i have to vent now..

[Guy Incognito]

fuckin selfish bastard of a"close" "friend" wanting to blow off attending a celebration of very important birthday in my family which has known about for ages now. Just because his home town team might be going to a final. he hasnt been to see them for years and its not even the semi fucking final yet. he doesnt fucking realise what sort of message it sends.

it was only supposed to be some close friends and family and then the menfolk look after the kids and the ladies go for a night out. we've already moved the date twice, re-made loads of arrangements. And then he had the nerve to tell me to chill out after admitting that he had asked another friend to tell me instead. gutless cunt.

sorry if that makes no sense just had to let it out

[hardnox71]

And then he had the nerve to tell me to chill out after admitting that he had asked another friend to tell me instead.

That should speak louder in your ear than anything else right now. In a week or so he's gonna want to get together and watch a game or have a beer or whatever to try and get back in good with you but don't give in. Don't let him off the hook. I'm not saying stay angry. Get rid of that, too. It will kill you but let him know you don't need "friends" like that. You can get more honesty and better treatment from a complete stranger in the street.

edit: I'm not instigating. I just know how it is. I knew a guy for fifteen years who would do bogus shit repeatedly and I would get pissed for a day or two and then I would let it slide like nothing happened.....and then he would go and do something else. It never ended. Why? Because I didn't put stop to it. That's all I'm saying. If your acquaintance is bogus enough to do this, something else is on the horizon. Guaranteed. Cut your losses.

[abbott]

we all have priorities.

[Guy Incognito]

we all have priorities.

whats that supposed to mean?

the fact is that it isnt even his chosen sport, its hometown team in another sport and he hasnt been to a game for over 20 years. They arent even at the final but he rang me to say there was a problem before its even happened. ITs another show of disrespect for us. Its already spoilt evrything, the wife is upset and doesnt want to come anyway now. There is going to be an almighty row at some point and its going to be horrible. But he has been really selfish and insensitive.

[abbott]

I can hang out with the family tonight or I can go get drunk and play poker with my friends.

I have to decide what my priorities are.

If I choose family night ... family is my priority.

If I choose cards and beer ... cards and beer are my priority.


Your fiend has his priority and it aint your family celebration apparently. To bad his priority is bullshit per your take.

[Guy Incognito]

but i know that if boot were on the other foot he'd be going batshit.

[Dusty Brain]

Make up a bullshit story about doing something else whilst all you're actually doing is sittin at home, drinking, eating pizza and watchin Goldeneye. Textbook.

[MC Moot]

Who's birthday is it?...I mean if it's an elder those ones count a lot more...but if it's a child's there will be years and years of that to come...I might choose the footy myself especially if it's premier league...who's the match between?...were you counting on him the for child care aspect?

[Guy Incognito]

its the wife's. its been planned for ages. its not really the fact that he doesnt want to go. its the way he's gone about it. the actual event has been changed to summat else and the wife is more than happy about arrangements now.

I realise people dont know full facts here, i just had to let some of it out the other day. I still feel shit about it .