I think my marriage is over, part 12

[HOTWIFE]

oh yeah, i got divorced a long time ago. LOL lollipopsss

[kaiser soze]

lollipopsss up in your ass!

[ericlee]

oh yeah, i got divorced a long time ago. LOL lollipopsss

Hey there, I think you're hot. Sup sup?

[HOTWIFE]

Hey there, I think you're hot. Sup sup?

I think the name says it all...hey hey single and ready to mingle huh:-) and by the way, I am sorry about your marriage, I know it sucks right now but if you feel even the least bit excited and hopeful about the future you're doing the right thing

[HOTWIFE]

lollipopsss up in your ass!

how many licks baby

[Kid Presentable]

:cool:

[Bob]

i can't wait for my divorce thread

i'm going to be so gutted and i bet it happens so fast

i hope people still post here by then, god knows i'll need you


(i hope this post doesn't sound like i'm complaining about people making divorce threads. i'm not! good lord i'm not! i'm just genuinely pretty sure i'm going to get divorced some day (best case scenario) and am trying to be preemptively cute about it)

[Kid Presentable]

It's certainly a weird twist on the whole BBMB thing.

[HOTWIFE]

i can't wait for my divorce thread

i'm going to be so gutted and i bet it happens so fast

i hope people still post here by then, god knows i'll need you


(i hope this post doesn't sound like i'm complaining about people making divorce threads. i'm not! good lord i'm not! i'm just genuinely pretty sure i'm going to get divorced some day (best case scenario) and am trying to be preemptively cute about it)

May your future divorce go quicky and smoothly Bob

[kaiser soze]

fuck it - let's turn this place into a swinger site

they seem to be happiest of all - and most laid

[HAL 9000]

i can't wait for my divorce thread

i'm going to be so gutted and i bet it happens so fast

i hope people still post here by then, god knows i'll need you


(i hope this post doesn't sound like i'm complaining about people making divorce threads. i'm not! good lord i'm not! i'm just genuinely pretty sure i'm going to get divorced some day (best case scenario) and am trying to be preemptively cute about it)

Hmmm maybe START HIDING MONEY just in case.

[HOTWIFE]

RobMoney$!

[Bob]

Hmmm maybe START HIDING MONEY just in case.

i actually don't make that much money, which is just a pre-emptive fuck you for whoever my greedy bitch ex-wife turns out to be

[HOTWIFE]

wow myex had it easy, I walked away leaving him with everything in our home, didn't ask for a dime and even had myself taken off his health insurance and got my own. I miss my kitchenaid mixer more than him damnit!

[kaiser soze]

my ex took my tupperware

bitch

[HOTWIFE]

my ex took my tupperware

bitch

I took: my clothes, pictures, my cute candle crap and my book shelf. I enjoy 'starting over' so it was no big deal. And he CHEEEEATED!!!

[Kid Presentable]

I feel like I'll never trust again. I also doubt my ability to sustain a healthy relationship. It's fun.

[Dorothy Wood]

dang, so much cheating!

a friend of mine is getting divorced, married less than a year. his lady cheated on him. I don't really know much else because he's hibernating.

[checkyourprez]

I feel like I'll never trust again. I also doubt my ability to sustain a healthy relationship. It's fun.

Sounds like a healthy prolonged dose of some ladys of the night is what you need.





Just remember to wear a rubber kid. Or in the very least a doritos bag.

[RobMoney$]

Hmmm maybe START HIDING MONEY just in case.

Never let it be said that RobMoney doesn't give back to those in need of help.
If I can help just one man get thru divorce a little easier, I've made a difference in life! lol.

[RobMoney$]

I feel like I'll never trust again. I also doubt my ability to sustain a healthy relationship. It's fun.

You will NEVER trust again as much as you did.
You will trust again, but it will N.E.V.E.R. be to the same level.

That's the reality of it.

[HAL 9000]

Never let it be said that RobMoney doesn't give back to those in need of help.
If I can help just one man get thru divorce a little easier, I've made a difference in life! lol.

I have given this advice to people at work too, it seems like a good principle (y)

[abbott]

I think the name says it all...

