does life ever stop sucking?

[Dorothy Wood]

I'm completely overwhelmed by life. I can't keep my house clean, I don't want to do anything or go anywhere. There are payroll cutbacks at work, and all I can think about is how much I've given to my company for less pay than any other manager before me. My workload has quadrupled in the last 2 years, I've had one measly raise. because "the economy's bad". Then I find out that the owners think that we don't do anything, that we don't actually have a lot of work to do. But we do, but they're not convinced. So now I have to do more and work alone, because they just can't afford to pay us to do "nothing". it's not my store, it's not my job to do absolutely everything, especially when I make 8 grand less a year than the previous person who sat on the computer all day.

I should probably cry or something. I just want to run away forever. :(

[Helvete]

Yes it does, but not for everyone.

[Lex Diamonds]

The question you should be asking is, "Does life spit or swallow?"

[checkyourprez]

I'm completely overwhelmed by life. I can't keep my house clean, I don't want to do anything or go anywhere. There are payroll cutbacks at work, and all I can think about is how much I've given to my company for less pay than any other manager before me. My workload has quadrupled in the last 2 years, I've had one measly raise. because "the economy's bad". Then I find out that the owners think that we don't do anything, that we don't actually have a lot of work to do. But we do, but they're not convinced. So now I have to do more and work alone, because they just can't afford to pay us to do "nothing". it's not my store, it's not my job to do absolutely everything, especially when I make 8 grand less a year than the previous person who sat on the computer all day.

I should probably cry or something. I just want to run away forever. :(


document all you do all day. either write it down or make a video diary.

this way you will either see you do do a shit load and can show them, maybe they will appreciate what you do and give you a raise.

or maybe youll see what you do really isnt that much and stop complaining. if this is the case i would not show your bosses that stuff.

[MC Moot]

Life means suffering...The origin of suffering is attachment...The cessation of suffering is attainable...The path to the cessation of suffering is still unclear to me...so I'll see your discontent and raise you 2 measures of fear...one physical,one financial...Last week we found out or program is being “decentralized” which means 5 people are going to lose their jobs after 2 years of complete devotion and investment into a wildly successful and ground breaking endeavor...then on Monday I found out I have to have surgery that may be related to the big C...double whammy!...and while I'm thinking buddha like,don't forget about the sloth of inaction...try and keep moving...don't stop moving...pick up your place,lively up yourself...;)

[kll]

I'm completely overwhelmed by life. I can't keep my house clean, I don't want to do anything or go anywhere. There are payroll cutbacks at work, and all I can think about is how much I've given to my company for less pay than any other manager before me. My workload has quadrupled in the last 2 years, I've had one measly raise. because "the economy's bad". Then I find out that the owners think that we don't do anything, that we don't actually have a lot of work to do. But we do, but they're not convinced. So now I have to do more and work alone, because they just can't afford to pay us to do "nothing". it's not my store, it's not my job to do absolutely everything, especially when I make 8 grand less a year than the previous person who sat on the computer all day.

I should probably cry or something. I just want to run away forever. :(

i could've written that myself. i guess that's life everywhere these days...

[Bob]

my job's been getting crazy too, and it's kind of stressful because the people responsible for the craziness seem to be pretty dickish and unreasonable about it

but then i think how much more it sucked back when i was unemployed for what seemed like forever and i'm like "oh, i guess this...doesn't...suck?"

i guess what i'm saying is that everything sucks no matter what you do

[Dorothy Wood]

Thanks for the support, dudes.

Well, I feel better today. I fought back hard enough to keep my staff's hours the same. Unfortunately that means somebody newer gets cut. Luckily, one part time girl just happened to quit, so that means there will be less impact overall. It's a naturally slow season, so I do understand the budget concerns, it's a time for frugality.

I think the lesson that I learned is that I'll never be able to feel completely respected when I work for someone else. And it seems like if you go above and beyond, the expectations just grow and it's never enough.

I had a meeting with my boss that went well, but pissed me off later. I think I held my ground well, though, conceded some points, but let my boss know that we are really doing good work and that he needs to respect that.

So, unless I just go out of my way to do something completely mind-blowing for the store that makes a ton of money, I should probably just finish my application to grad school. Although....mind-blowing might be easier and faster than grad school.

[abbott]

I work for myself, own the company and own the building and I am where I am at because I hated my bosses and working hard to make money for others.

