Crushes

[Adam]

So I have a crush on someone at work and reminded me of this place because I pretty much pined through my teens and early twenties here as if having a crush on someone was the hardest thing in life.

I'm not acting on this one. I'm in a relationship of nearly six years, very happyy and my crush is very similar to my partner.

Who'd funk that you'd still get crushes in your late 30s.

[TAL]

I'm in my 40s, still happens.

[Fern]

Was it me who they reminded you of?

[Dorothy Wood]

Haaaa, funny to see this. I feel summoned here! Came here for similar reasons, though I feel like this place isn't anonymous enough anymore for details.

Are you going to tell your partner? I was reading a bit about whether or not it's good to discuss crushes when they come up. I think it's pretty common...well, according to the thousands of results when googling the issue.

The current situation just cropped up...it'll probably pass. Lord knows I've had plenty of crushes. I realize they kinda never go away either, a lot of the dudes I've talked about over the years are still in my life as good friends. The new one is also in a committed relationship. Very unexpected connection that I think surprised us both, we got along so well on a business trip that by the end I think we both were embarrassed by it. And he just kept smiling at me and laughing at all my jokes, I felt crazy...like why is this happening, I don't want this feeling! I think it may have just been an isolated situation where you are with the same people for days and nature takes over and you bond with the most viable mate. At the last lunch, we were flirting accidentally like junior high style and caught ourselves and stopped. I think it'll turn out that we just become good friends. My boyfriend is great, I don't want to ruin shit.

[Adam]

I'm over mine now. Turns out just a passing thing.

And no, didn't tell my partner. It's probably common but probably best unspoken.

[ericg]

that funky cold medina ... watch out!

[Bob]

Originally Posted by Adam

I'm over mine now. Turns out just a passing thing.

And no, didn't tell my partner. It's probably common but probably best unspoken.

almost definitely

celebrity crushes are fine

crushes on people you see every day and could conceivably actually act on are a bit different

[Dorothy Wood]

I'm wondering why celebrity crushes are fine? Because it could never really happen?

My crush thing was very terrible for a week or so, emotionally draining, guilt-inducing. It felt very involuntary, I did not want to feel gooey feelings, but I did. I haven't seen the guy in a couple weeks due to holiday and business travel, and I pretty much just forgot about him (or at least the looping thoughts of him disappeared) so I think everything will be fine.

Life is weird. I just read through a bunch of my old crush threads, and there is one that I talked about a lot that is still somehow around. NYE, I went out alone (bf had to work, bffs out of town), I saw him at a local bar, I stayed away until I was ready to leave, then approached him...he was basically like "the timing of life sucks", acknowledging our ships passing in the night situation, and told me "I'm friends with your boyfriend now, he's a nice guy", I said "I know, that's pretty fucking weird, man". Anyway, that's a little bit of closure on that front, at least, after 11 years, for us both to be like "hey we coulda, but we didn't, life goes on".

These guys probably snore anyway.

[Manticore]

Originally Posted by TAL

I'm in my 40s, still happens.

You right

[Myu-to]

I miss this place, and the wonderful people.

Crushes? I use to crush on the girls, the ladies, with the sweet asses or what have you, but now I get cruses on a comfy beds, snugly warm up pants, and people not talking to me during my tv shows.

[Dorothy Wood]

lol this crush is destroying my mental health. I'm getting through it though. It's hard to understand what is going on.
How's yours, Adam?

[Dorothy Wood]

I mean like does free will exist? What is love? Is there a god? Is there fate? Are there psychic forces at work or is everything a choice?

[Bob]

Originally Posted by Dorothy Wood

I'm wondering why celebrity crushes are fine? Because it could never really happen?

basically. i think that for most people, if your partner for real went out and slept with a celebrity you'd actually be pretty mad

Originally Posted by Adam

because I pretty much pined through my teens and early twenties here as if having a crush on someone was the hardest thing in life.

same. feels pretty dumb now lol

[TurdBerglar]

If a SO was able to fuck her celebrity crush I don't think i'd be mad. Like how the fuck could you hold someone back from that? I think I'd be high fiving her if she got to fuck whoever the current male celebrity stud is.

If katy perry wanted to fuck me how the hell am I suppose to say no to that!

[Adam]

In a turn of events, I will now be partnered up with the person at work. Still over her though.

[Dorothy Wood]

I don't think I'd want to sleep with a celebrity. If my dude fucked a celebrity, I'd kinda be impressed that I'm dating someone who's charming enough to bang celebs.

I told my mom about all my crush problems and she was like "yeah, that's normal", so I'm not that freaked out anymore.

Adam, maybe she can be your "work wife"? I just heard about "work spouses" on the Internet fairly recently, not sure I fully get it. But it's a thing I guess.

[Adam]

I already have a work wife which is platonic and safer.