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Dorothy Wood
07-30-2009, 04:56 PM
there is a 22 year old dude interested in me. should I go for it?
how do you guys feel about older women going out with younger men? it seems like I might feel creepy. I know a girl who is dating one of her former university students (he is the one who did the pursuing), she's my age (30, exactly, actually, we share a birthday), and her dude is also 22. she feels strange about it, but likes him very much.
I'm sure none of this will work out, but it's a fun thing to think about maybe.
Helvete
07-30-2009, 05:08 PM
It's wonderful!
If you are just boning...i'd say yeah do it. But relationship? I don't think anyone should even think about getting in a real serious relationship until they are at least 25.
I prefer older women - I'm 29 now but when I was 24 I dated a 30 year old. Do it.
jennyb
07-30-2009, 05:36 PM
I hear it can work.
Dorothy Wood
07-30-2009, 05:52 PM
wait, how young is your guy, jenny? or how much younger than you?
I guess I do worry about the age if we were to try to date or something. although this kid has a better head on his shoulders it seems than the last guy I went out with who was 26.
Nuzzolese
07-30-2009, 06:22 PM
my boyfriend is six years younger than I am. It used to bother me more, at first. I'm very immature, I guess. I've always liked younger people. And perhaps another way I can justify it is by thinking that he had to grow up pretty fast, which he did. He had to take care of his family when he was only 15. There are times when I worry about what will happen if he wants to have children at some point and I'm just too old. Who knows? But it seems silly to worry about it now that we've been together for so long and everything. I guess if it was someone else I'd make fun of them for it. I was 15 when he was 9, you know! But, oh well. I think he's an exceptional person so I wouldn't use my own situation as a reason for everyone to date younger people.
jennyb
07-30-2009, 06:24 PM
14 years younger but rarely is it ever a real issue. It's been my experience that it's truly just a number. It depends on the person. I credit our situation to the fact that I'm slightly immature and he's slightly more mature and we meet somewhere in the middle. We've been ridiculously happy and in love for years now (long distance even!) and plan to marry soon. I'm convinced that when a relationship pairing is right - there should be minimal work involved. The more it's able to just organically grow, the more likely you're onto something. I've certainly come across many a nay-sayer on my situation that I just let slide, cause it's pretty obviously easy to pass judgment. I've also been surprised how many people are not phased at all by it. Often times I'm more paranoid about it than anyone else. A guy a couple years older than you could just as easily screw things up as a younger guy. Depends on the person. I wouldn't suggest going out to seek an age gap but if it happens, it happens. He is the one person that's been able to make me happier than anyone else I've ever come across in my life. At the end of the day, you and only you have to live your life by your standards and nobody else's. Meh, that's just my 2 cents. Don't let age be a sole deal breaker, give it a chance.
Echewta
07-30-2009, 06:43 PM
What does age matter if you click? I've dated girls a few years older than me and as much as 13 years younger. :cool:
Just go for it.
DipDipDive
07-30-2009, 07:00 PM
Yeah, there's really no way to know if it'll work unless you try. Some people are old souls, some maintain their youthful spirit through out their lives. In the end, compatibility is determined by personality, not age. This dude could end up being the love of your life, so you just go and do it, little lady.
Caribou
07-30-2009, 07:04 PM
Why are you even asking, you'll probably bone him anyway and then find out he's sooo immature and make a dramatic thread about it.
No offence dotty, but you're a grown woman and I fail to understand all these high-schoolish posts.
hpdrifter
07-30-2009, 07:08 PM
A 24-year old flirted with me when I was 31 (which was last year, assholes). I was so charmed by the whole thing. I didn't understand his little hipster haircut or the fact that his favorite band was Broken Social Scene but I loved every second of it.
Randetica
07-30-2009, 07:10 PM
Why are you even asking, you'll probably bone him anyway and then find out he's sooo immature and make a dramatic thread about it.
