how many people have you dated at once?

[Dorothy Wood]

because I am finding myself in quite a pickle, and I don't know how to get out of it...or around it. sooo, I've got that young guy who's clearly interested in me and is actively pursuing me. and I've got the longtime crush that I kissed last weekend, who has asked me to go to a concert with him saturday night. which is kind of a big deal, because he never asks me in advance to do things.

now, if I apply occam's razor to this mess, I should go with the young guy. buuut, I've liked the other dude for about 1.5 years, and our kiss was pretty natural and sparky. and as I neglected to mention in the other thread, afterward he said, "that was awesome". but, he is also very vague and hard to read and not explicitly saying he wants to date or even make out.

I might have to turn this fully into an episode of friends by making a pro/con list tonight with my girlfriends.

feast or famine man...I went like a whole year without even kissing anyone (besides on new years, but that doesn't count), and now everyone's all up in my business.

*ducks tomatoes*


anyway, the only thing I know about dating multiple people is from t.v. and movies, and usually everything just blows up in the multi-dater's face. does anybody have any real life experience with this? or made up experience?

[Randetica]

anyway, the only thing I know about dating multiple people is from t.v. and movies

gangbang movies?

[paul jones]

enee menee minee moe

[Videodrome]

i dated two chicks at once before. i remember making out with the 1st chick when the 2nd chick came over and my dumbass roomate let her in. of course we were making out in bed when the 2nd chick busted in. the 1st chick i was making out with left on the spot and it was over for good. i married the 2nd chick. then we got divorced years later. happy ending?

[Fern]

I just fuck.

[russhie]

Umm, my personal life is pretty dodgy I think. Maybe straight up, look at each guy and what you want from them and go from there.

My ex and I broke up over a year and a half ago, and I haven't dated anyone exclusively since. I've generally got 2-3 guys I'm seeing at once, but everybody knows the score, and knows I'm seeing other people.

Seeing guys can range from dates, to kissing, to casual sex, but I think the most important thing is that the person I'm seeing knows I'm not looking for a relationship and am actively seeing other people. I like it because I get to be different things to different people and I enjoy the diversity of personalities, don't have to rely on any one person for anything blah blah.

It does get difficult juggling them though, at one stage I had three established casual relationships (meaning they'd been running longer than three months, I guess?) and a couple of dating ones and the odd disco pash going on...and sometimes everyone wants you and it can be hard to balance their needs as well as your own.

Having said that, I've maybe only slept with a dozen men in my life, and only two of those were one night things (both were from overseas), as I value the respect and stuff I get out of a non-exclusive, ongoing relationship thingy.

[rirv]

I once got off with two girls in one night. Does that count?:cool::cool::cool:

[Dorothy Wood]

Maybe straight up, look at each guy and what you want from them and go from there.




hmm. I guess I would like to see them both and then figure out which one I like better. but that's not really fair to them, is it? even though I'm sure it happens all the time to people.

so far the guy who's my age is in the lead I would say. we had a fun/funny text session late last night. the young one hasn't returned my text about when we're hanging out, even though he's the one who asked to see me. so, pfft.

either way, my old college roommate is visiting this weekend and I forgot, so I won't be having any dates. bros before hos. I'll be seeing the guy who's my age on sunday and monday anyway at social gatherings.

[MC Moot]

triple trouble in my twenty's...it made me sick with anxiety and shame...(n)

[paul jones]

we had a fun/funny text session .

texts are taking over sex!

bring back sexting

[na§tee]

as long as everyone knows the deal and you're honest from the get go it's fine. i think some men would be quite relieved to hear that you're not looking for a SUPER SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP with them immediately. just stress that they are free to do the same.

[hpdrifter]

Most I've dated at once was 3. I think it's fair to date them and decide which one you like best, that's how it works, isn't it? As long and you're honest about it.

[Dorothy Wood]

well, the one my age only knows that I went on a date with someone. the young one doesn't know anything about my life really. I was under the impression that people were free to date other people until there was an exclusivity conversation? I mean, that's what I saw on t.v. :o


I'm sure this will all work itself out some how. meanwhile, until it explodes or fizzles, I'll just keep walking around feeling like a pimp. :cool:

[Nuzzolese]

I think you're already in danger of hurting the younger guy's feelings.

[ms.peachy]

I was under the impression that people were free to date other people until there was an exclusivity conversation?

That's the way I saw it, when I was single. 'Dating' is dating. 'In a relationship' is in a relationship. If I really liked a guy so much that I didn't date anyone else, that was my choice,; but unless I actually said to him "I really only want to be with you, how do you feel about us not seeing other people" then it would have been unfair of me to expect he would not be entertaining other offers.

