Sooo... We

[ericlee]

Finally called it a quits. She had her attorney write an agreement, he emailed it to me and I fully comply. This is a no contest thing. We both agree on everything.

I want to say I can't believe I stuck around this long for it but, I can believe I did. I'm just patient.

We're both happy about the agreement.

Just time to move on.

[Freebasser]

Ach, sorry mate.

Although I'm not sorry at the same time because clearly it wasn't working and it was putting a tremendous strain on you and her. Hopefully now you can both move on as you say. Your new life begins here!*

*Not on this message board obviously.

*manhug*

[Randetica]

about time :p
it was the right turn and may your future woman be the chillest!

[Kid Presentable]

eric, commiserations but I think this will be for the best.

[RobMoney$]

If you haven't already, get a lawyer. Doesn't matter if you agree on everything, as you say. Lawyers are scumbags, she's got one, you need one too.

Also, hopefully you took my advice and have been hiding money.

[Kid Presentable]

Nah Robert, you told me to hide money. And I didn't. Worked okay.

[abbott]

best wishes. must be cool to have a new beginning..

[ms.peachy]

Great that you're both able to be grownups about it all. I'm sorry it didn't work out for you two to be together but lord knows you tried.

[RobMoney$]

Nah Robert, you told me to hide money. And I didn't. Worked okay.

Still solid advice and I stand by it.

[MC Moot]

lo siento,be well...

[Rock-A]

Sorry duder...you'll be ok, now you are free to concentrate on what YOU want. Id get a lawyer, just in case.

[gbsuey]

Sorry to hear that, but like everyone's already said, sometimes you're just better out of it and on to new beginnings. Best of luck with those :)

[sab0tage]

Good luck for this new chapter in your life (y)

[camo]

The world is now your oyster mate (y)

[DIGI]

To paraphrase Louis CK--

"AWWWWW."

"Don't you fucking do that. Don't feel bad my divorce. I'm pretty sure I've never heard of a good marriage ending in divorce."

With that said, I'll forego the pity party. Onward to happiness, brother.

[Guy Incognito]

May the force be with you

[yeahwho]

Does this have anything to do with this (http://bbs.beastieboys.com/showpost.php?p=1781347&postcount=15)?

I know it's a long time coming... when I quit drinking alot people close to me all of sudden were dropped.

[M|X|Y]

hide salami. trust me... hide all your salamis please.

don't say i didna told ye

[ericlee]

Oh I've been hiding the salami. I've basically been waiting my whole marriage to hide it in various.... I have remained faithful for 8 years and I'm not blind. I see a lot of ladies that make me crazy and I couldn't do anything about it. Tables have turned now. I have completely turned myself into the filthy whore I used to be back in highschool and I'm loving it.

I have no more worries. I completely signed the house over to her. Her parents put most of the money down on it so it's not really a loss for me at all. I didn't even want the place to begin with as in I didn't want to commit myself to living in NY the rest of my life.

Currently I'm in my hometown in Ohio looking for jobs and hanging with family and friends. After my 2 weeks vacation, I go back to NY for our divorce court and once that's done I will move back to my hometown and live the peaceful life I deserve.

I've been waiting for this. The whole time I've lived in NY, I dreaded it. Even though I had a house, a beautiful wife and everything. I hated waking up and remembering that I lived in NY.

I do have an attorney and as said, this is a no contest. We both wish the best of luck to each other and once divorce is finished we will still keep in contact.

[Mae]

Oh I've been hiding the salami. I've basically been waiting my whole marriage to hide it in various.... I have remained faithful for 8 years and I'm not blind. I see a lot of ladies that make me crazy and I couldn't do anything about it. Tables have turned now. I have completely turned myself into the filthy whore I used to be back in highschool and I'm loving it.

I have no more worries. I completely signed the house over to her. Her parents put most of the money down on it so it's not really a loss for me at all. I didn't even want the place to begin with as in I didn't want to commit myself to living in NY the rest of my life.

Currently I'm in my hometown in Ohio looking for jobs and hanging with family and friends. After my 2 weeks vacation, I go back to NY for our divorce court and once that's done I will move back to my hometown and live the peaceful life I deserve.

I've been waiting for this. The whole time I've lived in NY, I dreaded it. Even though I had a house, a beautiful wife and everything. I hated waking up and remembering that I lived in NY.