No offence dotty, but you're a grown woman and I fail to understand all these high-schoolish posts.
haha
nothing we will ever get used to, not even after all this years
Videodrome
07-30-2009, 07:10 PM
just do it.
Caribou
07-30-2009, 07:14 PM
haha
nothing we will ever get used to, not even after all this years
I was used to it at first, but then there comes a point where you just think 'What, again?!'
Maybe dotty drinks the blood of highschool kids to keep herself young. She posted herself that she thinks blood=boner.
Randetica
07-30-2009, 07:18 PM
I was used to it at first, but then there comes a point where you just think 'What, again?!'
Maybe dotty drinks the blood of highschool kids to keep herself young. She posted herself that she thinks blood=boner.
no, she is just some slut caught in a mid life crisis
Kid Presentable
07-30-2009, 07:24 PM
14 years younger but rarely is it ever a real issue. It's been my experience that it's truly just a number. It depends on the person. I credit our situation to the fact that I'm slightly immature and he's slightly more mature and we meet somewhere in the middle. We've been ridiculously happy and in love for years now (long distance even!) and plan to marry soon. I'm convinced that when a relationship pairing is right - there should be minimal work involved. The more it's able to just organically grow, the more likely you're onto something. I've certainly come across many a nay-sayer on my situation that I just let slide, cause it's pretty obviously easy to pass judgment. I've also been surprised how many people are not phased at all by it. Often times I'm more paranoid about it than anyone else. A guy a couple years older than you could just as easily screw things up as a younger guy. Depends on the person. I wouldn't suggest going out to seek an age gap but if it happens, it happens. He is the one person that's been able to make me happier than anyone else I've ever come across in my life. At the end of the day, you and only you have to live your life by your standards and nobody else's. Meh, that's just my 2 cents. Don't let age be a sole deal breaker, give it a chance.
Go team. (y)
Kid Presentable
07-30-2009, 07:26 PM
no, she is just some slut caught in a mid life crisis
Without those medical journals you wouldn't be able to rationalise anything, it seems.
DipDipDive
07-30-2009, 07:51 PM
People who have gotten into heated lovers quarrels ON THIS BOARD with their former partners who they MET ON THIS BOARD are in absolutely no position to criticize DW's relationship threads.
Check yourself before you wreck yourself. Fuckin' a.
ericlee
07-30-2009, 07:53 PM
I was 18 years old and a waiter at a Frisch's joint in my hometown.
I waited a table who had a daughter and she was all giggly and smiley with me. I gave her a coloring set and one of those place mats for coloring.
After they left, I went to clean the table and there was the place mat "your so kute" and a phone number on it.
That was probably one of the most uncomfortable experiences I have ever had.
Helvete
07-30-2009, 07:55 PM
Yeah, but was she hot?
ericlee
07-30-2009, 08:09 PM
Yeah, but was she hot?
She probably is now! Fuck, why'd I have to throw her number away?
RobMoney$
07-30-2009, 08:09 PM
People who have gotten into heated lovers quarrels ON THIS BOARD with their former partners who they MET ON THIS BOARD are in absolutely no position to criticize DW's relationship threads.
Check yourself before you wreck yourself. Fuckin' a.
None of this changes the fact that Caribou's right tho.
Dorothy's been making high school level threads about her love life since forever.
It's beyond a joke at this point.
Documad
07-30-2009, 08:13 PM
Holy shit Jenny. Congratulations! And Awwww. :)
As for the Dorothy bashers, there's no need to repeat your shitty comments in every thread. Just don't open them.
RobMoney$
07-30-2009, 08:17 PM
Sure, just don't look at the car wreck as you drive by it.
Easier said than done.
Also, congrats Jenny.
Paul's a lucky guy.
Documad
07-30-2009, 08:18 PM
People where I live are the world's worst rubber neckers!!! They screw up traffic.
Caribou
07-30-2009, 08:22 PM
People who have gotten into heated lovers quarrels ON THIS BOARD with their former partners who they MET ON THIS BOARD are in absolutely no position to criticize DW's relationship threads.
