I suck at starting relationships

[Adam]

I've had many first dates recently, some that go into second dates but never really anything that hits a relationship status, except when I get one that I think might, they follow the cycle of me thinking "this could go somewhere" and then they say they have stuff on and then I learn they are in a relationship with some other dude when I know they've been single ages before that.

I'm like the enabler, I get interested in someone, find out how single they are and if its been a while for them they seem to date me and then find some one perfect for them. I just want some one to settle for me for a while. I just wanna get comfortable and get some regularly, without all the hard work new relationships require.

[trailerprincess]

What happened with the religious girl? Was that on another thread which I missed?

[paul jones]

I'm useless at it too(y)

[Adam]

The teenager - yes, was going well although we didn't sleep together but then her mother had to go into hospital and we have haven't really been in contact much since - now she is in a relationship

This is who I was technically ranting about :o I'm over it now though (its been 30 minutes) (y)

[gbsuey]

Don't stress Adam, relationships suck more than you suck at starting them. And yes i am a wee bit bitter at the moment:D

[Adam]

I go from a combination of w00t, I'm alone to ugh, I'm alone - this can be daily, I have no clue if I want to be in a relationship or not.

From the power of facebook she is seeing some infant who'll be shaving in about 12 years.

It wasn't ever gonna last but one thing I know is that you shouldn't stop interest in others once you think you have found someone to be with a while. I've done it in the past and this time to, I didn't contact a couple of girls because I thought I'll see this where this goes. Now there is one girl I'd love to contact but even I'd be "you're two months too late".

But what comes around goes around - I'll have more dates than not again soon and I'll make the same mistakes again, so expect a thread ;)

[kaiser soze]

Maybe it's the type of women you are trying to start with - teenage girls are historically known to be a bit wishy washy, so don't look for any strong commitment.

It's the fear of starting that keeps people from doing many things, get over it and just let things flow. A couple nice dinners, some wine, and a movie is always a great way to get rolling on starting a relationship (which in the adult world is usually started by a stunning sexual event).

Well that's how all my long term relationships started.

[Adam]

First teenager I've been out with in proper dating years.

I do go with the flow, its part of the problem I think because I don't push things too much. Most of my long term relationships have come from early sexual encounters - when the courting period lingers I should know it ain't gonna last but I carry on trying - so not really after advice, just venting. I know my limitations to dating, its hard to be someone you're not though so I'll just carry on until it clicks again (y)

[Echewta]

Paying is much easier than starting.

[faz]

When you figure out a solution, let me know.

[Adam]

When you figure out a solution, let me know.

Paying is much easier than starting.

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I started looking at dating sites again last night but I don't really stand out from them. There is always more men than women and they always seem to have careers, extreme sport enthusiasts with the greatest set of teeth know to man. I'm either far too truthful or a low specimen of human life - both are probably true (y)