Another "how long did you wait in your current or last relationship" thread

[DipDipDive]

Except this one's about meeting your significant other's parents/family.

My boyfriend invited me to his family's Thanksgiving. Super sweet of him, especially since my family lives far away and I'm not going to be able to see them for the holiday. I'm probably going to go, but I'm a little freaked out because we've only been dating a little over two months and to me, that seems soonish to already be spending a weekend with his family.

Thoughts?

[miss soul fire]

Not soon. I've met my boyfriend's parents when we had two weeks of looooove.

They hated me.

They still do.

Actually, nobody in his family likes me. Not even his 5 year old nephew. Not even his aunts. They look at me like I'm Dart Vader or something.

They always fight about me.

And I'm nothing but nice to these people. No kidding.

I'm sure they'll love you though! Go for it. No fear!:D(y):)

[The Notorious LOL]

Unless you're particularly close to a friends family and thats a viable alternative, whats to debate? It would be a different story if your family lived 20 miles away.

[cosmo105]

Depends on the relationship for sure. Last boyfriend was hesitant and didn't even want to meet my friends, like 4 months into it. Needless to say that didn't work out. Current boyfriend was ready to meet friends and fam within the first month because we were solid like a rock. Two months may be soonish, but if you guys are similarly solid, I'd say go for it. I'm sure it'll be awesome and they'll totally love your adorable ass.

[Bob]

meeting friends is a good sign?

[DipDipDive]

Depends on the relationship for sure. Last boyfriend was hesitant and didn't even want to meet my friends, like 4 months into it. Needless to say that didn't work out. Current boyfriend was ready to meet friends and fam within the first month because we were solid like a rock. Two months may be soonish, but if you guys are similarly solid, I'd say go for it. I'm sure it'll be awesome and they'll totally love your adorable ass.

Solid indeed, so alright then. :)

And yes, Bob, meeting friends is a good sign.

[HEIRESS]

you are a total moms magnet of cuteness, so go for it!

and the longer you wait to meet family the more nerve-racking it is!

[Echewta]

there is no right time or wrong time unless they are conservative.

[Adam]

Yeah, two months seems a pretty good time to me. I think whenever the opportunity presents itself is right is best but with Thanks Giving they'll be all sorts of other distractions going off so it won't be as hardcore as arranging a date to meet them where you're the centre of attention. I hate being the reason people arrange things for, I'd rather slip in almost unnoticed

(yes, thats what she said)

Good Luck (y)

[silence7]

I'm with Adam, a big family get together is the perfect time, there's so much going on that they'll not be able to concentrate on just YOU, they'll be so much going on that they'll remember you but it will be amongst fun times with family, that a month from now you'll be a golden memory along with everything that happened that day... Unless of course your amongst a drunken holiday fighting family, then you'll just be remembered as one of the combatants.....

Good luck with that. :-)

[paul jones]

just take a fucking massive turkey.they'll be impressed I'm sure.

try not to go for a poo for the first 6 hours though,they'll think that you just visited for a poo.

(y)

[hpdrifter]

Yeah, I guess I'd agree that there's a difference between meeting your SO's parents for the first time and spending a major holiday with them for the first time. You're hitting both in one shot. Not sure I'd do that but circumstances being what they are it seems logical.

[Kid Presentable]

All ofthe fucking in the early days makes everything solid; you can do anything.

[Helvete]

I only ever took one girlfriend to visit my parents, and that didn't fucking work out. I don't even tell my parents about girlfriends anymore.

[Echewta]

I tell my parents about every girlfriend and date I have. In detail. Every naughty detail.

[miss soul fire]

My boyfriend is so lovable every single person in my family loves him. Whenever my mother travels to another city he's the first person she asks about. She says she misses him and later she tells me she misses me!:mad:
Aahhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[sjp]

last relationship about 2 or 3 weeks I met her family in week 1 week two or three she met mine at my nephew's baptism.

[nodanaonlyzuul]

I met my boyfriends parents after 4 months of dating, during Christmas time. I also met his good friends while he was on a business trip (he asked me to come along) within 2 months if I remember correctly.

Even though I was a tad freaked out, mostly it didn't seem like a big deal because of our relationship with each other. Things came so naturally to us when we were together, it seemed like we were together for way more than 4 months. If that makes sense.

MSF - my family say the SAME thing about my bf and about missing him! Haha. I feel your pain. :D But then one of his relatives sent me an early birthday card with $10 extra dollars more than they give him.

TAKE THAT, AWESOME BOYFRIEND. I AM AWESOME GIRLFRIEND TOO.

...um, sorry. tangents.

[DipDipDive]

All ofthe fucking in the early days makes everything solid; you can do anything.

Early-relationship fucking is pretty much my reason for living.

[Dorothy Wood]

I met my ex's parents about 3 months into dating. We were going to a wedding in his hometown and stayed with them. It was pretty awkward. His mother and sister were judging me pretty hardcore, his dad was nice I guess. all in all, I had a horrible time! his mom's food was great though, dear lord was it delicious.

I think Thanksgiving might be easier to endure though, as long as your dude's family is fun and not mean or annoying.

I've always hated meeting people's parents, but I'm kind of looking forward to meeting my man friend's. they sound like nice, but kinda quirky people. (y)

[DipDipDive]

I hate meeting the parents too...it's tense because it feels like there's a lot riding on it.

I'm pretty sure it's just going to be the two of us, his mom and stepdad, and possibly his two friends (a married couple who I've already met and whose company I enjoy). So you're all correct, it'll be less awkward since it's not a "meet the parents" specific event, but this certainly isn't going to be a huge family gathering.

I've confirmed that I'm going and I'm sure it'll be fun. But still...noyvus. :o

[cosmo105]

Early-relationship fucking is pretty much my reason for living.

High ten. Almost a year and still going strong. :cool:

[Junker]

I'd go and eat all their food....

[Echewta]

And look in their medicine cabinet.