View Full Version : My favorite girlfriend ever
abcdefz
08-10-2010, 09:05 PM
...from Indiana now lives in the same city as me in California. She's married and her dad just died. A Google search with her name or her husband's didn't turn up much.
Man, I loved her. Still carry a torch for her, actually, so meeting would be awkward for me at first, I'm sure.
ms.peachy
08-10-2010, 09:41 PM
How do you know she lives there now?
abcdefz
08-11-2010, 02:14 AM
They listed the girls' residences in the obituary.
Burnout18
08-11-2010, 12:15 PM
hey, i have a favorite ex-girl too... we still talk but she is on the western side of PA. I saw via facebook she is coming to NYC soon. God i hope she hits me up.
abcdefz
08-11-2010, 01:24 PM
This girl and I were great friends for over a year before dating. Every time I dropped her off, we just kept the car running and kept
talking and talking longer and longer. I think I've talked about her on this board before, when mp was in a similar situation, not sure
if he wanted to "start something" or not. Anyway, one winter night she finally just pulled me in for a kiss. I was way initimidated by
her, so she had to make the first move. So pretty and funny and smart...
Anyway, we dated for a few months and I was kind of pressing her for sex and she broke up with me. We were literally out together
the next night having coffee. We stayed friends.
She eventually moved to the east coast and I was in college. At one point I was in the hospital and she flew back to see me. She
was terrified of planes, so that was a huge deal to me.
A couple of years later I wrote her a letter saying how much I loved her and she was really the one, and I never heard back from her.
She got married and move to Florida -- that's the last I heard, and that was probably 17 years ago.
Burnout18
08-11-2010, 01:36 PM
A couple of years later I wrote her a letter saying how much I loved her and she was really the one, and I never heard back from her.
She got married and move to Florida -- that's the last I heard, and that was probably 17 years ago.
Yea i did the letter(e-mail) thing already too.... i felt like a fucking idiot, the second i sent it i wanted to jump off a cliff, i had never done that for anyone else.... but to my surprise she responded a week later saying neither yes or no directly but blamed distance and made it seem unlikely we would ever be together. and like i said we still talk so its not like i creeped her out i guess.
i don't dwell on her but every now and then, even if i am with someone else, she pops into my head.
Ah man, the letter of saying "you're the one". How at any point before sending is it a good idea and then the very second of no return its "wtf have I been smoking to just do that".
Although, my favourite girl we still talk and I'm hopefully planning a visit soon. Met her via here even. Its probably been 10 years since we first started talking. Woah.
abcdefz
08-11-2010, 02:04 PM
Yeah. Funny things is, I still think we would've been great together. I might be romanticizing, but I really loved her and was amazed that
she wanted to be with me even for a while.
Dorothy Wood
08-11-2010, 02:54 PM
oh you men and your torch-holding. seriously, live in the present! I can't tell you how many assholes jerked me around because they were holding on to some other girl, or the idea of another girl from the past. and even a couple jerks were carrying torches for me and screwed up stuff with the girls they moved on to after me. it's a mess.
I'm sure you loved/love her and all, but you don't even know her anymore, and you're not the same person you were back then either.
a few months ago, I googled a former flame and even wrote to him on facebook. He's married with kids, and I'm in a pretty solid relationship, but I was curious. He was pleased to hear from me, but I only wrote back once after the initial message, and then kinda forgot about it. Even though I didn't keep up correspondence, it was a healthy bit of closure for me, because things ended badly and strangely about 12 years ago.
I guess what I'm saying is that you shouldn't exactly avoid contacting her...I say go ahead and contact her. But don't expect anything other than a good reminiscing chat. Understand that she's married and has her own life and a recent tragedy and doesn't need her life complicated any further. But if you guys were truly good friends, and enough time has passed since your letter, she will probably be open to reconnecting.
No matter how good she looks right now, somewhere someone is sick of her shit.
abcdefz
08-11-2010, 05:58 PM
I wouldn't expect anything or want anything like that. I never mess with that. I assume people take vows for a reason. One time a lady I knew in an open relationship wanted to be with me and I refused. I don't do infidelity.
yeahwho
08-11-2010, 08:58 PM
I quit facebook mainly because of old girlfriends. I have 0 interest in keeping in touch with their current status or the constant updating what their doing as opposed to what I'm doing.
