Snub or accept and restrict?

[Dorothy Wood]

All my recent threads are so complainy, sorry bros.

anyway, I keep talking about this chick I dislike and this is about her again. (I'm starting to get embarrassed about this).

Well, she requested my "friendship" on fb. And I clicked "not now". because I don't want to be her friend, I just don't. that's okay, right? I'm just worried that it will bite me in the ass somehow, but how would it? people are allowed to dislike other people, aren't they?

My other plan was to accept, then put her on my restricted list so she can't see my wall. but somehow that seems weirder.

I just don't want her in my life, I'm just wondering if that is immature or completely reasonable. (My friends think it's reasonable, and cackled about how it'll drive her crazy if I ignore the request...then we all felt a little bad about being bitchy).

thoughts?

[MC Moot]

Commit facebook suicide... (http://www.micahmwhite.com/writer/commit-facebook-suicide.php)

[ToucanSpam]

I don't see why you should have to add her (or anyone) you don't like on Facebook. I do understand that a FB "friend" isn't exactly a friend in reality, but even then, if it's clear you don't like her then she should know better not to request a friendship. It's not wrong for you to protect your own privacy by limiting an individual's access to Facebook. It *might* lead to a brief and awkward "why didn't you accept" conversation. If that happens, just no-sell the snub and walk away without being rude. Fake having to pee or something.

[Dorothy Wood]

Commit facebook suicide... (http://www.micahmwhite.com/writer/commit-facebook-suicide.php)


well, I don't use facebook the way that author assumes people do. I don't have my full name on there, nor my employment or education history. I block ads and I've opted out of the face recognition thing they started doing. My profile is private, even though I don't post anything I wouldn't mind being public.

Basically, they have nothing to sell me because I have never once bought something online that was advertised to me. I'm just not that kind of consumer, so I'm useless to facebook.


Anyway, I like facebooks for events and joking around and keeping in touch with people who don't live near me. And for posting cat pictures.

I think I'll just ignore the request, she has almost 900 "friends", she'll surely forget. besides, what's she going to do, go around saying, "dorothy doesn't like me, so you shouldn't like her!"? I guess I'm scared of that, but I don't know why I should be. She's obnoxious, and so are her friends, and the dudes she hangs out with are pussies. Plenty of people dislike this girl, but it's confusing because she appears to be so popular...it's a mindfuck.

My life is pretty boring these days, ha! I've drawn out the only drama I can find to parade around to entertain myself.

[b-grrrlie]

There's no reason you should add her as your friend!
I get loads of friend requests, especially from guys after I've posted in some music group or site. I have no need adding them! I gotta know the person from somewhere, preferably irl or from years hanging in the same forum(s). It doesn't matter if we have 30 friends in common, if I don't know you I don't add you...

[MC Moot]

And for posting cat pictures..

Cat pictures!...why didn't ya say!...Look (http://i183.photobucket.com/albums/x265/mcmoot/crashNov3.jpg) who was in my office today (http://i183.photobucket.com/albums/x265/mcmoot/crash2nov3.jpg)...

[NicRN77]

Cat pictures!...why didn't ya say!...Look (http://i183.photobucket.com/albums/x265/mcmoot/crashNov3.jpg) who was in my office today (http://i183.photobucket.com/albums/x265/mcmoot/crash2nov3.jpg)...

(y) I figure if my friends can post a billon pics of their kids, I can post pics of my cat.

[venusvenus123]

Yes, as others say, don't feel obliged to add her.

(y)

[Dorothy Wood]

There's no reason you should add her as your friend!
I get loads of friend requests, especially from guys after I've posted in some music group or site. I have no need adding them! I gotta know the person from somewhere, preferably irl or from years hanging in the same forum(s). It doesn't matter if we have 30 friends in common, if I don't know you I don't add you...

yeah, we have 41 friends in common...which happened partly because she belongs to an organization I co-lead. But, we've never really had a legit conversation. I think she decided to request my friendship because she noticed that I'm friends with people she thinks are important. Because she's a social climber, and the dorks I happen to be friends with somehow rose to the top of the musical food chain in the last 3 years.

Cat pictures!...why didn't ya say!...Look (http://i183.photobucket.com/albums/x265/mcmoot/crashNov3.jpg) who was in my office today (http://i183.photobucket.com/albums/x265/mcmoot/crash2nov3.jpg)...

awwww! I want a cat at work!

(y) I figure if my friends can post a billon pics of their kids, I can post pics of my cat.

(y)

sometimes I worry that I'm posting too many, so I'll take a break for a week or two. but then I'll post another and a bunch of people will "like" it, so I guess it's okay. :p

[TurdBerglar]

i can't stand people that keep pushing and pushing to be friendly with you when you're obviously not interested.

[weez]

facebook is in fact, real life. if you don't want to be friends (or even acquaintances) with someone in real life, they have no reason to be on your facebook.


the exception to this rule are professional contacts. someone you may need in the future, for something (such as doctors, lawyers, people in your field, etc.).


but the most important thing is that if you hate someone, then who cares if you ignore their friend request, or delete them.

[gbsuey]

i can't stand people that keep pushing and pushing to be friendly with you when you're obviously not interested.

I recently deleted a girl as i was sick of her stupid status updates....about an hour later she sent me a friend request and put up a thing on her wall telling everyone she uses some shit that tells her who's deleted her!!! Awkwaaard.!!!!! I was hoping to bump into her so she could ask me why i did it...and then i could tell her exactly why face to face...but it hasn't happened yet.

Don't bother accepting it DW, no reason why you should...or why you should feel that you should.

[DIGI]

I agree. Decline and block her. I had a moment of clarity the other day while sifting through the status updates of like 20 skanks I went to high school with that I didn't give a fuck about then or now. I'm guilty of accepting friend requests based on how many of my existing friends have accepted someone. That's a shitty way to operate since it apparently leads to me muddling through countless "My kids are sick" or "I'm so fucking pumped for the new Twilight!" status updates. Now I'm getting annoyed by the integration of Spotify. Hey, wife's best friend, how about you take your bullshit offline!?! I can tell by your retarded updates that I don't understand that you've been listening to LMFAO for 6 hours straight. I don't need my computer telling me you're doing so.

Pure fucking Hell.

[Dorothy Wood]

wow, thanks for the back up, guys! :o

and I thought of a response if she confronts me like, "hey, why haven't you accepted my friend request?", I'll say "well, I wouldn't really say we were friends, would you?" and then lick my finger and go "tss" in the air and walk away.

ha, I wish. :p