Check yourself before you wreck yourself. Fuckin' a.
That was indeed a mistake, but I was 20, It was my first experience with that kind of thing, and I haven't really posted anything like that for a long while.
And if she wants to keep posting relationship threads that's fine, I just find it interesting that someone of her age and with so much experience still seems to get so confused about this kind of thing. She should just go ahead and do whatever she wants, without seeking validation on a message board.
edit: btw, I'm not bashing Dorothy, She's a cool dudette. I was just wondering why she makes so much more drama out of things than is necessary. Life could be so much easier.
ericlee
07-30-2009, 08:27 PM
Who's still together that met on this board?
As far as I know- Synch and Avignon, deaf and bef...
Ah fuck it, it's none of my bizz.
I'm just bored. 3 more hours of work to go.
Dorothy Wood
07-30-2009, 08:33 PM
caribou, randy, and rob...I could say some very mean things about all of you, but I won't.
I will just say that I'm trying to figure out life and how it works. All I really want is someone who understands me and to be able to understand that person too. I thought I had found that person, but it turns out I was wrong, therefore my mind was blown apart and now I'm stuck with the arduous task of putting it back together.
even if there are never answers, I will always be asking questions.
If I'd gone to school for psychology like I originally planned when I was young, I probably wouldn't be bothering you guys with any of this because I'd be trying to figure out how everyone else's brains worked instead of just my own.
anyhow, dude wants to "kick it". I think that means hang out or something, right? oh these kids and their sayings!
cosmo105
07-30-2009, 08:38 PM
he means he wants to fight for his right to maaaaaaaake ouuuuut
Helvete
07-30-2009, 08:39 PM
I'm jealous of all you assholes!
ericlee
07-30-2009, 08:42 PM
I'm trying to figure this out.
Usually while I'm at work, tourists ask me for directions, it gets on my nerves a bit because I'm not a tour guide.
Well, some foreigner comes to me and says, "ezcuse me sir, how does the tallest building do?"
I say "sorry?"
he repeats and says, "how does the tallest building do?"
the only thing I could think of doing was extending my arm straight above my head and say, "it does this."
he laughed and walked away. I'm wondering if I answered him right and still wondering WTF kind of question that was.
Helvete
07-30-2009, 08:43 PM
Haha, that's great.
Audio.
07-30-2009, 10:20 PM
lol how durs teh burding eh due?
Dorothy Wood
07-30-2009, 11:32 PM
oh, foreigners! they're a laugh, eh?
alright, well, got a date tomorrow. he made quick work of that. his earnestness and fearlessness is unmatched by anybody I've met in my my age range. perhaps I'm on to something.
he's smart and likes awesome music, and is actually balding too, so I can trick my friends into thinking he's old if this goes anywhere.
oh god. what have I done.
You've done something epic. He's balding so it's okay. Make sure to document this shit on the board! Is this kid on your facebook yet?
jennyb
07-31-2009, 12:00 AM
Go get'em Dorothy!!!! Just don't dwell on age and see if it works between the two of you as people.
Holy shit Jenny. Congratulations! And Awwww. :) Thanks for the notes of congrats guys. I tend to think I'm the lucky one...
As for the Dorothy bashers, there's no need to repeat your shitty comments in every thread. Just don't open them. cosigned
Dorothy is adorable and I happen to enjoy her presence.
Dorothy Wood
07-31-2009, 12:32 AM
aw shucks :o
RobMoney$
07-31-2009, 12:40 AM
caribou, randy, and rob...I could say some very mean things about all of you, but I won't.
Oh please!
Why should today be any different?
You've been making mean comments to me all week.
I'm guessing it's something about racism this or that...YAWN.
Your life's an open book.
I don't see why you take that as my being mean, it's just a fact.
You post some extremely personal details about your life that I don't think most would.
I think it's like a defense mechinism you have. You post all these personal things about your life, and the common theme to all of them is like "GAH, I DONT CARE". Everyone's disposable.
