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miss soul fire
02-16-2011, 07:23 PM
Like when you start seeing someone. In my case, start seeing someone...again (5 dates in August last year). 2 dates now so far.

So, anyway. This guy and I started going out again and he asked me (by calling me and/or texting me) on 3 dates. I said "no" in one because I was tired as hell and said "yes" in the second and in the third one I said I could go on Saturday and not Friday like he wanted, because I was going out with my friends. So, anyway, I called him this Saturday to go out and he accepted, although he had been ill all day. He ate something that was bad for his stomach. Actually, I just called him. I can't remember who asked to go out. So, anyway, he seemed in a way distant, but that's the way he is sometimes. I don't know. And he said he was tired of kissing lots of girls. I don't know. He didn't send me a message since this date. I'm not sure if he stopped liking me for some reason or that he wants me to ask him out, since I did only once this time. During the date he said "I'm always the one who says were we should go". So that's why this time I picked the place. In the last date, as in others (only drunk 2 dates, but just a bit), I kinda drunk a bit and was all "I love me". Hihihihi. Like "that guy likes me" or "that guy said good things about me". Maybe he didn't like that. I don't know. He's mysterious. Maybe he was just sick that day. And I told him I thought he only wants sex (never got it from me yet) because we have a great physical attraction and he said that he wants that, but it's not only that. He said he's just not used to say cute things to girls because it sounds fake, but he says he wants to learn. I don't really know if he likes me. He said "am I not here? even though he knew I wasn't going to do any sex with him". So, what should I do? Should I just call him and ask him to go out with me?? Or this is "his" turn and not mine?:D

I'm not desperate or anything, but I would like to go out with him again. I'm still waiting for him to call. And I don't want to call and not get a positive answer or any answer at all. I would hate that.:p

ma belle
02-16-2011, 07:39 PM
It's not that complicated...
Call if you want to. Be honest and calm.
Find out if there's anything past the pheromones.
There is no rule book - I keep asking them to show me one ;)

miss soul fire
02-17-2011, 07:18 AM
I may even do that, but I'm gonna wait until tonight. I'm just afraid of him losing his interest in me. That would suck. I would hate to be rejected again.:/

Burnout18
02-17-2011, 10:12 AM
I am so obssessed with texting this girl i have been seeing i seriously wonder if i am beginning to annoy her.


"I'm just afraid of him losing his interest in me. That would suck"

and i couldnt agree with you more, thats my fear too.

miss soul fire
02-17-2011, 11:18 AM
I am so obssessed with texting this girl i have been seeing i seriously wonder if i am beginning to annoy her.


"I'm just afraid of him losing his interest in me. That would suck"

and i couldnt agree with you more, thats my fear too.

Actually that's not my case. I rarely send him a message. He sent me more, like 6 and I have sent like 3 just answering his, which are like "Hey, Wanna go out tomorrow night?" and I reply "yes I do."

miss soul fire
02-17-2011, 07:41 PM
He never answered me back. I'm so stupid. :(

I'm tired of this emotional roller coaster. How now to get involved ever????

Burnout18
02-18-2011, 07:56 AM
He never answered me back. I'm so stupid. :(

I'm tired of this emotional roller coaster. How now to get involved ever????

ahhh ha i want to laugh, not at you but with you. I am the same way. Moments after i call and no one picks up or its goes more then 10 minutes without a response to a text, I just start fucking thinking how fuckin stupid i am. What a stupid asshole I am.

How about this tho... and tell me if you ever heard of this shit, she fucked up her phone and now my texts are coming in at funny times.... she said she got texts that i sent around 5pm at 4am. Is that bullshit?

Helvete
02-18-2011, 08:10 AM
Yeah, the rule is, go out with a guy for a bunch of times, arrange another date and then ignore all contact with him with no explanation. Guys love it when girls are stupid fucking bitches.

DIGI
02-18-2011, 09:29 AM
Rent Swingers.

miss soul fire
02-18-2011, 09:41 AM
ahhh ha i want to laugh, not at you but with you. I am the same way. Moments after i call and no one picks up or its goes more then 10 minutes without a response to a text, I just start fucking thinking how fuckin stupid i am. What a stupid asshole I am.

How about this tho... and tell me if you ever heard of this shit, she fucked up her phone and now my texts are coming in at funny times.... she said she got texts that i sent around 5pm at 4am. Is that bullshit?

Nah. I sent it at 1:00 pm yesterday and it's 1:33 pm now of the next day!! His phone is not in my cel anymore. He always gets my message. He simply lost interest in me and that's because I gave him a second chance. And he was the one who called me and wanted to go out with me...I wish I know. Whatever, dude. I don't like to insist so...

Kid Presentable
02-18-2011, 09:42 AM
Are you thinking about fucking him?

miss soul fire
02-18-2011, 09:47 AM
Yeah, the rule is, go out with a guy for a bunch of times, arrange another date and then ignore all contact with him with no explanation. Guys love it when girls are stupid fucking bitches.

That's what I intend to do. He was the one who never replied to me. I've tried. Guys just like to pretend they like you, when in fact they don't give a rat's ass about you. Maybe I should accept another guy's invitation to a date. I shoul have done it when this cool and hot guy called me on Sunday. Now i'm stupid twice. Hihihi. And iphone sucks to write lots of words!!!

miss soul fire
02-18-2011, 09:52 AM
Are you thinking about fucking him?

If I had done that before he would have just disappaered earlier.:p

Helvete
02-18-2011, 10:00 AM
That's what I intend to do. He was the one who never replied to me. I've tried. Guys just like to pretend they like you, when in fact they don't give a rat's ass about you. Maybe I should accept another guy's invitation to a date. I shoul have done it when this cool and hot guy called me on Sunday. Now i'm stupid twice. Hihihi. And iphone sucks to write lots of words!!!

Well, it works both ways. Girls mess guys about too. I feel like I was in the same situation as you!

Forget that guy and move on, it's the only thing you can do.

miss soul fire
02-18-2011, 10:28 AM
Well, it works both ways. Girls mess guys about too. I feel like I was in the same situation as you!

Forget that guy and move on, it's the only thing you can do.

Yup. I just moved on. I'm quite easy in letting somebody go. I rarely suffer from that and I have a saying "there's always another guy" and every guy is easily replaced by a better one.:D

Helvete
02-18-2011, 10:36 AM
Best attitude to have, I try to keep that too, but there is a distinct lack of single girls that I know, so it's rare for me to find one who will go out with me! Therefore I am single for 3 months now and it bloody sucks.

miss soul fire
02-18-2011, 11:44 AM
Best attitude to have, I try to keep that too, but there is a distinct lack of single girls that I know, so it's rare for me to find one who will go out with me! Therefore I am single for 3 months now and it bloody sucks.

Only 3 months?? I've been single single since January 2010. It's been very goid though and now I wanna "rest".:D

Echewta
02-18-2011, 11:01 PM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2aN4w2AfkEY

miss soul fire
02-19-2011, 08:27 AM
Too bad I've got no time for a therapist. Because I would REALLY like to know why do I scare man away.:confused: Am I too silly? Am I too "I don't care about you"? What the hell. This is starting to annoy me.:mad:

I've read that book of Sherry Argov like 5 times and I did evertyhing right. Oh well. Sherry Argov sucks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!