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Dorothy Wood
10-12-2009, 04:16 PM
It's taking me like 3 hours to write an email back to my new boyfriend (yes, it's official! he asked me on saturday! omg!) He's all "you're great, blah blah blah, so glad you said, yes, blah blah". and I'm all, "umm". but in my head and in my heart I'm actually "I like you so much it's unbelievable and you are so awesome and cute I could hug and squeeze you for a million years, my schmubby wubby bub! eeee!"

but I can't really say that now, can I?

fuckin a.

Adam
10-12-2009, 04:17 PM
hehe feeings.

rirv
10-12-2009, 04:24 PM
Definitely don't call him schmubby wubby bub.

NicRN77
10-12-2009, 04:43 PM
I always find it weird when guys are more emotional than me. It irks me.

jabumbo
10-12-2009, 04:43 PM
call him whatever you want. he's your mess to deal with now!



ps: i hate when people take extraordinarily long to reply to emails when i know that they can reply much quicker

Freebasser
10-12-2009, 04:46 PM
I always find it weird when guys are more emotional than me. It irks me.

Wait... I thought you were a bloke?

b i o n i c
10-12-2009, 04:47 PM
why do think it is that you have a hard time with it?

Dorothy Wood
10-12-2009, 05:00 PM
Definitely don't call him schmubby wubby bub.

I won't but my heart will. ;););)


ps: i hate when people take extraordinarily long to reply to emails when i know that they can reply much quicker

well, he knows that I can't be on the computer all day.


I always find it weird when guys are more emotional than me. It irks me.

I'm not sure he's more emotional, I think he's just honest...or not afraid to say what he feels. it's not very mushy really, everything he's talking about is pretty practical. he's basically like, "hey, not only do I have fun hanging out with you, but you give me boners, so thanks." I suppose he's a bit more clever than that, though.

why do think it is that you have a hard time with it?

erm, well, I've been burned in the past, obviously, so I'm afraid of putting my emotions out there. I'm not afraid to show affection and I'm not pushing him away or anything. it's just that when he wants to talk about "us", I kinda shy away and turn things more silly.

b i o n i c
10-12-2009, 05:12 PM
do you not feel how he does and have a hard time replying to the email because you dont want to have to lie or embellish?

does it have anything to do with not wanting to say anything that you'll be held to?

on a similar note.. i was gonna make a thread.. i hate it when a girl asks me "do you miss me?" i feel like she's saying it to me with a bat behind her back or something because how could you say anything but yes and not be dick

NicRN77
10-12-2009, 05:15 PM
Wait... I thought you were a bloke?

ah, no...very much female.

Freebasser
10-12-2009, 05:17 PM
Apologies, ma'am (y)

hpdrifter
10-12-2009, 05:39 PM
on a similar note.. i was gonna make a thread.. i hate it when a girl asks me "do you miss me?" i feel like she's saying it to me with a bat behind her back or something because how could you say anything but yes and not be dick

OMG my mom does this. It's so awkward! I was on the phone with her yesterday and she was like "I sure miss you sweetie!" even though I spent the whole weekend with her less than a month ago. I didn't know what to say in response. :|

Dorothy Wood
10-12-2009, 05:47 PM
do you not feel how he does and have a hard time replying to the email because you dont want to have to lie or embellish?

does it have anything to do with not wanting to say anything that you'll be held to?

on a similar note.. i was gonna make a thread.. i hate it when a girl asks me "do you miss me?" i feel like she's saying it to me with a bat behind her back or something because how could you say anything but yes and not be dick

no, I think I'm having a hard time comprehending the fact that we're so securely on the same page, that I don't even know what to say. I'm a little in shock perhaps. and I'm pretty used to acting like a tough guy. honestly, I'd marry the dude tomorrow.

"do you miss me?" is like, "do I look fat?", I would never say either, it's rude and weird.

paul jones
10-12-2009, 07:39 PM
fuckin a.

fuckin b (y)

ms.peachy
10-13-2009, 04:36 AM
Jesus H Christmas I am so glad I met my husband before this era of texting and emails and facebooks and twitters and all of this crap that gets in the way of people actually just talking to each other like human beings. What a freakin' palaver.

MC Moot
10-13-2009, 09:56 AM
Jesus H Christmas I am so glad I met my husband before this era of texting and emails and facebooks and twitters and all of this crap that gets in the way of people actually just talking to each other like human beings. What a freakin' palaver.

hallelujah...we still only use e-mail when at a significant distance...and I've never sent a text in my life nor do I use a cel unless the job mandates it...

Dorothy Wood
10-13-2009, 11:32 AM
well, I think I have an even harder time talking about my feelings in real life.

Dude and I talk a lot in person, but he's a good writer and particularly clever via text, so I'm happy that the technology exists. He's a word nerd.

anyway, I practiced talking about my feelings last night and almost cried. I didn't like it very much. I'd rather be humping.

MC Moot
10-13-2009, 11:50 AM
I must say I despise texting...I find it juvenille and retarded...it reminds me of school girls and pig latin...ughhh...I can't stand when I see people engrossed in it...particularily in a social setting,like a pub or reataurant...and even when I see these self important peeps manipulating technology while they wait for a light to change...be they in a car or crossing the intersection on foot…society at large is killing, downtime and the ability to let one’s mind wander… (n)

ms.peachy
10-13-2009, 11:51 AM
I'm happy that the technology exists.

Of course you are, it gives you that many more ways to avoid actually having to make any real human connection by allowing yourself to be vulnerable.

b i o n i c
10-13-2009, 12:09 PM
^ in most cases, thats a very good thing ;)

Dorothy Wood
10-13-2009, 12:40 PM
Of course you are, it gives you that many more ways to avoid actually having to make any real human connection by allowing yourself to be vulnerable.

hey lady, I make human connections all the time! there's so much hand-holding and hugging and gazing into each other's eyes, it's disgusting.

honestly, I think being able to express myself through text helps me communicate better in real life.

meh, me and dude spent all weekend together on a road trip with friends. we texted jokes to our friends in the other car, and used texting to coordinate meeting places. it's handy!

Adam
10-13-2009, 12:45 PM
^ in most cases, thats a very good thing ;)

It sure is. The murder rate is going down even though the population is growing - that can only be due to the fact that face to face contact is also down. Can't ignore the facts.

And it ain't because we are more civilised - that is definitely going down.