View Full Version : how long did you wait to have sex
Dorothy Wood
09-15-2009, 05:16 PM
in your current or last relationship?
a friend of mine and her husband slept together on their second date. I usually do the deed about 2-3 weeks in, but there is normally nudity and heavy petting before that. this time, we're waiting, but I don't know for how long. he wants to "get to know me" and "make it special". sooo gay. (just kidding, I think it's darling and a nice change).
anyway, I just want to read sex stories while I'm waiting.
:cool:
NicRN77
09-15-2009, 05:28 PM
I think it really all depends on the person...but I have this 3rd date rule. If it doesn't happen by the 3rd date, it probably isn't going to happen at all.
hpdrifter
09-15-2009, 05:35 PM
With my now husband... second date.
Helvete
09-15-2009, 05:38 PM
3rd date.
cookiepuss
09-15-2009, 05:41 PM
I don't wait.
Audio.
09-15-2009, 05:52 PM
ummm 4 months ago. Sex is basically dating for me so I never really have looked forward at building a relation. Dating is kind of gay I see no point to it at least in my story.
Dorothy Wood
09-15-2009, 06:03 PM
what's the reasoning for waiting until the 3rd date? is it just the rule?
once I read this article in a ladies magazine about this topic and there was a couple in there who dated for a year before even kissing! now that's retarded.
I guess I understand waiting a bit, but what if we wait for like a month and then it's bad or something? then we spent all that time waiting for nothing.
it's a pretty strange situation for me, I crushed on this kid for so long and really only wanted to hook up to see what it was like...but now we are getting to know each other and it's really different, he's way smarter and cooler than I thought originally. I used to just like him because he was odd and I found him cute. but now it's like, dang, I like him, like really like him. so naturally, I want to get down to business. :cool:
I'll wait though...I'll wait....
Freebasser
09-15-2009, 06:20 PM
23 seconds
Helvete
09-15-2009, 06:25 PM
what's the reasoning for waiting until the 3rd date? is it just the rule?
Definitely not a rule, just the way it seems to happen. It's happened in other ways before, but I was just giving an example of last time. I'll go for 2nd next time.
na§tee
09-15-2009, 06:48 PM
erm, a few months? yeah, you can all call me a fucking square, i don't care.
checkyourprez
09-15-2009, 06:55 PM
what's the reasoning for waiting until the 3rd date? is it just the rule?
once I read this article in a ladies magazine about this topic and there was a couple in there who dated for a year before even kissing! now that's retarded.
I guess I understand waiting a bit, but what if we wait for like a month and then it's bad or something? then we spent all that time waiting for nothing.
it's a pretty strange situation for me, I crushed on this kid for so long and really only wanted to hook up to see what it was like...but now we are getting to know each other and it's really different, he's way smarter and cooler than I thought originally. I used to just like him because he was odd and I found him cute. but now it's like, dang, I like him, like really like him. so naturally, I want to get down to business. :cool:
I'll wait though...I'll wait....
not a chance. dude would have the biggest set of these guys (http://nutsfortrucks.com/store/images/blue_balls_big_nft.jpg) if that were true.
Randetica
09-15-2009, 06:57 PM
it's much more exciting and interesting to wait some time instead of spreading your legs right away and give it all away
Kid Presentable
09-15-2009, 07:04 PM
A week or some shit.
23 seconds
no no, the question was "how long did you wait"
i feel comfortable making this joke
DipDipDive
09-15-2009, 07:09 PM
it's much more exciting and interesting to wait some time instead of spreading your legs right away and give it all away
It can also be nothing but a huge disappointment if you wait too long.
I've been thinking about this a lot myself lately (and was totally going to make this thread omgz). I went out on a date with a boy last week and we made out and it was fucking amazing, made me want to get into his underwear immediately, but I think I need to change my approach. In the past, my relationships have evolved post-boning, and...well, obviously none of those relationships worked out. I definitely want to wait with this dude, mostly to ensure that we have the same intentions and want the same things, etc. I'm concerned about waiting too long though, because sex is super important to me and if it's not good or seems to have no room for improvement, I don't want to feel as though I've wasted my time.
