Daddy daughter dates

[Dorothy Wood]

Wtf? Is this normal? I remember daddy daughter dances and shit, but I think I only went to one and I wasn't considering it a date.

Anyway, I'm asking because my super religious old childhood friend is posting a bunch of pics of her husband and 6 year old daughter's "date day". He wore a suit and brought her flowers. Some middle aged guy commented "great couple!"

I think this is creepy as fuck. Am I overreacting? Is this a thing people do?

[cosmo105]

That is super fucking creepy. Just hang out with your daughter. Don't romanticize or sexualize it, just be a PARENT. EEEUGGGHHHHH.

edit: ok, on one hand i think mayyyybe being shown how a person should treat you on a date is a nice thing? nope, can't overcome the creepiness. nevermind.

[ms.peachy]

Eh, little weird at 6. But then, at that age little girls are often still into the idea of 'princesses' and the idea of getting dressed up special and being taken out by a handsome prince (and every girl's daddy, if they are good dads, are their handsome princes at that age) might be appealing. Really, I would be wary of reading too much into it.

I will say that my first 'date' was with my dad, for my 16th birthday. We dressed up, he took me to a nice restaurant for dinner, and we went to a Broadway show. It was sort of meant to mark the fact that I was now old enough to do things like go out on my own with a guy unchaperoned - it was now officially OK for a guy to drive to my house, pick me up and take me out, on our own. Like any other coming-of-age ritual I suppose. It was nice. But of course that was back in the olden days, I don't know if teenagers even go on dates anymore.

[Dorothy Wood]

Yeah I can't even understand why they would even plan this. The romance aspect is gross to me too. It's probably not anything sinister, just old fashioned? (I hope). Ugh. The kid looks pretty stoked, so she's not like, in danger. I just think it's weird to play up or play into a 6 year old's naive interest in romance...I mean, why? To train her to be a wife I think is what they're going for. Uck

[ToucanSpam]

Is this a real thing? This can't be a real thing. Do we have a parent on tap who can speak with authority on whether this is real, or if it is okay?

This cannot be a real thing.

[ms.peachy]

I kinda thought I did that already, but whatever.

[checkyourprez]

Im not a parent but I am a person of authority.


Its whatever yo. Its not your kid, as long as no weird shit is going down (and you know what I mean by weird shit) then who cares what someone else does with their kids.

[Dorothy Wood]

If you saw the dude, you'd think it was creepy. You're probably picturing a normal dad, not a doughy gold wire-rimmed glasses wearing hair feathered and parted in the middle homophobic minister whose best friend is his mother.

Even though it is probably innocent fun, I think it's strange. I know the mother definitely didn't get dates like that as a young woman, so to me it seems like they're setting up a false sense of what life is like. They also spent a whole day once having a fake wedding for the daughter and another kid. It's indoctrination. Let her be a kid, why is she getting "married" and going on "dates"? It's fuckin weird.

I mean when I was 5, I had a "boyfriend", and tried to make out with him even. But my mom was always like "no, he is a boy and he is your friend, you're too young for dating." there's no way in hell she would've facilitated a fake wedding.

[TurdBerglar]

I'd say that's rather weird. kinda directing her to be a "proper" young lady.

[abbott]

no dates with the kids.

About as much emotion people will ever see is me hugging my girls and kissing them on top of their head. I cant stop my 5 year old running to me jumping up and planting a big kiss on me and I might be so happy I kiss her back.

Skiing, fishing, long-boarding, boomerang throwing, hiking, biking, math, homework, science fair, metal detecting, etc.... are all on the list of things I've taken my kids out to do, but we never called it a date. Also, I am lucky I see my kids every day/every night with exception of maybe 4 days a year. If I saw my kids once a week or less I might have different opinions.

My wife goes out of her way to take care of all my guy/girl maintenance needs.

[Dorothy Wood]

Alright, so basically the conclusion is that this is kinda weird. Not call-the-police weird, but...just not something that is common these days.

I'm just weirded out by that family. I was in their wedding, didn't really like the guy then, and I feel like he's a creep...but he might not be. They might just be sheltered and don't know better.

But like, his gift to his wife was a "night alone" at a hotel by herself. What?

Maybe I've just been watching too much SVU.....

[ms.peachy]

But like, his gift to his wife was a "night alone" at a hotel by herself. What?


