rich parents

[Dorothy Wood]

so, my boyfriend apparently has rich parents...I suspected as much, but wasn't sure until he told me they invited him to go to london in the fall (and will be paying for his flight). he asked me if I wanted to go, but I can't afford it...then he said maybe they would buy me a ticket too.

My question is this: should I accept if the parents offer to pay my way?

if not, does someone want to give me a loan for oh, say, a couple grand?

[hpdrifter]

I have a friend who has rich parents and he's really a scrooge. I think he's paranoid that people will take advantage of him for his parents' money.

Anyway, if it were me honestly I'd probably take the flight and not care about the consequences because I would love to go to London just that much.

But it might be weird.

[Adam]

Take the flight if they offer. A redistribution of the wealth is needed.

[NicRN77]

If they're offering I would take it. Have you met them yet?

[HEIRESS]

I dated a boy who had semi-rich parents as well.

I first met them just after christmas after we'd been dating about 7 months. I guess he'd told them that I'd resold back my textbooks for the upcoming semester so I could buy xmas presents for him and my own family. So, upon meeting his own parents for the first time they gave me a 200 dollar gift certificate for my university's bookstore and said something like "education is a right not a privilege" in the accompany xmas card.

I felt like a piece of shit and was really mad at my boyfriend for making me seem so needy. I never told my own parents about it because I knew it would make them feel guilty, even though I never asked them for a dime to pay for my education.

regardless of this story, TAKE THE TICKET MAN!

[Dorothy Wood]

have not met them yet...but I've also been invited to go out east to the beach at the end of the month to meet them, but again, no way i can afford it. I'm also moving. grr.

I still don't know if I could accept such an extravagant gift. harumph!

[MC Moot]

A free flight is a free flight is a free flight...(y)

[HEIRESS]

Cmon, just help them buy his love by buying yours as well, it's a good deed!

[DIGI]

have not met them yet...but I've also been invited to go out east to the beach at the end of the month to meet them, but again, no way i can afford it. I'm also moving. grr.

I still don't know if I could accept such an extravagant gift. harumph!

Yeah, however shitty it is to not include you, I don't think I'd accept if the offer wasn't initially extended. I'd feel guilty knowing the bf had to approach the parents to ask if I could join.

[kaiser soze]

TAKE IT AND RUN!!!!

Just think you might find a smashing young gent in London - always keep your options open!!

jus' kiddin

no guilt, if the offer is up definitely take it - if you turn it down they may very well wonder what is wrong with you.

[Burnout18]

Are they rich?

Or are they just generous?

Take it, totally take the ticket.

[Rock]

I personally wouldn't..especially if I haven't met them.

[Freebasser]

He might not be rich.

Maybe his parents live in a really shitty part of London like Mile End or Hackney, and they just happen to work for British Airways as toilet attendants?

[b i o n i c]

thats really really tempting, especially if you've never been to london (i dunno maybe you have). i'd really really want to take it but i think i wouldnt.

maybe if he insisted.. and you knew his parents were filthy rich and not just rich, but i think id still feel controlled or something knowing that i can't return the favor

[Myu-to]

How long have you've been dating? (Sorry been off the board awhile.) How rich are we talking? I know you can't directly ask that by the way, but you're gut feeling. Because it's sounds to me like he is inviting you, but not his parents. My parents aren't "rich" but if I ever took a date out with them on a family thing, anywhere, they usually picked up the tab, or I would. I wouldn't ask a girlfriend to go somplace that I knew she couldn't afford without making it clear that she wouldn't have to pay for it.

[Dorothy Wood]

How long have you've been dating? (Sorry been off the board awhile.) How rich are we talking? I know you can't directly ask that by the way, but you're gut feeling. Because it's sounds to me like he is inviting you, but not his parents. My parents aren't "rich" but if I ever took a date out with them on a family thing, anywhere, they usually picked up the tab, or I would. I wouldn't ask a girlfriend to go somplace that I knew she couldn't afford without making it clear that she wouldn't have to pay for it.