You've got a lot of things to figure out.
And believe me, I do too. I just don't share everything on this MB like you choose to.
Not sure if that makes me any more or less normal than you?
I seriously wish you the best with it.
Dorothy Wood
07-31-2009, 12:49 AM
fuck off.
RobMoney$
07-31-2009, 12:57 AM
freak
DipDipDive
07-31-2009, 01:05 AM
I actually really want to hear how this goes. Despite my own advice, I've been reluctant to date younger dudes and I need to get over that.
Helvete
07-31-2009, 01:06 AM
Hmm, you single?
DipDipDive
07-31-2009, 01:08 AM
Hmm, you single?
Who? Me?
Helvete
07-31-2009, 01:10 AM
Yeah...
hey grrrl let me tap dat sweet ass
DipDipDive
07-31-2009, 01:13 AM
I sure am single and I refuse ass tappage unless I receive a formal request via text message.
my dick is quik i aint got time for no txt massages. jus gimme dem gutz
DipDipDive
07-31-2009, 01:35 AM
Fine, but only because I know you got the internet goin nuts.
ericlee
07-31-2009, 03:32 AM
<3
Well, being that your dick looks like a sideways V, I suppose it is aerodynamic and quick.
But with that size issue, I wouldn't recommend you whipping it out on the innarwebs again.
yeah, some of you need to master the art of not opening threads you don't want to read. Or put people on ignore - there is no shame in it. Or at the very least learn not to hit reply at a thread you don't want anything to do with.
As for ericlee's question about who is still together on this board. Although I would class myself as single, two of us who originally met in 2001 (me and GenerationILL) are totally in love with each other right now again. But I'm pretty sure I am due some more 'personal issues in public' threads. So some of the haters might want to get ready with the ignore button.
The reason I like DWs threads as they are always entertaining, even though they are about similar things sometimes, her thread style is fun and easy to read - not too serious ever. I think some of you maybe reading her threads as if she is about to have a midlife crisis or a breakdown at any moment... Unless it is me who has the context all wrong and she is on the verge of cracking?
Planetary
07-31-2009, 04:59 AM
People who have gotten into heated lovers quarrels ON THIS BOARD with their former partners who they MET ON THIS BOARD are in absolutely no position to criticize DW's relationship.
can i criticise it?
Kid Presentable
07-31-2009, 06:28 AM
Both parties are right. Dotty can post it, haters can hate. It's what makes it bbmb.
Go Dot.
I fucked quite a few old ladies in my day (off the top of my head, me - 19, she - 41, me 21 - she 31 - me 21 - she 28, me 23 - she 36, and most recent me 27 - she 35 = last week), and how I would describe it is FUN. They know what to do and are real good at it for the most part. All the filthiest shit I have ever done has been with an older woman. That's is why I love them . . .
Now in the opening sentence, I described the 'relationship' as fuck, because that is all I have ever wanted to do with them: fuck. I would never, ever have a real relationship with a broad that was older than me . . . . you got to think about the future, when your 30, she'll be (insert number here) older than you..... fuck that.
ToucanSpam
07-31-2009, 08:15 AM
Both parties are right. Dotty can post it, haters can hate. It's what makes it bbmb.
Yeah. Right as usual, KP. That's all there is to it.
This thread could get more interesting depending on whether certain comments are responded to. Do board couples still happen?
Lex Diamonds
07-31-2009, 02:33 PM
Yeah. Right as usual, KP. That's all there is to it.
Can your tongue get any further up his bum or is this the maximum?
And I agree that Dorothy needs to grow up with these "Clarissa Explains It All" style relationship threads. She should be mature enough to conduct relationships without picking apart people's every actions for anyone to see on the internet.
Echewta
07-31-2009, 02:55 PM
Dorothy, if you ever want to get a early bird dinner at Sizzler and then hit a cocktail lounge to talk about the good ole days, I'm down.
Dorothy Wood
07-31-2009, 04:12 PM
Sounds good, chewta.
