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Bob
08-09-2009, 03:14 AM
i live in a 4 bedroom apartment. when i moved in, everything was sunshine and lollipops. it was exactly what i wanted in an apartment. the place was big and sunny and everyone was independent and polite and quiet and totally accommodating of my own desires to be independent and polite and quiet. One of the roommates even had an amazing friendly dog that i got to pet and play with and i didn't even have to worry about taking it out for walks or picking up its poop. paradise!

but then everything changed

at some point, two of the roommates moved out and i and the roommate with the dog accidentally replaced them with utter cunts (and i hate that word - i think it's sexist and violent and i almost never use it to describe a woman, but i literally can't think of a better one, so i've reluctantly used it and i won't take it back because they are cunts. they are cunts.) but they aren't the focus of this story

no, the focus of this story is the creepy dick who replaced the cool roommate with the dog, who moved in with her boyfriend (and fled the cunts). he's either 44 or 42. he's described himself interchangeably as either of the two and he can't make up his mind (my theory is that he gets so drunk that he literally forgets his age. he's pretty much constantly drunk). he's on the lease. the other two are moving out, but he's staying, and he and i have to find two new roommates together.

this has been problematic! because the dick is going through a midlife crisis and this apartment is apparently his corvette, his harley, his barely legal high school girlfriend, and what have you. he didn't convey himself as such a dick when we first met him, which is why we let him move in but he has proved himself to be quite the dick

while we were discussing what we were looking for in potential roommates he told me (while drunk, he's pretty much always drunk. i said that already, right? because he is, and coming from me, that means a lot.) that he "preferred women, because i'm a horny old bastard". i naturally replied "that's really creepy" and he said "well, i am who i am" and i couldn't really shake him from that position, try as i might with my lawyerly negotiating skills

so we've been meeting with potential roommates, many of whom are female, and many of whom, in my opinion, have been really ideal - they are, similar to the initial crop, independent, clean, quiet, and polite and just very accommodating of my "i really only want roommates because i can't afford to live alone in boston" lifestyle but this midlife crisis having motherfucker is ruining everything

we got a hit from one potential who said something like "i love the apartment and you seem mellow and cool but the other guy seems like kind of a party guy and i need a productive environment, could you promise that it would be quiet after 11pm on weekdays?" and i figure ok, that's a reasonable request, and i ask the guy and he just flips his shit, he's all like "i'm paying rent here, and i'm just trying to relive my college years (he did not tell me this when he moved in) and she wants to tell me what to do??? i'm offended! fuck her!" because one of his not particularly charming habits is laying out on the living room couch and turning led zeppelin up to 11 ("at least i don't turn it up to 12" were his words when i complained about it) semi regularly. he'll turn it down when you ask him, but you do have to ask him. every time. he knows it's wrong, but he constantly does it, and he knowingly does it despite knowing that it's the wrong thing to do ("i like to do what i want and just deal with the consequences in the morning" was his explanation when i complained about that). because he's an alcoholic manchild

and we met another roommate who i found positively perfect - again, she seemed totally accommodating of my "roommates = private bedrooms with lower rent & utilities" lifestyle, and in fact she seemed to share the same opinion about such things, but upon offering her the room, she sent me the following e-mail:

I liked the room and the apartment a lot but I have to be honest with you. I was uncomfortable with [the creepy alcoholic manchild] and I don't think I'd get along with him as a long term roommate.

he's ridiculous. i'm not going to move out, because this apartment is positively perfect otherwise, and for my own part, he's easy enough to ignore because i spend most of my time on my own, but he keeps driving away decent potential roommates with his ridiculous sexist mid life crisis bullshit.

what a cock

what a cock

Dorothy Wood
08-09-2009, 03:39 AM
I don't think you should let women live there. you need to find two other middle aged drunks.

Adam
08-09-2009, 03:42 AM
I think you've either gotta make it impossible for him to live there some how or move out - that is my experience with problematic room mates. Do whatever is easiest.

Bob
08-09-2009, 03:48 AM
I don't think you should let women live there. you need to find two other middle aged drunks.

yeah but if it were me and three other middle aged drunks it'd be unlivable for me because they'd be ridiculous

this dick's a plauge

maybe he'll get cirrhosis and die

sjp
08-09-2009, 03:58 AM
i hope i don't have to deal with a roommate like this

Adam
08-09-2009, 04:04 AM
i hope i don't have to deal with a roommate like this

I think everyone has to deal with bad room mates at some point and the type of people that need to have room mates is the type of person that can't find another good place easily either due to location, money or most probably both.

But yes, that is more of a warning - I'm not saying you should live with it though, just good luck.