I do have an attorney and as said, this is a no contest. We both wish the best of luck to each other and once divorce is finished we will still keep in contact.

It's really nice to hear about a mature and amicable separation. So often I hear about the shitty rancor filled ones with a lot of mudslinging and jugular lunging.

Well played and good luck

[venusvenus123]

Sooooooo...now what will you moan about?









:D

Congrats! and all the best with moving on. (y)(lb)(y)

[ericlee]

Sooooooo...now what will you moan about?









:D

Congrats! and all the best with moving on. (y)(lb)(y)

Oh, I only moan about things if they're done the correct way, haha. ;)

Thanks, I appreciate it.

[M|X|Y]

hide all your beers! don't say i didnt tell ya!

hide all of them!

also, hide all your easter eggs!

[ericlee]

I suppose I'll hide my wines. I don't really drink beer anymore. I kinda quit for a while but not for now.

I'm heading to Put in Bay (http://http://putinbay.com/) right now to have a good time with my pals.

I was talking to my mom and she asked what do I plan on doing this weekend. I told her it's not what I plan on doing, it's who I plan on doing. She says, "you're not even a week into getting a divorce and you're already on the prowl?" I said, "yeah, and?" She says, "well, I guess you gotta get rid of your poison." haha.

Thanks for all the kind words from everyone. It has been a little rough, I still kinda love her but we both need to start this new life and be happy.

[ToucanSpam]

I hope you can find some peace now, and move on to better things. Sorry things went to shit on you.

[weez]

sorry to hear, but that's good you're stoked to move on, and get happy with your life. it's too short to mess around.

[Myu-to]

Best wishes to you. It's gonna be some rough times, but may you find happiness soon.

[ericlee]

So when I went to Put in Bay, I ended up waking up in a hotel, looked around and saw some lady that looked like a True Lies version of Jamie Lee Curtis next to me. She moans, "heeyyy there, mornin."

I'm like woah, sup, and started the morning proper. I vaguely remember the night that led to it.

I got back to PC hopping the bars, end up picking up a nice lady with black hair down to her butt. We get a room, things went so nice that we ended up staying 4 days straight together. We couldn't get enough of each other.

Man, I did not want to go back to NY after that and you could tell her feelings are mutual. We still keep in touch. We actually talk rather than text.

Life is moving along proper.

[mikizee]

(y)(y)(y)(y)(y)

[RobMoney$]

So I guess you made the right decision?

It's nice to see you happy. (y)

[Bob]

So when I went to Put in Bay, I ended up waking up in a hotel, looked around and saw some lady that looked like a True Lies version of Jamie Lee Curtis next to me. She moans, "heeyyy there, mornin."

I'm like woah, sup, and started the morning proper. I vaguely remember the night that led to it.

I got back to PC hopping the bars, end up picking up a nice lady with black hair down to her butt. We get a room, things went so nice that we ended up staying 4 days straight together. We couldn't get enough of each other.

Man, I did not want to go back to NY after that and you could tell her feelings are mutual. We still keep in touch. We actually talk rather than text.

Life is moving along proper.

eric buskowsklee

[M|X|Y]

glad to see you are happy, mr. lee (y)

[checkyourprez]

I suppose I'll hide my wines. I don't really drink beer anymore. I kinda quit for a while but not for now.

I'm heading to Put in Bay (http://http://putinbay.com/) right now to have a good time with my pals.

I was talking to my mom and she asked what do I plan on doing this weekend. I told her it's not what I plan on doing, it's who I plan on doing. She says, "you're not even a week into getting a divorce and you're already on the prowl?" I said, "yeah, and?" She says, "well, I guess you gotta get rid of your poison." haha.

Thanks for all the kind words from everyone. It has been a little rough, I still kinda love her but we both need to start this new life and be happy.


im going there in 2 weeks for one of my good buddies college friends bachelor party. they had already been there for one and said its pretty awesome. just like a big party island.

[ericlee]

Get ready for a blast bro. I love the place. Are you going via Port Clinton or Catawaba?

[Kid Presentable]

Hey eric, happy to read about your progress. Coming out of a shit relationship (or a good one that went shit) and into fun times with the ladies is the best. Stay single for long enough, though.

[checkyourprez]

Get ready for a blast bro. I love the place. Are you going via Port Clinton or Catawaba?

not a clue just along for the ride. (or two, or three).