So are you a hot wife or a hot single person who was once a wife?

[HOTWIFE]

So are you a hot wife or a hot single person who was once a wife?

a hot single mama

HOTMAMA

[HOTWIFE]

I feel like I'll never trust again. I also doubt my ability to sustain a healthy relationship. It's fun.

I hear ya. Try trusting again after being conned by a charming, manipulative, narcisistic sociopath. I want to be able to trust again but I'm giving myself ample time before I enter a relationship. I tried once since him and it went bad real fast single handedly due to my lack of trust and constant comparing him to the evil ex.

[DIGI]

That sounds pretty fucked up. Is talking it out with a professional opff the table with all you losers?

I imagine from calling you that, I'll be divorced in a year.

[HOTWIFE]

That sounds pretty fucked up. Is talking it out with a professional opff the table with all you losers?

I imagine from calling you that, I'll be divorced in a year.

I see a therapist every 2 weeks, thank you.

[Kid Presentable]

That sounds pretty fucked up. Is talking it out with a professional opff the table with all you losers?

I imagine from calling you that, I'll be divorced in a year.

My work provides free independent counselling (so, professionals, yeah) and I went to three sessions alone prior to moving out. Just for a bit of a chat, really.

I'm about to go to one next week in light of the confirmed fuck-spree of deception which served as the backdrop to the worst year of my life. Again, it's really not much more than a bit of a chat.

My ex was never big on counselling; I take some pleasure in knowing that she is doomed to repeat her patterns and never learn any meaningful lessons.

[Adam]

I nearly made a thread last night just having slight moans at my girl. Mainly because I'm so used to living alone that living with someone now feels like I'm trapped. Sharing space hasn't been an easy transition for me.

Back to point; I realise that I'm in a pretty good relationship compared to others - sorry for you guys. I like my alone time. With my pr0n.

[fonky pizza]

Part 12!!?
I've been away only for few days...This place is crazy!

[DIGI]

That sounds pretty fucked up. Is talking it out with a professional opff the table with all you losers?

I imagine from calling you that, I'll be divorced in a year.

Goddamn, I'm good. Got divorced in May.

[Kid Presentable]

Christ. Welcome to the club bruh. What happened?

[DIGI]

Pretty much made her fess up to cheating last November. I have a zero tolerance for that shit. She asked for a second chance a few times meanwhile all of her close friends told me that she's basically done the same thing in every previous relationship. No one wanted to say anything in hopes that she was turning a new leaf with getting married, etc. But you are who you are. Especially if you don't try to change. So I kicked her ass out. House, dogs, everything's mine. It's alarming how much you hear about this shit happening after its happened to you.

[Lyman Zerga]

my uncle's in law wife cheated on him twice (atleast) and she even got pregnant through that
they are still married and he loves the kid thats not his, i dont know how he does that

imagine having a kid that reminds you every second of how much of a cheating hoe you are

[checkyourprez]

Pretty much made her fess up to cheating last November. I have a zero tolerance for that shit. She asked for a second chance a few times meanwhile all of her close friends told me that she's basically done the same thing in every previous relationship. No one wanted to say anything in hopes that she was turning a new leaf with getting married, etc. But you are who you are. Especially if you don't try to change. So I kicked her ass out. House, dogs, everything's mine. It's alarming how much you hear about this shit happening after its happened to you.

thats the way to boss up.

my uncle's in law wife cheated on him twice (atleast) and she even got pregnant through that
they are still married and he loves the kid thats not his, i dont know how he does that

imagine having a kid that reminds you every second of how much of a cheating hoe you are

thats the way to be a pathetic sack of shit.

[Waus]

thats the way to be a pathetic sack of shit.

That's really easy to say about someone else.

I have a relative who we're pretty confident his third kid is not his, and I think he knows too (maybe he'll pull a Me Myself & Irene sometime). The thing is, he could've just kicked his wife out with their first 2 kids, but what would that help? He decided to just treat their third the same as the other two. If he'd left her, it would've just been more misery for everyone, especially the baby which would've been raised without a dad.