Date #5 seems like a good idea to me for some reason.
Randetica
09-15-2009, 07:11 PM
It can also be nothing but a huge disappointment if you wait too long.
im not talking about decades
DipDipDive
09-15-2009, 07:12 PM
Neither am I.
To be honest I don't really bother with all that 'right time' type of thought. If it feels right now...do it.
Same goes for farting in front of them and meeting their parents.
Life's too short to fret about things that have so many personal variables.
Randetica
09-15-2009, 07:17 PM
Neither am I.
i could NEVER have sex with a guy that im not in love with or not fully trust so the 3rd date seems waaaay early for me
each to their own, i guess
but my each is better than your own
p.s. i didnt read your full post before i just wrote this so my response probably doesnt make sense but im too lazy to delete it
DipDipDive
09-15-2009, 07:22 PM
At this point in my life, sex is a pertinent aspect of my relationship happiness, and lack of sexual chemistry with someone who I would otherwise consider a potential life partner is most definitely a deal-breaker.
But I understand what you're saying.
Dorothy Wood
09-15-2009, 07:25 PM
At this point in my life, sex is a pertinent aspect of my relationship happiness, and lack of sexual chemistry with someone who I would otherwise consider a potential life partner is most definitely a deal-breaker.
But I understand what you're saying.
seconded
are you girls free this weekend?
checkyourprez
09-15-2009, 07:29 PM
i could NEVER have sex with a guy that im not in love with or not fully trust so the 3rd date seems waaaay early for me
each to their own, i guess
but my each is better than your own
p.s. i didnt read your full post before i just wrote this so my response probably doesnt make sense but im too lazy to delete it
these 2 things take a long time to develop. at least with me. i dont have that kind of time to be wasting not boning chicks. my dick doesnt fuck itself you know what i mean.
Helvete
09-15-2009, 07:31 PM
I'm really quite good at sex by the way, so it's not like anyone regrets it.
Randetica
09-15-2009, 07:33 PM
At this point in my life, sex is a pertinent aspect of my relationship happiness, and lack of sexual chemistry with someone who I would otherwise consider a potential life partner is most definitely a deal-breaker.
But I understand what you're saying.
hey, stop it! youre my age!
i swear once ive jumped him ill turn into the biggest whore you can imagine but first anything else needs to fit
Helvete
09-15-2009, 07:38 PM
Good luck!
checkyourprez
09-15-2009, 07:49 PM
hey, stop it! youre my age!
i swear once ive jumped him ill turn into the biggest whore you can imagine but first anything else needs to fit
by that time youll be an old hag.
or hell be like wtf this girl sucks, time to get someone that knows what they are doing.
who buys a car without test driving it?
nodanaonlyzuul
09-15-2009, 08:11 PM
I'm usually the type that doesn't wait all that long (a week or two maybe) because I want to know what I'm getting in to. If I am going to end up in a serious relationship, I want to know the sex is good. Otherwise I know myself and I will want to stray if it's not and I don't want to do that.
The flip side of that is some men that may not want to take me seriously because of how fast I would sleep with them. But eh, whatever. I know what I want. Eat me.
However, I found that the best type of men (aka my boyfriend, the best boyfriend ever) are the type that don't think less of me because I wanted to that soon.
He is the one that held off and said he wanted to wait. It was a month and a week I believe before we had sex. And the sex was fantastic. Thank goodness. ;) And if he waited any longer I would have said forget it because I wanted it, damn it.
DW, I think it may turn out to be a good thing that he wants to wait. But I'd say a month or two is more than enough time to wait. Any longer than that and you need to question if he is actually hetero.
funk63
09-15-2009, 09:25 PM
I boned my girlfriend when I was 17 within the first month or so of dating her, would of been sooner but I had no car at the time and we lived far apart.
Haven't lost my dude virginity yet though.
RobMoney$
09-15-2009, 10:03 PM
Haven't lost my dude virginity yet though.
This kid's nuts.