:rolleyes:



:D



whats the hot spots??? they all said like 99% of the chicks down there are super easy to talk to. no one was really stuck up. everyones there for the same thing; party and have a good time.




and i am sad to hear about the end of your relationship. mine just ended too and it was rough. not a marriage but 2.5 years of my life where some heavy shit went down for both of us. i was really down for a while. but thats life you know. ups and downs. but im on the way back up, and like p.diddy said can't not buddy hollllld meeee dowwwwn.


:rolleyes:

[ericlee]

Pretty much everywhere around there is the hot spots. Frosty's Mojito, the brewery, and a few other places. Not just that, it's a tourist attraction.

You have the cavern, a butterfly place, the boardwalk, the winery.: I can go on and on.

For the meantime I suppose I'm staying here in NY. Even though i don't like it too much, I do have my job. I have plenty leads in Ohio but where I'm from, a small place, I have to wait in line for a job so.

[ericlee]

And also I'm getting back into this music biz. I'm about to drop some cash in a studio and get it done. I have been working too damn long on these songs.

Seriously though, if anyone knows a studio drummer for reasonable, please let me know. If not, it will be me on my cheesy drum machine.

[skra75]

Put in bay huh? Why part of Ohio are you from? I am from the Lorain area originally. I wonder if we know each other IRL. Hmm.

[Randetica]

And also I'm getting back into this music biz. I'm about to drop some cash in a studio and get it done. I have been working too damn long on these songs.

nOoOooO!!
thanKs for the warning though :(

[ericlee]

Put in bay huh? Why part of Ohio are you from? I am from the Lorain area originally. I wonder if we know each other IRL. Hmm.


Port Clinton. All the way up north and right between Cleveland and Toledo. I know exactly where you're from.

[ericlee]

Hehe. I had a date last night with yeah, a white girl. We met through a cop that I work with. We were talking on the phone and texting since Monday last week. Things were great. She stopped by my work Friday for a coffee cause I only had a half hour break. It was awesome. She has the same hair color as me, eyes, attitude, you name it.

So yesterday, I picked her up, we had dinner, we laughed our ass off, we were like each other.

We decided that we wanted to get naked with each other. We were in Manhattan, I was in no shape to drive anywhere so we started walking and looking for hotels. Freaking every single one of them had no damn rooms. Every one of them. Sold out.

It was roughly 2 am and we just decided that I wold take her home. She lives with her parents btw, she's 24 and it's pretty typical for that age to live with their parents here.

On the way home, we got to chatting. I told her I'm kinda looking for someone for the long run. She says she is too. She tells me that she often hangs out with some guy she knows. I'm like cool and..She tells me she used to sleep with the guy. I tell her, that's a no go. I can't. She tells me it's only coffee and stuff.

I tell her ok. How's about I go have coffee with Echo (ex). I told her, we used to only fuck for 8 years but if you're ok with us just having coffee together, is that cool?

Nope, instant jealousy on her part. It frustrated her. So, I just said thanks for the good night at least. I'm kinda glad I didn't hide my salami in you.

But... I have been talking to a very nice and conservative Japanese lady. Her parents are already here but all we have been doing was chatting on the phone. I met her while working. She was lost and asked for directions and we caught each other's eye. She happens to be so traditional and she's very shy in her ways so we just call once and a while. She's my age, man she is awesome.

So, I told her, look, we have been talking on the phone for quite some time. It's finally time to see each other. She says, you silly goose. I have been waiting for you to say that. Soooo... I see this moving in a good direction.

[Kid Presentable]

Too soon for a relationship.

[ericlee]

Too soon for a relationship.

I get ya bro and I should take advice from you. Me.. I'm, I dunno. I love ladies and have no problems finding them. But I want that one to hang with me for a while.

I guess it's too soon but I can only whore myself out for so long.

[Kid Presentable]

Sounds co-dependent. Just sayin; if you can't figure out the ways in which you fucked up the marriage then you're kinda doomed to repeat the pattern.

[Dorothy Wood]

Why do you want someone conservative when you're not?

[TurdBerglar]

why are females so fucking important to you. chill the fuck out.

[ericlee]

I'm just fucking fucked up, to answer the last few questions. This whole thing ha me fucked up.

Honestly, at least, I was conservative with her while I was with her. My ex by the way.

I just don't know. I have messed around after us. It's cool. It's been great. Maybe I should just keep it that way.

