wtf

[monkey]

why on earth would my exboyfriend's 20 year old wife and baby mama 'friend' me on fb? please someone answer this for me because i'm at a complete loss for a reasonable explanation. the current ones running through my head are: she's curious and has a superiority complex, she and the exbf want to see how shitty my life is... i dont know, i have a million thoughts, not one rational one.

[checkyourprez]

just wanted to see what her man used to have. compare herself. maybe find some dirt.

[b i o n i c]

same same

[monkey]

why the fuck is that ok? i dont get it. i would never do something like that, it's weird. the most i ever do if im particularly bored or masochistic is to see if they have a profile and if they have something you can see without befriending them. there's a limit to my curiosity, or maybe it's just a modicum of social grace, fuck, i dont know.

this affects me much more than it should, and though i dont mind showing that to you guys or my friends, i very much would not like them to know. i need to know how to make that happen.

[b i o n i c]

either ignore it or if your curiosity gets the best of you, just block them from seeing all your stuff.

its weird, this one girl who i dated added me.. she's now married. and my high school gf - same thing. the first one i ignored because she was a bitch and apparently still is. the second one i chatted with because our relationship ended abruptly and i felt bad. im glad i responded.

[checkyourprez]

just message her....."why in the world are you friending me?" put her ass on the spot.

or just ignore it.

[lolkat]

she won, you lost. now she has to be all nbd about it so she seems like a polite winner. loser.

[Bob]

why the fuck is that ok? i dont get it. i would never do something like that, it's weird. the most i ever do if im particularly bored or masochistic is to see if they have a profile and if they have something you can see without befriending them. there's a limit to my curiosity, or maybe it's just a modicum of social grace, fuck, i dont know.

this affects me much more than it should, and though i dont mind showing that to you guys or my friends, i very much would not like them to know. i need to know how to make that happen.

do you know her at all? some people are very liberal with their facebook friending, maybe she doesn't mean anything by it. maybe she's networking. i don't know.

anyway reject her

[checkyourprez]

she won, you lost. now she has to be all nbd about it so she seems like a polite winner. loser.

(lb)

this chick may be the only person on this board whos a bigger dick than me.

[Echewta]

The random and bizzare of facebook. Does she live nearby? Were you friends before the exboyfriend? If you are curious, I'd agree to call her on it.

[-T-]

well how many friends does she already have on facebook? Does she have what appears to b a legitimate amount or like 5,000 friends? lol A lot of people out there add everybody they see or hear about or have friends in common just to make themselves feel better or something?

I know this girl with 1,400 facebook freinds...nobody likes her.

[monkey]

i don't know her at all, ive never met her. we dont have any friends in common other than my ex's little sister who's my very good friend.

i sent her a small, polite message asking her why. my curiosity got the better of me.

she doesn't have thousands of friends, only a couple of hundred.

i'm incredibly shaken up by this whole thing, but i'm trying to pretend im not. i mean... her husband was the person who broke my heart. i was madly in love with him, and stayed that way longer than i should have, and he just crushed me. so having to face this has never been easy. i just never thought something like this would happen.

i feel very lonely right now.

[GreenEarthAl]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VSgXwUI2Jxo

ps: you are a gift to the world.

[hpdrifter]

Very strange. I don't really remember how the Facebook friend requesting works but my guess is she was trying to look at your profile without friending you and accidentally sent a friend request.

My advice would have been to ignore it, the non response will drive anyone more nuts than any response ever could.

[nodanaonlyzuul]

I'm guessing she's curious because you are beautiful.

Seriously the only times people e-stalk is when they think the ex is attractive. I've done it before and it's been done to me.

And once, the girl added me as a "peace" offer because she hated me before (even though the guy and I were over, and they were dating, yet knowing that I dated him drove her nuts and we had a few mutual friends) and didn't want to act that way anymore. She even owned up to the fact that she was rude because she was jealous and felt insecure.

[monkey]

i got a very half-hearted answer from her basically saying that she recognized my name and wanted to get to know me. or as we call it, she got curious and wanted to stalk further. eh...

here's another weird thing: in a lot of ways, she and i look alike. it's almost kinda creepy. she's much darker skinned than i am, but her overall face shape and features are very similar to mine. big brown eyes, similar cheekbones, she's got a little more cheekyness than me, but when im a little fatter, my cheeks fill out similarly as well, big nose, similar thin top lip and fatter bottom lip. our body types are similar too, even though she's a much skinnier, smaller girl, she's got similar curves. it's like he found a mini me and married it... a mini me who's also 7 years younger than me. i usually dont feel old when comparing myself to others, but this girl is a mom now, and i'm... well educated? this is a terrible path to go down.