Buying Gifts for Significant Others

[ToucanSpam]

I suppose everyone has their own idea of what is an appropriate amount of money to spend on a gift for a girlfriend/boyfriend/fiance/whatever, but I'm curious if that amount of money changes with time or perhaps as the relationship becomes more or less serious. I know Christmas is months and months away, but I had a conversation with my girlfriend the other day about gift buying in general and somehow we managed to get to Christmas. I'm not really sure what would be a fair amount to spend; my natural instinct is to go all out, but I've been warned that I can't do that this time around. Thoughts?

[b i o n i c]

she's saying, "save the fuck up and buy me something better/bigger/shinier than last christ!mas(y)"

[cosmo105]

it all depends on what you can afford. if it makes you super broke, then don't get it. obviously a little bit of investment is a nice gesture, but really most of us ladies will care more about the thought behind it than the money. if it's a really thoughtful and awesome gift, i don't care if it was cheap.

[Rock]

I think it all depends on the gift. Like one year it can be something super expensive like some jewelry or something lame like that. and the next time it could just be something that you got a thrift store for $15 that is a perfect gift for them. The amount should not matter.

[bigblu89]

I think it all depends on the gift. Like one year it can be something super expensive like some jewelry or something lame like that. and the next time it could just be something that you got a thrift store for $15 that is a perfect gift for them. The amount should not matter.

This.

I know my lady would rather me spend $10 on something I know she wanted or would love, than $100 on something just becasue I had to get her SOMETHING for Xmas or her birthday.

[Echewta]

I only date girls who buy me expensive gifts. The girls are kicking to the curb hos.

[mickill]

Take out a loan if you have to. Interest rates are low right now.

[hpdrifter]

I definitely prefer personal gifts to expensive.

A mix CD is totally free* and I love to see what songs remind him of me.

*I in no way advocate the illegal downloading of music for free and herein refer only to songs downloaded from a licensed proprietor (iTunes) or ripped from cds already owned.

[Beckalina]

she's saying, "save the fuck up and buy me something better/bigger/shinier than last christ!mas(y)"

In other words....she wants a dildo.

[jabumbo]

hi beckalina!

[Dorothy Wood]

I think I need to see a picture of this girlfriend in order to fully assess what type of gifts she'd be into and the amount of money you should spend.



otherwise...I dunno, I've only had money and a boyfriend at the same time for one christmas. I spent about a hundred bucks. I got him a cool wallet that I thought he'd like because the one he had was falling apart but he hadn't seen any that he liked enough to buy. He liked it very much. I also got him a gift certificate to his favorite record store and prob some other silly stuff that I can't remember.

he got me a bag full of candy and silly stickers and those parachute army men and had commissioned a lady to hand make me a very cute purse.

that thoughtful bastard, I coulda punched him right in the face I loved him so much.

[paul jones]

buy her some Star Wars action figures

[Michelle*s_Farm]

buy her some Star Wars action figures

A chica brava got me a stormtrooper action figure last year -- what do i make of that? ;)

[Adam]

Go with the free method - make her something if you have any talents or take the pain out of buying and just say you'll buy her a posh(ish) night out with you cus the chances are you're gonna do that anyway at some point, might as well make it a gift.

But, when its the first Christmas I tend to overspend as I get a little excited and I like buying people gifts.

[paul jones]

A chica brava got me a stormtrooper action figure last year -- what do i make of that? ;)

what's a chica brava?

Have you given your stormtrooper a name ? I'd probably call mine Nigel

[Michelle*s_Farm]

what's a chica brava?

Have you given your stormtrooper a name ? I'd probably call mine Nigel

Translated literally it means a "brave woman" I suppose. It is an adventurous woman who is fearless. I suppose this is why there is a surf school for women in Nicaragua called ChicaBrava.

http://www.chicabrava.com/

No name yet. Nigel is a good idea though :)
I was thinking Storm Thurmond after Strom Thurmond (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strom_Thurmond).

