you and I lived together, I'd definitely touch your boobs.

[mikizee]

yeah, the more i think about it, the less sweet a person she seems.

This chick needs a seeerious talking to.

i have asthma! *puff puff*

are you fucking kidding me?

Don't ask her to clean. Tell her.

[trailerprincess]

Reading these make me realise how lucky I am to live alone.

[hardnox71]

I had a roomate once that would put on some Luther Vandross, curl up on the futon in the living room in the dark and stare at the lights in the fish tank. The first time I saw this, I walked in the front door and said, "Oh, I'm sorry Alan, I didn't know you had company. (I thought he had a girl over.) He says, "Oh, I don't." And I'm thinking 'how weird is this scenario?'

I dunno. It made me uncomfortable seventeen years ago and it still does when I think about it.

Your mother has a point about you touching her boobs.

Classic:D

but she has expressed she can't do any cleaning because she has asthma. what the fuck!

I am assuming that when she is not eating your food and her boyfriend is not destroying your xbox then they are probably fucking, right? Ask her if her asthma bothers her then. If she can ride a dick then she can scrub a sink!

she is also a compulsive liar. she faked a pregnancy.

When you initially found out this information how come you didn't hear the warning bells going off? Jesus, Yetra, I'm all the way in Chicago and I can fucking hear them. Sounds like she has emotional issues that need to be addressed and until they are she is going to keep up the same bullshit. Get some space between you and her now!! That sounds like some "Hand That Rocks The Cradle" kinda shit!

I have a large orange beanbag chair.

I love beanbag chairs. My dad used to have a velvet one. (This was 1978, of course).

also, another thing that really pisses me off about this chick is that she make a lot more money than me - more than double what i make. it just doesn't seem fair that she doesnt buy anything for the house, like toilet paper. and she eats other people's food.
i could go on all day, seriously.

Then tell this chick to buy her boyfriend his own fucking xbox since she can afford it. Say this to her as you are unplugging your xbox and wrapping up all the cords. Tell her straight out that you cannot afford to feed her, her boyfriend and yourself. Don't say, "Could you guys please stop eating my food." Tell her, "You are not my responsibility and neither is your boyfriend. My food has been disappearing out of the fridge. That shit is not going to happen again. You are a part of this household so you're going to start pulling your weight. You are going to start contributing to the shit that we need. This is where we live. This is our home not a fucking hotel. Shit doesn't just magically appear. I have to buy it and it costs money. Either you are gonna start acting like you care about this place and the other people in it or you are gonna pack your shit. It's up to you."

You would be suprised how much you can accomplish with tone and wording.

Yetra, people will do to you only what you let them. Stop letting her do this.

[nodanaonlyzuul]

Yetra, people will do to you only what you let them. Stop letting her do this.

(y)

Also, Yetra, you are being too nice. She really IS taking you for a ride. She is using you both and will keep using you both until you put your foot down.

Also, I feel like DW is being too nice as well. But I guess if you boycotted cleaning 6 months and they still were too lazy to do it, they are okay living in filth, so you can't do much there. Other than leave when the lease is up.

I hate telling people what to do in these situations because really, they should know better, and we aren't their Mother. But if you want to have sane living conditions, you're going to have to tell them what's up and how it's going to be.

Improving your living conditions will work wonders for your well being.

[Echewta]

I'm going to call Yetra "The Bus" from now on.

[Documad]

If I ever need a roommate again, I want it to be Dorothy. She would probably give my microwave a good scrub.

[Yetra Flam]

today she told me that i have an evil spirit hanging out outside my door, and that i need to put salt in my doorway to prevent it from coming in my room. :(

[nodanaonlyzuul]

can I kill her for you?

[Yetra Flam]

she cooked dinner tonight, she's good for now

[funk63]

Ich habe nicht mit einem Mann, ich würde nicht küssen-Leistungs-Verhältnis.

[russhie]

she cooked dinner tonight, she's good for now

Haha, I know how you feel. I live with two other girls, both a few years younger, and one is pretty good - the other is, well. Good too...just...less so.

Sometimes she'll make dinner and her (numerous) sins are somewhat forgiven (she's a violent drunk, lazy with cleaning, needs nagging to pay bills and purchase communal goods, has a fair old temper when she wants her own way and ruins our towels with her fake tanner ARGH) at least until the next time she pisses one of us off.

I think I feel like, hey, at least it's me and someone else who get along all the time, and two outta three ain't bad, so let's keep the peace and not get at each other. Also she's alot of fun and good company mostly so...it makes it that much harder to bitch her out after she's done something that annoys me/us.

[Dorothy Wood]

If I ever need a roommate again, I want it to be Dorothy. She would probably give my microwave a good scrub.

(y)

but I'd probably boycott it if you're the type who splatters it up all the time with no remorse!

[hardnox71]

she cooked dinner tonight, she's good for now

She's playing you, Sweets.

[nodanaonlyzuul]

cooking dinner doesn't make up for overall shit you put up with.

This girl reminds me of folks I've dealt with in the not so distant pass, and I want to punch her repeatedly in the face.

[Yetra Flam]

She's playing you, Sweets.

did you just call me sweets?

[Bob]

did you just call me sweets?

turdberglar wants to carry around your cut off face so he can wear it on his crotch and you don't say a word but "sweets" makes you raise an eyebrow?

maybe you're the crazy roommate

[yeahwho]

I have no roommates, but just looking at the header I think if I were to start a rock band "The Problematics" would be in the top 3 band names.

[Adam]

Its all part of shared housing though. Anyone who decides to choose a nicer area and live with people over cheap digs in a not-so-nice area knows what you are getting.

I personally prefer the first option, location, location, location. I don't earn enough or even have will to earn more and live alone. Its just how you weigh it up in your own mind.

[hardnox71]

did you just call me sweets?

Get over yourself. I call all females I'm somewhat familiar with 'sweets'. It's not meant in a sexist or derogatory way and it's far from a marraige proposal, so relax.