It's a jungle out there

[hpdrifter]

So I met a guy on a dating site. We exchanged quite a few emails over several weeks and had a conversation via text (silly, I know). He seemed nice and genuine so I decided to meet him in person. We had dinner last night.

He was very sweet, polite, kind, a little nervous and shy. Conversation was good etc. I liked him.

But then something kind of weird happened. He asked me if I could go out with him again on Friday this week (so two dates in the same week), which in and of itself was not weird. The weird part was then I got a text today asking if I wanted to get together another day in addition to Friday (so 3 dates in one week).

Thoughts? Should I chalk this up to inexperience with dating (he got married really young and was married for ~18 years) or is this a red flag?

[ms.peachy]

It might just be inexperience, who knows. Is the other date he's asking for before or after Friday?

[hpdrifter]

It might just be inexperience, who knows. Is the other date he's asking for before or after Friday?

Before. Doesn't that seem like kind of a lot? Even if you like someone?

[hpdrifter]

No comments from the peanut gallery?

Come on, people, now I'm overanalyzing everything he said and wondering if he's going to go full stalker on me.

[M|X|Y]

unless you had strong feeling for him or you're just bored and want something to do... no one should expect you to say yes to 3 dates in a week. maybe just go on the one friday and see what's up

or probably just say no to this week (im busy, etc etc) and offer a day the next week?

maybe he's super horny and geeky and thinks he wants to get his three dates in fast so he can bag you asap.

definitely unusual, i wouldnt write someone off completely because of that, but take things at the pace you want to and keep it in mind. if he's turned off or whatever by that.. fuck it

[hpdrifter]

Yeah, I told him I couldn't see him before Friday. I guess I'll still go on Friday and see what vibe I get. I mean it's weird because I got such a good vibe from him over email (I think you can tell a lot about someone even over email). He seemed so cool and chill, never pushed for a meeting (I ended up asking him out) or asked me anything really personal or tried to drive the conversation sideways.

Ugh. I apologize in advance, BBMB. You can probably expect to see a lot of threads like this as I start dating again.

[ms.peachy]

Yeah, telling him you couldn't see him again until Friday was the right thing to do. See how Friday goes and then decide how you feel. Maybe he just really really likes you but isn't very smooth.

[Dorothy Wood]

It's pretty weird, but maybe he's just trying to let you know he's all in? Every guy I've ever ended up in relationship with has started with the guy wanting to see me as much as possible. If you're not feelin it though, cut him loose quick.

[Dorothy Wood]

I don't know why that thumbs down thing is there. Pls disregard

[hpdrifter]

Well, maybe he got the message that he's moving too fast. He emailed me once yesterday and only to discuss plans for tomorrow. He also sent me this and said it made him think of me.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aTLySbGoMX0&feature=player_embedded

Totally romantic and sweet, right?

Still keeping guard up but feeling a little better about it.

[Kid Presentable]

Just remember that the second anything makes you feel uncomfortable, you're within your rights (as a person - particularly online) to dictate a more appropriate pace. Only act how you want, not how you think he wants you to react. You set your own boundaries. Good luck!

[miss soul fire]

Go out with him on Friday, but don't let him now you are that available. Guys need to work hard to get the girls. And don't forget to bring your gun!:p

[hpdrifter]

So I had a really nice time. He's the most ingenuous, guileless man I've ever met. Totally straightforward even to the point that he doesn't get my quirky, dry, sarcastic sense of humor, which I find weird because he likes the Simpsons.

Anyway, I don't know how far it can go, though. It is pretty clear to me that he is ready for more than I am at this point. I think he wants to hang out on the regular and have this go toward something, which I could consider down the line but not now.

[hpdrifter]

maybe he's super horny and geeky and thinks he wants to get his three dates in so he can bag you asap

So is three dates a thing? I've heard this from more than one person.

[Helvete]

I got on so well with my ex-girlfriend after our first date we met twice again in the next week. Not usually what either of us would have done I'm sure, but it was just the way it happened for us.

[Bob]

So is three dates a thing? I've heard this from more than one person.

only on television, it's not a rule or anything

if it is, the women i date don't seem to follow it anyway

[M|X|Y]

So is three dates a thing? I've heard this from more than one person.

like bob said.

i thought it was one of those things.

[M|X|Y]

you don't seem the type to be into guileless dudes anyway(y)

[hpdrifter]

Not really. It's hard when I make a movie or music reference or make some other off the wall comment and he gives me kind of a blank or, even worse, suspicious look. Seriously, dude, irony.

Wait a tick. Is that a dig? I like someone who can go toe-to-toe with me in a pop culture off, but that doesn't mean I count people out who aren't as dorked out as I am.

[TAL]

Jungle is Massive (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mL2Bgj-za5k)