i want to meet new people

[monkey]

i havent befriended anyone new in a while, i haven't had that distinct pleasure of getting to know someone new and being intricately interested in who they are. i miss that. but i don't exactly know HOW to meet new people. im not in environments where that's very possible. i work with a couple of MUCH older people, and im not a bar/drinking person. i have a ton of friends, but ive met most of the friends of friends and whatnot. i have a lot of friends, great friends, but still... i want MORE. greedy? yes.

[ET]

im not a bar/drinking person.


That would have been my first choice. Usually works. Maybe try to crash some AA meetings or cancer groups like in Fight Club. And there's always internets.

[Dorothy Wood]

I don't really like meeting new people. I'm not very outgoing. I do enjoy getting to know people I already know though. that might help your cravings, getting to know the people you already know, better.

[monkey]

That would have been my first choice. Usually works. Maybe try to crash some AA meetings or cancer groups like in Fight Club. And there's always internets.

haha, i dont want to meet ill people! not purposely!

the problem i see with the internets is that im talking about that process of spending time with a person where you get to actually just spend a ton of time together getting to know someone. it's not the same on the 'nets. i mean, i still have had the pleasure of becoming great friends with a ton of people online, but it's that brand new face to face contact i miss.

i dont have any problems with meeting new people or making conversation with strangers. i have a lot of social ease, and i can be very charming if i want to be, if the person interests me. i also know my friends really well, because i've taken the time to get to know each one in the way that i miss. i really dedicate myself to getting to know a person over time, and i like to think that those people that i consider my closest friends are people that i know very well and they know me very well. we have dedicated ourselves to having a solid relationship. i dont have that many acquaintances, i mostly just have those really really good friends. i treasure my friends, and i don't want to give them up or anything, i just want to have more. every few years, i seemed to get a new batch of people to meet and get to know and out of those batches there was always a person or two that i would get very close to.

maybe im overthinking this too much. if it wasn't raining, i'd probably be out making friends in the park.

[adam_f]

Making new friends will only get you raped.

[ET]

I think I understand a bit better. There are a lot of people that I 'kind of know' who know people I'm pretty close to. It's a shame that my close friends don't hang out. They're all so different it would never work out. Are all of your close pals in the same circle of friends? Of the new folks I've met it's rare that I get that spark going on. It takes some time for me to open up, I guess. Either that or my sense of humor is too much upon meeting someone. I guess if you can't do an Eiffel Tower high five over a table at Chili's the first time you meet me without being embarassed, we shouldn't be pals.

How have you met most of your close friends anyway? Sometimes talking about the past brings back some of those feelings you're missing.

[Dorothy Wood]

I met some new people tonight and I didn't like it at all. it's a good thing there were dogs around to play with and talk about, or I would've lost my mind.

[The Notorious LOL]

Meeting new people is fun.

[Myu-to]

Hi there.

;)

[Bob]

i don't like meeting new people because i'm a very boring person and i have a hard time talking about myself

"so, what do you do?"

"well uh, there's this message board about the beastie boys, only i post in the part that's not about the beastie boys, and

[Dorothy Wood]

I recently met this dude who has been around forever, but I've never talked to him. he was even at my birthday party. finally, we were kind of standing near each other at this thing and he was like, "hey, we're around each other all the time, your party was great, I'm blah blah blah". and it was like "phew, finally". but then our conversation was really lame. I was just talking about my bike until I was like "yeah, I'm sorry, what I'm talking about is really boring!" and then we both had a laugh. then luckily someone we both knew came over so we were saved.

bob, you should just talk about whatever you want to talk about, or even talk about how you don't know what to talk about. or...sports?

I like to talk about hockey and bikes with cordo's boyfriend, it's like our go-to thing when we get stuck hanging out with each other and have nothing to say.

and girls like to talk about clothes, dear lord, at length, for hours...I can't stand it, but it's definitely easy conversation. I think some men like to talk fashion too, or about watches and shoes I think. jackets?

[Adam]

I get the impression Bob is sometimes like me. I'm not a fan of sports or fashion or watches and I end up talking about the web to people. So we either end up swapping online aliases or they walk away mid conversation.

I think the quiet mysterious one can get you some way. But, casually roll up a joint in the middle of whatever social occasion and you'll either make a bunch of new friends or you'll empty the room - both is a win win imho

[Bob]

well i don't actually talk about the internet to people. i just meant, if i actually told people about what i did for fun, that's the kind of thing i'd have to say, which is why i have nothing to tell people when they try to get to know me

i wish i liked watching sports, i really do. that's like, the thing to talk about with people, everyone likes sports. and i live in boston, there are so many sports to like, pick one. but i just can't get into it, and i've tried but it's just fucking boring to watch, i zone out. i like it when exciting things happen but the average minute-to-minute of a game is just boring as hell to me.

especially baseball. i will never understand why people like watching baseball

[Gareth]

I think some men like to talk fashion too, or about watches and shoes I think. jackets?

shoes, yeh.
jackets? dunno. not with my mates.
watches? hrmm...i cant think of a single conversation i've ever had about watches.
i want to have one tho.
the only watch i have is way too casual for work so most of the time i use my cell phone as a watch.
actually, discussing watches would probably be boring.

[funk63]

eh fuck my life. I wish I was cool and not gay and had a huge dick or was a girl and less fugly.

[Adam]

I think america is more sport obsessed. When I was there, people I assumed I was into soccer and I had to play along with the conversation - I still knew more than most about the european game which seemed more popular than their own league.

What I am saying is, sometimes you gotta pretend. But then I have an english accent and that was a useful tool for some1 who is socially reclusive like me but doesn't work as well back home :)

[Nuzzolese]

The worst part about telling people what you like to do is that they always make a ton of assumptions and you have to spend the first few months of this new relationship sorting them out. It's best to just let people find out gradually over time, but there's this obnoxious generation out there now of business/comm majors who live and interact like a perpetual, walking resume and self-selling interview. They demand that you sum yourself up in a few words and don't have the time to give you a real chance. With those people it's best to make up a bunch of silly nonsense so that they can't keep track of it and, out of fear of looking stupid, they give up and leave you alone. Then you're alone, again. Well, why fight it?

[Echewta]

Pick up odd and interesting hobbies. People want you to be present at their dinner parties because you are odd and interesting thus meeting new people who will want you at their dinner parties as well because you are odd and interesting.

[monkey]

oh i have insanely geeky conversations with people. i find that my knowledge of lots useless and/or weird facts really pepper a conversation. for example, i found myself talking about butterfly bushes with my brother's girlfriend the other day, where i was sharing with her my knowledge of lavender butterfly bushes (i have one in my garden) and that i don't like butterflies cause they're just pretty daytime moths, and she agreed...

i find that lots of people keep random facts in their heads that they enjoy sharing for no reason other than to hear themselves talk. and it's like this that more interesting and deeper conversations start.

[nodanaonlyzuul]

http://www.meetup.com (http://www.meetup.com/)

http://www.yelp.com

Yelp is more of a business review site but they have an events section and community message board. I met tons of new people that way, didn't even realize that could be a part of it.

Fun times.