Six degrees of seperation. Or something like that.

[russhie]

Over the summer myself and a friend met this group of guys randomly at a McDonalds after a night out at a club when I had to get out of my car to pay in the drive-thru after I stupidly drove past the "pay here" window.

Since then they have since simultaneously entertained us and been the bane of our existence. One asked me out, I declined, and then I dated and slept with a mutual friend of the group (random meeting at a club) months later. They original group are actually quite horrible boys (we know this now) but they're all my friends on facebook, and a terrible pattern has developed where one of them will pop up as facebook friends with my er, beau of the moment.

Example. My dalliance with friend-of-the-group boy resulted in a guy I was quite fond of calling things off between he and I because he'd found out I'd slept the friend guy. Turns out friend guy is actually the brother of the girl his best mate is shagging - so even though they don't actually know each other they know of each other and it all got horribly complicated from there, I should have stalked friend lists on facebook more!

And I just found out that my current favourite boy's best mate is friends with all of them. I'm worried my past with them will ruin things for me again, ergh. I need to start handing out a questionairre to potenial bedmates or something.

Oh, and. My ex went on a trip to Greece about a month ago and when he came home some girl he met over there was listed as a friend suggestion (thanks, facebook!) as we had two mutual friends. Two, what? Some random Jewish kid I'd met at a festival was her friend too and so now my ex and I are weirdly connected on facebook via hookups with other people.

Is it common for this shit to happen?

[camo]

Facebook will fuck up a relationship.

[monkey]

this is why i desire to meet strangers. it shouldn't be so hard in a city with nearly 20 million people. alas, it is.

oh and i dont facebook flings. it's asking for trouble.

[Dorothy Wood]

a lot of people in my group of friends have slept with each other. my ex's ex slept with my previous ex. my ex slept with a girl who's slept with all my exes and everyone I've even made out with. my friend married a girl who used to be another friend's "love of his life". that friend started sleeping with a girl who was another friend's "soul mate" after they broke up. and another friend was secretly dating his sister.


everyone just keeps quiet about it though, we're all still friends. my advice would be to be more careful about who you friend on fb.

[nodanaonlyzuul]

I think an effort has to be made to date well outside of friends or mutual friends if you don't want this to happen.

But sometimes it really can be a small world.

[Echewta]

Its quite natural to date and/or sleep with people in your inner and outer circle. Facebook just shows you who they all are. I think the problem would be when people start getting on you about something they saw on facebook etc. Thats when its time to start hitting the x and "yes I'm sure."

[hpdrifter]

Wow, and I thought my group of friends was scarily incestuous.

I don't have any advice. I honestly don't see a way around these things except it is sort of unclear to me why you end up with random hookups as facebook friends.

[Freebasser]

No matter how many times I tried to read that, I couldn't because my brain couldn't comprehend all this 'uncle's friend's girlfriend's sister's niece's bff' malarkey.

[Bob]

No matter how many times I tried to read that, I couldn't because my brain couldn't comprehend all this 'uncle's friend's girlfriend's sister's niece's bff' malarkey.

something about luke skywalker being her father?

[Nuzzolese]

I think I'm going to need this explained in a more elaborated story form, with names, maybe even pictures.

[Freebasser]

Talking of pictures... where's that picture of The Incredible Vulk?

[Nuzzolese]

I'm not so sure I want it out there anymore!

[Freebasser]

But it's for a good cause!

[Nuzzolese]

Lets start out with Tedward and Ivanhoe. They’re best friends and teammates on a rugby team. For a while, Ivanhoe has been sleeping with this cute volleyball player named Calixta. Calixta thinks it’s love because she’s kind of a doormat, but Ivanhoe is a bit of a player. Calixta’s older brother, Dashwood, is really protective of her and he hates Ivanhoe and everything Ivanhoe stands for, including his teammates on their rugby team, whom Dashwood thinks are a bunch of misogynist lug-heads. He and his horrible friends used to go to the rugby matches and taunt them to make them mess up.

One Friday night, months ago, Russhie met Dashwood and his (secretly horrible) friends at a McDonalds and one of them asked her out but she said no. The rest of them have since then been hanging around Russhie and her friends all the time. Russhie dated and slept with Dashwood. Again, this was ages ago.

Not too long ago, Russhie met Tedward randomly at a club and they were hanging out having fun until Tedward noticed her friends on facebook and found out that she’d had relations with the infamous Dashwood. He called her up and was like “if you’re into that type of overly-protective, controlling freak who screwed up our rugby matches and taunted me in public, then I want nothing of you!” Damn! Harsh!

But Russhie got over it and she met Ezekial who is so sweet and kind. But…Ezekial’s best friend is Dashwood’s tennis partner and they play every weekend. What next?

[Dorothy Wood]

Lets start out with Tedward and Ivanhoe. They’re best friends and teammates on a rugby team. For a while, Ivanhoe has been sleeping with this cute volleyball player named Calixta. Calixta thinks it’s love because she’s kind of a doormat, but Ivanhoe is a bit of a player. Calixta’s older brother, Dashwood, is really protective of her and he hates Ivanhoe and everything Ivanhoe stands for, including his teammates on their rugby team, whom Dashwood thinks are a bunch of misogynist lug-heads. He and his horrible friends used to go to the rugby matches and taunt them to make them mess up.

One Friday night, months ago, Russhie met Dashwood and his (secretly horrible) friends at a McDonalds and one of them asked her out but she said no. The rest of them have since then been hanging around Russhie and her friends all the time. Russhie dated and slept with Dashwood. Again, this was ages ago.

Not too long ago, Russhie met Tedward randomly at a club and they were hanging out having fun until Tedward noticed her friends on facebook and found out that she’d had relations with the infamous Dashwood. He called her up and was like “if you’re into that type of overly-protective, controlling freak who screwed up our rugby matches and taunted me in public, then I want nothing of you!” Damn! Harsh!

But Russhie got over it and she met Ezekial who is so sweet and kind. But…Ezekial’s best friend is Dashwood’s tennis partner and they play every weekend. What next?

Is this the plot to Twilight?

[rirv]

I was made to sit through Twilight last week.

The bit about them being vampires was probably the most credible and believable part of the plot.

[russhie]

Just to be clear, I don't sleep with people I know to be friends with people I know, or friends of those I've fucked. I was just wondering how common this "small world" thing is.

And it's not really facebook that ruins things, it's the eventual realisation (outside of facebook, as in, through real face to face conversations) that I've done something with someone who knows someone else. Or something like that. Anyway. Facebook just makes it easier to go aha! after the fact or to warn me about impending doom should I choose to stalk.

I think it's pretty common to add casual flings to facebook anyway - most guys I see casually I have decent relationships with, so they're like friends to me anyway. Beyond that it's general curiosity and being able to check out friends and photos I suppose.