Ha ha, sounds like a freaking awesome gift to me! Imagine, time and space, all to myself. Freaking bliss.

[Dorothy Wood]

Ha ha, sounds like a freaking awesome gift to me! Imagine, time and space, all to myself. Freaking bliss.

Yeah but valentines day seems like a weird holiday to give that gift.

[M|X|Y]

Maybe there's some sort of surprise involved?

[abbott]

When you first meet this guy: Did he talk with a unique lisp? Did he often put his arm up and bend hist wrist down with his fingers pointing down? Did you have any questions in your head about his sexual preference?

[ms.peachy]

Yeah but valentines day seems like a weird holiday to give that gift.

Still doesn't strike me as odd. If he knew that she was really wanting some time for herself, than actually it's a pretty sweet and thoughtful gift.

I'm going to try to say something here and I hope it comes across the way I want it to - I know sometimes in the past you have felt I'm talking down to you because maybe I haven't chosen my words well. But here goes: you are looking at it from a completely different perspective, where (as far as I am aware) you haven't lived with someone for years and years, and you haven't been the primary caregiver for a small succubus who annoyingly looks just like you/has your mannerisms, and generally felt like you give and give and give with every part of yourself to other people, and yet still there is more to do. (Given that as you say she's got some uber-christ-y thing going on, probably even more so than your average wife & mother.) Honestly most of the time, it's all good stuff - lovely families, happy homes etc. But seriously if at any time my husband wants to hand me a key to hotel room and say "Go crazy, take a 2 hour bath, call room service, take up the whole bed and all the covers all night long" I would be super, super happy to accept it.

You know, thinking about it now, I might just ask for that for my birthday.

[Dorothy Wood]

When you first meet this guy: Did he talk with a unique lisp? Did he often put his arm up and bend hist wrist down with his fingers pointing down? Did you have any questions in your head about his sexual preference?

Frankly they both seem like they could be gay. I don't mean that as an insult, I really did think my friend was a lesbian or asexual when we were growing up. She just always seemed grossed out by boys. And once she "dated" (held hands on the bus basically) a boy in 9th grade during a school trip and I asked her if they kissed and she was like "no way! Gross!" and made me feel like I asked some kind of crazy perverted question.

Anyway, I think her husband groomed her to be a pastor's wife. I think they live their lives in a very scripted way, as in they push down natural curiosity and thought and replace it with Christian dogma.

I guess I come here to complain because I think they are misguided. They literally think they are saving the world. So I'm concerned for all of them and the affect their far right beliefs have on their children.

[Dorothy Wood]

And to what you're saying, peachy, I can understand how anybody might need some alone time. It just seemed anti-romantic to me.

Plus I'm not a mom, but I'm in charge at work and in charge at home. And I do have to give and give with no end in sight, mainly because I annoyingly have the most experience in my field and in home care. I do have the luxury of plenty of alone time at home though because my live in manfriend often works late or plays gigs that are past my bedtime. Otherwise sometimes I just sit in the bathroom and read when I need to be alone. :/

Anyway, I hope you get your hotel gift. :)

[TurdBerglar]

their kids is going to be a massive whore when she gets older.

[Lyman Zerga]

lol

[abbott]

Frankly they both seem like they could be gay. I don't mean that as an insult, I really did think my friend was a lesbian or asexual when we were growing up. She just always seemed grossed out by boys. And once she "dated" (held hands on the bus basically) a boy in 9th grade during a school trip and I asked her if they kissed and she was like "no way! Gross!" and made me feel like I asked some kind of crazy perverted question.

Anyway, I think her husband groomed her to be a pastor's wife. I think they live their lives in a very scripted way, as in they push down natural curiosity and thought and replace it with Christian dogma.

I guess I come here to complain because I think they are misguided. They literally think they are saving the world. So I'm concerned for all of them and the affect their far right beliefs have on their children.

yea when people meet me, they think I am gay. Then they see me with my girls and they are like... What? My wife was telling me yesterday that I would have more friends if I did not act so gay, but I don't even realize I do it. I work with a few gay men and they are often talking about who is gay and who is not. I will be like: what he's gay? then they will tell me that my gaydar is bad. So I am not very good at this whole gay profiling thing myself.

[Adam]

When I worked for Health Visiting we had a dad who was calling his new daughter "sexy". That's weird and wrong and they was on the social service list (for other reasons, not that).