Why do we have/create enemies? (rant)

[Dorothy Wood]

I mean, psychologically? I made a thread last year about this chick I hate, and have hated for going on 2 years now...and it seems like all summer, she's been trying to get on my good side, but it just makes me hate her even more because all she does is compliment my appearance. Which just reinforces my opinion that she's all surface, no substance.

I got to thinking last night that it was kind of weird/immature of me to avoid her all the time, but I really just don't like her.

My therapist friend says it's because of "mirroring", I recognize in her what I don't like about myself. But I don't know if that's true.

Last night she attended a comedy show I help put on, and she sat right in the middle center with her friends, and made sure to talk very loudly before the show began (something about telling off some guy because he was a misogynist :rolleyes:). then during the show, she was heckling, or interjecting during every act. Then during my bit (I provided a comical entertainment report), she was like, "BEST REFERENCE EVER!" when I mentioned something she recognized, and then when I talked about that show "New Girl", she and her friends were like "zooey deschanel is right here! she's here!"...because this chick thinks she looks exactly like her based on the fact they both have bangs and blue eyes.

Anyway, I ignored them the whole time, but I had a major chance to burn my enemy in front of a large group! I think snubbing her actually was a bigger burn though.

After the show, she was hitting on my good friend...and he has asked me about her in the past. I told him "I don't like her personality", and about how she's been cruel to girls I know (over boys), and how I think she's boring. He made a cat screetch sound and a clawing motion, but I told him to shut it.
They're still probably gonna fuck or something. just, I want her to go away! get out of my friendship circle! no! I say no!


why do I care about this shit?
:(

[TurdBerglar]

there's this bitch i use to work with. she's just snotty and bitter. she absolutely hated me because i wanted nothing to do with her shitty attitude. i would completly ignore her and dismiss her. she'd try to insult me and i'd just dismiss it. she's been going out with a friend(the one that just got married) of a friend of mine. so we cross paths sometimes. and everytime she tries to force me to talk to her and every time i just dismiss her. she gets so pissed and shitty and cunty with me. why does she keep trying to be friendly with me??? why can't she just ignore me???

the last time i saw her was at that wedding. she came out of left field and tried to say hello to me in front of my friends and family. she caught me completly off gaurd and i was just all like.... pleas fuck off please fuck off please fuck off. it just always seems like she's trying to force me to like her, to be her friend. i fucking hate her.

[Dorothy Wood]

Maybe it's an introvert vs. extrovert thing. Our DNA rejects theirs.

and they just can't fucking stand it when there's a person in the world they can't get attention from.

[TurdBerglar]

she also does alot of that over complementing bullshit hoping for some sort of positive response.


i over heard her complementing someone she hasn't seen in a long time... oh my god look at you your so handsome! when did you get so handsome! just look at you! oh my god! she just kept going on and on and the guy she was talking to was just all like....uhhhhh ok settle down now. and she got all shitty because he wasn't SUPER EXCITED that he was getting complemented by her.

[Dorothy Wood]

Maybe they're related?

Literally, if I recount the last 5 things this chick has said to me, they all involve saying something about my outfit or my hair. I always just say "thanks" and manage to walk away. or pretend I didn't hear her.

Luckily, I'm a known shy person, so I can get away with it. but I'm really stretching it these days. I'm afraid she's going to start asking people what my deal is. and if I'm ever confronted, I'll say, "I'm just not that into you".

:cool:

[kll]

I have seen dogs end up being super into the human that pays them the least attention. A few times.

[jabumbo]

I have seen dogs end up being super into the human that pays them the least attention. A few times.

this is my dad. he doesn't get along with dogs at all (partly due to allergies, partly cause he's weird). but they ALWAYS go to him first and it drives him nuts.

[abbott]

what's hate got to do, got to do with it? Who needs hate...

I have the same issue with this bitch that said a bunch of bullshit, sabotaged me and now acts like my best friend .... I have to remind myself I have a family and kids and she is a wast of time.

Fuck that bitch.

I had to go to anger management to learn to control my anger and I was told to Chanel my anger in a song. I did it and somehow I forgot all about it ... for the most part.

[gbsuey]

you Chanelled your anger...well get you. Perfume or lipstick?? Or even a nice jacket

[hardnox71]

you Chanelled your anger...well get you. Perfume or lipstick?? Or even a nice jacket

Oooooh, damn! You beat me to it. I was trying to think up something when I read his post!! LOL

[kll]

you Chanelled your anger...well get you. Perfume or lipstick?? Or even a nice jacket

damn, you beat me to it!

i need to learn to chanel shit too!

[kaiser soze]

there's this weird cosmic clash between characters

on this board there are people I haven't gotten along with, same on another board and so forth and so on. In my city I don't have any enemies but honestly I have very few friends, but when I lived in Buffalo there were people who I didn't like and who didn't like me. Something about the scene you're in.

so I keep my pocket of friends small nowadays, no need for unnecessary superficial friendliness with everyone out there.

[Myu-to]

I don't wish I had an enemy or anything, but I don't seem to be bothered with other people enough to have one. Some people bother me with their boring stuff, their face, or the way they smell, but whatever. I usually get along with everyone, or I can pretend to for awhile until it's time to walk away when I don't like being around them anymore.

That being said, there was this one time I was at the zoo with Noah, and there was this man that just gave this sense that he was pedophile or something. There was something about him I didn't like, didn't trust, and I had this overwhelming urge to beat the shit out of him. I have never had that happen before or since. I know I have dealt out some retribution with extreme predjudice, but never, never have I wanted to stomp on someone for no known reason.

[ToucanSpam]

I think sometimes we just make enemies for the sake of taking our anger out on someone. I can remember coming here and posting a lot of angry (and pointless) comments towards people (including you Dorothy) for little to no reason.

I also think sometimes we make enemies with people we actually have much in common with, sort of like the "mirroring" suggestion in the original post.

Other times, I think it's just human nature not to be able to get along with everyone. Ah well.