capitalizing on tragedy?

[Dorothy Wood]

so, on sunday, a good friend of some of my friends (including my ex), died. the impact is far reaching, and I was genuinely upset and concerned. I decided to contact the ex in the most benign way possible, email, because I still care for him as friend (and more, really, but pfft).

he responded favorably, told me I should call him.

I did.

we chatted about nonsense for a bit, he told me he could kick my ass at guitar hero. then I had to go meet a friend, and thereby ended the conversation abruptly.


so now, I feel like kind of a dickhead. because along with my friendship feelings (we were friends for 5 years before we dated), I can't help but think of reconnecting on romantic level. or maybe I just want to hug him and make him feel better no matter what my brain thinks.


I'm sad and happy and I feel real bad about the happy part. :(

[paul jones]

I feel real bad about the happy part. :(


no don't be.never feel bad about happy times.happy times are rare(y)

[Rock]

Is this the same ex that you wanted to let know that you were over a couple of weeks back?

[Planetary]

your life is like a soap opera, but with less amnesia

[Guy Incognito]

i'm not going to say anything like "oh here she goes again about her ex", but i would like to know if you talk about this sort of stuff to get it off your chest and to make sense of stuff or do you genuinely not always know what to do or how to feel and seek advice from people on here.

I'm not having a go as i think you are quite brave ( well, braver than me, i wouldnt ever post about any relationship issues i have on here) putting your heart on the line online as it were but i was just wondering why you do this.

as for the issue in hand, dont worry about wanting the happy times but be careful you dont get hurt again, mixed signals and all that

[Dorothy Wood]

Is this the same ex that you wanted to let know that you were over a couple of weeks back?


yup. and I am over him. doesn't mean I don't love him anymore though.

however silly that sounds. I guess I mean, I'm not desperate to be with him or anything. I just genuinely like him and want the best for him. I'm not operating out of hate and fear anymore.

anyway, we have been hanging out some lately in social situations with mutual friends and having a good time. I just didn't make a thread about it.

[MC Moot]

I think grief can trigger a wide variety of emotional responses often contradictory and simultaneous…but at the end of proverbial day, I believe your friend who has transcended would only be happy that some form of joy may arise as a result of demise...time is running and passing, passing and running…

[DipDipDive]

Usually these kinds of situations bring out either the best or the worst in people. Don't feel bad about it bringing out the best in both of you. I bet dude who passed away would've wanted it that way. (y)

edit: what up MC Moot

[Dorothy Wood]

i'm not going to say anything like "oh here she goes again about her ex", but i would like to know if you talk about this sort of stuff to get it off your chest and to make sense of stuff or do you genuinely not always know what to do or how to feel and seek advice from people on here.

I'm not having a go as i think you are quite brave ( well, braver than me, i wouldnt ever post about any relationship issues i have on here) putting your heart on the line online as it were but i was just wondering why you do this.

as for the issue in hand, dont worry about wanting the happy times but be careful you dont get hurt again, mixed signals and all that


I talk about it to get it off my chest and make sense of stuff. ultimately I just do what I'm gonna do. it is nice to hear contrary opinions and I actually like it when people give me a hard time, it keeps me grounded in a way.


I dunno, I have real life friends who are more delicate (as in, they might not say exactly what they feel) than the folks on here. it's also tough in real life because a lot of people just wish we would get back together.

meh, I'm not that worried about it. I was drunk when I made this thread. :/

[Dorothy Wood]

thanks, ddd and moot, that's a nice way of looking at it. :)

[Guy Incognito]

it is nice to hear contrary opinions and I actually like it when people give me a hard time, it keeps me grounded in a way.
I dunno, I have real life friends who are more delicate (as in, they might not say exactly what they feel) than the folks on here.

i'd never thought of it like that