what's a nice way of rejecting someone's friendship? OR unnattractive people?

[Dorothy Wood]

In real life, I mean. I accepted her fb friendship months ago.

ack. this girl is very nice, and I have to see her on a regular basis, as we're part of the same organization. however, she is super annoying and I'm pretty sure I hate her. she's an over-complimenter, and a conversation-dominator. earlier tonight, she was all up in my business at my boyfriend's show, and right when he was about to play my very favorite song, she leans over for a chat, saying, "so, how was your day?" and I said, "okay, but, I'm sorry, I want to listen to this song", in the sweetest voice I could muster...but I still felt like kind of a dick.

I avoid her gaze, I don't engage her in conversation ever, yet she still follows me around and tries to be best friends with me. I'm not a friendly person to begin with, so it's very unsettling.

obviously I can't just be like, "hey, I don't like you", but should I just give up and be nice?

this has never really happened to me before, btw. maybe she sees my surly exterior as a person in need of friendship? or she just clings to everyone?


the OR part:

she is not cute. and I think part of why I don't like her is because she is not cute and I feel guilty about this. I think her not cuteness is partly responsible for her clingy personality.

she does know a ton of people, but she seems starved for attention. I don't want to give her this attention. but I wonder who should and why, and what would she could do differently to garner it.


*sigh* I feel like an asshole.

[paul jones]

drop some stinkers (farts) when she closes in.

[Adam]

I think the people you find annoying you're gonna find ugly anyway.

Just keep being evasive, I think soon she'll start to pick on some1 else.

[Planetary]

she's an over-complimenter

i always think people like this have some alterior motive

[Adam]

i always think people like this have some alterior motive

lesbian sex (y)

[Freebasser]

i always think people like this have some alterior motive

That was a great post, hotbuns ;)

[Caribou]

I have the same problem. There's this guy at work who's always trying to be nice and offering to help me out and stuff, and I appreciate that, but he also annoys the hell out of me. He's very geeky and very clingy. For instance, when there's a meeting and we have to sit in a circle, he ALWAYS sits next to me, even if there's no room and at the other side there's loads. He also always orders the same drink as me, no matter how weird, and interrupts people with dorky comments. Oh, and he tries to act like he's really tough. Which he TOTALLY isn't.

Maybe I should stop being nice to everyone, because the geeks always cling to me, while the rest of the group ignores them. I've even heard about his divorce problems on day 1 and how he still lives with his mother blablabla...

It's kinda scary too, maybe the reason these ubergeeks cling to me, is because I'm an ubergeek myself and maybe people feel the same way about me.

PS: He kinda looks like this guy:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ouyxhRHYTcw

[jabumbo]

maybe she is just like you on the inside and she knows it


i bet she posted a thread about you over at the maroon 5 message boards

[TurdBerglar]

i hate this kinda shit


some people just don't get hints. or they think you're shy. no bitch, im not talking to you because i hate you. fuck off!


then sometimes they do get the hint and back the fuck off. then something comes up and you have to speak to them for some reason or another. then they start harrassing you again! i didn't talk to you because i wanted to! i spoke to you just because i had to answer your god damn question! leave me alone! i don't care!

[Echewta]

I've tried numerous ways to let Cosmo know I'm not interested in being friends but I've had no success. :(

[Dorothy Wood]

NOOOOO!

well, now that I'm not drunk, I feel less guilty. see, I was thinking maybe my opinion of her was formed too much on her looks. but, I remembered that I know a not-so-cute and rather obnoxious 40ish woman, who I totally love. at first I thought she was a weirdo and a dork (she is) who came on too strong with the friendship, but then I was like, "right on, you're a weirdo and a dork, cool."

we're not ever gonna be BFF or anything, but she is very fun to hang out with. a few days ago we had a "fist fight", because she said she could beat everyone up. so, we just started banging our fists together...like our fists were fighting...get it?! ah hahaha. well, I laughed.


anyway, I guess I just keep avoiding that other girl? you'd think she'd get the hint...maybe she did last night. I don't know. she's just, gah, you know, she'll say stuff like, "oh, your shoes are cute...so much cuter than mine." and I'm like, wtf? why would you say that to someone? I actually lectured a student the other day about saying, "why is your [art piece] so much better than mine?" to another student. I was like, "that's a rude thing to say to someone because it puts them in an awkward position." etc.

the only people who like ass kissers are asses. hmph!

[Dorothy Wood]

i hate this kinda shit


some people just don't get hints. or they think you're shy. no bitch, im not talking to you because i hate you. fuck off!


then sometimes they do get the hint and back the fuck off. then something comes up and you have to speak to them for some reason or another. then they start harrassing you again! i didn't talk to you because i wanted to! i spoke to you just because i had to answer your god damn question! leave me alone! i don't care!

hmm, shy, eh? maybe that's it. she does have a boy that's like her roommate or best friend or something, and he is the most shy adult man I've ever encountered. he barely speaks at all. he's well-dressed and good-looking though, he must have an anxiety disorder. anyway, maybe she likes to collect shy people.

