i kinda have a girlboner for this guy that works at starbucks

[insertnamehere]

i havent really ever talked to him aside from ordering and i know nothing about him. i just think hes cute and hes polite to me. i mean its his job to be polite to me, but im never that polite to a stranger unless i think they're cute. he's probably that polite to everyone though. but i think hes cute and like to pretend that he feels the same about me.

advise.

[kaiser soze]

ask him out for a coffee someplace other than starbucks

[paul jones]

sing him various songs from The Sound Of Music.Always works for me(y)

[checkyourprez]

tell him you want him to pour you a shot and you want to suck his cock

[insertnamehere]

on the one hand i feel like its weird to just strike up conversation with some random guy and like he'd think i was creepy. on the other hand this is supposedly what normal people do, right?

maybe next time i see him i'll try to chit-chat. BALLYS MOVE I KNOW

[Miho]

Go for it. What have you got to lose?

[Audio.]

Go for it. What have you got to lose?

possibly a place to get coffee.

[Randetica]

tell him you want him to pour you a shot and you want to suck his cock

learn how to lick pussy before speaking of oral sex

[Helvete]

Expert words there.

[Adam]

There is a lot of threads that have 'that is what normal people do right' kinda phrase on these boards and you have to assume we as a group have a cross section of normal people. So therefore there is an argument that most normal people post about it on a board and do nothing about it in the end.

Its not like there isn't another starbucks probably 100 metres down the street. Make friendly chit chat about anything other than coffee. Hang about longer than what your coffee takes and see if he comes over to make more chit chat.

Listen to those here who are successful at dating (ie - not me).

[checkyourprez]

learn how to lick pussy before speaking of oral sex

girl, you wouldnt know what to do with it if you got it.

[insertnamehere]

psh - adam, we're internet losers not normal people. this would work if it was the movies, and the movies portray normal life.

but yeah, i'll just try to be chatty next time im there

[Randetica]

im kinda excited cause dustin pari of taps (ghost hunters) just replied to my message

he is hot which is the main reason why i wrote him but also cause i love that show

i need to move to rhode island, that place seems to be stuffed with hot men

[cosmo105]

I dated a barista a while back. It was great, free lattes/tea/hot cocoa whenever I wanted. Sweet kid. We're still friendly.

He actually was the one that first struck up the convo with me at my workplace (across the street at the time). We connected on some vegan stuff and then eventually I went into his store and after a few more trips in there and friendly conversation my roommate and I happened to stop by for some drinks and he ended up inviting us to stay while he closed up shop. He then joined us at our place for some wine and bada bing bada boom we spent the next week seeing each other. In the end he turned out to be pretty batshit insane (had a phobia of the tags on my pillows, god I wish I was making that up) but it was one of the more successful dating stories I've had.

In conclusion, boners + free coffee = win

[Bob]

(had a phobia of the tags on my pillows, god I wish I was making that up)

really? that's all you have to say about that? come on

[cosmo105]

thus it only lasted a week. he offered to bring over his own, i said "that won't be necessary" then went on the first real date with my current boyfriend.

[Bob]

was he afraid that he'd get a papercut or something though? i don't even get what there is to have a phobia about. was it limited to pillow tags? or was he afraid of all tags? or all tag-shaped items?

you're killing me, i need to know more about that

[cosmo105]

Even though they were covered by my pillowcases, he was terrified of them. "I know they're still there." I offered to cut them off. "No...I can bring over my own pillow!"

He was an art student. That should tell you enough.

[Adam]

Guy is insane. But free coffee would of been a price worth paying

[cosmo105]

He was cute and very sweet. And lots of fun. But nuts.

[rirv]

What are his career prospects?

[cosmo105]

Making arts?

[rirv]

Sorry, career question aimed at Insertnamehere.

But, carry on. Making arts you say?

[cosmo105]

Paintings of tag-free pillows I imagine. Sorry pervy rirvy, thought you meant me.