[Dorothy Wood]

I think you're already in danger of hurting the younger guy's feelings.

I know. :( but he still hasn't even responded about getting together after saying, "I miss you". I wonder if he got offended that I didn't say "I miss you" back? I mean, I don't say that to anyone, I'm not that kind of person. I'm more of a "wish you were here" kind of person. "I miss you" is just so pansy.

plus, he didn't even contact me for 4 days, then he's all, "I want to see you". bleh. well, I'm sorry, I have plans with the girls already. hmph.

[nodanaonlyzuul]

I've dated up to three people at once but that was because I didn't take any of it seriously nor did I think they'd go anywhere serious anyhow.

If it came down to choosing between the two it sounds like neither is good.

I'll explain why:

The young guy is clearly interested in you. This is a plus. If someone wants to be with you there should be no games or pussyfooting around about it. No vagueness, just clarity. That would be someone that's worth keeping. However, if you are finding that you do not share the same feelings about him, it's unfair for you to keep him around just because how he feels about you.

With the other guy it's nice that he finally perked up a bit, but how much longer do you have to wait until he is clear that he is in to you? If you are going to be with someone, or want to be, shouldn't you be happy and PROUD that you are dating that person? Why hide it, play games, or be vague? Unless all you want to do is touch their hooha yet still be able to touch other hoohas too, hence keeping it under the radar so other woman don't know. It's all suspicious and silly when they stay vague. And not worth it, in my opinion.

My 2 cents.

[Dorothy Wood]

That's the way I saw it, when I was single. 'Dating' is dating. 'In a relationship' is in a relationship. If I really liked a guy so much that I didn't date anyone else, that was my choice,; but unless I actually said to him "I really only want to be with you, how do you feel about us not seeing other people" then it would have been unfair of me to expect he would not be entertaining other offers.


yeah, I thought that was pretty standard. I've never really been a dater though, so I wasn't sure.

[Dorothy Wood]

I've dated up to three people at once but that was because I didn't take any of it seriously nor did I think they'd go anywhere serious anyhow.

If it came down to choosing between the two it sounds like neither is good.

I'll explain why:

The young guy is clearly interested in you. This is a plus. If someone wants to be with you there should be no games or pussyfooting around about it. No vagueness, just clarity. That would be someone that's worth keeping. However, if you are finding that you do not share the same feelings about him, it's unfair for you to keep him around just because how he feels about you.

With the other guy it's nice that he finally perked up a bit, but how much longer do you have to wait until he is clear that he is in to you? If you are going to be with someone, or want to be, shouldn't you be happy and PROUD that you are dating that person? Why hide it, play games, or be vague? Unless all you want to do is touch their hooha yet still be able to touch other hoohas too, hence keeping it under the radar so other woman don't know. It's all suspicious and silly when they stay vague. And not worth it, in my opinion.

My 2 cents.


yeah, I guess I'll know more about what to do after this weekend. my besties seem to think I should go for My Age, or give it a try, or something. Mostly because our kiss was all magical and shit. but you know, it could have just been that the day was magical. I think we'll need to make out to really see. :o

[paul jones]

I could really do with a mexican pizza right now

[Echewta]

I had a two seater one time so two.

[DandyFop]

kelly watch the stars

[Echewta]

You should go out and get some air.

[Kid Presentable]

because I am finding myself in quite a pickle, and I don't know how to get out of it...or around it. sooo, I've got that young guy who's clearly interested in me and is actively pursuing me. and I've got the longtime crush that I kissed last weekend, who has asked me to go to a concert with him saturday night. which is kind of a big deal, because he never asks me in advance to do things.

now, if I apply occam's razor to this mess, I should go with the young guy. buuut, I've liked the other dude for about 1.5 years, and our kiss was pretty natural and sparky. and as I neglected to mention in the other thread, afterward he said, "that was awesome". but, he is also very vague and hard to read and not explicitly saying he wants to date or even make out.

I might have to turn this fully into an episode of friends by making a pro/con list tonight with my girlfriends.

feast or famine man...I went like a whole year without even kissing anyone (besides on new years, but that doesn't count), and now everyone's all up in my business.

*ducks tomatoes*


anyway, the only thing I know about dating multiple people is from t.v. and movies, and usually everything just blows up in the multi-dater's face. does anybody have any real life experience with this? or made up experience?

Shag em all, and think of the true hedonists of the ancient world whenever you feel guilty. (y)

[Micodin]

bros before hos.

Shudder.

[checkyourprez]

1.

i just date em one night at a time.