So, this kid is pretty excited! he already texted me asking how work is going....
he's either my ultimate fantasy or my worst nightmare.
cosmo105
07-31-2009, 04:24 PM
I've dated some very sweet younger guys. I hate to make sweeping generalizations, but both of them were at the stages of their lives where you really need to be single and not look for anything relationship-y. If i were back in the dating game I don't think I'd go for a much younger guy if I were looking for anything at all serious. Just from my experience. I've always gotten along best with dudes slightly older than myself.
Randetica
07-31-2009, 04:31 PM
caribou, randy, and rob...I could say some very mean things about all of you, but I won't.
you already did
no need to try sounding grown up when youre not grown up at all
Dorothy Wood
07-31-2009, 04:33 PM
To Cosmo:
Yeah, I'm definitely worried about the stage of life thing. Oh well, not too worried, nothing's happened yet. Maybe we'll just be buds at first...I'll just start going to college parties and relive my youth. then we'll get married and I'll get cancer and he'll turn out to be gay and we'll both die. (y)
Dorothy Wood
07-31-2009, 04:37 PM
you already did
no need to try sounding grown up when youre not grown up at all
never said I was.
nodanaonlyzuul
07-31-2009, 04:39 PM
I kind of like when ya'll get uppity about other peoples lives. It makes me laugh.
Randetica
07-31-2009, 04:43 PM
I kind of like when ya'll get uppity about other peoples lives. It makes me laugh.
the board wouldnt even exist without that
paulb
07-31-2009, 04:47 PM
I say just go for it...you never know what you're gonna get outta life, just enjoy it and see where it takes you....
nodanaonlyzuul
07-31-2009, 04:51 PM
the board wouldnt even exist without that
I think it would. A lot of people here are friends. But if it were ONLY that, people would just be nice all the time and it wouldn't be as funny (y)
Randetica
07-31-2009, 05:05 PM
I think it would. A lot of people here are friends. But if it were ONLY that, people would just be nice all the time and it wouldn't be as funny (y)
true enough
Dorothy Wood
08-01-2009, 01:12 AM
alright well, I think I just went out with the chubby hipster version of Padster.
We had fun, we had some drinks, he bought me pizza, we were getting along. then we tried to go to the beach, but it was really far, so we just sat in the park outside the marina. we smoked a little grass and then I turned into a paranoid crazy person who all of a sudden realized I was sitting in a park in the night with a stranger and that he could totally murder me if he wanted.
made it a little awkward when he tried to kiss me. we made out a little, but it was like kissing my brother. I don't have one, but you know what I mean.
very cute, very nice, strange in a good way...but too young I think. young in the way where he's trying to act old. and well, you know, a, uh, dealer of drugs. which is not the road I need to go down at this juncture.
hooray for making out in the park though, woo! high five to me.
it was like kissing my brother. I don't have one, but you know what I mean.
i'm not sure i do actually
Audio.
08-01-2009, 01:25 AM
I.... just dont know. I find DW's stories amusing. I can see how some may hate that seeing how one would post something personal to the public and then dont want the criticism of it from anyone and that just not how the game plays at all. I think thats what some of these cats are feeling of DW's threads in this board. But I do find her thread or stories amusing. Her stories just remind me of Seinfeld particularly when its about her relationship. Like there is always or sometimes just one thing that seems to unsatisfied or make DW feel uncomfortable in the relationship, and I'm just saying this from my own observation from her past topics on her relationships like the guy from the wedding or the dude with a crazy get up wearing a bomber jacket with ...was it tight red pants or spandex? Forgot. And it just those small things that just makes the story amusing. Thats the only word I can think of.
So, Miss D the whole young thing deal, let it go. Just enjoy the company of him.
Dorothy Wood
08-01-2009, 01:28 AM
bob!
anyway.
FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK FUCK
he already followed up with a polite, "did you get home okay?"
god damn it. he wants to go out again and I said yes. shit.
I feel like I'm in a bad 90's movie, except there's texting.
