I'm not an antisocial weirdo, am I?

[nodanaonlyzuul]

I do like to go out from time to time, get together with friends, etc. Maybe once a week or so.

But after my parents and little brother being in town for 9 straight days I'm a little burnt out on socializing. Maybe my parents don't count as socializing but it felt like it was, especially since they were staying with us. I worked during the week but on both weekends we spent 24 hours with them. I liked it, but they left Sunday and I want to enjoy having our space back for a few days and just relax after work. In silence.

There is a "community" BBQ right now that our neighbor is hosting. It's her and a ton of people we don't know. The boyfriend went but I said go without me.

The "So which area do you live in?" "What kind of work do you do?" conversations are fine but I am not in the mood right now for small talk. Meeting new people is great I guess but I just, can't. I'm tired. If we were to hang out with others, I'd prefer it to be people we are already friends with. But it's not, so no.

I feel a little like an asshole because this neighbor that invited lives literally across the hall.

[DipDipDive]

No, you're not. After several consecutive days of socializing or entertaining, I need at least a day to hang by myself and do nothing, regardless of how much fun I did or didn't have with the people I was with. I have to recharge for a bit, regain capacity to have maximum fun in another social situation.

It's good that you know yourself and acknowledge that you wouldn't have been on point and at your best if you were to attend this party. That actually proves that you're not socially awkward. You want to know that you're going to have fun and be enjoyable to be around, right? Socially awkward would be going to the party and not talking to people, which is what could have happened in your state of mind.

Don't sweat it. :)

[nodanaonlyzuul]

thanks. That does make me feel better. I guess it's just some bad timing/location considering that it's a neighbor and so easy to join in since it's in the back patio area. Still, I need my recharge time, as you put it.

This is relatively new to me. I used to go out and socialize almost every night. I just can't handle it now a days. Due to age or mental exhaustion who knows. But f- it. I'm going to play 360 by myself now and be happy to be alone for a bit. (y)

[DipDipDive]

Quiet time alone is underrated.

[Echewta]

nah, you are just a weirdo.

[lolkat]

i'd say more of a slutty attention whore, almost the opposite.

[Randetica]

if youre antisocial then what am i?

[Adam]

man, going out once a week is enough for me. But then I positively insist on being antisocial as I generally hate people.

[nodanaonlyzuul]

i'd say more of a slutty attention whore, almost the opposite.

thanks!

[roosta]

I'm the same.

After a few days out and about with people I dig a day or two, or even a good part of a day on me tod. I can be perfectly happy by myself.

Too much alone time however and you kind of lose the whole point of it, in an odd way.

Its a balance i guess.