Sometimes people swallow their pride for the sake of children. It looks like capitulating to an unfaithful spouse, but I hope that it's because they realize that the baby had no say in the matter and doesn't deserve the fractured upbringing that could've come with it.

[Kid Presentable]

Better for a child to be subject to a healthy split than an unhealthy marriage, but that's just me.

DIGI, bounce back with a better one than the last one.

[abbott]

i think its good my kids see the train wreck marriage I have so they can get married and deal with it.

[DandyFop]

Man this is sad...I really want to get married someday and I wish I didn't. I wish I didn't even want marriage or kids...It would make it easier to just have my career and not worry about the rest.

This is why we're supposed to die at like 40.

[Dorothy Wood]

I feel like my urge to get married left me as soon as my dude moved in with me. I was like a maniac for commitment before that. But now I'm like meh, too much paperwork. Maybe if we wanna make kids later we'll get hitched, but right now we're too immature. I honestly don't think I'm on this earth to procreate though, just never really craved it. Always seemed like some far off thing...but now I'm entering mid 30s and it's getting closer to being too late (although several women in my family gave birth after 40).

Anyway, divorce is a crazy situation, I find it fascinating that people go from love to hate over the course of a few short years. My boyfriend said once that he never wants to have an ex wife, but I'm like who cares, shit happens....

[checkyourprez]

That's really easy to say about someone else.

I have a relative who we're pretty confident his third kid is not his, and I think he knows too (maybe he'll pull a Me Myself & Irene sometime). The thing is, he could've just kicked his wife out with their first 2 kids, but what would that help? He decided to just treat their third the same as the other two. If he'd left her, it would've just been more misery for everyone, especially the baby which would've been raised without a dad.

Sometimes people swallow their pride for the sake of children. It looks like capitulating to an unfaithful spouse, but I hope that it's because they realize that the baby had no say in the matter and doesn't deserve the fractured upbringing that could've come with it.

to each their own.


for me...homie doesn't play that.

[DIGI]

Better for a child to be subject to a healthy split than an unhealthy marriage, but that's just me.

DIGI, bounce back with a better one than the last one.

Thanks braj. I try to focus on the future, but it sucks when she tries talking me back every now and again. I constantly tell her that she's trying to regain a relationship that doesn't exist anymore. I'd never again be the laid back, carefree spouse that would let her do whatever she wanted without giving it a second thought. There would be absolutely no trust and I can't live like that. Oh, you're going for groceries? I'll just tail you to see if you're sucking dick in the parking lot. Fuck that.

[checkyourprez]

That's really easy to say about someone else.

I have a relative who we're pretty confident his third kid is not his, and I think he knows too (maybe he'll pull a Me Myself & Irene sometime). The thing is, he could've just kicked his wife out with their first 2 kids, but what would that help? He decided to just treat their third the same as the other two. If he'd left her, it would've just been more misery for everyone, especially the baby which would've been raised without a dad.

Sometimes people swallow their pride for the sake of children. It looks like capitulating to an unfaithful spouse, but I hope that it's because they realize that the baby had no say in the matter and doesn't deserve the fractured upbringing that could've come with it.

Thanks braj. I try to focus on the future, but it sucks when she tries talking me back every now and again. I constantly tell her that she's trying to regain a relationship that doesn't exist anymore. I'd never again be the laid back, carefree spouse that would let her do whatever she wanted without giving it a second thought. There would be absolutely no trust and I can't live like that. Oh, you're going for groceries? I'll just tail you to see if you're sucking dick in the parking lot. Fuck that.


eggsactly.

like you dont think kids can pick up on that stuff waus?

[Bob]

or worse, if they don't pick up on it, and their impressionable minds just decide to go "well that must be what love is" for a while

[RobMoney$]

My boyfriend said once that he never wants to have an ex wife

Pretty sure no one has ever planned on getting divorced or having an ex-wife.

Jesus.

[Kid Presentable]

For what it's worth, I'd totally do it all again.