Can you set up a fake facebook or something and get in contact with him like some old high-school crush is in washington state or something. It'll play right into his mid life crisis and then sell his stuff and change the locks when he is gone. If he comes back, just deny ever knowing him

Michelle*s_Farm
08-09-2009, 04:07 AM
sorry to hear about your situation. this reminds me of why i no longer have roommates. although in some ways i miss having different people around.

Bob
08-09-2009, 04:15 AM
Can you set up a fake facebook or something and get in contact with him like some old high-school crush is in washington state or something. It'll play right into his mid life crisis and then sell his stuff and change the locks when he is gone. If he comes back, just deny ever knowing him

ahaha

i bet that would work actually. we set up a joint gmail account for craigslist replies and one of them was from a "woman" with very poor grammar who sent a picture of herself along with her e-mail (you know, because that's what you do when you respond to craigslist ads, right?) and he did not find this suspicious. in fact he literally wrote to me "whoa, how'd you like to wake up to that in the morning!"

this guy

he's a dick

Kid Presentable
08-09-2009, 04:39 AM
I always imagine I'll wind up like your 44 year old roommate Bob. :(

pshabi
08-09-2009, 05:29 AM
I always imagine I'll wind up like your 44 year old roommate Bob. :(

That's pretty fuckin' sad, Kid.

Big Gus
08-09-2009, 07:10 AM
Have you tried hitting him?

Kid Presentable
08-09-2009, 08:33 AM
That's pretty fuckin' sad, Kid.

Yeah.

hitmonlee
08-09-2009, 08:52 AM
that was a great rant, i was captivated from the beginning.

no solutions though :/ just have to settle for someone desperate enough to move in.

say to him "if you want a chick to move in, you have to lift your game, otherwise we will only ever attract a dude".

my housemate lives in the loungeroom. one housemate moved out and we discussed getting another housemate. he said he cbf cleaning up and moving back into his room, so him and my other housemate are covering a fair amount of rent and i am paying a bit more. and no new person to deal with. we're happy (y)

checkyourprez
08-09-2009, 10:45 AM
good read.


to bad its real life and not fiction.


i would start putting ground up glass in his food.

slowly, it will take care of your problem.

na§tee
08-09-2009, 11:13 AM
slowly, it will take care of your problem.
i LOLed at how sinister this sounded, heheh.

DipDipDive
08-09-2009, 11:19 AM
You're not going to find cool, mellow chicks who are willing to live with this dude. I think you already know that. Start looking for male roommates. Maybe if it's all guys in the house, the manchild will get tired of not having boobs to look at and he'll move out. (y)

b i o n i c
08-09-2009, 01:21 PM
this is simple.

if he's clean, become REALLY messy. if he's messy, become REALLY clean. every little thing will become a reason for a sit-down. keep a list on the fridge.

start listening to reggaeton or salsa music, or anything really annoying. tell him you started a long distance relationship online so you're trying to get into her culture before you get to meet sometime next summer. any kind of music that will drive him insane.

don't ever flush the toilet. maybe even miss a little here and there.

start taking your roommates things and throwing them out. just make em disappear. but you have to do this little by little, he can never know its you. led zep albums.. trash. beer... down the drain. then completely deny any knowledge of anything. and if he ever asks, just ask him how much he had to drink the night before give him the D: look when you walk away as you shake your head in disgust.

i realize you will have to live with this yourself for a while, but no one ever said good things come easy. good luck(y)

checkyourprez
08-09-2009, 01:26 PM
this is simple.

if he's clean, become REALLY messy. if he's messy, become REALLY clean. every little thing will become a reason for a sit-down. keep a list on the fridge.

start listening to reggaeton or salsa music, or anything really annoying. tell him you started a long distance relationship online so you're trying to get into her culture before you get to meet sometime next summer. any kind of music that will drive him insane.

don't ever flush the toilet. maybe even miss a little here and there.

start taking your roommates things and throwing them out. just make em disappear. but you have to do this little by little, he can never know its you. led zep albums.. trash. beer... down the drain. then completely deny any knowledge of anything. and if he ever asks, just ask him how much he had to drink the night before give him the D: look when you walk away as you shake your head in disgust.

i realize you will have to live with this yourself for a while, but no one ever said good things come easy. good luck(y)

that made me laugh in real life.

abcdefz
08-09-2009, 01:30 PM
This apartment is perfect! I'll take it!

MC Moot
08-09-2009, 02:18 PM
^Look what the cat dragged in...the creme de la creme without the skin...(y)

yeahwho
08-09-2009, 02:22 PM
Call the cops on him a few times, flat tires, trip the hot water tank breaker, toss one sock at a time until none of his socks match.

