packing up and buggering off

[Gareth]

has anyone packed up and shifted overseas on their own?
i feel like i'm getting to the point where i want to go and have to go for my own well-being
theres nothing for me here anymore.
most of my peers have gone, i no longer have girl issues locking me down, my job is ok but i may be able to get the same kinda job overseas (hopefully...but maybe not in these condition)
but i don't know where i'd go and i'm kinda shit at making friends...that part scares me more than the finding a job part
cos i've been here forever and i've never had to start afresh
i dunno...shit is weird right now

[Yetra Flam]

yes, i have. and i'm still alive!

[Gareth]

oh yea
i wish i could do what you did...takes balls (in the most female way possible)
but noone would say i look like the evanescence girl.

[ericlee]

After my first marriage which ended up in divorce, I got the job offer for the mid-east. Having a background as mine, I decided what the hell and went for it.

No, I did not kill any innocent women and children, wash that shit out of all your heads.

But, I went there with just 2 duffel bags that had nothing in them but some family photos, a few cds and my clothes. Everything else I owned, I sold.

Now, I have a very smart wife, yeah, we have our arguments and such but we're actually doing fine. We are both new to NY and we're doing fine. She has the best job that she's ever had and I have a good paying job- it has no future for retirement and all but I do make above average pay but by next year, I'll have a job that I can retire from.

You can do it man. It seems like you know what you're doing so go with it and best of luck to you.

[Drederick Tatum]

multiple times.

do it. life is for living.

[Bob]

multiple times.

do it. life is for living.

oh that's so easy to say, but what if you fuck up? you say you're shit at making friends, so what if you pack up and move overseas and with great effort you find a job and it pays shit and your boss kicks you around like a turd and you're pretty sure they're violating labor laws but you dare not say anything lest you be fired and oops, you don't like anybody at your job and you can't break into another social circle, so you sit there, at your shitty desk, day at a time, wondering why you made this move when really when you think about it things weren't so bad in the old days

hypothetically, not that i've been through this (i've never moved "overseas")

[Kid Presentable]

Sorta, Gareth. My mum and step-dad came to Aus in 97, I stayed back and did high school and my dad was in full-time medical care. So I was on my own when I decided to move over here, but I arrived to family.

The wife and I went to Europe after 5 months together - that's kind of like doing it alone. A lot could have gone wrong; we had 2 nights booked in a hotel and had to find work in that time, and a place to live. Thanks to the British pub game we found both in one go.

The making friends part is weird, some people have told me I should try harder to make friends. I shoot back usualy something along the lines of suggesting they move to an entriely new city and see how easy it is. I mean, you make work friends, and they're easily disposed of. Some of them stick (one was my best man). It's weird, but really good to live a life that isn't buoyed by safe friendships.

Anyway, do it.

[Drederick Tatum]

oh that's so easy to say, but what if you fuck up? you say you're shit at making friends, so what if you pack up and move overseas and with great effort you find a job and it pays shit and your boss kicks you around like a turd and you're pretty sure they're violating labor laws but you dare not say anything lest you be fired and oops, you don't like anybody at your job and you can't break into another social circle, so you sit there, at your shitty desk, day at a time, wondering why you made this move when really when you think about it things weren't so bad in the old days


it's all part of life. you learn lessons, gain experience, build character, and move on, move back, or to the side.

[Gareth]

The making friends part is weird, some people have told me I should try harder to make friends. I shoot back usualy something along the lines of suggesting they move to an entriely new city and see how easy it is. I mean, you make work friends, and they're easily disposed of. Some of them stick (one was my best man). It's weird, but really good to live a life that isn't buoyed by safe friendships.

yeh this is the weird bit
most of the time i suck at making friends and don't even really try
but if, out of necessity, i try...maybe it wouldnt be so bad
anyway yea i'm giving it serious consideration
pity the job market isnt so good but i'm not gonna let that be an excuse

[Kid Presentable]

The job market is all about marketability at the moment. I always think of it as a numbers game (as I'm sure most of us do), and I think now it might just be a case of more numbers. Iono

[HEIRESS]

CANADA!

[saz]

i could be in europe in the fall, possibly italia or germania. i'm just petrified of the flight.

[ericlee]

If Gareth decides to move to NY, which seems to be a popular move, I have his back as a reference for his resume.

Not as just some dude he barely knows from the innarwebs, he can say he's known me for 5 years or whatnot.

I really respect people who are willing to risk and step up their game a little.

[na§tee]

where could you theoretically legally move to? with a working visa an' that...

[camo]

If Gareth decides to move to NY, which seems to be a popular move, I have his back as a reference for his resume.

Not as just some dude he barely knows from the innarwebs, he can say he's known me for 5 years or whatnot.

I really respect people who are willing to risk and step up their game a little.

can I come over and live with you guys for a bit?