[RobMoney$]

My philosophy is life takes down a road you don't plan on going more often than not.
I've never cheated or been cheated on, but I've been thru divorce and breakups a few times and they always seem like the end of the world at the time.
It's weird seeing someone years later where you were once the most important people in each others lives and now they're just someone you used to know.
I could probably write a book on the unexpected shit that's happened to me in my 41 years of life. Everyone goes thru their own amount of heartache and painful shit. EVERYONE.
I've learned to pick myself up, dust myself off, and move on to the next adventure life throws my way.
It works for me.

[Dorothy Wood]

Pretty sure no one has ever planned on getting divorced or having an ex-wife.

Jesus.

I dunno, I know people who got married with the attitude of "there's always divorce if it doesn't work out."

He's just a small town boy with big dreams, and a catholic upbringing with parents who've been together 30+ years. He just wants that lifetime love.

But this is a fun game, guessing when and where something I wrote will make robmoney clutch his pearls and gasp.

[Kid Presentable]

lol

[RobMoney$]

Can you tell us more about your boyfriend?

[russhie]

I don't think divorce is totally horrible. People grow apart, do dumb things, shit happens. I'd rather have an opportunity to remove myself from a bad marriage than feel I have to stay because it'd be a shame or some other excuse.

My fiance has been married previously, and it hasn't hurt his outlook on love and partnership any. He was more than willing to put a ring on it when the time felt right. Plus, you don't have to be married to have a relationship temporarily ruin you - my ex boyfriend of close to 9 years smashed my feelings up pretty badly. Ending that relationship was like a divorce without paperwork.

Anyway. Relationships are wonderful until they aren't, at which point it's healthier for all involved to step away.

[Dorothy Wood]

Can you tell us more about your boyfriend?

Sure, he's a foot doctor who is blind in one eye, he's over 7 feet tall and weighs 150 pounds. His parents adopted him from Malawi in 1989. He's an avid base jumper and macramé expert. He absolutely hates ants.

[RobMoney$]

I don't think an entire thread dedicated just to him would be out of line in the least. It would personally make it much easier for me to stalk you and clutch my pearls and gasp or however you put it.

[Waus]

This thread: http://i.imgur.com/QXRhxxD.png

[Dorothy Wood]

This thread: http://i.imgur.com/QXRhxxD.png

QFT

[Kid Presentable]

Don't think I could have survived my divorce without this place. At the very least for the venting, but also for the kind and practical support people gave me. It certainly wasn't expected, but was definitely appreciated. And life goes on. Thanks, bbmb.

[Lyman Zerga]

Don't think I could have survived my divorce without this place. At the very least for the venting, but also for the kind and practical support people gave me. It certainly wasn't expected, but was definitely appreciated. And life goes on. Thanks, bbmb.

thank you for making the bbmb presentable

[abbott]

maybe this should be general discussion, but I want to talk about my marriage and my problems:

i am thankful my wife has not left me or kicked me out yet. I think my wife would have left me long ago, but I think she has seen some bullshit go down from her own family, so she has tolerated me because she has a high tolerance.

Seems I like to drink beer and not tell the truth about it. Seems like a simple, small detail, but it causes problems. Not just the beer, but me lying about it. But thats where it ends. I might lie about my poker looses, but its been a long time for that. My wife thinks if I drink beer and lie about it, I must be lying about other shit. She thinks me lying about drinking beer, means I don't lover her.

You know I wanted to never drink another beer. But I have stopped at the bar on the way home and had 2 or 3 beers probably 2 evenings a week and maybe 3 sometimes. Might not be a real issue if I did not lie about it and if I have not abused drinking in the past. My past drinking stories at best are funny and make me look like a dumb ass.

So the lies caught up to me and my wife discovered $75 I have spent on beer since July 8th. I was trying to never drink again and somehow I started drinking a few and telling myself, " I can have a few and manage it..Ive gone 30 days with no beer" truth is, I have not had a drunken drunkfest and have managed. Ive turned down tons and had the open shot on a Friday, and I came home early instead of taking my pass and free ride. But, I don't want to drink at all and yet I find myself doing it. I am pretty weak. I also seem to be afraid of what the people I am hanging out with might think since I am not drinking. Fucking even weaker.