My first reaction to the first comments was go make some money and do something for yourself that your in control of. Go sale beads on the street or some shit. If I don't have money or work, its my fault and I go out and find it. I cant deny it, once I get a few checks in I always feel better and the harder I work the more I make. If I want to be lazy that's fine, I just have to buy my bread from the day old bakery.

[RobMoney$]

document all you do all day. either write it down or make a video diary.

this way you will either see you do do a shit load and can show them, maybe they will appreciate what you do and give you a raise.

or maybe youll see what you do really isnt that much and stop complaining. if this is the case i would not show your bosses that stuff.

I know which one I'm betting on it showing.
One thing we all know about Dorothy is that she's whiny and over-dramatic.
So why wouldn't she be the same way about her "job".


Ps. It's a message board, not a diary hon.

[MC Moot]

The creep abides...

[Yetra Flam]

I've been absolutely miserable at my job for the past year (and a half almost), so I decided to go back to school. (Not serious, 4 year college kind of school, like a 3 month course that will give me a certification to be able to segue into a job that I actually won't hate doing) But in the meantime I've been working fulltime and studying fulltime, which is kind of absolute insanity.
I know a lot of people do it, but I have a real issue with working the entire weekend, 10 hours each day. I hate it, I fucking despise it. I have no social life at all, I can't participate in any weekend activities. I can't stand it when my goddamn spoiled ass rich clients come strolling in on a Sunday afternoon before or after brunch. I don't get to have brunch ever! Or stroll! I don't have any time to do simple things like clean my house and do my laundry. And I can't stand how my boss is constantly on my ass about how I don't work enough, or how I have to dedicate more time to this job and I DON'T HAVE ANY FUCKING GODDAMN TIME. I have fucking homework and shit to do.
Shit, I don't know where I was going with this. I hope life stops sucking. But I don't know, I used to think that life just sucked in general and everything was unfair and everything was shitty, but its probably just me because other people seem to be ok. Probably just me.

[Dorothy Wood]

I work for myself, own the company and own the building and I am where I am at because I hated my bosses and working hard to make money for others.

My first reaction to the first comments was go make some money and do something for yourself that your in control of. Go sale beads on the street or some shit. If I don't have money or work, its my fault and I go out and find it. I cant deny it, once I get a few checks in I always feel better and the harder I work the more I make. If I want to be lazy that's fine, I just have to buy my bread from the day old bakery.

yeah, this is the conclusion I've come to many times. But I also don't think I ever really knew what I wanted to do with my life, I've always been kinda lost. And, I just have always had job security because I'm a good worker and bosses rely on me. But the older I get, the more I realize I'm a sucker working for other people. I gotta kick myself in the ass to do more.


I know which one I'm betting on it showing.
One thing we all know about Dorothy is that she's whiny and over-dramatic.
So why wouldn't she be the same way about her "job".


Ps. It's a message board, not a diary hon.

Since when is this not a diary? My boss took me out to lunch and I negotiated to save my staff, prick. No whining involved. Somebody losing their pay is a dramatic thing, they were flipping the fuck out. And I worked 9 hours at my "job" today with no break today doing things you could never do.


I've been absolutely miserable at my job for the past year (and a half almost), so I decided to go back to school. (Not serious, 4 year college kind of school, like a 3 month course that will give me a certification to be able to segue into a job that I actually won't hate doing) But in the meantime I've been working fulltime and studying fulltime, which is kind of absolute insanity.
I know a lot of people do it, but I have a real issue with working the entire weekend, 10 hours each day. I hate it, I fucking despise it. I have no social life at all, I can't participate in any weekend activities. I can't stand it when my goddamn spoiled ass rich clients come strolling in on a Sunday afternoon before or after brunch. I don't get to have brunch ever! Or stroll! I don't have any time to do simple things like clean my house and do my laundry. And I can't stand how my boss is constantly on my ass about how I don't work enough, or how I have to dedicate more time to this job and I DON'T HAVE ANY FUCKING GODDAMN TIME. I have fucking homework and shit to do.
Shit, I don't know where I was going with this. I hope life stops sucking. But I don't know, I used to think that life just sucked in general and everything was unfair and everything was shitty, but its probably just me because other people seem to be ok. Probably just me.