[Adam]

maybe he doesn't say anything cus he knows she won't shut up if he does

[kaiser soze]

beware she might fuck your boyfriend....the ugly ones are the most dangerous

you should kill her with safety scissors

[TurdBerglar]

or maybe she's been treated like crap her whole life so for her being ignored and brushed off is what's the norm for her. maybe she thinks that's how all people get treated. so instead of ignoring you you'd have to kick her in the twat or something or burn her house down. then she'd get it.

[Randetica]

i had to waste 4 years of my school time with a girl i couldnt stand only cause i didnt have the balls to tell her to fuck off

i was also her only ' 'friend' '

[Dorothy Wood]

beware she might fuck your boyfriend....the ugly ones are the most dangerous

you should kill her with safety scissors

yeah, zero chance of either of those things happening. If anything, I'd poison her. geez.


or maybe she's been treated like crap her whole life so for her being ignored and brushed off is what's the norm for her. maybe she thinks that's how all people get treated. so instead of ignoring you you'd have to kick her in the twat or something or burn her house down. then she'd get it.

I can imagine she's had some crap treatment...but she has like almost 600 friends on fb, and lots of pictures and comments (not that that means much). she appears to have a lot of friends...or the illusion of friends at least.

I don't know, I think she's a bit of a social climber. She probably thinks I'm important. That happens to me sometimes, because I'm friends with some popular/talented/good-looking people (not on purpose, it just sort of turned out that way). All the "important" friends I have, I have because I either met them before they were popular/exhibited their talents or because I treated them like normal people. or in some cases made fun of them. meh.

you can't force friendship. maybe I could just say that to her.

[b i o n i c]

she has like almost 600 friends on fb, and lots of pictures and comments (not that that means much).

it really means nothing.

[Dorothy Wood]

yeah, I guess I just meant she's got a lot of photos with friends where everyone looks happy and not like they're rejecting her.

she probably just needs to get laid or something.

and I'm not the one who's going to lay her!

[jabumbo]

bionic has two facebook friends. his mom and his pet cat.


i think she just wants to be as hipster as you, dorothy (y)

[Lex Diamonds]

I avoid this by being completely closed off and reserved when I first meet people. They usually decide they want to befriend me due to my good looks/ice cold demeanour so they jabber on and talk a shitload to me. Then I can judge whether or not I like them before actually committing and opening up.

Trust me, it works. A lot of people think I'm just rude when they first meet me because I'm sizing them up.

[Dorothy Wood]

I avoid this by being completely closed off and reserved when I first meet people. They usually decide they want to befriend me due to my good looks/ice cold demeanour so they jabber on and talk a shitload to me. Then I can judge whether or not I like them before actually committing and opening up.

Trust me, it works. A lot of people think I'm just rude when they first meet me because I'm sizing them up.

I do the exact same thing. not on purpose though, I just have anxiety problems.

and, hooray! this girl is not coming to the meeting tonight. and neither is another girl I dislike. best news ever!

[Caribou]

I had to be behind the bar today with the annoying guy. Omg, I can't stand him! He's so slow, doesn't communicate, ruins all the drinks and then blames others. If I have to work with him for real it's going to be terrible, because if he doesn't do his job right, I can't do mine and we'll have a long queue of angry customers. (n)

And he's still doing the clingy thing. So much, that others have noticed as well. Srsly, as soon as I enter the shop he'll be standing next to me and always far too close. It's creeping me out.
Even looking at his face really annoys me now. Normally I don't mind unnatractive people, because I know people can't do anything about their looks etc, but his annoyingness makes me also hate his uglyness. To the point that it actually makes me physically sick.

What should I do? I'm gonna have to work pretty closely with this guy when the store opens and I want to prevent myself from throwing hot milk in his face.

[Adam]

throw hot milk in his face!

Oooh, that is kinda kinky!
Is it?
Sorry :(

[jabumbo]

is it just regular warm milk or is it steamed milk?


there is quite a difference here

[Freebasser]

I had to be behind the bar today with the annoying guy. Omg, I can't stand him! He's so slow, doesn't communicate, ruins all the drinks and then blames others. If I have to work with him for real it's going to be terrible, because if he doesn't do his job right, I can't do mine and we'll have a long queue of angry customers. (n)

And he's still doing the clingy thing. So much, that others have noticed as well. Srsly, as soon as I enter the shop he'll be standing next to me and always far too close. It's creeping me out.
Even looking at his face really annoys me now. Normally I don't mind unnatractive people, because I know people can't do anything about their looks etc, but his annoyingness makes me also hate his uglyness. To the point that it actually makes me physically sick.

What should I do? I'm gonna have to work pretty closely with this guy when the store opens and I want to prevent myself from throwing hot milk in his face.

Sounds like you have the hots for him :O

[Caribou]

is it just regular warm milk or is it steamed milk?


there is quite a difference here

Steamed milk dude. I was talking hawt, not just warm.

Sounds like you have the hots for him :O

Ewww. :s Did I mention he's heavily into warhammer?