[ericlee]

can I come over and live with you guys for a bit?

sure but you might want to wait till we move to a better place.

If you don't mind wearing a flak jacket and a kevlar then you're welcome to stay where I'm at now. On the roof.

It's getting worse by the days over here. Fuckers were outside fighting when me and the mrs. were walking home from work last night. We just didn't pay any mind.

[ericlee]

Also, he ain't livin' with me, camo. After six months with the inlaws last year, whooooo. I'll just leave it at that.

If anything, I'll do some research for an apartment or even a room for him, whatever suits what he wants to do. I'm looking for houses now and have been for the past 2 years. Houses that you plan to buy and live in the rest of your life isn't easy but apartments and rooms in a good area isn't that hard.

And dammit! I haven't met zora yet! She seems to be rocking quite well living here and shit. I just blame my job for not meeting her. Who can meet anybody with these crappy hours?

I hung with B quite a few times. Great fuckin' times that I needed. I bet those bushes that we pissed in are dead in one area though.

[Gareth]

cheers ericlee, you're a good dude!

where could you theoretically legally move to? with a working visa an' that...

in my head, not taking into account jobs, i'd prefer to go to asia...hong kong, japan or something.
realistically though, the best/most convenient places for me to work are places like the UK, australia, maybe singapore...just cos they have similar legal systems and IP laws.

[camo]

sure but you might want to wait till we move to a better place.

If you don't mind wearing a flak jacket and a kevlar then you're welcome to stay where I'm at now. On the roof.

It's getting worse by the days over here. Fuckers were outside fighting when me and the mrs. were walking home from work last night. We just didn't pay any mind.

That sounds interesting!

Might take you up on that offer!

[roosta]

i'm a complete homebird...i'd never live abroad...but i do entertain teeeeny little fantasies of packing it in and hitting the road.

but, it doesn't bother me, because i know ultimately i'd be happier here...but if you feel the real urge, go for it.

[Adam]

I'm in the USA atm. Its fun, out of my comfort zone but this is my idea of packing up and buggering off. I have a return ticket on 11th June after having a month here.

Traveling is a bit different though, but what I am saying is; why not just disappear for a bit on holiday alone. See how you find it? I'm finding it a little scary at times but not in a bad way and people are sooooo friendly here even out of the tourist places. So yeah, do it - live your life.

But I know getting a VISA outside of your countries neighbours and best friends can be hard work so maybe choose a country where the visa will be easy. I used to work for UK immigration and that shit is just getting harder and harder unless you are a EU citizen.

[hpdrifter]

There are people on this board from every corner of the world and you are well-liked. I'm sure anyone here would fold you into their group of existing friends until you could branch out on your own. Or maybe you'd become a permanent fixture, who knows? Anyone looking to relocate to Seattle could count on me to help with the transition and dispel the lonelies.

[Echewta]

go for it dude. At least you know you could always go back to where you are now.

[jabumbo]

There are people on this board from every corner of the world and you are well-liked. I'm sure anyone here would fold you into their group of existing friends until you could branch out on your own. Or maybe you'd become a permanent fixture, who knows? Anyone looking to relocate to Seattle could count on me to help with the transition and dispel the lonelies.

(y)
that region up there has seriously crossed my mind several times.

[hpdrifter]

It's a great place to live for sure. There's something for everyone around here, good music, art, food, cool bars and clubs of all types, all the big city trappings. But if that's not your bag (or even if it is) there are the mountains, hiking, kayaking, snowboarding and mountain biking as little as 30 minutes away.

If you ever decide to pull the trigger let me know!

[HEIRESS]

cheers ericlee, you're a good dude!



in my head, not taking into account jobs, i'd prefer to go to asia...hong kong, japan or something.
realistically though, the best/most convenient places for me to work are places like the UK, australia, maybe singapore...just cos they have similar legal systems and IP laws.

Vancouver, BC is the next best thing if you can't make a go of it in china/japan.

[Yetra Flam]

oh that's so easy to say, but what if you fuck up? you say you're shit at making friends, so what if you pack up and move overseas and with great effort you find a job and it pays shit and your boss kicks you around like a turd and you're pretty sure they're violating labor laws but you dare not say anything lest you be fired and oops, you don't like anybody at your job and you can't break into another social circle, so you sit there, at your shitty desk, day at a time, wondering why you made this move when really when you think about it things weren't so bad in the old days

hypothetically, not that i've been through this (i've never moved "overseas")


oh shit, the part about the job is totally fucking true. but it's still better than the old days in tasmania.

[Gareth]

Vancouver, BC is the next best thing if you can't make a go of it in china/japan.

heh, well...i suppose i would fit in...
my boss was in vancouver last week
she's in seattle right now though
they never send me away :mad: