View Full Version : I drive the boys crazy
russhie
06-15-2009, 09:01 AM
But not in the right sort of way.
Seriously. The guys I date start off normal and then go all weird. This weekend I ran into an ex of sorts and he asked to come home with me. When I turned him down, he told me if I didn't let him stay and cuddle with me he'd never speak to me again. Then he staged a sit-in on my front porch till I agreed to talk to him. During the conversation told me HE HAS CANCER which, he said, explained his erratic behaviour of late (the reason I had ended things, over a month ago) and quoted parts from A Walk To Remember. When I didn't buy it he admitted he was "just trying to win", that he was in the wrong, he was sorry and a fuckup and proceeded to take his clothes off and get into my bed, even after I told him to leave.
WHY
And he's not the only one to have done stupid shit? I'm just really surprised that he did. I wonder why women always seem to be typefied as the ones who get crazy, clingy and weird about relationships.
yeah, that guy is insane and creepy. That's restraining order shit in my eyes.
But not in the right sort of way.
Thats debatable.
Videodrome
06-15-2009, 10:35 AM
did the stripping down and jumping into bed tactic work?
hpdrifter
06-15-2009, 11:40 AM
I have an ex who drives me completely crazy. Weirdly intense sexual chemistry that turns me into a complete nutjob. I mean, not quite that nutty but still.
Nuzzolese
06-15-2009, 02:22 PM
Maybe these guys are crazy from the beginning and you fail to see the early warning signs until they plant themselves on your front porch. (lb) The good thing about this pattern behavior is that you may end up being immortalized in an emo song. That would be something to tell the grandkids.
nodanaonlyzuul
06-15-2009, 02:56 PM
I'm right there with you.
One decided to infiltrate and become friends with my family, even my little innocent brother, despite the fact that we were broken up and never speak. Creepy.
The next one loved to use emotional manipulation and even threatened suicide because I wanted to break up. Great.
The last one was extremely jealous even after we were no longer together. He tried to interview me like a cop about any one I knew that was male and I happened to have a photo with. I changed my phone number because he kept calling and texting me even after I asked him to stop. He then started to stalk me online.
There are only two exes I have that are halfway sane. But even then, one will date women that think he and I have something on the side going on. They have gone as far as deleting any messages from me off his phone before he sees it. They have also stalked me online. The other ex also has a girlfriend that stalks me online.
At least they is a "private" option on myspace and facebook profiles now. That helps. And in the end none of those stalkers are threatening or dangerous, so that's good.
Echewta
06-15-2009, 04:08 PM
Me too.
Nuzzolese
06-15-2009, 04:19 PM
Me too.
you so crazy
Freebasser
06-15-2009, 05:36 PM
I recently found out that Paul Jones used to a date a girl who had a penis.
b i o n i c
06-15-2009, 05:37 PM
I recently found out that Paul Jones used to a date a girl who had a penis.
had? give him a break!
RobMoney$
06-15-2009, 06:30 PM
Could the sex really be that good? Maybe.
It's more likely that these dudes are amatuers and not skilled in how to handle anything above a 5.
checkyourprez
06-15-2009, 07:50 PM
going crazy because of a chick is for the birds.
russhie
06-16-2009, 05:49 AM
So the nutjob texted me today, asking after my weekend.
His claim to fame was that he never, never, never falls for girls, and I thought I was safe. In any case I don't think he cares for me, it's a possession thing.
He's the second that has turned up on my doorstep unwanted, and the latest in a line of crazies. I'm going to start dating girls :/
Also I do not rate my ability to fuck/look good. So who knows.
Kid Presentable
06-16-2009, 06:05 AM
He probably wanks in your back yard. Not a euphemism.
Audio.
06-16-2009, 06:44 AM
lol squirts milk.
skra75
06-16-2009, 10:30 AM
I had an ex once stalk me in college - find out where I lived, spent the night at an old mutual friends overnight (she just like invited herself over) and then appeared on my doorstep like a ghost with a skimpy top and a new haircut. I had a girlfriend at the time which made it awkward - not to mention this chick was nuts. Like a gentleman I didn't hit it bc I was faithful to my girl at the time - and decided to walk with her to let her down easy. Turned out she was even more nuts than before - super creepy. If I would have hit it I would have opened a pandora's box of creepy future stalkings I'm sure.
That's the only true stalker I ever had. I did have to delete my myspace though bc I kept getting creepy friend requests from ex girlfriends and stalker-y messages from my ex. Plus myspace/facebook is gay.
Also somehow I keep finding gf's that are funny/overprotective about me even having female friends.
: /
beastiegirrl101
06-16-2009, 12:16 PM
I have an ex who drives me completely crazy.
Damn, don't we all have one of those? Our achilles heal? We broke up in 2005 and I recently saw him walking a few months ago while I was driving, he looked like crap ... part of me was glad about it.
destructo
06-16-2009, 12:43 PM
But not in the right sort of way.
Seriously. The guys I date start off normal and then go all weird. This weekend I ran into an ex of sorts and he asked to come home with me. When I turned him down, he told me if I didn't let him stay and cuddle with me he'd never speak to me again. Then he staged a sit-in on my front porch till I agreed to talk to him. During the conversation told me HE HAS CANCER which, he said, explained his erratic behaviour of late (the reason I had ended things, over a month ago) and quoted parts from A Walk To Remember. When I didn't buy it he admitted he was "just trying to win", that he was in the wrong, he was sorry and a fuckup and proceeded to take his clothes off and get into my bed, even after I told him to leave.
WHY
And he's not the only one to have done stupid shit? I'm just really surprised that he did. I wonder why women always seem to be typefied as the ones who get crazy, clingy and weird about relationships.
HOLY SHIT! Dude needs some help if this is normal behavior for him. Bottom line, if someone asks/tells you to leave, you do it.
hpdrifter
06-17-2009, 06:26 PM
Damn, don't we all have one of those? Our achilles heal? We broke up in 2005 and I recently saw him walking a few months ago while I was driving, he looked like crap ... part of me was glad about it.
That's totally how I refer to him! My achilles heel!
He keeps materializing out of nowhere. We go through periods where we hang for awhile, things are cool then they get squirrely for a variety of reasons, we end up arguing and lose contact. Then like a year or two later out of the clear blue sky he'll find a way to get in touch with me and wash rinse repeat. We've been doing the same psycho little dance for 10 years now. I am not sure why he continues to come find me, it's just really frustrating for us both.
I sort of wish he looked like crap, he looks pretty much the same every time I see him.
He probably wanks in your back yard. Not a euphemism.
HAHAHA! good as gold, macca.
maybe you're the one, russhie. or your bed just smells good
russhie
06-18-2009, 08:21 AM
My bed smells like me. So, a mixture of Missoni Acqua, Coconut Rush and Cocoa butter. These things all smell very good and also make my skin soft.
Maybe that is key.
That's totally how I refer to him! My achilles heel!
He keeps materializing out of nowhere. We go through periods where we hang for awhile, things are cool then they get squirrely for a variety of reasons, we end up arguing and lose contact. Then like a year or two later out of the clear blue sky he'll find a way to get in touch with me and wash rinse repeat. We've been doing the same psycho little dance for 10 years now. I am not sure why he continues to come find me, it's just really frustrating for us both.
I sort of wish he looked like crap, he looks pretty much the same every time I see him.
Is this the guy who I look like?
b i o n i c
06-18-2009, 10:36 AM
cant you just say, "you've got to go?"
hpdrifter
06-18-2009, 11:09 AM
Is this the guy who I look like?
The very same.
The very same.
He must be a proper ladykiller :rolleyes:
hpdrifter
06-18-2009, 11:45 AM
You have no idea.
Awww and you went and got married instead of trying out his nice doppleganger :rolleyes:
hpdrifter
06-18-2009, 01:21 PM
*cough* Ahem:
if I weren't married I'd hop a plane to the UK and turn up on your doorstep tomorrow.
I don't think he cares for me, it's a possession thing.
Sounds like it. But to be so socially inept..? Kid is in some serious denial or something. I don't think dating girls is going to diminish the amount of crazy, though. Cut back on the cocoa butter if you're going to be the man in the relationship.
*cough* Ahem:
the doors always open...
Dorothy Wood
06-18-2009, 01:49 PM
jesus, you two. barf-o-rama
I think I love you HPD XXXXXXXX mwah mwah mwah xxxxxxx it's so meant to be xxxxxxx
hpdrifter
06-18-2009, 01:56 PM
I know, we're ridiculous!
But we're both going through a hard time right now so if it gets us through the day, what's the harm?
*fist bump to camo for totally hijacking this thread*
I know, we're ridiculous!
But we're both going through a hard time right now so if it gets us through the day, what's the harm?
*fist bump to camo for totally hijacking this thread*
put that fist down.
*chest bump*
cosmo105
06-18-2009, 02:26 PM
That's totally how I refer to him! My achilles heel!
He keeps materializing out of nowhere. We go through periods where we hang for awhile, things are cool then they get squirrely for a variety of reasons, we end up arguing and lose contact. Then like a year or two later out of the clear blue sky he'll find a way to get in touch with me and wash rinse repeat. We've been doing the same psycho little dance for 10 years now. I am not sure why he continues to come find me, it's just really frustrating for us both.
I sort of wish he looked like crap, he looks pretty much the same every time I see him.
I had an ex like this. For 10 years, too. He only came around when I had a boyfriend, and tried to lure me away from a serious one. It didn't work and I put my foot down and told him to fuck off. Then sometime last year he came back around when I was single and, of course, he had a girlfriend. At this point I stopped caring for the most part and just laughed at his attempts. We saw each other a couple times but I didn't really get any enjoyment out of it and realized I wasn't into him anymore. It ended there and I haven't spoken to him since, nor do I plan to do so. A relationship shouldn't be so much push and pull and so much suffering and pain just because the other can't make up his/her damn mind. If I can't have a healthy, stable, and loving relationship with someone that's good for me, I'd MUCH rather be alone. Fuck letting someone have that much power over you.
hpdrifter
06-18-2009, 04:15 PM
I had an ex like this. For 10 years, too. He only came around when I had a boyfriend, and tried to lure me away from a serious one. It didn't work and I put my foot down and told him to fuck off. Then sometime last year he came back around when I was single and, of course, he had a girlfriend. At this point I stopped caring for the most part and just laughed at his attempts. We saw each other a couple times but I didn't really get any enjoyment out of it and realized I wasn't into him anymore. It ended there and I haven't spoken to him since, nor do I plan to do so. A relationship shouldn't be so much push and pull and so much suffering and pain just because the other can't make up his/her damn mind. If I can't have a healthy, stable, and loving relationship with someone that's good for me, I'd MUCH rather be alone. Fuck letting someone have that much power over you.
Well it's nice to think there might be light at the end of the tunnel. Maybe 10 years is the magic number and I'll have the same epiphany. Though I don't really need to have an epiphany, it's not like he isn't honest with me. And it really isn't about him not being able to make up his mind.
Actual conversation:
Me: So let me get this straight: You care about me as a person, you feel bad for the way you've treated me over the years, you like having sex with me, but you don't want to be with me.
Him: Yes.
Me: You don't love me and you never will.
Him: Yes.
You can't really argue with that. *shrug*
cosmo105
06-18-2009, 04:49 PM
Yeah, I fail to see how anyone that TELLS you that could be worth one second of your time.
hpdrifter
06-18-2009, 05:11 PM
Well, it's not really his fault that I project my own feelings onto him. At least I get that much now.
And this time around he's been really supportive for whatever reason. He's spent several sleepless nights helping me out with my dramas, come around in a snap when I called him and not tried anything with me at all. I think we might actually be friends. :confused:
Kid Presentable
06-18-2009, 06:47 PM
*cough* Ahem:
Remember, you are married.
Planetary
06-18-2009, 08:59 PM
Remember, you are married.
i want to get married to youn you sexy fucjin man
cosmo105
06-19-2009, 01:21 PM
Well, it's not really his fault that I project my own feelings onto him. At least I get that much now.
And this time around he's been really supportive for whatever reason. He's spent several sleepless nights helping me out with my dramas, come around in a snap when I called him and not tried anything with me at all. I think we might actually be friends. :confused:
You're not friends if you still have feelings for him. That's not fair to anyone.
hpdrifter
06-19-2009, 02:16 PM
You're right. There's a ton of stuff going on that's not fucking fair.
NoFenders
06-19-2009, 02:36 PM
A relationship shouldn't be so much push and pull and so much suffering and pain just because the other can't make up his/her damn mind. If I can't have a healthy, stable, and loving relationship with someone that's good for me, I'd MUCH rather be alone. Fuck letting someone have that much power over you.
(y)
nodanaonlyzuul
06-19-2009, 02:45 PM
something my current boyfriend said I think applies to a myriad of situations:
"A guy is going to treat you how you LET him treat you."
cosmo105
06-19-2009, 02:47 PM
You're right. There's a ton of stuff going on that's not fucking fair.
Then don't be friends with him. Simple.
NoFenders
06-19-2009, 03:01 PM
Some people don't like simple, or atleast they can't be content with it.
My bed smells like me. So, a mixture of Missoni Acqua, Coconut Rush and Cocoa butter. These things all smell very good and also make my skin soft.
meh, i've smelt better..... :cool:
BBboy20
06-20-2009, 05:10 AM
Makes me wonder how they function outside of the realm of girls.
russhie
06-20-2009, 06:09 AM
something my current boyfriend said I think applies to a myriad of situations:
"A guy is going to treat you how you LET him treat you."
I don't always agree with that, though.
I let this particular idiot get away with some things, over the course of the 8 or so months we've known each other, but it wasn't in the realm of his recent crazy. Just dumb, young, sexy stuff. We had a good thing going, before the whole "he just went bonkers" thing happened. I think I lament that bit, not losing him as such, because it's not easy to find a casual partner who will not wind up having feelings for you, but will respect you and admit to a proper christ you're hot kind of physical attraction. Apparently you tell a girl she's hot and she's all over your shit, in a bad what-should-we-call-our-future-children way. Apparently.
Anyway. I'm saying, I've been treated well when I shouldn't have, badly when I should, and levels of respect for me have been all over the shop. I've always been the same person, same levels of consideration, respect, and sex appeal. I think some people are just jerks. Or nuts. No matter what.
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