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Recognise it for what it is - an attraction to have a wank over now and then.
There is probably good reason he isn't committing to hanging out as it'll be confusing and territory that could muck up four peoples lives rather than two. Like lets say you hung out and he thought an advance was OK when it wasn't and that made it back to each others other halves. Then you'd have to explain to your other half why you hang out alone together when you knew the attraction was there - same for him. And also you will both be awkward around each other. Nobody wants that level of confusion in life after 25 years old. It's never been a fun scenario to be in. |
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Hmm, I feel like wanking over it is rude. But yeah, of course if he does like me (which isn't confirmed, but suspected), it's not a great idea to hang out...that's why I said I give up on friendship. I guess I thought I could make it work.
I may sound like a silly jerk, but honestly I need to seriously evaluate where my future is headed, because it's unclear. Also maybe there's a better partner for my boyfriend than me out there...I don't know Last edited by Dorothy Wood : 04-18-2017 at 06:31 PM. |
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Anyway I will stop posting about it. I always think it will make me feel better but it doesn't. I can't fully explain what I am going through without sounding like a asshole.
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vagina.
My crush has one. |
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I suppose I don't know this for sure but I highly suspect.
Sorry for the immature post. |
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as corny as it may sound, sometimes you know deep inside youīre not where you should be and itīs never healthy to ignore that feeling, if this is the situation. it might not even be about this crush but more about what youīre feeling (or not) for your boyfriend. all i know is relationships are never easy, itīs admitting that when things start to get better.
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Are you supposed to be with your twin? Probably not? The crush is more similar to me, we are on the same wavelength, which is appealing, but ultimately I don't know what that means. I think this will continue to torment me for years. |
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imo, the way you describe him and the relationship is so...blah. like "yea, itīs ok". Maybe youīre just in a bad moment and bored though (7.5 yrs is a lot), cuz i agree, you definitely do not have to have all of the same interests, just share a few here and there and find something you can do together though, cuz if you start living two different lives itīs where heīll probably take your advice and find his "better match". the good thing is, iīm guessing you wonīt really mind.
in my experience, i think the best thing you can do is never stay quiet and say what youīre feeling, donīt wait for things to resolve on their own cuz theyīll just get worse. like the big talk you guys had, yet you donīt really seem very satisfied with the outcome. well, thatīs the feel i get from your comment! Quote:
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It's a weird situation, I wasn't bored or looking. I changed jobs and met a human I never knew could exist. There is a natural comradery that is hard to ignore. It feels good to be understood, in a world where I feel like I'm constantly trying to explain things to people. But I don't think that feeling is enough to warrant turning everyone's life upside down. Last edited by Dorothy Wood : 05-15-2017 at 06:07 PM. |
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