I met an amazing guy! What should I do?? Help meeee!

[miss soul fire]

So I met this guy on Saturday in this pub I usually go. He was totally my type. I saw him once there. I never look at guys, but this time I couldn't resist. So we kissed and talked and he took me to a party with his friends at his house. He speaks Italian, fluent. OMG! He was made for me. We didn't do anything serious, just kissed a lot and some other stuff, not sex though. I can't do this right away when I meet someone. He's only 27 (I'm turning 35 next Saturday), but he said it was a not a problem. It's not. Especially if I like the guy. Hehe. So, anyway, the party was nice, he introduced me to his friends and he was alwyas a gentleman. He took me home and I was the one who asked his phone number. I generally don't like the guys I kiss so I never care about their phone numbers and many of them call me back, but I never care about it, but when I like the guy, something like that happens. I wish he magically called me, but I don't know if this is going to happen. Only people that I don't like care about me. My ex keeps texting me and I never answer him. We were drunk. Damn vodkaaaa! Anyway, I WANT THIS GUY! He seriously hipnotized me like no one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!! I LOVE HIM! HELP ME! Hehehehe!

[RobMoney$]

Wait I seen this movie,
You're Molly Ringwald and his name is Andrew Mccarthy, right?

I love those 80's John Hughes flicks.

[Micodin]

I love those 80's John Hughes flicks.

Word. I need to cop some of those on blu-ray. I'm a sucker for The Breakfast Club.

[Randetica]

hope it works out! (y)

[checkyourprez]

people shouldn't settle.

just live your life eventually someone will come into that is a good fit.

[Myu-to]

Buttsecks.

[miss soul fire]

Wait I seen this movie,
You're Molly Ringwald and his name is Andrew Mccarthy, right?

I love those 80's John Hughes flicks.

You have no idea how this is MY FAVORITE MOVIE! HAHA!:D

[miss soul fire]

Funny how when it's someone else asking for help, people help, in my case, I get jokes instead. I'm a joker. Oh well. Stuff happend after this post though.:D

[Bob]

people shouldn't settle.

just live your life eventually someone will come into that is a good fit.

or they might not. life doesn't care about your happiness, it could break either way

[TurdBerglar]

or just don't allow your happiness to be dependent on another person

[ms.peachy]

Funny how when it's someone else asking for help, people help, in my case, I get jokes instead. I'm a joker. Oh well. Stuff happend after this post though.:D

Honestly though, with the way you wrote that first post, you couldn't really expect serious responses, right? I mean I took it as a joke - not that you didn't really meet a guy, but I assumed you were goofing a bit on yourself by writing it like some kooky teenager. I thought you were just having a laugh, not actually looking for advice. I'm happy for you that you've made someone who obviously makes you feel good, that's great! But I really don't get what your question is, what advice or feedback you are asking for.

[checkyourprez]

or they might not. life doesn't care about your happiness, it could break either way

well yeah if you live life like a hermit they might not. because they are too busy living their hermit life. but it doesn't mean there isn't someone you match up with very well out there.


you do have to put yourself out their to some extent.

[abbott]

Trick him into getting you pregnant.

[M|X|Y]

i don't see the problem here. why do you need advice again?

[miss soul fire]

I just wanted to know what to do or how to react if he asked me out or something. I actually know what to do, but I was really excited about it. Maybe because I rarelly like guys I meet so I got really excited about it. And people generally don't take me seriously because I talk the way I write. I'm a teenager that's why people think I'm younger. So anyway, thanks for the nice comments and well internet will always be weird anyway. I know I probably wouldn't be friends with most people of this board because my happiness may kinda suck it sometimes and I realize that, but that's the way I am and love it.;)

[miss soul fire]

I always feel weird in this place, but still like it.

[zippo]

or they might not. life doesn't care about your happiness, it could break either way

hahahaha
you twat!!

the truth should only come when were 90...we need hope to live!

[zippo]

hey msf, i still sometimes act like a kooky teenager myself or if i'm really having fun, like a toddler,who cares

i think you should show youre interested but don't overdo it so he doesn't maybe freak out with your overwhelmingness

[Bob]

hahahaha
you twat!!

the truth should only come when were 90...we need hope to live!

the sooner you accept it, the sooner you can start to come to terms with it and live your life around it. no need to put it off

that's why i'm always so chipper

[zippo]

the sooner you accept it, the sooner you can start to come to terms with it and live your life around it. no need to put it off

that's why i'm always so chipper

yes, that is true, but be careful not to become a constant downer and remember that things could turn out incredibly

[M|X|Y]

describe this amazing guy, eh?