Dorothy Wood
08-01-2009, 01:36 AM
I.... just dont know. I find DW's stories amusing. I can see how some may hate that seeing how one would post something personal to the public and then dont want the criticism of it from anyone and that just not how the game plays at all. I think thats what some of these cats are feeling of DW's threads in this board. But I do find her thread or stories amusing. Her stories just remind me of Seinfeld particularly when its about her relationship. Like there is always or sometimes just one thing that seems to unsatisfied or make DW feel uncomfortable in the relationship, and I'm just saying this from my own observation from her past topics on her relationships like the guy from the wedding or the dude with a crazy get up wearing a bomber jacket with ...was it tight red pants or spandex? Forgot. And it just those small things that just makes the story amusing. Thats the only word I can think of.
So, Miss D the whole young thing deal, let it go. Just enjoy the company of him.
ha, bomber jackets and red spandex.
honestly, I exaggerate a lot of things for effect, and I'm kind of just practicing writing and researching. It's like a blog, except I am subjecting people to it rather than trying to attract willing viewers.
I'm sure a lot of these things happen to some of you all the time, you just don't take time out to write it down on a stupid messageboard like I do. it's a habit really.
anyway, this is a funny experience to have, and I'm having fun writing about it and thinking about it, but I'm not too worked up or anything. confession time: I'm rarely ever worked up about any of this romance stuff. or at least I haven't been in at least a year. I just like attention. :D
whoa, this is some good weed.
DipDipDive
08-01-2009, 01:37 AM
Go out with him again and don't take the marijuana next time. I think you'll be able to better judge whether or not this is a good idea without being on the drugs.
The dealing thing is a red flag for sure. Other than that, he sounds kind of sweet. :o
I'm 23 never went out with an older woman only younger and i tell u they annoy me so my next step is an older woman that actually knows something and has her career set or at least a view of it. but as far as me i don't want to be in something too serious until 25-30 when i got my career all settled which is my problem with younger girls they all want them and as a guy that can't happen yet.
Dorothy Wood
08-03-2009, 12:22 AM
oh fudge. this is not going well. kid is on my jock like nobody's business. I can't handle it! I'm not equipped for this. I've spent the past 15 years dealing with guys who don't express their feelings.
I feel like such an asshole. :(
it'd be one thing if he just wanted to bone, but I think he really likes me...which is wonderful...but I am too old. He's like the mayor of party town and I'm saving up to buy a place in quietville.
b i o n i c
08-03-2009, 12:44 AM
dont penalize the poor boy for liking you a lot!
like you said, if anything, its a good opportunity to relive the life you had not too long ago. a little age difference can be therapeutic.
go dorothy go(y)
I can see him being all up in your shit as a problem. Just tell him, yeah I like you but can you take half a step back. If he gets all weird then you know to run away, if he is cool with that then he is probably a decent guy.
funk63
08-03-2009, 03:12 AM
Can your tongue get any further up his bum or is this the maximum?
And I agree that Dorothy needs to grow up with these "Clarissa Explains It All" style relationship threads. She should be mature enough to conduct relationships without picking apart people's every actions for anyone to see on the internet.
Holy shit I forgot about that show. Ferguson was a fucking weirdo.
monkey
08-03-2009, 02:29 PM
i dated a (former) dealer who is almost 5 years younger than me. maybe we weren't the best romantic partners, but the dude is my best friend now. he helped me get through some shitty times, and i think i've helped him get out of that lifestyle and into adulthood. and though we've had some really really shitty times, he's the person that i go to for a lot of things because his perspective is priceless to me. so, maybe this dude isn't meant to be your boyfriend, but maybe here's a friend that you could really use at this point in your life, a dude who shares his feelings with you. they exist!
he's the person that i go to for a lot of things ... priceless to me
anything I want he gives it to me, anything I want he gives it, but not for free
thats from a song called hateful, so be careful. Wait... I dunno, I just had that song in my head earlier and wanted to use it some how
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