[paul jones]

Translated literally it means a "brave woman" I suppose. It is an adventurous woman who is fearless. I suppose this is why there is a surf school for women in Nicaragua called ChicaBrava.

http://www.chicabrava.com/

No name yet. Nigel is a good idea though :)
I was thinking Storm Thurmond after Strom Thurmond (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Strom_Thurmond).

thanks for the chica brava explanations.I'm going to bed now(y)

[Michelle*s_Farm]

thanks for the chica brava explanations.I'm going to bed now(y)

have a good one :)

[Kid Presentable]

I've bought her some shite, and some nice things. Same for her. This chrimbo she's getting this (http://au.tiffany.com/Shopping/Item.aspx?fromGrid=1&sku=GRP01838&mcat=148204&cid=287465&search_params=s+5-p+40-c+287465-r+601323339-x+-n+6-ri+-ni+0-t+) and some other bullshit.

[Gareth]

once i gave a girl a subway loyalty card which basically meant she got a free sub and drink

[Kid Presentable]

once i gave a girl a subway loyalty card which basically meant she got a free sub and drink

Dope. If I were a broad I'd swoon for a free sub. Subway drink refills, too.

[ToucanSpam]

Thanks for the ideas, folks. I like the idea of keeping it reasonable in price but meaningful. As a full time student I don't have the money to buy things that are expensive like jewelry. She a tough one to shop for...but I think I have a couple of ideas now that would be both sweet and practical. Merci!

[Kid Presentable]

Good luck Toucs. (y)

[jabumbo]

I've bought her some shite, and some nice things. Same for her. This chrimbo she's getting this (http://au.tiffany.com/Shopping/Item.aspx?fromGrid=1&sku=GRP01838&mcat=148204&cid=287465&search_params=s+5-p+40-c+287465-r+601323339-x+-n+6-ri+-ni+0-t+) and some other bullshit.


thanks for that.


i'm going to give the same thing to her at hanukkah so that when she opens yours at chrimbo, the thought is rendered meaningless

[Kid Presentable]

guns at dawn in fromptoooooooooon woah woah

[mickill]

You could weave her a dreamcatcher for her rear view mirror.

[nodanaonlyzuul]

I think it just depends on what I know about the person and how much money I have at the moment. I don't make very much money at all but he knows that and doesn't really care what kind of gift he gets, he says "just love me". Haha.

I think for Christmas I spent around $50-ish?

For his birthday I think around $50 as well. Then there were some random gifts I gave that ranged $10-20.

For our anniversary I spent about $160.

[monkey]

i spend whatever i can when i can, not even with just sig others, but with my brother and my parents as well.

one of the best birthday presents i ever got was about $8. he didnt even have it for my birthday, like 2 weeks later i got the package. it was my ebola toy. it meant so much to me that he remembered and got it for me.

thoughtfulness counts a million times more than amount, as long as the bitch aint a golddigga

[na§tee]

i'd be happy with a nice meal and oral sex, thanks.

[Freebasser]

From ToucanSpam?

[mickill]

From ToucanSpam?



Oh shit. NICE!

[ToucanSpam]

I eat both the same way.

[Freebasser]

You tuck into a vagina with a knife and fork?

[ToucanSpam]

I was thinking more about finger foods.

[cosmo105]

:(

[Kid Presentable]

Put a towel down.

[ToucanSpam]

I was only rolling with the joke, folks. Sorry it went too far.

[Dorothy Wood]

:(


qft

[cosmo105]

can i just say here that my boyfriend gets me flowers every week and just gave me a really romantic mix cd and i'm so happy with it i could barf. but, he doesn't just get me flowers on anniversaries or holidays or stuff. nothing that's what he calls "out of obligation." that's not romantic.

oh, and just for a gift he's getting me a new knife. the significance of this is that i work in a kitchen (YAY) and although i do have a nice one, i need a different model. they're pretty pricey for good ones, and it's a good investment . practical, thoughtful, and still something i totally drool over. there's got to be something unique she's really passionate about, that might not be the obvious gift. something that you really had to think about, that she maybe needs or wants but wouldn't buy herself. like a chainsaw.