[miss soul fire]

Long story short: he doesn't want me. Hahahahahahaha!
So, no news. Back to real life.
And he's not amazing, otherwise he would want me. I'm a good catch. Hehe!:D

[miss soul fire]

hey msf, i still sometimes act like a kooky teenager myself or if i'm really having fun, like a toddler,who cares

i think you should show youre interested but don't overdo it so he doesn't maybe freak out with your overwhelmingness

Yeah, zippo, why not. Hihihi. That was like a month ago and it went that way, after we met, two days later he texted with a pure "good night", after some time I replied "hi, his name! How are you?" And he doesn't reply to me at that night, but adds me on facebook. The next day, he replies to me and we talk a bit about work and stuff like that and he ends it saying that his parents were visiting him at the weekend and then ended the conversation. Then I see him at this pub I usually go but he's with a older woman and never looked at me, according to my friend, he didn't touch her all night. Then the next day he wishes me happy birthday through facebook. So, 3 days later I sent him a message asking him how he was and he replied to me and then I asked him about his weekend and he never asks about mine and the conversation ends. Then, 3 days later he texts me and tell me that I forgot my bracelet at his house and we start talking about how to get it and I end up telling him I would pick it up at his work because he didn't know how to get to mine and I offered to get it there because I was the one who lost it, actually he took 2 days to reply to me where he worked, so I say I was sorry for bothering him and he said that I should relax because it was a good thing to be bothered about and I laughed and said something like "good" (all through whatsapp). Then I told him I would pick it on Friday morning before work, so we see each other and he asks me how i am and that he's working and studying a lot and that he was going to what the football match and all that and then then I was ao nervous and kinda said thank you for bringing my bracelet and then qe aaid goodbye with the one kiss thing and he said "good to see you" and then i went to work, my heart was beating fast as hell. I was so nervous and shy just to talk to the guy and i seriously never felt that before. So at night i sent him a message like this "thanks again" and then I said "it was nice to see you today" and he never replied me back since Friday. Hahaha! So...he never really cared about me and It was like that Erick Stoltz movie back in the 80's, but without the happy ending.:D

[abbott]

i think I would send him a message telling him you think hes a dumb ass for not pursuing you. then tell him that your not sure if want to deal with an ignorant potential stupid person like himself, but that you might still have a hint at considering it.

I know as a guy I had alot of shots that I wish I pursued but I was to much of a pussy to do it. You cant always wait for a good guy to make a move.

Best wishes

[miss soul fire]

i think I would send him a message telling him you think hes a dumb ass for not pursuing you. then tell him that your not sure if want to deal with an ignorant potential stupid person like himself, but that you might still have a hint at considering it.

I know as a guy I had alot of shots that I wish I pursued but I was to much of a pussy to do it. You cant always wait for a good guy to make a move.

Best wishes

Thanks a lot for the nice words!:)
I better not waste my time on someone who doesn't like me. He's got the right like most of them, but what it makes me feel sad is that every guy I like doesn't give a damn about getting to know me. They just won't give me a chance. Well, life goes on!

[Franci]

You shouldn't be sad, I mean... you barely knew him... who cares :p
Maybe he is not searching for a relationship at this point of his life and that's all, it's not that he doesn't want you...

[miss soul fire]

You shouldn't be sad, I mean... you barely knew him... who cares :p
Maybe he is not searching for a relationship at this point of his life and that's all, it's not that he doesn't want you...

I'm not really talking about having a relationship. I mean, like you said, I barely knew him. But I would like to have the chance to get to know him and I wish he could give me a chance to know me too. That's all I ask for. That's what pisses me off. The fact that guys just want to kiss me and never give me a chance to know them...and them getting to know me. It sucks not to be worth it, you know. That's what I'm talking about...not worth knowing...don't forget that I've been on this road 35 years and the guys i liked nevwr gave me a chance so i dated guys that liked me and i didn't like, but i tried. I gave them the chance. I liked the way he was so I thought he was worth knowing, but I am not. And I hate the fact that he ignored me and keeps liking my photos on facebook. I wouldn't do that to someone I just rejected.
I'm backpacking in Europe in September with a friend and I wanna remain single until there and i found out he's going to Vegas in November, so I imagine he wants to remain single too, so whatever and vivaaaa! Hihi! Thanks for all the nice comments and the bad ones too!

[Franci]

I'm not really talking about having a relationship. I mean, like you said, I barely knew him. But I would like to have the chance to get to know him and I wish he could give me a chance to know me too. That's all I ask for. That's what pisses me off. The fact that guys just want to kiss me and never give me a chance to know them...and them getting to know me. It sucks not to be worth it, you know. That's what I'm talking about...not worth knowing...don't forget that I've been on this road 35 years and the guys i liked nevwr gave me a chance so i dated guys that liked me and i didn't like, but i tried. I gave them the chance. I liked the way he was so I thought he was worth knowing, but I am not. And I hate the fact that he ignored me and keeps liking my photos on facebook. I wouldn't do that to someone I just rejected.
I'm backpacking in Europe in September with a friend and I wanna remain single until there and i found out he's going to Vegas in November, so I imagine he wants to remain single too, so whatever and vivaaaa! Hihi! Thanks for all the nice comments and the bad ones too!

yes... but why diminish yourself like that, you shouldn't .... you're "not to be worth it" just because this dude didn't call you back?
I don't think so! ;)
Maybe you've done nothing wrong and it's him who's acting in a weird way... don't bring yourself down too much over this thing :p

[Lyman Zerga]

his big fat loss

[ericlee]

I need to move to Brazil....

[cosmo105]

i think I would send him a message telling him you think hes a dumb ass for not pursuing you. then tell him that your not sure if want to deal with an ignorant potential stupid person like himself, but that you might still have a hint at considering it.


this is terrible advice.