[Adam]

poor insertnamehere's thread has been hijacked.

Back on subject though, there is no real money in arts but I suppose you don't make art to make money. And when you do you become a sell-out so I see why you ditched him :cool:

[Dorothy Wood]

slip him your phone number instead of paying money for your coffee. then be like, "oh crap, that's not money, THAT'S MY PHONE NUMBER ON A PIECE OF PAPER", then get some money out and reach for the paper with the number...and if he takes it instead of giving it back to you, then you're golden!


One time my best friend had a crush on this bartender and she'd try to flirt with him all the time. He was very stoic though, friendly, but not flirty. I gave him her phone number secretly once. He didn't call. :(

so, whatever you do, don't do that. as in, don't have your drunk friend give him your phone number. it's too confusing.

[Adam]

...and if he takes it instead of giving it back to you, then you're golden!

But when they cash up it'll be out - Starbucks don't have discretion, they only have corporate accounts

[Guy Incognito]

i used to work in a shopping centre and three shops down was a bakers where i used to get my lunchtime butty from and a girl started working there who had two of the greatest...eyes in the history of eyes.
we exchanged smiles then moved onto hello's and a bit of chit chat and i started offering to order for everyone at work so i was there longer and we chatted and then plucked up the courage to ask her out and..i couldnt do it.

That day i brought the order back very glumly to work and one of my workmates went a bit mental when i forgot their pie so i rushed back, got the pie and asked her out. she said yes. result. (y)we went out a couple of times, there were some fumblings and some nice encounters and we had lunch on the roof of the shopping centre but it kinda fizzled out.

i think she had a few fingers in a few pies and i was exploring my options as well if i am honest but she was very nice and i got a lot of confidence from the fact she said yes. from me first seeing her to her saying yes was about 10 days i think.

this was about fifteen years ago, she was a very pretty, confident girl. I'm not sure about how i did get a stranger to go out with me over a bakers counter which means i dont really have any advice i just thought i would share the story. I guess just be yourself and try and make conversation and take an opportunity if your willing to risk it.

[cosmo105]

^yeah, sort of what i aimed to say in so many words. You just have to DO it. There's no particular way to get the confidence up, you just have to forget yourself for a second and do it. But asking someone out at work is so delicate. Don't do it like this:

Around the same time, once at work at that place back then, a customer I had been friendly with and spoken to once or twice (we were supposed to be friendly and talkative there, mind you) came in and made a beeline for me and asked me out. At the customer service desk. NEXT TO MY MANAGER. My manager stared at me as I turned bright red and stammered, "uh, I uh..." and dudebro said, "You have a boyfriend, don't you" and I panicked and couldn't think of what to say. I was seeing my boyfriend then, but we weren't official yet and I wasn't really interested in that guy (although he was nice enough). I was flattered and might have said yes on a whim if he had done it in a less awkward way, to be honest. But with my manager right next to me, waiting to hear our response? I didn't even have time to say anything to the guy and he rushed out, saying, "Well don't I feel like a jackass." And my manager laughed and said HOLY SHIT HE WAS SERIOUS?! I THOUGHT HE WAS KIDDING and I punched him.

That poor guy. He avoided eye contact with me forever after that.

Anyway, make sure there aren't a billion other people there and he's not too busy. Anytime that I was asked out at work and actually said yes was when I wasn't doing all that much and was able to actually talk to the person relatively privately.

[nodanaonlyzuul]

"that won't be necessary"

(y)

oh man. that story.

and as others said, just go for it. Just not when they are around lots of other people.

