pros and cons of new relationships

[Dorothy Wood]

cons:
having to shower regularly
pissing off your friends because you're so happy
coordinating schedules
staying up too late
waking up too early
talking about your feelings

pros:
kisses
snuggles
giggles
hand massages
talking about your feelings

[Echewta]

cons:
no money in your wallet

pros:

[Caribou]

Ah, so you're in a relationship then? Which of the guys is it, the young or the old one, or an entirely different. Either way, congrats, I guess.

Personally, I don't really see any pros in a relationship, which is probably why I won't be in one for quite a considerable time, if not ever. Been there, done that, didn't work out. I'm fine on my own and I don't feel the need for kisses/cuddles/naughtiness, so I don't see the point.

[MC Moot]

Cons:

Figuring out sexual compatibility...
The pressure of the weekend date...
Figuring out when you can start to repeat your wardrobe without caring being conscious of it...
Keeping your place fresh and proper,especially your bed...

Pros:

That tingly feeling and wearing the idiot grin...

[Dorothy Wood]

echewta, we go dutch. well, he bought me an iced tea once.


Ah, so you're in a relationship then? Which of the guys is it, the young or the old one, or an entirely different. Either way, congrats, I guess.

Personally, I don't really see any pros in a relationship, which is probably why I won't be in one for quite a considerable time, if not ever. Been there, done that, didn't work out. I'm fine on my own and I don't feel the need for kisses/cuddles/naughtiness, so I don't see the point.

yeah, bitchy mcbitcherson, I started dating the guy who was my age. it's nice that you're all above it all I guess. look, I'm old and I hate dating and/or spending my time with people I don't like, but I also like making out; so it's nice for me to have found someone I like who will also let me put my mouth on his mouth regularly.

being alone is better than being with someone just to be with someone though, so keep fighting the good fight.



Cons:

Figuring out sexual compatibility...
The pressure of the weekend date...
Figuring out when you can start to repeat your wardrobe without caring being conscious of it...
Keeping your place fresh and proper,especially your bed...

Pros:

That tingly feeling and wearing the idiot grin...

heh, yeah, I forgot about the clothes. all of a sudden I hate everything I own. we've known each other for so long though, that it doesn't matter too much. he's seen my fashion/lack of fashion. we're kind of similarly inconsistent though, sometimes he looks like a hobo and sometimes he looks like a well-put together nerd/hip hop mogul sans bling.

[Caribou]

yeah, bitchy mcbitcherson, I started dating the guy who was my age. it's nice that you're all above it all I guess. look, I'm old and I hate dating and/or spending my time with people I don't like, but I also like making out; so it's nice for me to have found someone I like who will also let me put my mouth on his mouth regularly.

being alone is better than being with someone just to be with someone though, so keep fighting the good fight.
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Dude, I wasn't being bitchy, I was just wondering and I'm genuinely happy for you that you've finally found someone.

I also know that I'm a minority for not being into the whole relationshippy thing, I always have a lot of explaining to do because people seem to think it's sad that I don't have a boyfriend and haven't had one in a long time. They assume I have self-esteem issues and try to set me up with people, while I am truly not interested in that kind of thing.

But I know that for many it does work and I hope it does for you as well. The best of luck to you two. :)

[Dorothy Wood]

Dude, I wasn't being bitchy, I was just wondering and I'm genuinely happy for you that you've finally found someone.

alright, it's just that you yelled at me before, so I thought you were yelling at me again. sorry.

and sorry to everyone about these threads. at least I haven't made an "omg, my boyfriend is so cute" one. because I want to. :o

[Helvete]

Cons: If it all goes wrong

Pros: Everything up until that point

[Dorothy Wood]

I also know that I'm a minority for not being into the whole relationshippy thing, I always have a lot of explaining to do because people seem to think it's sad that I don't have a boyfriend and haven't had one in a long time. They assume I have self-esteem issues and try to set me up with people, while I am truly not interested in that kind of thing.