8 months...and not sure how rich. guessing Huxtibles (sp?) rich.

this whole thing is just making me stressed and embarrassed that I can't afford things. :( also I'm kinda mad that my boyfriend will be hanging out on the beach and going to NYC while I'm moving....grr.

[Myu-to]

Doctor and a lawyer? They are prolly doing pretty well then, however, you know the whole deal better than us. It is one thing if they are offering to have you along to met you etc. then I would take them up on it, but he is having to convince them to pay for you, I would pass.

I must agree with you about the going off while you are moving thing. I found out later that Tricia didn't marry me for my looks, money, or the genetically gifted offspring that I sire, it's the simple fact that I can carry a lot. Him not helping you move means that he probably drinks chocolate beer when you're not around.

[Ty Webb]

take the flight live forever

[checkyourprez]

8 months...and not sure how rich. guessing Huxtibles (sp?) rich.

this whole thing is just making me stressed and embarrassed that I can't afford things. :( also I'm kinda mad that my boyfriend will be hanging out on the beach and going to NYC while I'm moving....grr.

understandable. but at the same time when were these plans made? if he already had planned to go then i can't blame him for going. if he woulda broke his plans off (sweet plans too, its not like he was going to the arcade or something) thats way to much whippage. i understand the being a good boyfriend angle, but come on, if it was the other way around (granted your a girl hes the guy) I at least, would not give two shits if you were out on a beach while i was moving my shit.

[Dorothy Wood]

understandable. but at the same time when were these plans made? if he already had planned to go then i can't blame him for going. if he woulda broke his plans off (sweet plans too, its not like he was going to the arcade or something) thats way to much whippage. i understand the being a good boyfriend angle, but come on, if it was the other way around (granted your a girl hes the guy) I at least, would not give two shits if you were out on a beach while i was moving my shit.

the beach plans were just made like 5 days ago. but, he's a good boy, he's trying to move the dates around. don't think I'm going to europe though. :(

[Adam]

Get on a cruise ship and work your passage over to europe and surprise them by meeting them there

"surprise you cheap bastards, why didn't you offer me a ticket" :mad:

that'll show 'em.

[venusvenus123]

Dorothy, my parents-in-law are rich. I have been with my man for 20 years now so am not shy about accepting money: ski trips, fancy clothes etc don't really embarrass me. But at the beginning I'm not sure what I would have done in yr shoes. Accepted it graciously I expect.

For people who are really loaded an air fare is like you or I buying someone a pizza. I know that's not saying they ought to pay for you, but if they offer and you're serious about this guy I don't see why you shouldn't accept.

About what Bionic said re being controlled, yes I have to say there is a price to pay with my in-laws, especially the mother. My husband turned down an all-expenses paid trip to Australia for this coming Christmas because he knows it would be such a nightmare being with her for that length of a trip.

[RobMoney$]

take the flight live forever

I thought it was "Buy the ticket, take the ride"

[abcdefz]

I learned that if someone offers you a gift and you refuse, it's often insulting. Be gracious. If you didn't try to wheedle a gift out of someone,
it's fine.

Plus, you've gotta let people make their own decisions. Maybe they see it as an inexpensive way to get to know you better.

[yeahwho]

London and rich parents are overrated, I think hanging around the states and watching TV is underrated.

Tell him and his rich parents to take a leap then go find a normal guy.

[Dorothy Wood]

London and rich parents are overrated, I think hanging around the states and watching TV is underrated.

Tell him and his rich parents to take a leap then go find a normal guy.


I've been hanging around the states watching TV for years!

meh, like I said, it hasn't been offered. I really don't know what the deal is...seems like it's all in the planning stages right now.

He is a normal guy. :(


Venus, I'm pretty sure they're not that rich...but I'll find out someday I guess!

[mikizee]

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