Every girlfriend I've had was cool, I always used to Jerry Seinfeld out. Meaning the silliest gesture or slightest defect sends me instantly into relationship phobia. My current girl is my favorite by miles due to her outrageously happy disposition on life.
Every girlfriend I've been with has a heart of gold.
I quit facebook mainly because of old girlfriends. I have 0 interest in keeping in touch with their current status or the constant updating what their doing as opposed to what I'm doing.
Every girlfriend I've had was cool, I always used to Jerry Seinfeld out. Meaning the silliest gesture or slightest defect sends me instantly into relationship phobia.
Definitely same thing here.
Echewta
08-12-2010, 12:27 PM
Every girlfriend I've been with has a heart of gold.
You could be rich right now if you'd been taking them.
kidney's is where the money is now.
yeahwho
08-12-2010, 01:55 PM
How much the average human heart weigh? I'm a few clicks away from facebook, the tubs full of ice and my knives are sharpened.
Echewta
08-12-2010, 03:42 PM
regular kidneys or gold kidneys?
Mmm, chocolate covered kidneys...
paul jones
08-14-2010, 02:10 PM
I refuse to carry torches for ex's. They can carry them themselves the lazy cows!
No matter how good she looks right now, somewhere someone is sick of her shit.
(y)
abcdefz
08-14-2010, 09:53 PM
Unless she has changed DRASTICALLY, that's not likely true. This lady rocked, and I never knew anyone who didn't think so. Of course, some people just take an irrational dislike to others, but that's a pretty jaded thing to say categorically about someone you've never met.
Yes maybe. But that is just the peers you hang around with. You're more likely to enjoy the company of that everyone enjoys the company of.
I've had exes that was awesome until a certain point and you think - no this person is annoying, so glad we broke up. Basically, I think Waus is right.
Jollop
08-19-2010, 06:47 PM
sounds a bit like a stalker!:eek:
jabumbo
08-21-2010, 12:37 PM
so you two have coffee yet or what?
abcdefz
08-21-2010, 01:52 PM
Nah. I haven't tried to contact her beyond that initial Google search.
ToucanSpam
08-21-2010, 08:25 PM
Lame. This story just got a hell of a lot less interesting. Drunk dial her tonight!
russhie
08-22-2010, 06:56 PM
This doesn't really count but when my current boyfriend and I made our relationship facebook public, about a half dozen boys who I'd seen casually over the last 2-2 1/2 years texted me to say congrats and ask "who the lucky guy was". A couple even told me I deserved happiness & best wishes for the future etc...
I just thought that was interesting.
kaiser soze
08-22-2010, 07:13 PM
maybe they like boys too and want you to share a piece :confused::);):eek::(
I think they was asking "so how long is it gonna last and do you want a rebound afterwards?"
Echewta
08-23-2010, 12:51 PM
It was probably just their way of asking "Who is your daddy, and what does he do?"
Lyman Zerga
08-24-2010, 09:59 AM
on saturday some spanish guy started a conversation with me, he wanted to know my life story in like two seconds, he made me even shake his hand (glad it was just his hand)
he kept stalking me, i walked faster and ignored his questions at some point
when i took place at my cafe he was standing on the same spot for an hour just to have a view on me
girls really love getting molested by smeary strangers
abcdefz
08-24-2010, 02:14 PM
on saturday some spanish guy started a conversation with me, he wanted to know my life story in like two seconds, he made me even shake his hand (glad it was just his hand)
he kept stalking me, i walked faster and ignored his questions at some point
when i took place at my cafe he was standing on the same spot for an hour just to have a view on me
girls really love getting molested by smeary strangers
Ick.
I remember this one guy who started going to the church where I worked years ago who just had zero understanding of personal space and
freaked out more than one woman because of it. I've never quite understood this sort of thing. I mean, does being stalker-ish and invasive
right from the go really work on some women?
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