But I know that for many it does work and I hope it does for you as well. The best of luck to you two. :)

well, I've spent more of my life single than I have in a relationship, so I know where you're coming from. although I'm probably more boy crazy than some girls. I mean, I love boys, love looking at them, love talking to them, love touching them. so naturally, it's nice every now and again to capture one for my own personal use.

I don't know, it kind of sucks that I placed so much emphasis on men and how they made me feel for so long. unfortunately I learned it from my mom because since I was a teenager, she's basically been like, "well, once you find a man, your life can begin". and as much as I rejected that, some of it still sank in.

I honestly think that up until a month ago, I was an idiot with no idea how to be myself. I was angry and tired. and then I just woke up. and my dude recently experienced the same situation. so we're kind of just looking at each other like, wow, I like you, not just the idea of you, and not just the idea of a relationship. and it's pretty awesome.

even if we don't last forever, the times we're having now will always be important to me...so important that I must broadcast them on a message board. :/

hnhaa

[skra75]

cons:
no money in your wallet

pros:

HAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAHHAHAHA (y)
Gold

[MC Moot]

cons:
no money in your wallet...

pros: hittting the comfort point where you can use that giant coupon book a co-worker sold you to support their kids soccer camp...

(y)

[Echewta]

cons:
Having to wash and clean your car weekly

pros:
the only time you'll have sex more than once a month. If you are a guy, the only time she'll go down on you.

[hpdrifter]

Pros:
The awesomeness of all of the physical/sexual firsts

Cons:
The inevitable weight gain from going out to dinner all the time or (even better) staying in bed and ordering in

[Dorothy Wood]

Cons:
The inevitable weight gain from going out to dinner all the time or (even better) staying in bed and ordering in


I'm going to try to do the opposite of this. Dude is skinnier than me, and I don't need to be any fatter. Plus he's a vegetarian and he doesn't drink, so we don't go burger joints and I don't drink as much. he also lives kinda far, so I have to ride my bike a lot more. I think I've actually already lost weight. high five.

[checkyourprez]

pros:

banging
someone to make you a sandwich

cons:

a lot

[DipDipDive]

DW, hi5 for new relationship weight loss. Dude I'm seeing has mega bad acid reflux and can't eat all the bullshit I usually do, so it seems as though that'll reduce my "I'm happy and gluttonous" quotient. (y)

In addition to all those already mentioned...

Pros:
Not being able to keep your paws off eachother
Knowing you have someone to hump whenever you want to
Feeling special and pretty :o

Cons:
Having to keep the legs shaved and cha cha trimmed
Having to get used to sleeping in a new bed
Wondering when the excitement is going to wear off...I'm too much of a realist sometimes... :(

I agree that figuring out sexual compatibility can be a con but when that isn't necessary because it works right away, it's a hell of a pro. Holy Toledo. (y)(y)

[Audio.]

Dude, I wasn't being bitchy, I was just wondering and I'm genuinely happy for you that you've finally found someone.

I also know that I'm a minority for not being into the whole relationshippy thing, I always have a lot of explaining to do because people seem to think it's sad that I don't have a boyfriend and haven't had one in a long time. They assume I have self-esteem issues and try to set me up with people, while I am truly not interested in that kind of thing.

But I know that for many it does work and I hope it does for you as well. The best of luck to you two. :)
lmao yo thats me. Same here. Funny cause I use to get ass (sorry dont mean to come out like a playa pimp) and I still get told, "when are you getting a girlfriend a real girlfriend" and I'm sorry that I cant make these people satisfied. I'm just better off being single and mess around once in awhile. I also hate having to explain why because its always the same shit I might as well make print cards so when ever someone ask I just give it to them. Plus I dont consider myself boyfriend material and therefore I avoid it so I wont turn the other down.

Though I think its just that I'm young and it may change when I get more older.

