Living with smokers

[LuciferHam]

Sucks. I just moved into a new flat a few days ago, knew the guys were smokers but didnt realise theyd be smoking in the lounge every night.

The flat smells, but clothes are starting to smell of smoke and my throats sore, possibly from the second hand smoke. I keep my room door shut and my windows open so my room smells fine, but its a bit shit I cant hang in the lounge without stinking and coughing.

What should I do? I could move out but just went to the hassle of moving all my shit there. So will probably sit it out at least a month or two. I'd like to ask them if they can smoke outside or in their rooms, but having only been there a few days it seems a bit rude. Perhaps I'll wait a bit longer and then ask.

Is anyone else a non-smoker who has lived with smokers? Am I being to anal? Or does it suck as much as it seems to at the moment?

Theyre cool people which is why I wanted to flat there. Things always seem to have a down side.

[JoLovesMCA]

Well growing up I lived with parents who were smokers but they weren’t heavy smokers and ALWAYS took it outside. I can’t imagine how it must be having it in the air where I breathe and sleep. I couldn't do it. I would try and move when it’s possible because if both of them smoke it’s unlikely they will accommodate you. It doesn't hurt to ask when you're comfortable though. Maybe even tell them that the fumes are making you sick and would it be possible they take it outside when you're there...

When you do finally move make sure you’ve covered this in the beginning and I am sure you can find people to room with that only smoke outside or not at all!

[Dorothy Wood]

I think it's fair to just tell them that you didn't expect to be so bothered by the smoke. If you like the place and the people, and they like you, I bet they would or could at least smoke near a window at least. When I was smoking and lived with nonsmokers, I just smoked out of the window or outside most times.

In one apartment, my roommate let me and other people smoke inside when we had parties or on the weekend. Or if something was particularly stressful. Maybe you could suggest that sort of arrangement? where it would at least cut down the amount of smoke?

Anyway, try to be cool and not whiny, but definitely bring it up before it goes for too long and they're like, "why didn't you say something?" and feel weird about it.

good luck!

[sab0tage]

I don't think there's a lot you can do apart from politely mentioning it and see where it gets you.

Unfortunately I think moving out is probably your best option. If you knew they smoked when you moved in then I can't imagine them being that sympathetic.

Unless you can first make yourself an indespensible flat mate and take it from there.......

[abbott]

move out or tell them to smoke outside

Live with smoke if you want, my guess is if you have the same conversation your room mates as have here, they might just get it and if they don't, living with smoke is good enough for me to pack and move.

Granted, I like to smoke, just no tobacco, SO depending on what they are smoking would be the kicker for me.

[MC Moot]

Yes,what D.W said...

[Kid Presentable]

Kiwis will tell him to fuck off if he doesnt like it I think.

[MC Moot]

Maybe...in my experience Kiwis are somewhat passive sheep shaggers whilst the Aussy's are considerably more brute like...

[Kid Presentable]

Maybe...in my experience Kiwis are somewhat passive sheep shaggers whilst the Aussy's are considerably more brute like...

Nah kiwis are pricks. Aren't we all, though?

[FunkyHiFi]

I feel for ya dude: I also grew up with a parent who smoked, and I'm living with a smoker right now, a chain smoker actually AND he doesn't take it outside. :(:(:( Even if I don't sit in the same room with him, after just a few hours the clothes I'm wearing stink of smoke.

I also like Ms. Wood's advice. (y)

BTW don't keep gear you value in the same room as the smokers because eventually a nasty brown coating will begin to appear. You'll notice this particularly with glossy finished stuff like TV screens for example, but it sticks to just about everything. And if thick enough that coating will literally become sticky - yech (I won't set up my music/home theater component system in their living room for that one reason). I've also read that a computer's innards can be negatively affected by too much smoke - their cooling fans draw in lots of air, so that's not surprising.

[TimDoolan]

Fabreeze will become your friend. Spray that shit on your clothes, furnature.
Get a small air purifier for the apt, set it on quiet and put it in the corner.
Hopefully they will quit on their own.

[Yeti]

If you live there long enough they will drop off like flies.

[FunkyHiFi]

Just remembered this: if they still sell them, maybe buy (or ask them to buy) one of those smokeless ashtrays?

[Adam]

Move out.

Where you live has got to be right or it just effects everything else you do. You don't want to go home, you go to work angry cus your house mate was a prick in the morning. A dish is left in the sink and you see red so you start to escalate a petty war even though you're trying to be the grown up one.

[Uru-Nitro]

you should start scratching asbestos in the lounge every night.



that will help you to bring the point you are trying to clarify.

[venusvenus123]

So I reckon LH has moved out and there's no wifi on the street.

:(

my advice: move out. I couldn't imagine living with smokers. It's bad enough that my husband goes outside to puff the green every now and then. When he comes back in I have to sit in a separate room for a while as his lungs are still full of smokey stuff.

grrr, smoking. :mad:

[LuciferHam]

you should start scratching asbestos in the lounge every night.



that will help you to bring the point you are trying to clarify.

Hahaha. Classic suggestion.

Yeah... I'm still there. Gonna bring up the topic this week and ask them to at least stop smoking in the living room. In there own rooms isn't gonna effect me so much and the occasional green around the house I don't mind.

We'll see what happens...

If they're pricks, guess I'm finding a new house!

Failing that, the streets may be the only option. Thankfully I've got wifi at work, concerned fellow forum dwellers.

[yeahwho]

Everybody I know who smokes including a couple of my neighbors and literally dozens of friends and co-workers smoke outside their homes or workplace.

I see my neighbors daily sitting out having a smoke and at work there is always someone out on the deck smoking.

My friends and I smoke an occasional cigar during poker or after work... never inside.

It's akin to a dog shitting inside the house. Really off that people still insist to smoking indoors.