[na§tee]

From ToucanSpam?
i knew you would say that, ha.

[Freebasser]

I may have said it, but we were all thinking it.

[Kid Presentable]

I'm only buying the gold cause the poor bitch is married to me and she deserves something for being a good sport about it.

[ToucanSpam]

can i just say here that my boyfriend gets me flowers every week and just gave me a really romantic mix cd and i'm so happy with it i could barf. but, he doesn't just get me flowers on anniversaries or holidays or stuff. nothing that's what he calls "out of obligation." that's not romantic.

oh, and just for a gift he's getting me a new knife. the significance of this is that i work in a kitchen (YAY) and although i do have a nice one, i need a different model. they're pretty pricey for good ones, and it's a good investment . practical, thoughtful, and still something i totally drool over. there's got to be something unique she's really passionate about, that might not be the obvious gift. something that you really had to think about, that she maybe needs or wants but wouldn't buy herself. like a chainsaw.


That's great to hear, the guy sounds like a real winner! It's nice to know there are other guys out there who work hard at being romantic. I should steal his idea of a mix CD, I haven't done that one yet.

She's not into forestry or slashing up sexy teens, so I think "chainsaw" might be out. She's very into Egyptology and the Antiquity period, so maybe I'll find something related to that. Problem is she doesn't like to reach very much. Quite the pickle, but we're spending the weekend together in two weeks so I might do some recon. I asked her if she would like to go shopping together and she seemed very delighted, so that will be my chance to pick her brain for ideas. We've got an anniversary coming up, too. Should be interesting!

[Kid Presentable]

Get 8 years in. The ideas don't come thick and fast then.

[trailerprincess]

I am no ones significant other so for my bday I spent £500 on myself, bought diamond earrings. Not an ounce of guilt about it either.

[Beckalina]

hi beckalina!

Hi

[cosmo105]

I am currently enraged with FedEx as they have prevented me from getting my anniversary gift to my man on time. How have they not figured out yet how to deliver things to apartments?? I have now called them THREE TIMES for this package to make sure it was there, they had the code and there was a note to leave it there, and that everything was fine but nooooooo, and now I need to go pick it up half an hour out of my way tomorrow. This is the billionth time something like this has happened to me with them too. YOU MOTHERFUCKERS. :mad:

[hpdrifter]

I'm only buying the gold cause the poor bitch is married to me and she deserves something for being a good sport about it.

Haha, I remember seeing this the first time and it's still some funny shit.

[Dorothy Wood]

what'd you get the girlfriend, toucan?


It's weird that a month after I replied to this thread, I was suddenly in a relationship. anyway, I got my stinker a bunch of stuff, probably too much. He really wanted an obnoxious graphic hoody, harder to find than you'd think...since it was last year's trend. Scored one for $15 though. I got him a print he wanted and framed it, some flash cards with stuff he likes on them, an electric can opener, some old notebooks from a thrift store, a cactus, a finger puppet, a western style shirt.

He liked all of it and the clothes fit him perfectly. (y)

[ToucanSpam]

what'd you get the girlfriend, toucan?


It's weird that a month after I replied to this thread, I was suddenly in a relationship. anyway, I got my stinker a bunch of stuff, probably too much. He really wanted an obnoxious graphic hoody, harder to find than you'd think...since it was last year's trend. Scored one for $15 though. I got him a print he wanted and framed it, some flash cards with stuff he likes on them, an electric can opener, some old notebooks from a thrift store, a cactus, a finger puppet, a western style shirt.

He liked all of it and the clothes fit him perfectly. (y)

I cannot remember...but I hit a home run with an emerald on a white gold chain this past Xmas. I went out of my way to research what each gem represents and I picked emerald because it means love and relationships. And because she was born on St. Paddy's Day. I stuffed the box into this bear I bought that held a little bag that said 'something special' on the front of it. Corny, but she loved it.:)

Also, I'd like like to say that women know how to dress their boyfriends infinitely better than they can dress themselves. It's a fact based on real science, if you don't believe me.