(y)
Dorothy Wood
09-15-2009, 10:17 PM
DW, I think it may turn out to be a good thing that he wants to wait. But I'd say a month or two is more than enough time to wait. Any longer than that and you need to question if he is actually hetero.
yeah, that seems like kind of a long time...ha. especially since we've already had two overnights. I guess I'm just concerned that he's not attracted to me, but that's mainly because I've known him so long and I know he usually goes for skinny minnies. I mean, we discussed it, and he assures me that he is indeed attracted to me. he just wants to take things slow and be serious and open and honest and for us to really care about each other or some shit. it's fucking adorable. overall he seems really geeked about us being a couple. I just have a hard time trusting people I guess.
I should really stop posting about this stuff. he's made like 4 beastieboys references since we've been hanging out and I'm getting scared that he'll wander in here or something. :(
checkyourprez
09-15-2009, 10:26 PM
yeah, that seems like kind of a long time...ha. especially since we've already had two overnights. I guess I'm just concerned that he's not attracted to me, but that's mainly because I've known him so long and I know he usually goes for skinny minnies. I mean, we discussed it, and he assures me that he is indeed attracted to me. he just wants to take things slow and be serious and open and honest and for us to really care about each other or some shit. it's fucking adorable. overall he seems really geeked about us being a couple. I just have a hard time trusting people I guess.
I should really stop posting about this stuff. he's made like 4 beastieboys references since we've been hanging out and I'm getting scared that he'll wander in here or something. :(
maybe he already has ;)
Dorothy Wood
09-15-2009, 10:31 PM
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!
DipDipDive
09-16-2009, 12:41 AM
I just got home from date #2 with aforementioned dude, and after careful consideration I think that waiting until date #5 might be unrealistic. Fuck you, libido. :mad:
paul jones
09-16-2009, 01:51 AM
last time was 4 or 5 days.alcohol played a big role in that though.
I miss sex a lot but thank the lord for hands(y)
wait for it to be special coming from a dude is pretty gay. don't be suprised if the queer fucking cries after..... :rolleyes:
My rule of thumb if I bang the first time I meet the cunt, I usually never talk to her again. If she doesn't spred em' it may be worth it.
Currently, I waited one month, or maybe just a little under. a little let down about the quality.
Nuzzolese
09-16-2009, 09:30 AM
We've been together for about 3 and a half years. I'm thinking the Saturday after next will be the special night, finally!
Dorothy Wood
09-16-2009, 09:56 AM
We've been together for about 3 and a half years. I'm thinking the Saturday after next will be the special night, finally!
nice! order the lobster.
I received an early morning text with a beastie boys reference, that brings us up to 5. my days are numbered....this will be my last transmission.
If he's making that many Beastie Boys references then he probably only posts in the Beastie General section and never comes over to this section... on the one hand it's good because he won't see your posts, but then on the other it means he's a total nerd who wants to talk about whether Mike D is Screech's bro or whether you can buy MCA's shoes from the internet.
b i o n i c
09-16-2009, 11:49 AM
oh snap, beastie boys references! does he know you come here?
waiting for the special moment means he wants to get married and have seven children with you asap, dorothy! don't be fooled by takin it slow, its a headfake! im plaayin
maybe you do too, i dunno(y)
You can name them Adrock, MCA, Mike D, Mix Master Mike, DJ Hurricane, Mario C and Money Mark! LOL I LUV Baetsy Bwoyz!:cool: It's going to happen.
Dorothy Wood
09-16-2009, 12:08 PM
rirv, you hush!
bionic, we are already engaged.
hpdrifter
09-16-2009, 12:09 PM
Does he know you post here? Does he know your user name?
nodanaonlyzuul
09-16-2009, 12:14 PM
Now that I think about it I don't think one or two months is a decent wait. That's way too long.
It just FELT that long to me because the time was relatively condensed. We lived 3 miles from each other so we hung out a lot.
The first time, we kissed. Then we made out. Then there was oral. Then there was lots of oral because he wanted to wait. So I think around the third week is when we finally did it.
