what do you ladies do for fun?

[TurdBerglar]

I spend a lot of time in open public spaces because of my biking and public transport use. so I spend a lot of time in parks and other recreational/open areas. I've notices that there's a ton more guys doing fun shit then there are girls doing fun shit. what I mean by fun is just some sort of activity other than sitting around and gabbing.

large parks are always filled with all sorts of people doing pretty neat things.

for example:
people setting up and jamming out with some instruments
various sports
tossing a Frisbee around
kites
remote control model airplanes/cars
jogging
biking
fishing
longboarding
dog walking/playing
photography with real cameras

and all these activities are LARGELY dominated by dudes. there's girls participating as well just not nearly as much. the girls just seem to be sitting around and chit chatting. why are girls so passive? are they encourage to be that way? or is that just their nature? why aren't they as interested in things that aren't very passive? do they just consider these types of things silly and unnecessary?

the female dominated activities at the park seem to be:
laying out in the sun
sitting around and chit chatting
taking pictures of themselves with their phones
reading

what do you ladies do that get you up off your ass!?

it seems that girls that actively do stuff for the shear fun of it are always out numbered by guys.

what sparked this thought was my last trip to this particular park there was an amateur softball game going on. both teams were mixed with dudes and chicks(which was pretty neat) and the chicks were just as good as the dudes. I was thoroughly impressed by the girls because you just don't see that very much. and I was just like.... why isn't that seen very much? I feel i shouldn't be impressed by girls being good at something "extracurricular" that isn't passive that requires physical and mental effort because shouldn't it be just as normal as guys doing it?

so what do you ladies do for fun that I'm not seeing?

and what do you ladies see that guys do for fun that perplexes you?

[Bob]

scissoring mostly

[TurdBerglar]

is that some sort of arts and crafts type of deal?


scissoring felt and yarn into little farm scenes and shit?

[Bob]

yeah, kinda

[TurdBerglar]

I could get into that

seems fun

[Helvete]

I was talking with some friends about this sort of thing, although I worded it badly as 'I like masculine girls', which of course, to them meant that I like girls that look like guys. But I mean what you describe, I like girls that can 'do' things, not just sit around.

I went into London with a girl I was dating once, we decided to get a couple of those city bikes that you can hire, she was completely inept at the whole thing. Sure, she could technically ride the bike, but she couldn't keep up, she was scared of the traffic and all that crap. That really put me off her.

So yeah, I agree.

[Lyman Zerga]

i noticed that guys are usually more creative when it comes to entertainment, they can make the most fun games out of pretty much nothing

[ms.peachy]

I can't speak for all women obviously, but my observation is that women do more 'solo' thing for their own entertainment/amusement. Craft or art projects, writing, reading, cooking (including shopping for ingredients as part of the enjoyment), taking classes in areas of interest, going to exhibitions, that sort of thing. Also I'm not convinced that 'chatting' is a passive activity. I mean it can be, sure, but a lot of connection can be made in casual conversation that is useful (for lack of a better word). Broad generalization here: I think overall women are better at building networks than men are. (Again - that was a broad generalization.) Personally, I'm not a person who has ever enjoyed sports as a form of socializing, so most of those things listed in the OP really don't interest me, I really can't see any point in frisbee. I'm not saying no one else should enjoy it, only that I can't be arsed. If I am doing something more active with my female friends, it's likely to be something like taking a walking tour (we did a midnight street foods tour recently that was awesome), go to a museum (there's a Warhol in China show on here now I'll be going to with some friends this week), go to KTV (trashy fun), or just cook a nice meal together and hang out and eat and drink wine.

[TurdBerglar]

I was talking with some friends about this sort of thing, although I worded it badly as 'I like masculine girls', which of course, to them meant that I like girls that look like guys. But I mean what you describe, I like girls that can 'do' things, not just sit around.

I went into London with a girl I was dating once, we decided to get a couple of those city bikes that you can hire, she was completely inept at the whole thing. Sure, she could technically ride the bike, but she couldn't keep up, she was scared of the traffic and all that crap. That really put me off her.