One thing that is awesome to me is that I'm at work. I always have some kind of music in my head, I'm really not paying attention to anything and I always get my coworkers telling me, "bro, did you see her? dude, she was checking you out."

Not just that, I see a lot of ladies checking me out in general. I'm not bragging myself out but I need this after what I suffered. I'm a pretty sexy bastard for almost being 40. I'm proud of myself.

[Kid Presentable]

Sounds like you have real low self-esteem brah. And ultimately, what you suffered is only 50% her fault.

[Heather_D]

Maybe it's good for you to just play the field a bit.

And why's it seem people get more conservative as they age? I had been talking to a guy I used to see on occasion & we were talking about stuff we'd do if we got together. I mentioned something & he was all, "Oh no. We can't do that. We could get arrested.". Like, WTF?

[MCA4ever]

Maybe it's good for you to just play the field a bit.

And why's it seem people get more conservative as they age? I had been talking to a guy I used to see on occasion & we were talking about stuff we'd do if we got together. I mentioned something & he was all, "Oh no. We can't do that. We could get arrested.". Like, WTF?

Ok- you have peaked my curiosity- WHAT??? :)

[Dorothy Wood]

I think you should give yourself a chance to hang out with girls you could have a friendship with...not some culture clash fetish personified. Not to bash Japanese girls or whatever, but if you only like her because she's quiet and cute, that's kinda fucked up.

[ericlee]

Sounds like you have real low self-esteem brah. And ultimately, what you suffered is only 50% her fault.

My esteem sucks. I can at least be honest with it. As far as what I suffered, seriously bro.

It's cool, you have no idea. People know her, my friends, tenants at the house. All they want to do is facepalm her.

Thanks for the insight though.

[Kid Presentable]

My esteem sucks. I can at least be honest with it. As far as what I suffered, seriously bro.

It's cool, you have no idea. People know her, my friends, tenants at the house. All they want to do is facepalm her.

Thanks for the insight though.

I'm saying: as little as you want to face facts, if there are two people in a marriage each can only be responsible for 50%. I hope you see this someday.

[M|X|Y]

why are females so fucking important to you. chill the fuck out.

(!)

[ericlee]

I feel deprived after 8 years. Why should I chill the fuck out? I'm happy for once and why should anybody stop doing what makes them happy?

[Heather_D]

I feel deprived after 8 years. Why should I chill the fuck out? I'm happy for once and why should anybody stop doing what makes them happy?

Heroin makes people happy. Should they keep doing it?

[Tam_Tam]

I feel deprived after 8 years. Why should I chill the fuck out? I'm happy for once and why should anybody stop doing what makes them happy?

Not for nothing, but it doesn't really seem like you're finding happiness as much as a couple of quick fixes. I believe the absolute worse thing a person can do when trying to get over someone is intentionally be with someone else. What you end up doing is comparing the "distractions" to the one you're trying to move on from. And ultimately end up thinking about them more.

Chilling out is probably exactly what you need to do until you can figure out where (and what) the actual happy is.

[Myu-to]

Port Clinton. All the way up north and right between Cleveland and Toledo. I know exactly where you're from.
Port Clinton, baby!

[checkyourprez]

Not for nothing, but it doesn't really seem like you're finding happiness as much as a couple of quick fixes. I believe the absolute worse thing a person can do when trying to get over someone is intentionally be with someone else. What you end up doing is comparing the "distractions" to the one you're trying to move on from. And ultimately end up thinking about them more.

Chilling out is probably exactly what you need to do until you can figure out where (and what) the actual happy is.


thats funny. its exactly what my ex-gf did/is doing. annnnd shes also about to convert to jehovah's witness for this guy. the more i think about it, its really pathetic. i almost feel bad for her. especially when we had numerous in depth convos about how she thinks religion is bullshit and there is no god and stuff.

i guess low self esteem will do that to a person...



meanwhile...im still boss.

[ericlee]

Not for nothing, but it doesn't really seem like you're finding happiness as much as a couple of quick fixes. I believe the absolute worse thing a person can do when trying to get over someone is intentionally be with someone else. What you end up doing is comparing the "distractions" to the one you're trying to move on from. And ultimately end up thinking about them more.

Chilling out is probably exactly what you need to do until you can figure out where (and what) the actual happy is.