Anyway, I dont want a divorce. I really like the idea of being married till I die, but shit's not perfect or easy. I really do love my wife. I would love my wife to stay with me forever, and I dont give a fuck to be with any other woman. But my beer problem and lying problem might just push her away. Im going to at least fight for now and try to go a day with no beer and try to turn that into a higher number of days. Seems she is afraid to love me because she is afraid of what other lies are out there. I could pack my shit and leave, she told me to in a heated argument. I hope she does not mean it. Im not packing up shit till I have to.

Sorry about being a pussy here, but I think the real point is lying is like a poison and its killing me and my marriage. I don't really even need to lie, I could just funking be a man and tell the truth. I hide the truth and act like I am not drinking. But in the end the lie causes all kinds of un-needed shit.

[Bob]

why do you think you lie about it?

[checkyourprez]

would she really be that pissed if you just told her "hey hun im going out after work for 2 beers?" or even better "hey hun do you want to go out for a little tonight after work?"

if the answer is no to both of those...then you really need to make that choice. whats more important to you, those 2 beers or her?

and obviously you say her. but you continue to drink, because in the end you dont think (and hope) she will never really really call you on your actions and kick you to the curb. but believe some day it will happen if she feels that strongly about it.

so next time if that is the case, the next time you go out by yourself and bring that beer close to your mouth and it's about to hit your lips, ask yourself...is this short lived moment of pleasure, sipping a beer, is it really really worth not having your wife for the rest of your life. and the answer is yours my friend, and then you live with no regrets, because you made that choice.

[abbott]

I'm in for the long haul and believe I'm growing up everyday. Don't worry to much about me, my wife has taken me 2 times in the past 3 days. Lol.

[cosmo105]

would she really be that pissed if you just told her "hey hun im going out after work for 2 beers?" or even better "hey hun do you want to go out for a little tonight after work?"

if the answer is no to both of those...then you really need to make that choice. whats more important to you, those 2 beers or her?

and obviously you say her. but you continue to drink, because in the end you dont think (and hope) she will never really really call you on your actions and kick you to the curb. but believe some day it will happen if she feels that strongly about it.

so next time if that is the case, the next time you go out by yourself and bring that beer close to your mouth and it's about to hit your lips, ask yourself...is this short lived moment of pleasure, sipping a beer, is it really really worth not having your wife for the rest of your life. and the answer is yours my friend, and then you live with no regrets, because you made that choice.

quoted because it was pretty profound.

abbott, joke all you want, but your previous post was pretty intense. trust is important.

[abbott]

The truth is intens. I wanted to give you my best.

Lots of Love.

[abbott]

there is no good reason that I lie. Seems I am realizing I do not really have a drinking problem but and honesty issue. I was thinking about when I started smoking in the 6th grade and I lied about it. I remember lying about smoking because I was afraid of breaking the law. My whole life has been the 2 of me, the real one and the one I lie about. I know one thing, being honest or doing things I could be honest about might just be the best. But I can help think about a song: Slow Ride seems to capture the way I thought about myself. Being bad news is what I was all about. It was real cool for a long time, but my girls are making me change.

My wife dose go a bit extreme, but I love her for it and she makes me think and she pushes me. When she is mad at me, she is always trying to make me better, and I can't get mad at her when she is right. If I was a total dumb ass I could pack my shit, get mad a fight, but I aint going out like that. I am pretty sure I am not normal, so this might sound crazy to you.

[Lex Diamonds]

Looks like Dorothy Wood will be posting in this thread soon!

[Dorothy Wood]

Looks like Dorothy Wood will be posting in this thread soon!

Har har.

[Lex Diamonds]

Ah yes, there she is. ;)

[nodanaonlyzuul]

quoted because it was pretty profound.

abbott, joke all you want, but your previous post was pretty intense. trust is important.

Yep. What checkyourprez dropped is real talk.

Also on the note of getting married and what not in the other posts, to each their own, no? Some people get married, some people don't. Some people get divorced, some don't. People gotta do what's right for them. And if it's not right for them, they'll figure it out. If they don't? Eh, living your life means learning.