So yeah, I agree.

the girlfriends that I've had always have been tomboys. girlyness is a huge turnoff for me. it's even more than a turnoff. I flatout don't respect people that are girly. or at least what girlyness has become. but even though they're tomboys and not very girly they always try to get me to do nothing with them. like sit around and watch a honey boo boo marathon with them while they're all cuddled up against me. this gets me very angry. I have no interest in just sitting on a couch and looking at a tv for hours(unless it's a decent movie) while being cuddled like a lap dog. if im not actively doing something im bored out of my fucking mind. that's why I like computers so much. there's loads of things that you can do with them that are thoroughly mentally active when you have no other option other than sitting around.

[TurdBerglar]

i noticed that guys are usually more creative when it comes to entertainment, they can make the most fun games out of pretty much nothing

like beer pong?

I've never actually played beer pong but that's totally a guy thing.

[TurdBerglar]

I can't speak for all women obviously, but my observation is that women do more 'solo' thing for their own entertainment/amusement. Craft or art projects, writing, reading, cooking (including shopping for ingredients as part of the enjoyment), taking classes in areas of interest, going to exhibitions, that sort of thing. Also I'm not convinced that 'chatting' is a passive activity. I mean it can be, sure, but a lot of connection can be made in casual conversation that is useful (for lack of a better word). Broad generalization here: I think overall women are better at building networks than men are. (Again - that was a broad generalization.) Personally, I'm not a person who has ever enjoyed sports as a form of socializing, so most of those things listed in the OP really don't interest me, I really can't see any point in frisbee. I'm not saying no one else should enjoy it, only that I can't be arsed. If I am doing something more active with my female friends, it's likely to be something like taking a walking tour (we did a midnight street foods tour recently that was awesome), go to a museum (there's a Warhol in China show on here now I'll be going to with some friends this week), go to KTV (trashy fun), or just cook a nice meal together and hang out and eat and drink wine.

museums are neat. I like a good museum/zoo/aquarium. taking a city tour sounds cool too. I wouldn't be too interested street food thing but if it were like a tour of a historical city's history, i'd enjoy that.

there's this woman I use to work with. she was really into arts and crafts. she was really good at it. I could talk to her about all that stuff just because she was so knowledgeable and well versed about it. I don't have much interest in that sort of thing but since she knew so much about it, it was fun to pick her brain about the techniques used to create something I had no clue about. It was the same way with cooking to. she was a very good cook. I have absolutely no interest in cooking. but since she was so knowledgeable about it, it was fun to talk to her. she could happily answer all my silly questions about those two tings.

[Dorothy Wood]

I was talking with some friends about this sort of thing, although I worded it badly as 'I like masculine girls', which of course, to them meant that I like girls that look like guys. But I mean what you describe, I like girls that can 'do' things, not just sit around.

I went into London with a girl I was dating once, we decided to get a couple of those city bikes that you can hire, she was completely inept at the whole thing. Sure, she could technically ride the bike, but she couldn't keep up, she was scared of the traffic and all that crap. That really put me off her.

So yeah, I agree.

And old boyfriend of mine said I should say I enjoy masculine pursuits, not that I am masculine. So, you should say you like women who enjoy "masculine pursuits" until the day we can hopefully not assign gender to activities that require no specific genitals to perform.


I can't speak for all women obviously, but my observation is that women do more 'solo' thing for their own entertainment/amusement. Craft or art projects, writing, reading, cooking (including shopping for ingredients as part of the enjoyment), taking classes in areas of interest, going to exhibitions, that sort of thing. Also I'm not convinced that 'chatting' is a passive activity. I mean it can be, sure, but a lot of connection can be made in casual conversation that is useful (for lack of a better word). Broad generalization here: I think overall women are better at building networks than men are. (Again - that was a broad generalization.) Personally, I'm not a person who has ever enjoyed sports as a form of socializing, so most of those things listed in the OP really don't interest me, I really can't see any point in frisbee. I'm not saying no one else should enjoy it, only that I can't be arsed. If I am doing something more active with my female friends, it's likely to be something like taking a walking tour (we did a midnight street foods tour recently that was awesome), go to a museum (there's a Warhol in China show on here now I'll be going to with some friends this week), go to KTV (trashy fun), or just cook a nice meal together and hang out and eat and drink wine.

I agree with this and was going to mention something to that point. Creating networks requires socializing. I feel like if you see a group in the park BBQing or something, the women probably set it up and planned most of it. So yeah, they need to relax and just shoot the shit while everyone else runs around.