Let it all out everybody! haha. I really can't imagine school and fulltime work together. I would be driven to insanity. It really does suck to see people just floating around without a care in life. Because you think, man, I'm smarter than that dumb ass, why do they get it so easy? totally annoying.

guh, I am loopy from no lunch, it's pizza time!

[Helvete]

I'm going to Afghanistan in 4 weeks and I'll be working 12 hours a day. Every day for 6 months. How about that.

[gbsuey]

Seems this thread became a "who has the shittiest, hardest life" competition!! Life is hard, actually that's ok.....i work for a lady who doesn't need to work/clean her house/lift a finger but unless she keeps herself busy with "hobbies" she descends into intense depression. Not sure where i'm going with this...just thought i'd pop in and say Chin Up DW, not always easy but try and stay on the bright side xx...and i think it's ok to whine every now and then anyway.

[Turchinator]

life does not suck when you wake up at 6 in the morning with all these racing thoughts about work related things, your stress kicks in and you dread the alarm clock going off, then you have that moment, that glorious moment when you make the realization...

that it's Saturday!

[Dorothy Wood]

I'm going to Afghanistan in 4 weeks and I'll be working 12 hours a day. Every day for 6 months. How about that.

You chose that life though, and you're working on something meaningful (I hope). I wanted to join the Air Force when I was younger, but I was too nervous. My first boyfriend joined the Marines, and his boot camp stories scared the shit out of me. My best friend joined the Army, and her boot camp stores scared the shit out of me too, even though she said it wasn't so bad.

I still think about going to pilot school. Maybe some day.




So yeah, I threw a pity party for myself when I started this thread. It's just been a stressful few months, and I get angry at working hard for no gain. But that just means I need to work harder.

[Randetica]

i could weigh less but besides that im feeling quite good

[Helvete]

You chose that life though, and you're working on something meaningful (I hope). I wanted to join the Air Force when I was younger, but I was too nervous. My first boyfriend joined the Marines, and his boot camp stories scared the shit out of me. My best friend joined the Army, and her boot camp stores scared the shit out of me too, even though she said it wasn't so bad.

I still think about going to pilot school. Maybe some day.




So yeah, I threw a pity party for myself when I started this thread. It's just been a stressful few months, and I get angry at working hard for no gain. But that just means I need to work harder.

Yeah, I did, I'm actually kinda looking forward to it. Whenever I'm feeling like work is getting a bit much and I've had enough, I look back at some of the things I've been through and think 'it could be worse'. Then I realise the situation I'm in is actually not so bad. This only works if you have in fact done something worse, if what you are doing now is the worst you've ever been then I guess you can think 'well it can only get better'.

Oh, and meaningful? Not really, haha! Not in the bigger, political sense. Personal career-wise, yes.

[M|X|Y]

what the fluck this place IS sort of like a diary for everyone here..

as victor frankel sez, life is difficult or something like that

everyone here has to sme degree chosen the life they are living.

sometimes i feel iike dorothy, like life is so shit... really, it can seem unbearable at times.

other times, days like today, i feel like one of the luckiest people on earth. in a sense we're the luckiest bunch of fuckers in the world.

i think about the things that have been, the things i've done, the experiences i've had and feel truly fortunate. just the opportunity to fight the fight is a blessng in itself. i think of (and hope the day never comes) of being old and hindered, maybe unable to do what i yearn to do.

the joy of life is partially about possibilities.

whenever my head is clear enough for realization, i try and remind myself of my age - and how many wish they could be here. think about being past it and wishing for it to be today again. it is right now.

this sounds like flowery bullshit, i know. its the truth

(y)

this was kind of like a diary entry, fuck you :)

::: read this over . . . /thought stream

[yeahwho]

Never settle for the same old plate, as much as life is difficult it can become overbearing if you let those who silence your dreams, your ambitions and your essence win.

I keep plugging away but sometimes people, places and even inanimate things cause me to go backwards. I feel as if the general feeling of society is we should sacrifice on the quality of life, we don't deserve a good life. I feel as if that has become a role of not only the planets elite and certain aspects of government, but of social peers too. The theme is you're not good enough.

Who am I to be happy? Who am I to question the cheapening of my own value by those in my life? I've had to overcome some major obstacles in my life just to stay alive. Accepting people into my life has been a major struggle, for that I can be happy, to just have friends and family.