Nay sayers gonna nay say. I'm happy with this. It's called dating. I don't do it every day. Maybe once every other week. I don't possibly see why I should chill out, nor do I see why anyone else. Also, I'm not looking to pork everyone I date. I value the fact that I meet new people out of this. I can keep my mobile in my pocket and have decent conversations. I still keep in touch with the ones I dated. I'm meeting new people.

But sure, everyone knows me better than I, right? I'm pretty much done with this discussion.

[Tam_Tam]

Nay sayers gonna nay say. I'm happy with this. It's called dating. I don't do it every day. Maybe once every other week. I don't possibly see why I should chill out, nor do I see why anyone else. Also, I'm not looking to pork everyone I date. I value the fact that I meet new people out of this. I can keep my mobile in my pocket and have decent conversations. I still keep in touch with the ones I dated. I'm meeting new people.

But sure, everyone knows me better than I, right? I'm pretty much done with this discussion.

My bad. I'm apparently not communicating my point effectively. Obviously, I don't know you at all. The only thing I know about you is what you post.

All I'm saying is when you find you're new girl make sure you're in it fully for the benefit of you and her and not as a "fuck you" to your ex. Seriously, I wish you the best. You deserve it.

[Helvete]

Yeah, Eric! You should mope about and be depressed for at least a year before you even think about seeing anyone else! That's sufficient time that you're not on the rebound and good to go...

[Kid Presentable]

I'm just saying, I've been right where he is (well, not right where he is, but figuratively speaking) and I found it was a good opportunity to do some learning once the thrill of freedom wore off.

He's still responsible for 50% of that old marriage, and it would be cool to know he can work on that shit for next time round.

I'm not saying I'm there myself, just saying it's a good chance to man up. Sure, sleep around, but don't let the chance to learn a bit pass you by.

eric I wasn't trying to shit on your good times, just offering my two cents. At least I've been through it too, bruh.

[ms.peachy]

Eric I don't think what people were saying "whoa nelly" about was the fact that you are dating, it was that you intimated you were telling at least some of these women that you are looking for a long term thing. At least that's the thing that pricked up my ears, so to speak. Sure, date, have fun, I don't think anyone sees anything wrong in that; it's the getting more intimately and emotionally involved with someone that I imagine is the issue. But hey man, you're a grown up, you're free to do as you please and if you meet someone you feel is really truly far to good to let slip through your fingers, then do what you gotta do. Just make sure you're into her for her, and not for what you hope or want her to be for you.

[yeahwho]

Dating with low expectations is really fun.

Playing the field, having some coffee, going to a show, ride a ferry, get some lunch.

Dating with any sort of preconceived outcome is really stupid. I've been on both sides of that many times. The low expectations side is the really fun side to be on.

Watch Jerry Seinfeld for further excellent dating tips.

[checkyourprez]

I'm just saying, I've been right where he is (well, not right where he is, but figuratively speaking) and I found it was a good opportunity to do some learning once the thrill of freedom wore off.

He's still responsible for 50% of that old marriage, and it would be cool to know he can work on that shit for next time round.

I'm not saying I'm there myself, just saying it's a good chance to man up. Sure, sleep around, but don't let the chance to learn a bit pass you by.

eric I wasn't trying to shit on your good times, just offering my two cents. At least I've been through it too, bruh.

i agree with this a lot.

trying as hard as possible not to sound corny, i learned a lot from my last relationship. learned a lot a bout life and love, and what i need to do to be a better boyfriend in a sense.


and sadly i think thats where my ex-gf has erred by rushing back to an old boyfriend. setting it up basically the last week of our relationship so she didnt have to go through the pain and heartache of losing her bf of 2.5 years...who she wanted to marry. however facing that pain and heartache is really where you learn.


i guess thats just what people are telling you eric. face that shit. dont just put it out of sight out of mind because you are occupying yourself with all these flings. theres nothing wrong with it doing that stuff, shit, i am back at it. but i do think it is beneficial to see why things went wrong and try and figure out what you need to do to avoid that in the future.




or next thing you know your going to be converting to become a jehovahs witness. so yeah.

[Kid Presentable]

Eric, jesus. Fuck, man. Sorry. I wasn't trying to ruin your good times. Just trying to help you think about the things I had been thinking about.

To make me an even bigger hypocrite, I've started (sort of) kicking it with this girl. smh.

Life is short, I guess. But I did spend my time learning.

:o