View Full Version : Whaddya do when you feel like the loneliest person in the world?
Apart from post on message boards.
I drink. All new ideas are appreciated.
You can be lonely in a crowd.
NicRN77
10-11-2009, 05:22 PM
I spend most of my free time alone and it is sometimes depressing. I even go to concerts and the movies solo. Stinks when most of your friends are married with children.
I'm looking to volunteer. Need to do something more productive with my time.
i was gonna say drink but i see you've already thought of that
i spend a lot of time on hulu but you can't even get that
yeah probably find something productive to do. charity work or something
Listen to Bruce Springsteen.
Make it a habit to get out of the house, from time to time, doing things like working out at the gym, taking walks, or riding your bicycle, and having a few beers with your buddies is also comforting.
As for indoor activities, play video games, specifically, Massively Multiplayer Online Role-Playing Games, which are a nice outlet to socialize with others and be in interesting fantasy worlds, although beware, they get addicting.
Other indoor activities could be watching movies/tv shows, reading books, or just searching around the internet for funny shit to read or watch. That gets me in better spirits.
Oh yeah, this thread. About that, I'm ok now. After a bottle of whisky you sometimes let issues come to the service, I'll bottle them up now. Its what real men do.
I went out for a run this morning though. I think the last thing I should do is go back to WoW or any other MMORPG.
Its at night I feel like this (and only sometimes) - like I'm kinda pushing two girls away from me atm because I want to be with both - I have issues, I know (y)
gbsuey
10-12-2009, 04:52 AM
christ i must be a bit too hormonal-your thread title made me feel a bit teary!!
well drinking sure isn't the way to not feel lonely-i mean if you feel bad about something, doing something that magnifies what you're feeling is just stupid. but it's easy i know. i'm intensely lonely a lot of the time but am usually too busy to let it get me down. i have tonnes of friends but when you're in a family situation time just gets swallowed up doing everyday stuff but you got to make an effort to get out there.
music makes me feel better, better than better!
are you pushing them away because you're not used to sharing your head space-like you got stuck in a lonesome rut? does that make sense?
Go down to the pub and force yourself to talk to folk. Thats what I did earlier this year and I made quite a few new friends! (y)
Helvete
10-12-2009, 07:49 AM
In the Army I can't wait for the times where I get the chance to be lonely! It is good though, I almost have an unavoidable social life as long as I don't hide in my room.
Kid Presentable
10-12-2009, 07:50 AM
There's no aphrodisiac like loneliness. (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ygi7RQMLcAw)
I used to be very lonely. In many ways I still am. I'm an only child, I value time to myself. People can tend to scuttle to people just for safety in numbers. You know they're unsure about it all when they then question people who don't scuttle to people. There's a quiet nobility to being happy in your own headpsace.
BBboy20
10-12-2009, 08:28 AM
Hug a stuffed monkey?
Pres Zount
10-12-2009, 08:56 AM
I get pretty lonely, but I have loads of books, DVDs or games to play.
I'd rather be alone than surrounded by people I don't like though.
NicRN77
10-12-2009, 10:29 AM
There's no aphrodisiac like loneliness. (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ygi7RQMLcAw)
I used to be very lonely. In many ways I still am. I'm an only child, I value time to myself. People can tend to scuttle to people just for safety in numbers. You know they're unsure about it all when they then question people who don't scuttle to people. There's a quiet nobility to being happy in your own headpsace.
There definitely is something about feeling comfortable in your own skin. I very much value my time spent alone. I feel comfortable at many social events solo, but sometimes it just sucks.
hpdrifter
10-12-2009, 11:44 AM
people I don't like though.
I'm guessing most?
Well I am a bit of a loner anyway, I like it that way but when you want company - keeping every1 at arms reach doesn't make it easier to bring them closer only on your terms.
As for my relationship interests, without going too deep into issues that I know the problems of and already know how to solve them but don't ... I tend to sometimes latch onto people who I find a lust/love interest in but then realise I get too close or start thinking too much so I rebel within myself and push them away - done it since I started dating. Now when I have two interests, I get even worse and confused and then I dunno what I want.
Oh, an my thread is probably wrong - the reason I felt lonely was because I was drinking but when you're already there, you drink more. Or I do. But thanks for the advice guys (y)
hpdrifter
10-12-2009, 12:42 PM
Well, at least you recognize your own issues. That's a start.
I used to really enjoy alone time, though I did experience the lonliness occasionally. My husband is a lot more social than I ever was so as I've dated him I've gotten used to having friends around all the time. Which is sometimes annoying and sometimes nice.
Caribou
10-12-2009, 12:53 PM
I watch DVD's, eat loads of chocolat and sing along to dramatic music.
Or I just phone my friends.
paul jones
10-12-2009, 07:43 PM
this'll fuckin cheer you up
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xh_9QhRzJEs
(y)
Pres Zount
10-12-2009, 08:54 PM
I'm guessing most?
haha, ding ding ding!
I get pretty lonely, but I have loads of books, DVDs or games to play.
I'd rather be alone than surrounded by people I don't like though.
i'm the same way. consequently, i end up alone a lot. then i get bored and drink. i really want to stop doing that but i'm finding it harder than i'd like
i'd go to AA or something but i don't want to stop drinking entirely, i still want to go out and drink with friends and have fun, i just don't want to do it alone so often. i think i'm just going to stop buying booze and see how that works out.
i need a hobby. or a girlfriend
Pres Zount
10-12-2009, 09:11 PM
I have a hobby! But I don't have many friends. Only a handful really.
So, as many friends as you can fit in your hand. None then. Ok, one.