Dorothy Wood
09-16-2009, 12:17 PM
Does he know you post here? Does he know your user name?
no, and no. I doubt he comes here. it's just funny that in a seemingly normal conversation I will suddenly feel embarrassed and uncomfortable when he mentions the name. ha.
I think normal humans still think the boys are cool and that talking about them is cool; but not us BF people, we've been there, done that.
they're just one of his favorite groups among many that he speaks of.
I dunno, I've actually had a close friend of mine try to figure out who I was on here and she couldn't. she was like, "there's too much stuff to click on, I didn't even know where to start."
In answer to the original question, we hooked up on a night out on Saturday and again on Thursday when I stayed over and we had a grope. Then Saturday was sexy. So, one week. Although we'd known each other for a while, being in the same social groups.
I think it becomes the elephant in the room if you wait too long, unless you both have a specific belief.
Dorothy Wood
11-25-2009, 12:58 AM
2 months and 10 days.
ms.peachy
11-25-2009, 01:04 AM
Almost a year. For real.
DipDipDive
11-25-2009, 01:12 AM
2 months and 10 days.
Was it worth the wait?
b i o n i c
11-25-2009, 01:14 AM
2 months is completely respectable. i wouldnt want to wait too long to find out if we had that type of chemistry or not
Dorothy Wood
11-25-2009, 01:25 AM
Was it worth the wait?
well, I must say it was kind of awkward the first and second time (both happened the same night), but still pretty good. there was a little too much pressure though and I think we were trying too hard.
but then, last night...god damn, girl, god damn! I honestly had no idea I could stand on my tip toes for so long. :cool:
so yeah, no complaints other than it being kinda too much on the fucking side and not enough on the lovemaking side....but that's to be expected, we were both excited and what not. ha. the leisurely humping will come in time I suppose.
also, peachy...wha?
also, sorry for the TMI! I'm drunk and haven't gotten a chance to talk to my best friend yet.
DipDipDive
11-25-2009, 01:27 AM
Relish the early-stage fucking. It'll only be like that for so long, ya dig?
I'm happy for you. (y)
ms.peachy
11-25-2009, 02:06 AM
also, peachy...wha?
Yeah well, that's just how it happened, what can I say. We dated pretty casually for the first 6 months or so, then it got a bit more serious and we stopped seeing other people, and then after a few more months, then, it was time. Five years after that we got married, then after another six years or so we had a kid... we just don't rush into things, what can I tell you.
Dorothy Wood
11-25-2009, 02:22 AM
hey, no judgments, just curious. (y) honestly, I could've waited even longer. with us it's more about genuinely enjoying each other's company...the naughty bits are just icing.
and thanks, DDD. :o
russhie
11-25-2009, 08:22 AM
I'm not really sure it makes a huge difference. Then again, I'm not into serious relationship things right now so maybe that's why. My ex boyfriend and I waited over a year, but we were 16 at the time so it's not really comparable to any adult relationships I've had.
I've had maybe two actual one night stands in my career as a single person, both were dumb drunken fun with internationals I had no desire to see again. Gold. Generally, I'll be seeing a couple of guys at once though, for several months at a time, and I've tried waiting, I've tried not waiting, I've tried waiting just a little bit - and I still can't make educated guesses as to how they will end up viewing/treating me.
Ironically, the last two casual relationships I got myself into and waited longer than a month and a half to sleep with the guy involved ended up being the two worst experiences (in a non sexual way - both were great in that respect) I've had with guys so far - but that probably has more to do with the manipulative and destructive personalities those two boys possessed.
Definitely a fan of the whole "do it when you feel like it" deal.
I like to tell them that I ant to wait, and then bang fat chicks on the side . . . What can I say, i'm a hopeless romantic . . . . .
Did he cry after?
Caribou
11-25-2009, 01:02 PM
The last time it was weeks of sending letters and talking on the phone and then meeting up. After that we spent 2 full days together before anything happened.
But I don't do dating, so I couldn't really say what I'd do if I started going out with someone again.
I'd probably wait a while, because it's been a looooong time since any sexytime happened and I'd feel quite weird about it. I get rather scared when anyone moves too close too quickly.
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