[MC Moot]

I agree that figuring out sexual compatibility can be a con but when that isn't necessary because it works right away, it's a hell of a pro. Holy Toledo. (y)(y)

point of curiosity: do you know the meaning or origin of the expression "Holy Toledo"?...;)

[adam_f]

Con: Lip Herpes

[jabumbo]

Con: Lip Herpes


it wasn't herpes

[paul jones]

Pros : my record of relationships is pretty crap so I can't think of any

Cons : total loss of savings

[russhie]

Everyone asks me why I don't have a boyfriend yet. Apparently "loads" of men would want to be my boyfriend but I only ever seem to encounter difficult dating relationships and it puts me off. That and the fact I refuse to become seriously attached to anyone who isn't it. Ex boyfriend smooshed my heart (and took up enough of my time) to ensure I won't be getting involved with any one person anytime soon.

I have met quite a few lovely boys, ones that I have a deep level of affection for, and these boys fill the 'boyfriend' void - they fix my car, give me cuddles and scratch my back, stroke my ego and listen to me complain, visit me when I don't have makeup on and am wearing a singlet and trackys...the only problem is that I worry I'm abusing their affection for me for my own selfish good. I've learned that guys don't want to be my friend, they quite often want to bone me, and will sometimes play the role of friend for a verrrry long time in order to do so. I always make things pretty clear at the start but I'm friendly and nice and somewhat flirty so it always, always goes awry, someone gets hurt and I feel like a complete bitch.

I think it'd be easier if I just had a boyfriend, but I just won't settle :/

[Echewta]

^ Sounds like something needs to change since the cycle seems to repeat itself.

[b i o n i c]

pro: unpredictability

con: unpredictability

[b i o n i c]

or is it inpredictability? whatever

[Dorothy Wood]

Everyone asks me why I don't have a boyfriend yet. Apparently "loads" of men would want to be my boyfriend but I only ever seem to encounter difficult dating relationships and it puts me off. That and the fact I refuse to become seriously attached to anyone who isn't it. Ex boyfriend smooshed my heart (and took up enough of my time) to ensure I won't be getting involved with any one person anytime soon.

I have met quite a few lovely boys, ones that I have a deep level of affection for, and these boys fill the 'boyfriend' void - they fix my car, give me cuddles and scratch my back, stroke my ego and listen to me complain, visit me when I don't have makeup on and am wearing a singlet and trackys...the only problem is that I worry I'm abusing their affection for me for my own selfish good. I've learned that guys don't want to be my friend, they quite often want to bone me, and will sometimes play the role of friend for a verrrry long time in order to do so. I always make things pretty clear at the start but I'm friendly and nice and somewhat flirty so it always, always goes awry, someone gets hurt and I feel like a complete bitch.

I think it'd be easier if I just had a boyfriend, but I just won't settle :/

maybe you ought to learn how to fix your car and get a back scratcher? I don't know, you can keep the fun sexy stuff...it just seems kinda unfair to accept intimacy and affection from men you're not interested in dating. even if you do make it clear you're not interested from the beginning, people will always have hope that they'll be the one to change you or something.

I shouldn't be one to judge, it's just that you don't seem very happy. so maybe you need to do things differently?

on the other hand, you're young and hot so there's no reason you should feel like settling down right now. maybe focus your time on finding people who respect that truly and won't expect to turn you into something you don't want to be.

[LongDuckDong]

pros: bareback
cons: threads like this

[Dorothy Wood]

pros: bareback
cons: threads like this

I hope you get hit by a car.

[Dorothy Wood]

pro: unpredictability

con: unpredictability

yeah, so far it's been pretty predictable though. in a good way. it's funny because he seemed so mysterious to me before and now it's like all the mysteries are solved. in a good way. we're not afraid of each other. and I'm usually constantly afraid. now I'm only afraid like 10% of the time.

:)

[MC Moot]

yeah, so far it's been pretty predictable though. in a good way. it's funny because he seemed so mysterious to me before and now it's like all the mysteries are solved. in a good way. we're not afraid of each other. and I'm usually constantly afraid. now I'm only afraid like 10% of the time.

:)

*pictures Dorothy traipsing around her place with bluebirds on her shoulder singing: getting to know you,getting to know all about you,getting to like you,getting to hope you like me...*

:D