Personally, I am part of a social network where men and women aren't very segregated. Sure, the girls will splinter off some times and start gabbing about something, and the guys will talk about something guysy...but overall the women and men I know compete in party games or sports in pretty equal measure. I think it's old fashioned for everyone to separate all the time, I don't think it's good and it's actually starting to bother me more and more when I see it, the older I get.


the girlfriends that I've had always have been tomboys. girlyness is a huge turnoff for me. it's even more than a turnoff. I flatout don't respect people that are girly. or at least what girlyness has become. but even though they're tomboys and not very girly they always try to get me to do nothing with them. like sit around and watch a honey boo boo marathon with them while they're all cuddled up against me. this gets me very angry. I have no interest in just sitting on a couch and looking at a tv for hours(unless it's a decent movie) while being cuddled like a lap dog. if im not actively doing something im bored out of my fucking mind. that's why I like computers so much. there's loads of things that you can do with them that are thoroughly mentally active when you have no other option other than sitting around.

I think I'm lucky I found a dude who doesn't like to cuddle because I don't really either. Not that we're not affectionate, but you do the hugs and squeezes and then you're done and you don't have to sit there uncomfortable hot hand on your arm or whatever.

But also I think you should be honest with girls that it's nothing personal, you just feel really uncomfortable sitting around like that. I have to do that, I have to be like "man, I can't watch another episode, let's do something else". My boyfriend understands by now, but I have to make sure I make it clear that it's because I hate sitting and watching tv reruns for hours, not because I hate him. He doesn't even want to be watching tv so much either, it's just easy to do after a hard day's work.

But yeah, there should be a dating site for cuddlers to meet other cuddlers, and non-cuddlers could meet other non-cuddlers, so everyone is paired with a compatible cuddle quotient. Years ago I banged this dude I'd been out with a few times and the next morning he was just like "let's cuddle and watch tv all day" basically, and I was like, "uh, it's my day off, I kinda want to do something fun". And he just kept stalling and stalling, so I just got up and left. I mean, I said goodbye and all, but that was the end of that. I wonder if he ever made a thread on a messageboard about it??

[ms.peachy]

I feel like if you see a group in the park BBQing or something, the women probably set it up and planned most of it.

Ha ha, too true. It has been my experience that men seem to think that somehow all of the paper plates, hamburger buns and coolers full of ice have turned up there spontaneously all by themselves.

[Helvete]

So you mean there's more to a barbecue than lighting fires and throwing meat on?

[Lyman Zerga]

like beer pong?

I've never actually played beer pong but that's totally a guy thing.

or throwing scew drivers and knives at empty moving boxes

[TurdBerglar]

haha

I'm pretty sure I've done that just because.... why wouldn't I have?

[russhie]

I snowboard, horse ride, am currently learning to ride a dirtbike having graduated from my quad bike... I love to run and be outdoors whatever the weather.

Are thes 'manly' pursuits? I like yoga, too. And Ugg boots.

[TurdBerglar]

you sound like a fun broad

[Helvete]

I do ladies for fun, does that count?

[tracky]

They dance

[nodanaonlyzuul]

Growing up my Father thought girls don't do sports so he never put me in any. That combined with being locked in my house until I was 19 resulted in me not being athletic whatsoever.

That being said, the things I ended up doing for fun included being on the computer, video games, and reading. Now that I'm an adult? Pretty much the same things, except now when it's nice out I'll go out for a walk. I also find exercise classes pretty fun which helps offset my lack of athleticism.

If I do happen to be at a park for a gathering I was invited to, I'll participate in physical activities like frisbee or whatever. I'm just really fucking terrible at it.

[HEIRESS]

"manly" things I do:
recreational sports teams: ultimate frisbee and volleyball (indoor and beach), ride my bike damn well everywhere, drive around Canada/US drinking craft beer and camping/hiking.

"girly" things I do:
cook, bake, pet kitties, paint my nails fun colors, take longer than 3 minutes to apply my make-up.

[zippo]

i like to think of myself as a perfect example of a girl that hates sports and outdoorsy types of activities...or "appreciating" the mountains and the trees and branches and dinosaur tracks on a "nature" walk... blahhhhhhhhhhh haha

im totally up for a game of CLUE!