Diminished love is a god damn shame.

[MCAadROCKMiKEd7]

2 and 1/2 years with my first love and everything got ruined, I cant describe how broken my heart is right now. (I sound like such a whiney little bitch i'm sorry)

But I really need coping advice from more grown up folk on here. I cant really wrap my mind around the fact that I haven't talked to him in a few days when I spoke to him everyday all day for so long..

I'm a troubled kid, i've always had medical issues, I have 2 brain tumors, 1 in my right sinus, and small ulcers across the frontal lobe from stress. Many medications for bi-polar and ADHD, I recently almost lost a very close family member to suicide, and I feel like life has gone downhill since my mom lost her job 2 years ago and I dropped out of school as a sophomore I failed myself.

I have an autistic little brother whos my best friend in the world and I hate seeing him go through what he does, and I cant fix it that kills me.

I really just need some good advice because i'm losing it and nobody likes to listen to somebody complain is how I feel, so please any advice at all would be amazing I just need some help from someone I have no friends, and i'm isolated from everything in a small town living with my grandparents I live with 7 other people and were all starting to drive each other crazy.

I'm fucking 18 years old.

Please if anybody has any wise words for me, I'd appreciate the fuck out of it.

[kaiser soze]

Well, the first step is being aware that there may be something inside YOU that brings about these things....but do not blame yourself, love is tricky as shit and people's lives stray from what brings us together. If you believe it is your fault, seek counseling before you go deeper down that dark hole.

I understand what you're feeling, I am going through a painful breakup of 4 years and a child and I'm not doing well at all :(

BUT I'm seeking counseling, getting exercise in, keeping somewhat to my studies and work, giving my child TONS of love, and being respectful towards my ex. You gotta keep your cool and respect yourself and others while struggling. If you need to BUST OPEN - go punch a punching bag. If you feel like melting, go get a hug. IF you need to share your thoughts - talk to someone who cares.

[MCAadROCKMiKEd7]

Well, the first step is being aware that there may be something inside YOU that brings about these things....but do not blame yourself, love is tricky as shit and people's lives stray from what brings us together. If you believe it is your fault, seek counseling before you go deeper down that dark hole.

I understand what you're feeling, I am going through a painful breakup of 4 years and a child and I'm not doing well at all :(

BUT I'm seeking counseling, getting exercise in, keeping somewhat to my studies and work, giving my child TONS of love, and being respectful towards my ex. You gotta keep your cool and respect yourself and others while struggling. If you need to BUST OPEN - go punch a punching bag. If you feel like melting, go get a hug. IF you need to share your thoughts - talk to someone who cares.

This guy was my first kiss and everything. He was my best friend.
Counseling is my next step because i'm restarting school in the winter at COD because im about to take the GED test so I can do that, if I dont start school I lose my health insurance.

Punching bad sounds good haha, I turned to a friend of mine and he had the nerve to start hitting on me. I was disgusted by that.

My mom and I are very close but she had 2 little boys (My older brother also but hes 20) that are in elementary school, both challenged and stressed so I dont get much time in with her like I used to.

I shouldnt have reacted the way I did to him but he decided to lash out and say some very horrible things to me.

I really wish you the best, you and your child, you're clearly a very good mother especially being able to cope with youre ex through it, that takes strength. I appreciate your response, and I truly wish you guys the best.

[hardnox71]

I thought I had it tough growing up on the South Side (95th and Halsted), but stories like yours always make me quit my bitching.

The best advice I can possible give you right now is to talk to a professional. There are places that work with you financially (and some that won't charge at all.) We are both in Chicago (I'm up in Rogers Park), so I will dig up what info I think might be helpful and IM you tomorrow.

I know tomorrow doesn't help you right now but until then, just keep your head up and hold on.

[MCAadROCKMiKEd7]

I thought I had it tough growing up on the South Side (95th and Halsted), but stories like yours always make me quit my bitching.

The best advice I can possible give you right now is to talk to a professional. There are places that work with you financially (and some that won't charge at all.) We are both in Chicago (I'm up in Rogers Park), so I will dig up what info I think might be helpful and IM you tomorrow.

I know tomorrow doesn't help you right now but until then, just keep your head up and hold on.

Don't consider your problems less difficult than mine if you went through things you still gotta have some real pride in yourself for getting through it.
That is fucking awesome thank you, very very much.
I've tried therapy before and I couldnt make a good connection with the therapist so I have to find a new one, I have a psych, but thats just for prescriptions.

[kaiser soze]

This guy was my first kiss and everything. He was my best friend.
Counseling is my next step because i'm restarting school in the winter at COD because im about to take the GED test so I can do that, if I dont start school I lose my health insurance.

