Family feuds

[Adam]

Anyone ever had a real big fall out with their family?

I have - yesterday and today. I am actually shaking right now and I don't know what to do. Basically insulted everyone because I've been going through times of high stress, taken too much on with the family house sale and messed things up.

I could cry. I'm sure time will play this out ok but I don't know what to do now. I've apologised but things are out there that shouldn't of been.

Ah man, I'm such a douche.

Not sure what I am asking here - how to dampen the flames immediately I suppose. Not contact anyone and hide? Respond but its just getting me more angry.

Fuck fuck fuck :(

[NicRN77]

Family feuds are always rough. I haven't spoken with my father in 3 years. Long story. I've come to the realization that just because they're family doesn't mean I have to like them.

[Splashleigh]

as long as you're open to reconciliation and ready to apologise for your own wrongs and forgive others for theirs your family will come back to you.

[MC Moot]

I recommend a cooling off period…in the mean time it may help to address your feelings and thoughts by writing a hand written open letter…get it out on paper…then don’t send it just let the letter sit for a week and then re-read/revisit how you felt…a little time and distance may help with your perspective and disposition before you re-engage la familia…

[Adam]

I have more friends than I first thought. I a way I'm glad I said some of the things I did, I needed to vent. Doesn't excuse not being a decent human being as normal but luckily my family are and understand. Still, its weird but meh. Fuck it dude, lets go bowling.

[Freebasser]

Our family had a mega bust-up around the dinner table at Christmas a few years ago. Everybody ended up in separate rooms and the house was flooded with tears. I can't even remember what it was about.

The funniest bit was when my sister's fiance was left sitting at the table by himself thinking "what am I marrying into?" (y)

[Fern]

it will play itself out, kid. you gotta do what you want in the end. I have talked to my mother in 15 years and she literally lives 3 blocks from me

[kaiser soze]

my mom has been acting like an ass since my dad died - she practically denies him while exploiting him in the same breath. She knows better, but seems she is entitled to use his name still (car registration) So I told her that was fucked up and immoral and illegal. But she looooooves the life insurance money. Too bad she didn't even have the courtesy and respect to put a picture of him in her new "camp" which was provided by his death.

she's seriously in her own idiotic, selfish world.

So it looks like myself and my two sisters are taking a break, it hurts but we just can't come up with any solution that my mom is willing to be a part of. It's not about the money, it's about the quality time she just can't provide for us and our children....and the lies.

[Adam]

So I thought this was all water under the bridge. Apparently its not.

I came looking for this thread to see how long ago it was. July! Ah well, if they won't accept my apology then I can do anything else.

I was a little passive aggressive just now tho but not as bad as I nearly was because I took a breath and edited before hitting send. But I should of taken another couple but oh well. Silly me, I'm my own worst enemy sometimes.

I do worry tho. Its my brother-in-law whom I've fallen out with and although I'm sure he and my sister are in love, he can be kinda manipulative. I can't really get my sister to socialise with us at all, she rarely responds to the email regarding our parents house sale. I fear of emotional blackmail/abuse from him on my little sister but if I involve myself I'm just gonna make it worse. My other sister can't make much in roads either.