I used tp read self help books daily... for years and years... they're actually kind of fun even though they all follow the same formula in the end. Before I would never be caught with something like "The Road Less Traveled" even in my basement. I was always too punk, too hip or too Mr. "Got his Shit Together" to read those type of books. Then I found myself actually carrying around different self help books everywhere. That phase is over pretty much but I must say it's OK to try and improve yourself.

Other people will Thank You. Eventually. For trying anyway. Even if you're still an asshole.

Like my dad told me one day as I expounded about my new found spirituality and positive attitude about life, "You know son of all the people I've met, You're another one!"

[Lex Diamonds]

Sorry, but I stopped reading that when you wrote "let them win". How have these people won anything by you not pursuing your interests/talents? These imaginary people obviously don't know or care about what you do with your life so what have they "won"? That phrase is the most paranoid, trite bullshit idiom ever created.


ps
Nearly everybody in the "Western World" suffers from what 20th Century doctors diagnosed as depression. If everybody moaned about it as much as some people, there would be no time for anything else.

[yeahwho]

Sorry, but I stopped reading that when you wrote "let them win". How have these people won anything by you not pursuing your interests/talents? These imaginary people obviously don't know or care about what you do with your life so what have they "won"? That phrase is the most paranoid, trite bullshit idiom ever created.
.

I've been thinking about it real hard and you're correct, no matter what, the phrase "let them win" is the most paranoid, trite bullshit idiom ever created.

(y)

[Lex Diamonds]

Cool, thanks for letting me win.

[yeahwho]

Cool, thanks for letting me win.

As long as them don't win.

[Documad]

Like my dad told me one day as I expounded about my new found spirituality and positive attitude about life, "You know son of all the people I've met, You're another one!"

My friend's dad says that. :)

My life stopped sucking at almost the exact same time I paid off my student loans. It will probably start sucking again now that I'm getting old.

[abbott]

I always have some fear in me and I think that is good.

I recall the early days of no money, debt and my backup plan was to move home with mom. I would always tell myself no work = home with mom.

My real goal and real formula = turn time into money. Sounds easy but it takes a few things. One don't spend money in that time and do something to make money. I believe even if you can only make a dollar today you can grow that into whatever you want.

I am not rich in money so I am not bragging about that. When I started my goals and visions all I had was debt and credit. I still get pissed at people I work with and sign checks I don't want to but all I am trying to say is work for yourself or find a job that you really love. I hate to see you wast your time with bull shit.

[Burnout18]

I had a shit day at work after a shit week at work, after a very bad weekend with what is now my ex gf.

I get home, just want one beer and the I'll go to sleep and BAM! Termites everywhere! LOLZ, right????

[paul jones]

I saw a lady on one of those special buses today who is 100 years old and still goes out to get her groceries for the week.She seemed happy.I wonder how many of us will reach 100? just a thought.:)

[Yetra Flam]

I actually feel like I'm in abusive relationship with my job. My boss always implies that I'm "lazy" and "hurting the business" because I ONLY work 40 hrs a week. (they expect 60+). They also think its a complete joke that I'm actually studying something to try and better my life. All like "sports science? What would you even know about that? You should just stick to what you do."
In the next breath, they tell me how much they need me here and how important and great I am. They've even said things like, I hope you're not thinking about leaving us. That could end up pretty badly for you. WTF what is wrong with people? Sheezus

[Gareth]

@yetra: how'd you get a green card for the states?

[Yetra Flam]

Luckily, I didn't have to. My mother was a US citizen, so I am too by default. Getting a green card is not easy, unfortunately.

[Gareth]

well that sucks (for me, not you).
thanks.
my parents couldnt even hook me up with british ancestry.
useless!

[Kid Presentable]

So, it's not that things suck. At all. But while it's fun messing around with new girls every so often, it's kinda lonely just living on my own. I dunno it's just lonely.

Friends aren't a problem, it's just for the first time, after coming out of a massive year of shit, I'm kind of scared of dying alone. It's early days though, I guess.

[fonky pizza]

It's scary to be alone, it's hard to learn to live by yourself, just with yourself.

[Kid Presentable]

Yeah it is a little weird. The weekends are a blur of awesomeness, and then Sunday night all of a sudden it's just me and this poor abandoned cat (she used to love the cat and then decided she didn't want it - I can empathise. With the cat, I mean).

Oh well, could be worse.