oh crap, I have to explain now

[Dorothy Wood]

I thought I was in the clear with that young guy, but he called me yesterday and left a message saying he was sorry he hadn't called, he's been busy etc. etc., but he'd like to get together and catch up.

so, I was thinking...email. my question is this, if you were him, what would you not want to hear?

he's a cool dude and pretty cute, and I kinda wanna be like "hey, you're awesome...but, uh, I like someone else better." but that seems kinda mean.

urgh.

[hpdrifter]

I think it's important to be honest. Just be like, I had a lot of fun hanging out with you but I've met someone and I'd like to see where it is going.

[Dorothy Wood]

yeah, I guess no matter what I say, he's going to feel a bit rejected.

eh, whatever, he hadn't contacted me in like 3 weeks. you snooze, you lose I guess?

[cosmo105]

I had to do this, and I ended up just saying, "I started dating someone seriously, sorry, thanks for the makeouts" or something along those lines.

[hpdrifter]

Yeah, I've had to do it before too. When I started seeing my now husband I was casually dating two other people as well. When things started to get serious with him and I was on board I just said to the two other guys hey, it's been really fun getting to know you, you're a cool dude, but I'm gonna see where this other thing is going. They were fine with it, maybe a little disappointed that there would be no more hook ups, but that's just how it's done. At least you told him instead of blowing him off with no explanation and letting him wonder wtf for six months.

[Ty Webb]

yeah follow what hpdrifter said. they know what's up.

[Dorothy Wood]

well I wrote something less than eloquent. hopefully he just won't write back.

I mean, there are girls all over his facebook page. he'll be fine.

[Adam]

what if he jumps off a bridge because his heart was broken? Would you feel responsible?

[Dorothy Wood]

hmm, no. I'd be upset, but I don't believe I deceived him or anything. anyhow, I think he was more into the idea of me rather than actual me.

[destructo]

what if he jumps off a bridge because his heart was broken? Would you feel responsible?


haha. guilt tripper.

[checkyourprez]

he probably was doing what you were doing to him. he had picked the other girl, and now for whatever reason hes back.

[Dorothy Wood]

he probably was doing what you were doing to him. he had picked the other girl, and now for whatever reason hes back.


oh totally, like I said, there are girls all over his facebook. some chick wrote on his wall, "where should we meet? call or text [phone number]" the day before he called me. so maybe that shit just didn't work out or something.

he's got plenty of dating years ahead of him, he'll be fine. I really didn't need to make this thread, I was just avoiding the task.

[checkyourprez]

just tell him you snooze you loose type of thing. your a cool dude but someone else came along. he'll live.

[Echewta]

Make sure you have him take you to an expensive dinner first and then say "I started dating someone seriously, sorry, thanks for the makeouts." That happened to me :(

[Dorothy Wood]

how rude!

yeah, I just said "blah blah, friend confessed feelings, now we're obsessed with each other, it's super gay, but you're awesome, see you in the next life, best wishes, etc. etc."


no word back yet. which is fine with me.

I will give him credit for partially melting my ice cold heart though. without him, I might not have been able to have been turned into a quivering pile of mush by my handsome awesome wonderful cutie pie dearest.

[paul jones]

Buy him $3000 worth of candy for him like Britney Spears just did to celebrate the end of her tour

[Belt Parkway]

Was it kind of lame to reject him via email, or is that how you youngsters are doing it now?

[Helvete]

I'm going to have to remember this thread for future reference.

[Dorothy Wood]

Was it kind of lame to reject him via email, or is that how you youngsters are doing it now?

I think if the roles were reversed, I'd rather read an email than have an awkward phone conversation. Especially because the phone would be ringing and I'd be like, "omg, he's calling me back, yay!" and then he'd be all, "I don't think we should see each other anymore."

I dunno. I'm pretty lame I guess.

[Adam]

email and text are the way to go for asking out and dumping.

Actually, even dating for that matter - jerk off on the phone with each other maybe if you wanna get off but never interact on a face-to-face level, that is so 2005.

or just dm a tweet. Most marriages last using less than 140 characters.

[Audio.]

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