Punching bad sounds good haha, I turned to a friend of mine and he had the nerve to start hitting on me. I was disgusted by that.

My mom and I are very close but she had 2 little boys (My older brother also but hes 20) that are in elementary school, both challenged and stressed so I dont get much time in with her like I used to.

I shouldnt have reacted the way I did to him but he decided to lash out and say some very horrible things to me.

I really wish you the best, you and your child, you're clearly a very good mother especially being able to cope with youre ex through it, that takes strength. I appreciate your response, and I truly wish you guys the best.

I'm a guy

funny - I thought you were a guy as well

you need to find someone and that someone is a counselor. Feelings of Isolation are the worse when you're feeling this way, besides getting this off your shoulders, the counselor might give you healthy options in finding friends.

[MCAadROCKMiKEd7]

I'm a guy

funny - I thought you were a guy as well

you need to find someone and that someone is a counselor. Feelings of Isolation are the worse when you're feeling this way, besides getting this off your shoulders, the counselor might give you healthy options in finding friends.

Hahaha most people assume i'm a guy, Idk why I assumed you were a girl wtf i'm sorry thats foolish

I'm hoping once I start school I can make some new friends because I lost all my old good friends after I moved, I have severe social anxiety so it's just very difficult. A counselor that I can truly open up to would be awesome

[JoLovesMCA]

2 and 1/2 years with my first love and everything got ruined, I cant describe how broken my heart is right now. (I sound like such a whiney little bitch i'm sorry)

But I really need coping advice from more grown up folk on here. I cant really wrap my mind around the fact that I haven't talked to him in a few days when I spoke to him everyday all day for so long..

I'm a troubled kid, i've always had medical issues, I have 2 brain tumors, 1 in my right sinus, and small ulcers across the frontal lobe from stress. Many medications for bi-polar and ADHD, I recently almost lost a very close family member to suicide, and I feel like life has gone downhill since my mom lost her job 2 years ago and I dropped out of school as a sophomore I failed myself.

I have an autistic little brother whos my best friend in the world and I hate seeing him go through what he does, and I cant fix it that kills me.

I really just need some good advice because i'm losing it and nobody likes to listen to somebody complain is how I feel, so please any advice at all would be amazing I just need some help from someone I have no friends, and i'm isolated from everything in a small town living with my grandparents I live with 7 other people and were all starting to drive each other crazy.

I'm fucking 18 years old.

Please if anybody has any wise words for me, I'd appreciate the fuck out of it.

WOW, girl I'm so sorry all of this has happened to you. That's a lot of heavy shit to deal with at your age. I know you don't want to hear this but you need to focus back on your education. If you make some short term goals of what you want to do say 5 years from now you'll get back on track and you'll for sure meet new people and make friends. If you stay at home in that small town and don't focus on what you can do to better your life then you'll struggle when you're older. You're still really young so you have a chance. :cool:

About the guy, well that's never easy and it sucks it happened during a time when you'd probably need him the most.. But again you've got bigger things to focus on and once you do that you can help your brother too. I dunno but I'm here to talk to anytime if you need to vent!

[hardnox71]

Hey, where are you located? North side, South side or West side? I just need to know so I can get you info that is relevant to your area. I'm not trying to be creepy. I just need to know what side of the city you are on. That's all.

[MCAadROCKMiKEd7]

JoLovesMca- Thank you (: My education is very important to me atm, its what I feel will give me the most motivation to get back on my feet and have confidence that my future is brighter than it seems right now. Change scares the shit out of me, but nobody likes big changes, unless theyre very positive that is lol. I listen to music a lot to ease my mind, it's pretty crazy how much it can help when you hear something you really like and can feel.

Hardnox- I live outside of the city in a suburb, closest to the southside, outside of cook county. My doctors are in the city though, so I look into things there regardless, its the location we've always chosen for my doctors.

[hardnox71]

Hardnox- I live outside of the city in a suburb, closest to the southside, outside of cook county. My doctors are in the city though, so I look into things there regardless, its the location we've always chosen for my doctors.

Ok. If you have access to the city then I'll see what I can find there.

[Kid Presentable]

I felt like my world was caving in, but time has eased it a bit and I've been fortunate to have studies and fitness to focus on. Talking to someone obviously helps also, and I can't recommend that enough. You've got to focus on the things in your life you can control and reap benefit from. Jo said it, you're young so not only do you have the luxury of time but you may also be more resilient than you think. Nothing like a test to find out. (y)

[Yetra Flam]

I know I not completely a grown up, or at all an expert at this. Maybe this won't even help. But I want to tell you that things do get better. The hardships that you experience when you're younger are what will make you a wonderful and unique person as you get older.

