Jealousy issues

[russhie]

And how to deal with them. I'm considering embarking on a semi-relationship with a boy who has displayed some signs of having trust/jealousy issues, and I wouldn't mind some advice as to how to kick it in the teeth early on. His ex cheated on him which is perhaps why he is the way he is but it's far too early on in the peice to be giving me shit about other men in my life.

If it gets more than slightly annoying though I'm just going to abandon this shit before it gets ugly.

[Kid Presentable]

I was a jealous guy, and really only time will tell.

[Lex Diamonds]

True say, you can't change people, you just have to let shit take it's course. One day he will grow up, it's your call whether you want to wait around or be with him until that happens.

[camo]

Hold on, what's a 'semi-relationship'?

Chances are he will always be like that, it's a hard thing to shake :(

[paul jones]

He probably watches 'Maury' too much

[Rock]

How about being up front about it. "i have friends that also have a penis attached to them, if you can't handle me having those friends with out being jealous/suspicious, then this isn't going to work out."

[ms.peachy]

Tell him "look, this is your baggage, so you get to carry it around, if that's what you want to do. Don't expect me to carry it, because I won't, and if you try to make me even once, you will be looking at the back of me going out the door."

And then you bloody well stick to that.

[MC Moot]

"Jealousy's a motherfucker,you weak jealous motherfuckers...if you a jealous motherfucker,you just a weak motherfucker..."

[hpdrifter]

Generally, I think jealousy is a projection of one's own deep-seated inclinations. If he's the jealous type, it might imply that he himself is a cheater. He projects what he might do in the same situation onto you which makes him fear your male friends.

In this case it really might just be because his ex cheated. Anyway, I agree with peachy (surprise). Put the kibosh on this bullshit right now.

[nodanaonlyzuul]

If it gets more than slightly annoying though I'm just going to abandon this shit before it gets ugly.

yep.

And what peachy said.

The end.

[b i o n i c]

yeah, beat the fuck outta him if he continues to be jealous that fucking shithead!

the only cure to jealousy is lots of sex. short of that, why not tell him to find some chick friends and not be such a puss

[ET]

Deceit runs deeper than mistrust.

With that said, be honest and it'll pay off. Like Rock said. If it doesn't improve then GTFO.

[gbsuey]

Spent years with a stupidly jealous man-if you can't kick his jealousy in the teeth you'll be wanting to kick him in the teeth. tell him to shape up or ship out and do that finger waggle, neck wiggle thing so he knows you mean it

[TurdBerglar]

im not a jealous person at all. females don't seem to like that either. they seem to want just a bit of jealousy. it's like they seem to think that since im not jealous of anything towards them that i don't care if i loose them to someone else. like i could just toss them away. this seems to get under their skin. maybe because they're just so use to a guy being atleast a wee bit jealous.

[Lex Diamonds]

All bitches is hoes, even my stinkin-ass mom.

[Dorothy Wood]

I dated a jealous dude. it sucked. one time we were driving somewhere and I was telling him about something a male friend of mine said. meanwhile, he was getting visibly agitated. he finally yelled "you know what? I don't really give a shit!" and I burst into tears. ha.

he felt pretty bad, but went on to say he was afraid that my being close with guys meant that there was probably some underlying romantic interest going on. and I was like, "I'm with you, they're just my friends."

ugh. talking about it only helped for a couple months, then he started acting like that again and it really made me feel bad, like guilty for no reason. I ended things soon after. :/

after we broke up, his friends confessed to me that they had been instructed to stay away from me and not get too friendly. wtf? so dumb.


yeah, so, good luck!

[hpdrifter]

went on to say he was afraid that my being close with guys meant that there was probably some underlying romantic interest going on.



classic projection

[russhie]

A semi relationship...well for me that means admitting caring and having feelings for another person while not committing to boyfriend/girlfriend status. At the moment, I'm capable of enjoying the company of one person and liking them I just can't trust myself to remain completely faithful, and to be honest, I haven't been given a good enough reason to. So I remain essentially single, I guess.

I explained all this to him at the start. He chased me and fell for me knowing these things about me, so if he feels jealous it's not my problem. Of course, I care about his happiness, but I see no reason to go changing for anyone at the moment.