(s)he must be very tiny
actually i've decided that what i really need is a job. when i was alternating between school and internships, i didn't drink nearly as much as i do now. that was because i had something to get up for in the morning (even if i didn't want to do it). i gotta find something to wake up for. preferably something that pays me lots of money
true dat about the job. I was going down hill so fast a couple of months ago without a job, its better now. Plus I have more money to buy booze with (y)
Just get anything. You can always quit if you don't like it or something better comes along.
true dat about the job. I was going down hill so fast a couple of months ago without a job, its better now. Plus I have more money to buy booze with (y)
Just get anything. You can always quit if you don't like it or something better comes along.
i wish i hadn't gone to law school. lawyer jobs are few and far between to say the least and i'm overqualified for any kind of quasi-professional job. like, my friend just got a job in the mail room of some fancy pants travel agency and he was telling me that he was settling for mediocrity because he majored in graphic design and i told him i was jealous of the fact that he had the option of settling for mediocrity because if i applied for that same job they'd think "isn't he just going to quit when he finds a lawyer job?" and the answer to that question would be "yes" meaning my options are either "lawyer" which is impossible or some shitty high turnover job like "dishwasher" which i feel is higher on the moral totem pole than "lawyer" except it doesn't pay the student loans
the worst part? i don't really want to be a lawyer after all
Laserface
10-13-2009, 02:41 AM
i wish i hadn't gone to law school. lawyer jobs are few and far between to say the least and i'm overqualified for any kind of quasi-professional job. like, my friend just got a job in the mail room of some fancy pants travel agency and he was telling me that he was settling for mediocrity because he majored in graphic design and i told him i was jealous of the fact that he had the option of settling for mediocrity because if i applied for that same job they'd think "isn't he just going to quit when he finds a lawyer job?" and the answer to that question would be "yes" meaning my options are either "lawyer" which is impossible or some shitty high turnover job like "dishwasher" which i feel is higher on the moral totem pole than "lawyer" except it doesn't pay the student loans
the worst part? i don't really want to be a lawyer after all
that sucks dude. why don't you apply for some office job and only mention your undergraduate degree? i think that will take care of the over-qualification problem
that sucks dude. why don't you apply for some office job and only mention your undergraduate degree? i think that will take care of the over-qualification problem
i've thought of that, but if i delete my law school experience from my resume then i've got a three year gap to explain, because i graduated from college in 2006. if an employer asks me about that gap, then my options are to either lie to them, which they'll probably frown upon or to explain my deception, which is basically a different way of lying to them
trailerprincess
10-13-2009, 04:04 AM
Is it all law that you don't want to do or just a particular type? What about working with NGOs/charities or something like that where a law background might be useful/needed without all the whoo ha of doing the 'lawyer' thing
Laserface
10-13-2009, 06:56 AM
i've thought of that, but if i delete my law school experience from my resume then i've got a three year gap to explain, because i graduated from college in 2006. if an employer asks me about that gap, then my options are to either lie to them, which they'll probably frown upon or to explain my deception, which is basically a different way of lying to them
yeah i could see that. a 3 year gap of no school or employment is probably frowned upon despite whatever excuse you can give them. they'll just think of you as a weirdo sociopath and you being simply not employee-material. my best excuse would be to say you tried getting into show business or something but decided it was not for you. or maybe say you spent the time helping your dad with his business or helping out your family because you got a sick sister or some shit.
i guess it's worth a shot. but on the other hand, i know applying for jobs is fucking grueling, so maybe it isn't worth the effort.
trailerprincess
10-13-2009, 07:24 AM
Won't they check your school records as part of a background check and know that you went onto law school? Surely better to be upfront about it than start on a lie and then get caught. Why don't you start with temp/contract work where they almost assume you'll leave with x number of months and then you can be honest and just leave as and when it suits you.
Planetary
10-13-2009, 07:46 AM
Move to a new city.
or! do some sort of online radio show. like an agony aunt radio show, or, like, a radio version of judge judy, but you can be the judge.
get new hobbies which you can use to branch out into the working world/social scene.
organise an event or become a DJ or something.
(lb)
Laserface
10-13-2009, 09:07 AM
Move to a new city.
or! do some sort of online radio show. like an agony aunt radio show, or, like, a radio version of judge judy, but you can be the judge.
get new hobbies which you can use to branch out into the working world/social scene.
organise an event or become a DJ or something.
(lb)
good advice, but waaaay easier said than done.
when i feel lonely and/or shitty without having a reason for it, i never really have a solution; i just wait for it to pass. and it usually does. so i suppose my advice is riding it out, knowing it will get better.
get into some shit maybe - like planetary said, hobbies, socializing, a new job/living environment.
MC Moot
10-13-2009, 11:27 AM
Get up offa that thing... (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ROzGihgCj8&feature=related)
hpdrifter
10-13-2009, 12:15 PM
You could just leave it off your CV but in your cover letter explain that you went to law school but subsequently decided that career path isn't for you (which is sort of true) but that your law school training will help you be successful in X role because of Y, Z and Q. You address it and then as quickly as possible steer the conversation back to the subject at hand.
What's the worst that'll happen? They won't call you for an interview.
Why do my problem threads always end up being about Bob? Am I as problematic as Bob? :(
I jest, but...
...I forgot what I was going to say and my food might be burning.
Randetica
10-13-2009, 04:51 PM
for years i didnt have a problem being alone but i kinda get jealous now when i see a clique of young people, i want to be a part of them
sitting with my mum and her 50+ year old friends and listening to housewife tips aint not my thing no more
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