[like2_drink]

Coming out of a relationship of 2 1/2 years myself, I can tell you that I've felt what you're going through (in the sense of the breakup) - it was mutual, still came as a world shaker that it actually happened though.

People have mentioned physical exercise because it's a proven stress reliever - I would really suggest investing in a good pair of running shoes(y) or a punching bag (I did both).

It's been a year since my breakup, she's in a new relationship and I'm happy for her; we had alot of goodtimes but in the end it wasn't meant to be, the more time past the more I realized it was okay we broke up. Aside from the excercise, no rebounders - they're only self destructive and prolong the hurt!

Get your schooling, but remember "Don't let school get in the way of your education". (y):D

[abbott]

enjoy your feelings ... but move on

[MCAadROCKMiKEd7]

Kid Presentable- I have respect for myself so its a big plus in making hard decisions, I know not to put myself into bad positions but sometimes life just decides to throw you some curve balls. Being 18 my adulthood has just begun, so i'm trying my best to have faith that I can succeed in what i'd like to.

Hardnox- Cool thank you, I have access back and forth whenever, so anything will help. I appreciate it a whole lot, i'm willing to do what i've got to, and traveling to the city is no problem for me if it means help.

Yetra- I know things do get better it's just that after hearing it for 4 years straight now it gets harder and harder to believe and makes me impatient to "Well WHEN will it get better?" but i'm starting to realize that's up to me to figure out and begin.

Like2drink- World shaker is the perfect way to describe it, it was a real big reality check and it made it feel like my world was crumbling down before my eyes, i'm starting kickboxing because I used to do that and it's an amazing work out plus teachs great self defense. A serious vigorous work out takes out so much stress for sure. No rebounders, I wouldnt put myself through that or put somebody elses feelings at stake by rebounding it's unfair. I'm hoping to major in HR. (Btw, I love your name.)

[hardnox71]

i'm willing to do what i've got to......if it means help.

Awesome. Fucking. Attitude. (y)

Don't ever lose that perspective.

[Myu-to]

I'm a guy

funny - I thought you were a guy as well

you need to find someone and that someone is a counselor. Feelings of Isolation are the worse when you're feeling this way, besides getting this off your shoulders, the counselor might give you healthy options in finding friends.
Good stuff right here, and I that you were Verbal Kent.

Anyways, I keep coming up with cheesey cliches right now, and the or=ther thing that comes to mind is the book I'm reading, The Hunger Games. Basically that means, just find that one bright spot, that one thing, hold on to it to pull yourself back up.

[fonky pizza]

Roll with the punches!

Isn't THAT a constructive advice?!

It's nice, it's bright, it's all gold!

[MCAadROCKMiKEd7]

Awesome. Fucking. Attitude. (y)

Don't ever lose that perspective.


Thinking that there is no hope at all wont help my case it'll only bring me down further, so using the best attitude possible for myself in this situation, is all there is to hold onto. Although it is hard to believe things will get better, having zero hope would make me not even try.

Like Myuto said, hold onto the one piece that is bright.


Fonky, yes it is, going along with things to see what happens next, I need things to influence choices, (Good influences such as mental health help etc.) but I dont wanna make dramatic changes to the point that things will crumble out of my control. So def roll with the punches.

[ToucanSpam]

A broken heart is something everybody deals with at some point and it is incredibly painful the first time it happens. The main thing you need to do is not isolate yourself and not over-analyze what happened. Thinking about how much it hurts and how lonely you feel only adds to how scummy you already feel and it isn't constructive. You need to be proactive by getting out and doing something, anything, that's different from your every day routine. Try to have fun with it. Worrying about the heavy things that go on with your life will only take you down a dark path that will only make your life worse.

[MCAadROCKMiKEd7]

A broken heart is something everybody deals with at some point and it is incredibly painful the first time it happens. The main thing you need to do is not isolate yourself and not over-analyze what happened. Thinking about how much it hurts and how lonely you feel only adds to how scummy you already feel and it isn't constructive. You need to be proactive by getting out and doing something, anything, that's different from your every day routine. Try to have fun with it. Worrying about the heavy things that go on with your life will only take you down a dark path that will only make your life worse.


I'm surprised to see you had something nice to say after you put my upset words as your quote lol :P
but I don't hold any grudges anyways, you seem like a real cool guy.

I went out to a movie last night I saw horrible bosses (you guys seen that?) It was pretty damn awesome. Figured out that you can stream netflix from your ipod to your TV now thats fucking nuts. I cleaned my room spotless organized the whole thing made it alot more pleasent to be in, studying hard, and been outside a lot spending more time with my little brothers. Im doing the best I can to make the best progress I can, step at a time, I dont wanna over do it and burn myself out.