Call the IRS and have him audited. Call his relatives and say he is dating your 16 year old sister. Always shake his beer cans extra hard.

Everyday use a payphone call say "I'm watching you" then hang up. Post level III sex offender posters around the block with a picture of him all frothed up listening to Led Zep.

I haven't had a roommate for years, the last one volunteered one day to just up and move. I'm telling you bob your peace of mind is a million times more important than this asshole.

abcdefz
08-09-2009, 02:30 PM
^Look what the cat dragged in...the creme de la creme without the skin...(y)


Yo. (y)

yeahwho
08-09-2009, 02:31 PM
Yo. (y)

Your not bobs roommate are you?

abcdefz
08-09-2009, 02:32 PM
Bob -- I know he's on the lease, but can't you just ask him to leave?

When is the lease up?

If nothing else, I'd seriously think about apartment hunting and just starting over. A bad environment just ain't worth it, and a good environment is worth whatever effort it takes. That's your home, man. You gotta go home to that shit every day.

abcdefz
08-09-2009, 02:33 PM
Your not bobs roommate are you?

Except for the lecherous little girl thing, I could be.

hpdrifter
08-09-2009, 06:16 PM
Can you set up a fake facebook or something and get in contact with him like some old high-school crush is in washington state or something.

Don't send him to Washington state! :mad:

Bob, don't you have a landlord? Can you tell the landlord this guy is making it impossible to fill the vacancies? Maybe he'll toss him out.

The Notorious LOL
08-09-2009, 06:28 PM
find someone to take over your spot, or bail out of the lease.

Audio.
08-09-2009, 07:49 PM
pfff relive his college years, right. Sounds like this room mate needs to grow some pair of balls and harden the fuck up and be an adult.

Jiberish
08-09-2009, 08:15 PM
I know of a pretty great two bedroom apartment in Jamaica Plain right now. I've lived in almost every lil' part of Boston, and JP is by far the bee's knees.

I'll get you the info if you're interested.

Bob
08-09-2009, 08:22 PM
i used to live in JP, it is a pretty cool neighborhood.

i'm happy enough where i am for now though - he is a dick but he's easy enough to live with, i can just ignore him mostly. and apart from him, the apartment and the location are absolutely perfect, i really don't want to move. it's just that trying to deal with him like an adult is a real hassle, he's just a child, he talks and talks and talks and never sticks to a point and he makes a big deal over just the smallest shit...ugh

maybe he'll fall off a boat

yeahwho
08-09-2009, 08:58 PM
Become a lawyer and sue his ass

checkyourprez
08-09-2009, 09:27 PM
i used to live in JP, it is a pretty cool neighborhood.

i'm happy enough where i am for now though - he is a dick but he's easy enough to live with, i can just ignore him mostly. and apart from him, the apartment and the location are absolutely perfect, i really don't want to move. it's just that trying to deal with him like an adult is a real hassle, he's just a child, he talks and talks and talks and never sticks to a point and he makes a big deal over just the smallest shit...ugh

maybe he'll fall off a boat

ive often thought that is the easiest way to kill someone and get away with it. take a cruise with them act all lovey dovey. go for a late night walk and dump em.

possible solution?

Videodrome
08-09-2009, 10:46 PM
When you reflect on this stage in your life years from now, will you remember how nice the apartment was or how shitty this roommate was?

cubsfirstplace
08-09-2009, 11:29 PM
tell him that if he wants to relieve his college days he's going to have to start drinking even more. than start slipping vodka into all his drinks so that he will constantly be passed out

Jiberish
08-10-2009, 09:13 AM
maybe he'll fall off a boat

Overboard Style. Then you can show up at police headquarters and convince him he is your wife and the mother of your four rowdy boys [aged 13-6]. Make him work off his [social] debt to you while accidentally falling in love and living happily ever after. But not before you both learn something about yourselves.

It's a good plan.

hpdrifter
08-10-2009, 11:45 AM
I love that movie.

I prepared and handled raw food?

Nuzzolese
08-10-2009, 12:33 PM
I feel so sorry for you, Bob. That sucks. How much longer can you afford to go without a third or fourth roommate?

The suggestions to drive him out by driving him crazy are pretty funny, but if it were me, putting all that effort into it would drive me crazy first.

I think your only option is male roommates. Honestly, I would think it a great moral negligence on your part to even allow females to live in the same apartment with this guy. You'd be an accomplice to whatever he snooped on, and can you really concieve of living with those consequences?

Nuzzolese
08-10-2009, 12:35 PM
I love that movie.

I prepared and handled raw food?

A falsetto child?