[jabumbo]

there's a cute barrista at this coffee shop i sometimes go into next to my work, and she always chats it up with people, and even said hello to me in passing on the street.

i thought about doing something and then i saw her puffing away on the stoop next to the store one day and my dreams went crashing

[Dorothy Wood]

you don't have to write off smokers! geez. my boyfriend disapproves of my smoking and it has helped me to break the habit. for the most part. I still smoke occasionally. Like 0 or 2 a day, rolled tobacco. They stink less I think, or at least don't have that yuck smell that pre-packaged smokes have.
Anyway, I used to could smoke a whole pack in one weekend. Pretty soon I won't smoke any. (y)


anyhoo, I remembered that an old boyfriend of mine had a little success asking out a barrista. he ruined it though, because she mentioned that she was excited about a 3rd Eye Blind concert coming up and he laughed in her face, thinking she was kidding. oh boy, she wasn't kidding and she didn't like his reaction.


Seems to me that you've got nothing to lose, INH, people who work at coffee shops are clearly just weirdos and dorks. Ask him out and if he declines, just figure he likes bad music and has a toilet plunger phobia (or fetish).

[Gareth]

slip him your phone number instead of paying money for your coffee.

i saw TI do that one time in a music video.
except the lady at the shop was only dreaming.
oh well.

i think the guy would be flattered to be asked out...as anyone would.
whether he says yes, who knows.

[Adam]

You should really quit smoking. I really think that in 50 years it'll be as weird as chewing tobacco is now. People may still smoke pot but I think small portable vaporizers will be the norm with that. Anyway, it benefits everyone and you don't have to stand out in the cold because its freezing atm - that alone should be enough for people quit.

[jabumbo]

you don't have to write off smokers! geez. my boyfriend disapproves of my smoking and it has helped me to break the habit. for the most part. I still smoke occasionally. Like 0 or 2 a day, rolled tobacco. They stink less I think, or at least don't have that yuck smell that pre-packaged smokes have.
Anyway, I used to could smoke a whole pack in one weekend. Pretty soon I won't smoke any. (y)


i think it's a subconscious thing now. seeing a girl smoke is the biggest turnoff for me. i think that the smokes draw me away initially, but i venture to say that i wouldn't turn her away if she struck something up with me. of course, it would probably be the first topic of conversation from me, but i'm not gonna lie for that!

good work on taming your habit (y) i'll let you know if i ever need pointers from your boy about getting a girl to nix the tar from her fingers!

[Echewta]

I've never had a barrista fantasy. :confused:

[nodanaonlyzuul]

he ruined it though, because she mentioned that she was excited about a 3rd Eye Blind concert coming up and he laughed in her face, thinking she was kidding. oh boy, she wasn't kidding and she didn't like his reaction.


I think he dodged a bullet with that one.

[Ty Webb]

IT'S NOT CALLED A GIRL BONER IT'S CALLED A WIDE ON.

[Dorothy Wood]

I think he dodged a bullet with that one.

ha, probably. it's funny, he's been dating a nice girl for almost 2 years now...and she's a record-label publicist who knows even more about music than he does. (y)

seriously, dude's love life could be the premise of romantic comedy.

it could be like 501 Days of April.

[Randetica]

IT'S NOT CALLED A GIRL BONER IT'S CALLED A WIDE ON.

a wet on makes more sense

[Dorothy Wood]

yeah, that makes more sense. it doesn't get all wide down there when stimulated, quite the opposite. also, clits get hard.

Personally, I just like to say, "I have a boner". leave the "girl" out of it even.

[jabumbo]

Personally, I just like to say, "I have a boner". leave the "girl" out of it even.


that just allows for gender confusion among your colleagues

[Echewta]

I don't think women should be allowed to drink coffee. I think it should be only for guys.

[Dorothy Wood]

that just allows for gender confusion among your colleagues

nobody mistakes me for a dude. even when I say, "I HAVE A PENIS".

[Adam]

nobody mistakes me for a dude. even when I say, "I HAVE A PENIS...".

...IN MY MOUTH

Speaking at the same time would actually be a pretty good talent, not sure if it'd be a turn on or off for me tho.

I'll let you know next time I have one in my mouth.

[Audio.]

whah?